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Cat I can so relate. Sometimes when I get to my moms she is already in a bad mood and then the rest of the day takes it out on me. I can laugh most of the time but sometimes I get defensive as though it does anything but make me feel better. At that point I leave which I know you can't do. Hope the rest of the day goes well.
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Good morning ladies. Cat so sorry about your skylight but like you said at least it is in the tub with easy clean up. My hardest thing to get done anymore is deep cleaning. I have been running to be with my mom for three years now. When I am home it is errands or functions with family. Awh we have alot of family. * adult kids with 22 grandkids so always somewhere to go and something to do for them. It is so hard to be home and get things done. I have been trying to do one deep cleaning project when ever I am home. Last week washed some curtains that I haven't done in a year since I quit smoking. You can imagine . That is one of my goals to do one deep cleaning thing when I am home if it is just cleaning out a drawer. Have a good one ladies.
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4/29/08 10:30 P

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Cat, I got such a kick out of your skylight story, not that another repair is remotely funny. I know how confused they get when workmen come, and when they get confused, we get yelled at. But I loved your humor, I laughed at the thought of taking a cold shower while using the tub while it rained. And of having it at least conveniently drip into the tub. Wish all leaks were that accomodating!

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:53)
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Linda, Cat, so good to see you both here. Also glad things are starting to go a bit better. Trying to caught up on things here, trying to tackle one unfinished chore at a time.

I don't know about you, but one problem I've found with caregiving is that your schedule is not your own, and some projects get left behind. I'm trying to catch up on them. Things like yardwork, spring cleaning, unfinished school projects, etc. Today I am working on mail and school stuff. At least it's sunny out, but the 40's isn't really good mowing weather. So I think I'll do inside stuff today.

Cat, you must be a real whiz with the paintbrush, you're just painting up a storm!



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All is well here. Sun is out but not real warm yet. Kinda comes and goes. Just gives us a real spring I guess. We have had alot of rain also. Signed up for a few things for myself now just trying to squeeze them in. Take time for ourslefes is important.
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Hope the day is going well for all of you. It's cool and rainy, but a good day to catch up on chores.

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Cat, so glad to hear the week went better for you. Good news! I did my walking with a mower today, and was amazed that it almost doubles my calories used! I've always hated the mowing job, but this definitely would make it more palatable. I may even look forward to it! Can get the same calories used in almost half the time, that's a bonus!

Did an hour mowing, but got rained out. At least the really tall stuff around the house is down, good enough. Now when it rains and gets cold all next week, I won't be worrying about the lawn looking like a hayfield!

Having a better day here as well. The faster computer is really saving me time, that'll make everyone happier!

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:54)
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"New" computer arrived today. Just a cheap laptop from eBay running Windows 2000. Not a system people were beating down their door to get, but that suits me fine. I was using ME, which was awful! Anyhow, I can't believe how fast this thing is! Compared to what I was using, it is amazing, like using the machines at the library. My old system would deal solitare. . .one. . . card. . . .at. . . a. . ..time. This thing flies so fast I had to slow the screensaver down to the slowest possible position, or it'd make you dizzy! What a joy! The Spark stuff was taking up more time than I wanted, but now it shouldn't be any problem at all.

Hoping to go out next and mow the lawn for the first time this year, right after I feed Mom. Supposed to be cold and rainy next week, so I want to get it all done now, or I won't be able to mow it until it's too high for the electric mower. Just love how lightweight it is, but the battery can only do so much!

Gotta go! Cat, how's your weekend going? I know this is the hardest part of your week.

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Linda, I've talked to other caregivers in your position, and I have something for you to think about. What about you not spending all day 3 days a week with her? The people I know that were in your position finally exhausted themselves physically and mentally, and had to stop spending so much time "entertaining" Mom. Funny thing, when they took off several weeks to recuperate, Mom adjusted to the new situation okay.

I have left my home, and come down to my mother's to look after her. She was 93 then, and I didn't expect her to last more than a few months. Since she has dementia, and does awful taken away from her "normal" surroundings, husband agreed it would be easier on all of us if she was in a place she wasn't trying to "escape" from. Only I have been here for 4 years. She is 97 now, 98 this fall. And could go on for years more. So I know how this sort of thing can take over your life. In my case, Mom is too good for nursing care, and has no money for assisted living. So. . .

Anyhow, what my friends discovered, was that when they quit trying so soothe Mom, and let her learn to fit in as best as she was capable, things actually went better. This disease is progressive, she will get meaner and more confused. It is sad, but it is the truth. You cannot bring back what she once had. This is terribly unfair, but life isn't fair.

That doesn't mean you should just dump her and ignore her, but you cannot physically keep up what you are doing. I think you've already hit this point. The stress alone is murder on your body.

This is the point where I have had to make some changes. Mom likes thing just so, which would be okay if "just so" didn't change every 5 minutes. She'd be up and down all night, waking people up, wanting stuff done. Sometimes cleaningokay, but sometimes she wanted the house stripped down to the walls, furniture, bedding, clothes, everything OUT!!! She hates any movie I want to watech, and hates when I homeschool my son. "Too complicated, just shut up!" I was either getting very little sleep, or slacking off things that I just didn't want to fight over.

The real answer is, Mom is not in charge anymore. Age and time does that. I've had to stop "entertaining" her all the time, and do things that my life requires. She doesn't like that, but my life has greatly improved since I started Spark. Here, people reminded me that I need hopes and dreams and goals. Quit reacting, and start choosing what I can for myself. Set some goals, set some time for things I enjoy. I had given up most everything I used to enjoy, and it just sucked the life out of me. I'm still here at Mom's, but my attitude is changing. And it's made a huge difference in my life.

Your mother is in a place where her basic needs are being cared for. If you don't spend the whole day with her, what would happen? Stop in, and tell us more when you can. We care. This has to be so hard for you, especially since it was all forced on you.

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Cat those meetings sound wonderful. I don't believe we have them here where I live. Ok Ladies as I said in the beginning I am the sole caregiver of my mother age 84 living in the vets home with dementia and now a small stroke. I have other family members but that is a whole different story. I had to force my mother in to a home 3 years ago because of a case manager that felt she should no longer live alone and it I did not do it the state would take over. So the nightmare began. At that time she was still driving and working for the dept of aging in a day care. The case manager, managed to cause her to lose her job and her drivers licence, but that did not stop her from driving. This transition did not go well as my mother was kind of a tomboy Rebel. She got caught going the wrong way done a highway in the middle of the night and we got a call from the police. They impounded her car and that is when she stopped driving. That was 2 years ago but when she can escape her unit she is found out in the parking lot still looking for her car. This is just to give you an example of some of the fun things we have gone through in the last 3 years. I quit my job about then to spend more time with her and keep some sort of social life going for her. I spend 3 full days a week with her and stop in at other times to check on her. She has slowed down some with the dementia progressing but believe me every one in the home knows her as she is the ornery one. Recently I have found after 4 back surgeries and a double fusion I have 2 more slipped discs so things are getting hard for me to keep up with everything. I am tryin to avoid a 5th surgery. first of all I don't want to go there and I am afraid my recovery time away from her would really confuse her. Will keep you up to date as to what happens there. I have not had the time to read all your post but will read them slowly as to get to know the rest of you. I have belonged to another message board that seems to be dwindling away but when I needed it the people were always there for me. I need to run for now but will check in to all the new post and hope to get to know all of you soon.
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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:55)
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Wow! Were you ambitious! Glad the project passed without any further comment completion. Congratulations on working past the tough part, and getting the job done. Great work!

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:56)
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Finally got the DSL working again, I'm back in business for a while. We've had good days and bad days lately, but I've survived. The homeschool co-op is over, youngest son's birthday was yesterday, survived that as well. He wanted to go back to the farm to play video games for his birthday. While I was there, I made some poplar cuttings and planted them in the field. Really too late to do that, as the poplar branches have already sprouted leaves, but I just hadn't gotten around it, and wanted to try.

Diets are so hard with all the stress. The stress hormone cortisol just packs on the pounds. But Spark has helped me take control back of my life, look forward to things again, change what I can. If I don't gain more weight, that alone will be a big improvement!

Mom's up now, have to go tend to her, take care everyone!

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Have a crashed computer, may not be in for a few days, until the new one (well, it's used, but it's new to me)arrives. Gotta be quick. Muddling through here. Take care of yourself.

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:57)
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Feet are feeling better, managed 15 minutes of walking yesterday. Saw 4 deer, enjoyed the bird songs, they even managed to drown out some of the road noise. Finally done with the co-op, now we just have to get son's pinewood derby car done, the race is in two days, and it's not even sanded yet. Oh well, better get to it. . .

Hope all of you are finding ways to take care of yourself today.

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Glad to hear things went better today. Sounds like a typical night with Mom as well, I also wait and tuck her in. She appreciates that, and I know I can go back to sleep for a while. Hope you sleep better tonight.

Survived the last co-op, although I won't be able to walk for a few days. The large ice cream freezer wouldn't work, but we also made ice cream in pint mason jars, and they were fine. The pinata turned out cute, and the kids loved it. The heart pattern tie dye shirt was fine, and all the kids signed it for the graduate. The scrapbook turned out well, and everything else went fine. Yeah! On to the next item on the list.

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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:57)
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Getting ready for my last homeschool co-op of the year tomorrow. Will be glad when it's done, there's so much else I need to put my time to.

Mom has been confused about all the activity today. In order to be ready for the last class, I had a pinata to build, tshirts to dye, soap to unmold and cut into bars, clay to bake, ice cream making ingredients to assemble, and a scrapbook to finish. (This finishes up all the projects we've been working on.) Plus tomorrow's dinner to bake. And for homeschool we had American Revolution and Understanding Music vhs tapes to listen to. She really hates those.

This made way too much noise, mess and activity for her, and she kept going to bed to get away from it. Which usually means she'll be up all night. Which won't be as much of a problem tonight for me, because it may take me that long to get all this done! Gotta go!


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Edited by: COOKIEBAKERCAT at: 8/27/2012 (21:59)
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My knees and mostly ankles are pretty trashed due to accidents, and the extra weight is very hard on them. When I have to stand for long periods, or especially crouch, they rebel with a passion! The double homeschool classes, where I'm on my feet AND crouching are real killers. Especially this week when we took the indigo dyeing outside, and I spent hours crouched over the dye bucket tending the fabric.

No matter, it was worth it. The kids just loved seeing the chemistry magic of indigo. Since it's not water soluble, you add chemicals to remove the oxygen from the dyepot (the ancients used stale urine and wood ashes, no wonder they carried nosegays!). The dark blue dyebath changes to pale yellow. But when you pull the cloth back out of the pot, it combines with the oxygen in the air, and turns blue before your eyes like magic! So they had the fun of watching the magic, and they have tie-dyed t-shirts to wear.

So glad you're here to share this journey with, makes it so much easier! Thanks!

Judy
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Nice you can get out for a bit. I survived my next to last homeschool co-op today. Just one to go. Next week, the teens are making the ice cream for the afternoon end-of-classes party, and the elementary kids are making the pinata. That'll be it until next fall. They have me signed up for high school chemistry and elementary weather and astronomy next year. Those will be so much easier to teach.

Right now I'm resting my foot. Loading and unloading, and then standing for hours on end always trashes it. But it's almost done! Just a few more weeks of school for us, then we're done with that as well.

Not making great strides in weight loss, but it's not going up, and I'm starting to feel better. That alone is worth a lot. It's nice to WANT to do something, instead of just feeling drained. This is working! Yeah!

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Glad to hear you had a good day. It is so easy to get back into bad habits, isn't it! Don't know if you have a Michael's craft store near you. They have supplies for every craft imaginable, and usually sponsor classes either free or cheap. Helps you find other crafters and gives you a little time away. JoAnn Fabrics also has classes. Even a small local craft store usually knows what's going on in the local crafting community. Perhaps the yellow pages would help you find something local.

Hope you find something that helps you relax. Good luck!

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We have natural gas heat here, but last month was over $450, and that was for a little 800 sq. ft. house with no basement. Mom does like things warm, while I hate it. I always used to keep a window open at least a little, even in the winter. In the old farmhouse back at the farm, there is no heat upstairs, so you just snuggle into the afghans and wool blankets! Makes nice sleeping weather if you remember to heat a potato or rice bag to keep your toes warm.

I know how you feel about doing "fun" activities. That is the best thing about Spark for me. I've joined some of the teams in crafts I used to enjoy, and have used the challenges to get me doing things for me again, even if it is just for a few minutes a day. With the spinning group, I've started a little spinning again. The knitting group's challenge got my son's old afghan reknit. With the primitives group, I'm inspired to start on the quilts again. I can't tell you how good it feels to do something creative again. I have to limit what I do, as Mom wouldn't abide a mess or noise, but there's still lots I can do in my room. It has been so freeing to be a person again, not just a personal maid with no life. My circumstances haven't changed, but my attitude is really changing, and it makes all the difference!

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Yeah, made it through! Got my exercise today hauling boxes back and forth from the car. We managed to finish up soapmaking today (finding lye to make it was a real trip) for the teens, and we made several types of clay for the elementary group. Now I just have two weeks left: indigo dyeing for the teens, paper mache for the littles; then both are making quill pens and homemade ink for calligraphy on the last day. We did our planning for next year today, so it looks like I'm teaching Chemistry both semesters to the teens, and Weather/Astronomy for the grade 3-5 group. That's better, makes a lot less mess (except for the chemistry!)

Haven't tracked my food yet, running way behind today as son was using the computer. But I think I'm okay there, if a bit short on the water.

Time to go, hope to have time to do my tracking after. Take care of yourself.

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“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.”

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Glad you were able to get out, sounds like a treat! Got a little walking in today, tomorrow I teach 2 classes, besides the usual work, so it's always my least favorite day of the week. Only three classes to go, yeah! Mom seems to be doing normally. Delighted about that as well. Take care.

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Well, I'm back. We had lots of excitement yesterday, Mom took a fall, ended up with the police and EMT's here to get her up and to the hospital for xrays. They took lots of tests, and miracle of miracles, all was well. After 5 hours there, Mom's back home.

I was sure from the position she was in she'd have fractured her hip, both knees, and possibly her ribs. This was such a miracle, and I'm so grateful. She came home from the hospital, sat at the table, and played cards. First hand, she goes out with 50 gin! Amazing! Thank you Lord for this wonderful miracle! (When she slipped at the bowling alley, she totally shattered her wrist, and it took forever to heal.)

Today I did a little work on the challenge afghan, gotta go now and finish studying for tomorrow's Sunday School lesson. Take care tomorrow, the Lord's day is my day off! See you Monday, last day of the month!

Judy
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Great job, Cat! You're right, weekends are killers because the routine changes, and they usually hate that. I'm so glad you're getting out to visit with friends. I did the same today. I went out to visit with a friend, and came home with fresh farm eggs. On the way, I did my walking where a town (now demolished) used to be. I ended up spending an hour hiking around looking for fruit trees to take cuttings of for grafting, plus another half hour actually doing the cutting. And I figured I'd only walk 5 min. or so today! Mom is confused because I was out, but as you said, we can handle this, because we need the time away! Have a wonderful visit!

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I'm so proud of you! I know how stressful that situation would have been! Great job! Today I did okay on my eating, only walked 20 min. today, as body was really sore, but it's better than nothing!

Judy
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I agree, I just love a new week to start fresh. The best thing that's happened is finding Spark, having a reason to stay "on the wagon". I like the accountability, without harsh judgement. Everyone is encouraging, helpful, hopeful. The worst thing about caregiving is that it seems so hopeless. It drags you down if you let it. I love the hope that I've found at Spark, and the challenges each group has to keep you on track. My challenge here is to look for the good. It's hiding in the most unexpected places!

Take care this week, we can do this together! Challenge this week: find one thing that you used to do, that gave you pleasure (without excess calories!), and find a way to work it into your life this week. I think this week I'm going to do some pre-gardening work, I haven't spent much time in the garden in years. It's still below freezing at the moment, but during the week it should be thawed enough to cut some stock for later grafting, and put in some hardwood cuttings to root. Planting trees is my way of showing hope this week!

Judy
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New season, Happy Spring! I was so excited yesterday, Mom actually put away laundry and dried dishes on her own! After weeks of moping around, it was like rays of sunshine! We have one little bunch of yellow crocus that bloomed, and one bunch of lavender ones in bud. We're expecting 1-3" of snow on them tonight (better than the 6" they called for originally!) Good days are like that. Sometimes far between (the yellow crocus only found one day suitable for opening). But they are like little gems to surprise us. If life was full of armloads of orchids, we'd never notice and appreciate those tiny crocus. Can you find a tiny gem this week?

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New day, new hope! Just checking in:
Exercise: 60 min. cardio
Calorie tracking: on low end
Weight: no change today
Thought for the day: I was thinking today of the mindset of Mother Theresa, working with the "untouchables". Sometimes it may feel like it takes a saint to do that job, but any of us may be called to our own version. Are you being called to love and care for an "unloveable"? You may never be appreciated. There may never be any financial reward. But in your heart, you can have peace, because you know you were willing to do what needed done. And one day, I hope to hear those thrilling words: "Well done, you good and faithful servant!" Come and enter into the rest. . .

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Thanks JVARNER, you're encouraging as well. I've found this job can really get you down if you let it. But I've learned so much since I started this journey. My priorities have changed. I'm learning to find joy in simpler things. I'm learning that my peace comes from within, not from things "going right." That doesn't mean I don't get frustrated, I do sometimes. But I don't have to live there! Scrubbing a toilet can be a gift to God, and therefore a blessing. It's all a matter of attitude. And I think that's what I've needed to learn the most. Being thankful. Having an attitude of gratitude. Reading some of the posts, you realize it could always be worse! I got up today on my own. I'm able to help another. What a blessing!

Judy
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Thanks, Angora4, I needed your words of encouragement. Your analogy to Christ's words (and actions) about being a servant are a brilliant way to look at caregiving that I hadn't considered! My mom isn't even that bad yet, physically, but mentally she has good days and bad days. I get frustrated when she's mad at me for no reason, but then hope that the next day she'll forget that she had been mad at me and life will be good once again. I am fortunate in that my sister is sharing the responsibility, so every two months we swap where Mom lives...it's been working pretty well since last August. I do look forward to when we take her to my sister's, but maybe this new perspective will help my caregiving time to go more enjoyably.

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I noticed that most of the teams have a thread for daily check-ins. What's going on in your life, weight loss progress, etc. Think we could have a place for that? I see there isn't much posting going on here, and that concerns me. If there's ever a person that needs lots of support, it's got to be us caregivers!

So, I'll start for today.

Weight: My weekly weigh-in, I lost a pound. That's great, slow and steady, and I'll win this race!

Challenge: What one thing would you like to accomplish this week, just for you? For me, I'd like to spin up a few skeins of yarn, haven't had the spinning wheel out all winter.

Thought for the day: Caregiving is a great gift, just one we probably wouldn't choose. Jesus said that the greatest in the kingdom would be the servant of all. We get to understand that in a small way, as we love and care for people who can be very unlovely. We are getting a chance to learn the true meaning of love. When we can get down on our hands and knees, and scrub the latest "accident" with peace in our hearts. When we can appreciate the simplest gifts (like an hour all our ourselves). When we realize that all the money in the world cannot buy health, or love, or real help. Then we have learned more than most of the world will ever know. We are blessed.

Judy
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