I have put it behind me, for the most part. But, our friendship has definately been effected & not just by these issues, but there really have been several issues for the past year. I just think that it is best that I put some space between us. It was odd, because, her & I went out one afternoon, when I got home I had an uneasy feeling & that night heard Joel Osteen minister on letting go of bad relationships. At that point, I kinda knew that our friendship was taking a different turn...
Being called out publicly is always uncomfortable and border-line confrontational. I can understand your feelings being hurt in that situation. That being said however I do encourage you to look at what under-lying circumstances may have provoked her uncooth behaviour. If this is the friend you say is battling cancer then sit back and think about what might be going on in her world. It's not uncommon for someone with turmoil in their personal life to lash out at their friends. Try not to take that personally if that's the case. Forgive her and maybe take some time to review your relationship and put yourself in her heels. Keep in mind that as a friend you can only be there to support and enrich the lives of those around you. If there is a consistant presence of tension between the two of you then maybe distance is the best answer. As for your original dilema, remember that a hoodie is only one part of any ensemble. It's perfectly acceptable for friends to buy the same article of clothing; what makes that piece unique to you is how you wear it. No one would be blatent enough to minic your entire outfit - that would certainly be cause for alarm for any fashion-forward. But clothing is made for many people to enjoy and feel good in and make their own statement with. Every fashion icon has had pieces from their repertoire explored by countless others - how else did Kate Moss spark the Ugg frenzy? Don't take this as a slight to you, indeed you should see it as confirmation that you have an eye for a haute commodity. I suggest dropping the matter for good and for all and moving forward. Focus on reflecting on your friendship and determine if any inner resentment from either party is to blame for your recent fall-out. In the mean time keep looking for more great pieces to create a complete look that is entirely your own and you'll always walk away a classy - and fashionable - definition of a Lady.
Okay, I WAS pretty over this, until yesterday, she was having a get together & I said something to her, don't remember what, and she publicly said, "Wow, I can't believe you said something nice to me, you are usually SO mean" I was SHOCKED, I have rarely said anything mean to anyone, especially her! And really, I have bent over backwards for this woman! (yes, I wanted to say, "I've been mean? what did I do, go out and buy a sweatshirt that you wanted but couldn't afford, for myself?) But, I just ignored the comment. Then, later, she had to bring out the sweatshirt & show it to me & carry on about how comfortable it is!!! Sheesh!!
I think I would be a little upset. If I liked a particular piece of clothing and couldn't afford it and then my friend just goes out and buys it. Then sends me an email to let me know that she bought it. I just think that is flaunting and not very nice.
Actually, I prayed my way through this & have gotten over it. But, to answer the question, when we started hanging out, we didn't have the same fashion at all! And as I mentioned, this wasn't the 1st time she has literally flat out copied me, but we really don't spend that much time together anymore.
Why can't you both have the same hoodie? People share tastes in clothing, it doesn't necessarily mean she is "compying" you. It just means you share the same fashion sense. While it may be annoying that she went and got it after you said you were going to, it REALLy isn't a big deal. About half the clothes I own, my sister also bought the same item, just because she liked it too, not because she is copying me.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new." 2 Cor 5:17
I need advice if anyone else has had this issue. Lately, I have noticed a couple of my friends constantly mimicing everything I do! One lady I don't spend much time with & infact, basically, we are just FB friends, the other lady is one of my CLOSEST friends! I started to notice this awhile ago, but now it's really driving me nuts! Especially, because my close friend just emailed me & said that she went to a boutique that we go to a lot & bought a hoodie that I told her that I was going to buy....SEVERAL months ago, I just didn't have the $ at the time & wanted to wait until after Christmas! In her email, she acted like we had never even talked about the hoodie! I've been extreemly tolerant, because she has been battling cancer, but really, I feel like she just stabbed me in the back! I mean, I actually put a whole outfit together with that hoodie....while she was there! Again, this isn't the 1st time I've wanted to look at her & say, "Want to be ME much?" but, I just let it roll off of my back & try to think, "Imitation is a form of flattery" but, now it's really making me angry! Our friendship has been on shaky ground for a few months, but this could really be a final straw! Any suggestions?
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