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11/26/12 8:53 A

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I agree with other posters about trying to take your child for a short while, and gradually increasing the time. Children need to be present so that they can learn and understand.

That said, it does depend a lot on how well your child can behave.

My 3-yr-old twins are VERY active, to the point where it's disruptive to others, as well as to the other members of my family when trying to contain them. The last time I had them in church with me, they ran around, were loud, kept pulling on the Pastor's cassock, and were generally terrors. Our Pastor is also a personal friend, and loves my Monster Tots, but it was very distracting to the other parishoners (all of whom were very kind to us). Lately, I have been going to Mass without them. I can't imagine them sitting still for 2 minutes of adoration, let alone an hour.

Go with your instinct. You know your child best and what she's capable of.

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11/25/12 11:06 P

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Our adoration room has books for kids. If you are volunteering for an hour of adoration, then do it at a time when there is less traffic and take your child. Like others have said, it depends on how well yourchild behaves normally.




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11/5/12 11:44 P

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I love these responses! So well-thought-out and caring!

Elizabeth - your post reminded me that the word discipline comes from the word for disciple. It means to teach. We should all be a little tolerant of normal baby and children sounds, and parents also should do their best to guide and teach their little ones so as to not be an undue distraction to others.

I read a great article about parents and Mass and little ones talking and being loud and distracting. I'll have to see if I can find it. It was all about modelling correct and proper reverence and that if a parent is focusing so much on the child, they get the idea that *they* are the purpose of Mass, not Jesus. It made me think.

Anyway, keep up the great posts everyone! This is a good thread.


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Elizabeth I love it when children and infants are a mass one of our priest would in the summer bring the younger children up during mass to be his altar servers some are so cute at that age its great to get them involve

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Melissa, this is a great question. I think there is a middle ground that offers respect for both sides. Remember what Jesus said in Matt. 19:13-15: "Then children were brought to him that he might lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples rebuked them, but Jesus said, 'Let the children come to me, and do not prevent them; for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.' After he placed his hands on them, he went away."

The Catholic Church encourages married couples to have children, and it seems to me that Catholics should then welcome children into their midst just as Jesus did. I have a problem with any Catholic who is so "devout" as to be intolerant of young children at Mass or in Adoration. On the other side, I have a problem with parents who let their kids run wild at Mass or Adoration and don't even attempt to teach their children the proper respect due to Jesus. I have seen parents who truly make no attempt to control or teach their children, and I have seen little old ladies who condemn birth control but appear to hate being around children.

With all of that being said, I would encourage you to take your daughter to Adoration for a small period of time. Try to impress upon her that she is going to be with Jesus, and that encounter is very special and sacred. If she sees your respect of the Sacred, she is more likely to mirror that same respect. Start out with small periods of time and reward her good behavior. You can gradually increase the time.

God bless you for wanting to do the best for your daughter.

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We have a couple who come to adoration sometimes now. They used to come more often when their daughter was younger. At cfirst she was an infant in the multi purpose seat. Then she wanted to be out and crawling around. Now she is over two and when they come she has books to look through. It doesn't bother me per se but it is a distraction when she is moving around. I don't mind as the little one is so cute and she is very quiet for a person that age. She is learning to sit still for periods of time. I would say if your child can be there without talking, and will sit fairly still for a while, I would take her. Be sure you have plenty for her to focus on to occupy her but if she gets too restless, I would head out. As she grows, she will learn to sit for longer periods of time. To me, the distraction of a little one is more than offset by the fact I know you are bringing her up with a great grounding in her faith.

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you can try but my friend brings books and coloring books and crayons when she brings her daughter and she is good my friend would start off with a few mintues and increase it each time she went

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I think it's wonderful that you are wanting to share the experience of Adoration with your little one, at the same time you are wanting to respect the atmosphere for the others present during that special time.

I agree with the other comments: if you take her, maybe don't commit to a specific time where you need to remain for the entire hour. Perhaps short bursts at first (5-10 minutes) to get her used to it all. Explain as best you can beforehand, at her level, and take many things for her to do (Saints or other faith books at her level, maybe a plastic rosary to "count the beads", etc.). Some children (as others have mentioned) may respond well to the idea that they need to be still and quite. Others, not so much. emoticon

I know when I go to Adoration and there are children present, I love seeing their innocence, and their awe at the whole thing. Most parents are more concerned than the others present about a little whisper or loud opening of a bag, etc., worried that the other adorers are upset, but they usually are not, and understand that the little ones are learning about the Faith, and are doing their very best to be as quiet as they can manage.

When I went to Adoration on Saturday, I felt bad. There was a young couple with a little girl there already. At one point, the little girl was "reading" a book about the Saints. She was trying to name them all (in a quiet whisper) and I turned around to take a peek at the adorable little girl. Her mother could not see my face to know I was smiling at her daughter, and so was worried that I was annoyed, and asked her to be quiet.

She was not disturbing me or the others at all! I loved hearing her little voice saying "Momma Mary" when she got to a picture of Our Blessed Mother!

Good luck with your endeavours!

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Some people at adoration want COMPLETE silence (there is a chapel in Seattle where they are very strict about this) and it would be hard for a young child to attend. Even playing quietly would be disturbing to some people.
However, if you are alone with your child in the chapel or church, I don't see why not! Or if the other people don't mind a little noise.
There is no way I could take my young grand son to adoration. Even mass is a challenge with him! He is fit to be tied by Communion!

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If your child can be quiet, I see no harm in taking her to adoration. However, for her sake (not just that of other adorers), I would only go for 5-15 minutes. Even if your child behaves very well for Mass, something is "going on" (visually & audibly) which helps keep her occupied--an hour of silence can seem like forever to an adult who is there voluntarily.

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My now almost 10 year old went through her toddler and preschool years playing quietly in the pew. :) It can be done!

My now 4 year old son and daughter at adoration... no, thank you. We barely make it through Mass without incident lately.

With all of that said, if your daughter behaves well during Mass, you probably will not have problems with her at Adoration. Bring some books about the saints or other appropriate materials. Try it before you commit to a regular schedule.

No shame in having to leave.

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Golly follow your heart but understand you may have to leave to take care of the needs of the child.

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I have a four year old and I would love to go to adoration with her but am afraid she will disturb others. Please give me your honest feedback....go with her or stay home? I don't want to be rude to others but would love to attend (even if just for few minutes).

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