This is already what I have been doing. The only complaint I have been making to anybody is just that I am disheartened by the amount of racist backlash that has occurred. Fine, be afraid of change, socialism, communism, losing rights, gaining rights, etc.... I just wish they would leave the racist comments alone.
Usually when I talk to a McCain supporter, I just tell them how impressed I was with his concession speach, and that if he had been more "real" like that throughout the campaign he may have had better results. I make sure to tell them that I think John McCain is a good man that loves and serves his country with all of his heart and soul.
I have been thinking about that. I have 2 friends(?) who bombarded me with all the lies and inuendos. Now what? I am very resentful and offended really. I have not responded to general emails - have not yet had one personally just for me. Well, I did awhile back and after I told him I was sick of it, I didn't get any more correspondence. But how to I handle it. I thought "What would Barack Obama do?" I do not feel friendly or warm towards them, and I'd like to stick my nose up in the air to tell the truth, but I know I should not do that.
Let them have their time to grieve. Let them talk about their "protests". Let them hang their flags upside down. Let them wear black and mourn the "loss of America." Let them gnash their teeth and complain that it's all about race. Let them complain about the evil "libs". Let them call us "Obamunists" and "Obamabots" and "Fans." Let them get it out of their system.
Take the high road and let them talk. A fight can end one of three ways. One side can win. Both sides can be destroyed, or one side can walk away. We can't change the hate to love. We can't afford to let them drag us down. So walk away. Just walk away.
As our next president says "There is more than unites us than divides us." Let the divisive wrangling about non-issues float away. Work on things that matter, and don't spend your energy on things that don't.
Remember the old prayer. "May I have the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Fight the fights that are worth fighting. Don't attack back when someone makes an divisive comment out of their pain.
Reading some of the things that conservatives are writing in the last three days makes me sick. Some people want to take their pain out on everyone who voted for Obama. We can't take it to heart. Give it a few days - even a few weeks. Let the wounds start to heal before we pick up the banner again. Stop picking at it.
Here is the challenge. The next time you read or hear something about Obama that makes you mad, don't respond. Not at all. Let it go. Whether it's a discussion thread, a news report, an email, a comment overheard at work, or your own mother - just take a deep breath, smile, and LET IT GO. Resist the temptation to jump in on the defense. Take my challenge once - that's all I ask. The next time you would have responded in some way, just don't.
If Barack Obama can treat political rivals with respect and tolerence, then we can take the slings and arrows of our former opponents with grace.
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