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I've been absent for a week. Sounds like you all had a great Christmas. Mine was very quiet, which was good since I had the flu. It has been going through our community like wild fire. Our hospital has beeen closed down to visitors, and for elective surgeries for three weeks now. I know I Skyped with my family on Christmas Day, but only vaguely remember anything that was said. My son is visiting now until tomorrow, then I go back to work on Wednesday. Like usual when I', sick, I eat too much trying to make myself feel better, and it never works. I am getting back on track now. Hopefully I will feel well enough for a walk today. I am annoyed that I have been sick my whole holiday, but also grateful that I had taken some extra time off and can recover,

We have some snow here, but not like the foot and a half other parts of the country have gotten in the past few days. That's 45 cms for you, Meddy.

Wishing everyone a sober New Year's Eve and all the best for 2013.

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12/31/12 5:39 A

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I am looking forward to spring already although I know that january and february used to be the coldest months so we probably have another two-three weeks of at least minus 10 (C) before it starts melting for real...

Happy new and sober year everybody!

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12/30/12 12:01 P

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The calendar year is nearly over but winter is just beginning. Come on spring!!

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12/30/12 11:42 A

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Good reminder, MeddyPeddy! The calendar year is over but winter is not. Today is a new day and I'm going to make it a productive one.

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12/30/12 12:40 A

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The temperature is rising above zero which means that snow is melting - I am happy for having done that shoveling because then my driveway will be completely free of ice when all remains melts away - and then cold comes back. I have also made precautions for ice and stored some sand (the commune has depots where citizens can come and fetch sand during winter.

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Sounds like you all had an enjoyable and healthy holiday. I have such a romantic notion about snow. I forget that you all have to shovel it! Hee Hee. We are just now losing our leaves on our walnut and mulberry trees. They are all yellow and glowing. So in about a week, raking will be one of my exercises.

Aurora~ I'm glad to hear that you are getting off the antabuse. The true freedom will now begin for you as you use the tools you have learned about remaining sober one day at a time. Congratulations.

Tomorrow I will jog to my Sunday AA meeting, weather permitting. Yes.........we are weather wimps here in So. Cal. A little rain....and we are in the car. I like to run in the rain, but my hubby gets worried about me being on the road when So. Cal drivers are not as safe in the rain. So I don't worry him if I can help it.

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12/29/12 8:49 A

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Meddy, the person who invents an antabuse for overeating will be the richest person on earth!!

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You should be proud - cngratulations! emoticon I wish there was an antabuse for overeating as well...

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12/28/12 11:34 A

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I have been on it for about a year and a half. I have slowly decreased my dose over the past six months. I am finally ready to take off the "training wheels." I am proud of my progress!

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That sounds like great progress for you, Aurora! Best wishes to you! Let's make January a great month.

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I am going to wean off my antabuse, with doctors permission. I am finally strong enough!!



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12/26/12 12:32 P

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I shovel snow, too, but we are old enough that we broke down and got a snowblower a couple of years ago. But the snow has to be 4" deep before it will do much, then I have to shovel the inch or so that's left. It IS good exercise, better than any gym, and at least you have something to show for it to justify the sore muscles.

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12/26/12 11:43 A

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Sounds like you had a blessed holiday, Nell. How nice that you got pictures of that special time!

Be careful, MeddyPeddy! Shoveling snow is such hard work! When I lived in a place that got snow, my enthusiasm for shoveling waned by January and I was always tempted to just abandon hope and wait for Spring.

My AA homegroup always opens their room for the day of Thanksgiving and Christmas to serve food to those less fortunate. Mike and I spend time there yesterday being of service. There's nothing like being around active alcoholics to make me grateful for my choice to remain sober.

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12/26/12 1:35 A

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Shovelled snow for exercise and a lot came down tonight so I will have to do it all over...

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12/25/12 10:49 P

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It's late and I just got the last of the dishes washed. I'll have to empty the very full dishwasher in the morning. And clean the whole house. Lots of crumbs and paper bits everywhere. But everyone had a wonderful time, loved their gifts, loved the food, loved seeing each other.

Another Christmas come and gone. I got the pics of all my kids, all the grandkids with their exciting new toys. We watched 1 year old Azad eat his first yorkshire pudding and his first iced sugar cookie, things he'll look forward to every year for the rest of his life. I wonder which of my kids will carry on after me.

I ate surprisingly little. It's easy not to overdo when I am the cook. I know I can make every last yummy thing any time I want, just not all at once without a crowd.

The last of the kids leave tomorrow and I can clean the house. I hope I won't be so tired. This much hard work isn't as easy as it used to be. Much as I love the hectic noise of a houseful, I am looking forward to the return of my peaceful life.

Merry Christmas to everyone!!

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Merry Christmas!

I got the opportunity to be of service this morning. Now I'm looking forward to a quiet Christmas afternoon. Blessings to all!

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In Sweden christmas is over since we celebrate christmas eve... christmas day is for contemplation and rest.

A lot of snow today and I wish you all a peaceful christmas day!

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Merry Christmas Eve!! I have been baking and prepping all morning for tomorrow, still have hours to go. Thank goodness for recorded books! There is nothing like listening to books while cutting and chopping. We are supposed to go out tonight to hubby's son's house, but I don't know if I'll make it. I work and work, hubby watches TV and reads, and wonders why I can't seem to get "my work" done.

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Merry Christmas Eve!

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Merry christmas to all – I spent yesterday with migraine which makes me a little behind on christmas arrangements... but I am happy to be alive!

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I'm excited to set some new (reasonable) goals too. Sparkpeople has taught me to set achievable goals. I love it!!!

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12/22/12 2:46 P

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I am ready to start some new goals and get ready for the new year!!!

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The same to you... and thank you for remiding me to be grateful!

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Thank you Nell. We had a wonderful day.........in the rain. It was glorious. We both are grateful for the rain, for each other, sobriety, and for life.
Happy Holidays to you.........and the whole team!

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51 years!! Give her my very very best!!

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Today I'm taking my 90 year old AA friend, Ruth, to the DMV to get her license. She has had it renewed for 5 more years. She has 51 years of sobriety. She is a true roll model. Then we are going out to lunch. Now THAT is a great way to adjust my attitude!!!
Have a great day everyone.

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We go to any lengths, and sometimes that means seeking out new groups.

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I am thinking of attending another groups AA meeting today, my attitude is not good, need to change...

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Checking in.....I've been working on my attitude and going to AA meetings and reading literature to get a well needed adjustment. A New Pair Of Glasses is a great recommendation. I always go back to Dwayne Dyer's quote......
"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
I agree with Nell. I no longer allow myself to wallow in people pleasing or other people's opinions of life. When I start to go there, I do the action necessary to give myself a quick kick in the behind. That is old behavior that kept me drinking and psychologically and spiritually sick.

I'm wishing you all a week of peace and self love. No negative self talk or self abuse. We are truly miracles to have found a new way of life without alcohol. We are getting healthy on all levels. Cheers to you all.
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I had an episode of eating yesterday... turns me down, makes it hard to see hope and joy...

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Be careful, MeddyPeddy. Shoveling snow is more than a workout!

Thanks, Nell, for the reminder about "A New Pair of Glasses." I should put that book on my nightstand again. This is a good time for me to reread it.

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That is interesting Nell, I have not seen it that way, and I do not think about what people are eating in ads either which should be the thing for me as food is my main drug. Have to start noticing this...

Lots of snow during yesterday in my part of Sweden. Have shovelled once but need to do it again, but it is wet and heavy so it is hard...

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Sometimes it IS hard to be doing something outside what appears to be the norm. "Everybody" may be wearing super short skirts or black eye makeup, but I don't, and I don't agonize over it. It all depends on what we see as what everyone is doing. Here's an exercise I was given years ago: look at a beautiful picture ad. They could be selling khakis or Beautiful Colorado or life insurance. I'll always see what they are drinking. Even if it isn't the central feature in the ad, that's what I will see, and I'll think that the beverage is the passport to that perfect place. I had to shift my eyes, my attitude, to get what Chuck Chamberlain called a New Pair of Glasses (available on tape or CD). Over the years it has gotten to where I seldom even see what people are drinking.

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Tonight I dreamed that I was given a glass of champagne and told that it would be spectacualr to drink deep down in a mine and we were going down to do that... and I thought about giving up my sobriety because I did not want to disappoint the people who wanted to arrange this event for me...weird. I was at a AAmeeting friday lunch were I suddely realised that giving up drinking (seven years ago) was the first time in my life that I really went against the stream compared to what "everybody else" was doing. As I gave up alcohol before I had any notable consequences it has been questioned if it was necessary to do it as I was "Not an alcoholic"... and my fears when I stopped was that I was going to be alone because I could not socialize with people as I did not want to be in the company of alchol before I was sure I could handle it without drinking myself. I took a coupke of years.

It did change me, I sometimes feel today too that I am "Outside" what my friends are doing as I mostly do not join when the occasion is "Only" wining and dining, I find it boring. For the moment I might be on my way to a relsapse because AA and AA friends does not feel rewarding...maybe that was what the dream was telling me, to take care.

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it's so good to come here and check in. I must remember that I need to take care of me.

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I don't feel nearly as tempted as I have in the past. There are many things in my life right now that are more important to me than drinking. I feel I would undo all the work I have done by drinking. I don't need alcohol to be happy. My health is important to me.

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You remind me to attend a lot of meetings this christmas - it is a vulnerable times to many of us and even though I do not feel that, I do feel the need of community.

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I relapsed last year at christmas time. It was just all around me. I was weak. I am stronger now.

I take one day at a time.

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Christmas was just an excuse to drink more and drink earlier in the day. I recoil with horror when I recall my selfishness that final Christmas of drinking before I got sober a few Februarys ago. I love being able to be present (no pun intended) in all the seasonal activities.

On another note, the suprise party for DH's 50th went well. He didn't have a clue! It was nice to be surrounded by friends. There was alcohol served, but no one drank too much. His Dad drive 2 hours, most of it in a snow storm to be there. Lots of hugs and tears all around.



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For some reason, even in the worst of my drinking, I never drank on Christmas Day. It was just never part of the tradition. Now the days before and after.......

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Christmas was never that much of a temptation to me, as I have written earlier I gave up drinking before it had gotten biologically bad (I think) and red wine was my weak spot. For christmas food we don΄t drink red wine, it is beer and schnapps and neither was that interesting to me, I drink the "julmust" special soda for christmas and that is fine.

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This is my second Christmas since I stopped drinking and I don't miss it one bit. The food and the celebration means more to me than the drinking. It's funny, I was at a Christmas potluck and took a bite full of spiked tiramisu before I knew what it was. Oh man oh man, it was a horrible feeling to know that I accidentally cheated on my sobriety, but refreshing to know that my response at that moment was one of fear, regret, confusion, and many other negative feelings but not one moment, not one umpteenth of a percent of a moment was I longing, craving, wanting or needing to go back to my old ways. that was refreshing.

My tree is up and so are some decorations and i've been listening to the Christmas radio station since before Thanksgiving and watching tons of old specials and Christmas movies. My spirits have been high although my wallet has been empty.

My husband quit drinking two weeks after I did and we both rejoice in our decision.

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I wouldn't drink alcohol free wine. It's not worth the risk. I already have a drink of choice for festive occasions. I buy sparkling fruit juice and we enjoy it at the table. It's pretty tasty, comes in many varieties, and never had alcohol to start with. My sobriety is precious to me.

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I drink alcohol-free wine when offered at dinners. I think it goes very well with food. And I did buy a bottle some year ago and thought I would start using it as a beverage for weekend meals but diceided it was somehow thinking in the wrong direction so I never continued. I have had it maybe once in the last year so I don΄t consider it a riska anymore – but then I do not believe I am physically dependant on alcohol "only" menatally...

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I don't drink alcohol "free" wine or beer. I'm not worried so much about the infinitesimal amount of alcohol (it's there), but in the motivation to have it. I drink juice, coffee, tea, sparkling water, anything non-alcoholic. I don't want to even dance around the idea of beer or wine. I'm so afraid it will lead to "stinking thinking", which I am too apt to do.

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Does anyone have an opinion about Alcohol -free wine?

I recently came across some in the grocery store. Is this for real?



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CLeaning the kitchen yesterdy...soooo cosy! Hope to keep it up until christmas because then I will not have to do that much cleaning then... finishing the livingroom today and hopefully clean daughters room, she is coming one weekend more before christmas and I think it would be welcoming with a clean room!

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Thank you all for sharing! The first years of my own, if not having daughter around on christmas eve, I used to go to an AA meeting as well, loved the cosy feeling there. As I was a member of the choir where I used to live before 2009 christmas day was also nice without daughter (we celebrate christmas on christmas eve in Sweden, not in the morning of christmas day) becaus then we started singing christmas carols at church at 6.30 in the morning and after mass we went over to an elderly home net door and sang for the elderly... it was really nice.

Since I had my child (and remember I was 48 having her) I have thought that christmas has been too stressful - it becomes too much about candy and gifts with kids, on my own it is more about friends and warmth and all the candles... but you are all right. I had the ability to celebrate christmas very wel by myself all my life, I have not lost it because I have a daughter...

Today I am really grateful because my business edition is almost finished – my work is done I shall just correct all the pages "My" layout person is making and we will send it to print at lunch. And I will organize a lot and start cleaning for christmas this weekend...AND find the snow shovel! It is somewhere around but I could not find it yesterday... It seems as if we are going to have a very white christmas this year!

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I had to start all over 7 years ago, when my 1st husband and I split. That first Christmas I was without family on Christmas morning. I went to a meeting, then drove 3 hours to my sister's house. I was grateful for somewhere to go.

Now I have a new husband (much better version) and I make sure we make our own new traditions as well as hold on to some of each that we brought into the marriage. Last year both our children, who are are their own now, were with us. This year we will be alone. But we have each other, and many friends.

I have an advent calendar that I got from Avon years ago too. It had a pocket for each day that I put a foil covered chocolate into. I have now put it away and will give it to my son if and when he has a family of his own. He may chose to use it for his children, like I used it for me. Now I have a beautiful wooden one that looks like Santa's living room. There are little drawers at the bottom with doors that open to reveal a little painted wooden ornament. Much classier than the tired old Avon one, but without the years of wonderful memories that make old, worn Christmas ornaments shine in our eyes.

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O Nell, thanks so much for sharing your strength. I guess I'm still bitter about traditions lost. I started to write about my Christmas here, but ended up deleting it in tears.

I'm finding this year very difficult.

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Yes, I still do the Advent Calendar, but without the kids. I used to have one for each of them. At some point Avon had an "ornament" calendar with little cardboard hangers for each day until Christmas. You remove each ornament and push on the back and there are a few bars of a Christmas song. I got a 10" cheapie artificial tree to hang them on. I have to keep it all away from the cats who love the hanging ornaments (one I have never found after 8 years of looking). Every piece of Christmas that I did with the kids I do now for myself. They have moved on and have their own lives. My youngest doesn't do Christmas at all; his wife is Sikh and doesn't approve of Christian anything. My oldest son doesn't see Christmas as a big deal and while he enjoys Christmas here, does nothing for himself. My middle son and step son and their wives and kids both enjoy their own traditions, a combination of what they know from me and what their wives have brought.

When my first husband and I separated in 1981, the boys stayed with him. I made sure I always lived a few minutes away so I could feed them 5 or more days a week, then get them back home. I always loved the magic of Christmas morning, that moment when the kids first see the tree and marvel that Santa had actually come! I remember that as a kid myself. My father never gave up that fiction, even as we all got older and had kids of our own. I didn't know it at the time, but Christmas of 1980 was the last time I got to see my boys on Christmas morning. After that they came over mid afternoon and I had to pretend it was morning, with a big dinner soon after opening gifts. You have no idea of my grief those first years, but as the years went by with doing Christmas for the situation I was handed, something new was allowed to develop.

Meddy, do Christmas for yourself. If you like doing cards, send cards. If you like baking cookies, bake cookies. If you like decorating windows, decorate windows. It will be different, but today's "different" becomes tomorrow's "normal" as the years go by. And the years do go by, faster and faster.

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Yes, a great story, thanks! I am more of a "Pre-christmas" peeron than a christmas person I think...that is part of my bitterness with ex. I don΄t like to celebrate as much as I like to prepare for it. I had small boxes haning from a light circle...I don΄t know if you use "advent calenders" - from the first of december we have a calender with pictures behind paperdoors, and nowadays they have escalated into gift calendars... well, I made one with little matchboxes with dates on hanging from that circle and the daughter could open one every day - and some days there were pieces of candy, some days there were notes with acitivties "Make christmas cards", "make christmas candy" "decorate window" etc. etc. it was really fun and the daughter loved it. And as she lives with father and only coes for christmas break (and this year not until newyear) I don΄t get to do it anymore... and yes, I am bitter about it!

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What a beautiful story, Nell. You could write that up for a Grapevine issue. It's amazing the turns of fate that lead us to sobriety. The right person at the right moment saying the right thing (without realizing it) has saved many of us.

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Oh Meddy, do something for Christmas, even just for you!! Around here there are meetings every hour on the hour at the clubs for Christmas and then for New Year's. There are so many people separated from family and beloved tradition, some by distance, many by family bonds shattered by alcoholism. I had to ease my way back into the religious joy of the holiday after getting sober.

Every Christmas in my memory, I loved decorating the tree. It happens once a year, and my father and sister and brother and I would sing and decorate (my mother never much liked Christmas). When I married and had my own babies, decorating the tree was a joy I was passing on to another generation, the same style and ritual. Then that one year when my oldest was 6, my middle son was 4 and the baby was still 1, I passed out on tree decorating night. When I came to, I'd missed it. It was done. I'd have to wait another whole year for my next chance. I remember sitting down at the dining room in despair, the local paper happened to be open, and my eyes went to the "local events" column. Right there was an AA meeting that night, and I went to my first meeting. It took me another 2 months to finally be ready to stop drinking, but the whole thing started with not being able to decorate a tree in 1976.

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I have deadline week with my business edition - but then I really ned to spend some time preparing for christmas...because the house is a mess and since daughter is not spending christmas with me I know that I will not be motivated to clean or fix anything around the house "just" for myself... but if I do a major cleaning this weekend it might last until christmas.

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I have been planning for December for a month now because I had my facelift on Nov 30. The two week recovery cuts into the schedule big time, so I got as many gifts as possible in advance. Right now I am miserable. Hard to believe how much has to be done in the next 3 weeks.

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December is here already! This week will be hectic, and I know there will be a pause before Christmas. I have a work Christmas lunch Friday for my work, and a party Friday night for hubby's work and Saturday night is a surprise 50th for my love. I am so grateful I don't drink. That would be a lot of juggling to stay sober enough to make it through a whole day of parties on Friday.



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I hope you'll tell us more about your Birthday Show, MeddyPeddy. How did it go?

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As it is the first of advent I SHOULD have a clean house and thses special advent stars and electric candels in the wndows – but my birthday show has taken all energy and I will manage with the mess.

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Happy December! Let's make this a great month.

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Forgot that I had to make a new post for december, just copying the november post...:
Dress rehearsal went well - except that myself did not have any dress yet...had to drive down and pick-up daughter as she had nausea and I decided it was too hard on her to go on the bus...took three hours away but I think I will manage.

And it is december and supposed to be advent in Sweden, have not thought about that yet as I have the show this afternoon and everything is put on hold until it is done!

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