I do agree with you Nell, that it feels kind of silly that a grown-up intelligent woman like me needs to be so tedious with planning and routines... but I have accepted it although I still canīt do it.I like to think that it is like sobriety, will get easier to do with time. It is one day at the timefor sure but I also know that a streak of sober days gives more strength to get through that one day.
"Trust God and buy broccoli."
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Thanks, Nell. I also function much better with structure. It's great to have a set of skills that works in different areas of our lives. I still have a lot to learn, but I'm gradually applying what I know to different aspects of my life. Accountability is a critical part of the foundation of my physical, mental and spiritual health.
I have been at goal for a long time, and I stay here the same way I got here: One Day At A Time. Actually it's one part of each day at a time. I never kept a sobriety journal, can't bear to see my own whining in black and white, but I do keep a food journal/planner. I plan each day in advance, usually 3 or 4 days at a time. I am fine in the early morning until I eat my planned breakfast and check it off. Then my morning until lunch, check that off. Then lunch, check that off. Afternoons are in two sections for me: early and late. Early is fairly easy, late afternoon is when I ate and when I drank, so I have to be very careful. And I check that off. Then dinner, check that off. Then evening, check that off. Every day. I live my life between meals, lists of things to accomplish, check each one off. When the inevitable something happens to throw my schedule off, I write it in and on paper, rearrange the next few days to accommodate the changes. It sounds tedious in the telling, but it actually works for me. I like seeing my day stretch in front of me and know what I'll be eating at each meal so I can look forward to making them and eating them. I need my notebooks, rely on them to keep my feet on the ground. I fill them with notes on meals, what my hubby likes and doesn't like, reminders to start a meal on time (something out of the freezer, beans to soak, something that has to cook for 4 hours). I have little stickers to make it look pretty.
It's almost embarrassing that an otherwise intelligent older woman like me relies so heavily on a notebook, but, like Dumbo's feather, it works. Like most people I thought that when I reached goal I could just do what I wanted, but Stinking Thinking applies to food as well as alcohol. Seeing it all on paper, even in this digital age, works, and over time, has become a comfort.
Nell Reston, Virginia
No one ever got up in the morning wishing she'd eaten more the night before.
You have turned to the right place. No one knows out of control like we do. Start to take charge of your life again, little by little, one day, one hour at a time. Don't try and fix everything all at once. It is too overwhelming.
Persevere. Even if you fall on your face, you have moved forward.
It is a new year and I must face the fact that I am out of contrrol of my life and my eating. Last entry of weight was 187. Today I am 204. I am isolating and neglecting my house. Don't know where to turn except here.
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