Author: Sorting Last Post on Top ↓ Message:
MORERED's Photo MORERED SparkPoints: (16,547)
Fitness Minutes: (10,334)
Posts: 533
2/7/12 11:29 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
My response to food pushers will be no, thanks and then I get myself out of the situation. I can do it, I've done it before. At work, I've gotten pretty good at resisting the birthday cupcakes, leftover brownies and cookies from lunch meetings, etc. It doesn't even call to me anymore. I need to keep vigilantly practising the 'no choice, would rather be thin' thinking.

Advertising and restaurant menus are more of the challenge for me than food pushers. But I think that's a task for another day :o)

 current weight: 209.6 
 
222
215.5
209
202.5
196
JSPEED4's Photo JSPEED4 Posts: 1,674
4/14/11 2:20 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I need to say NO more quickly to several types of pushers--most of them wanting some sort of personal attention. Advertisers are bad, too.

Saying NO to myself more helps me say NO more to others and to influences.

J. Speed Eastern Standard Time, UTC/GMT -5
www.thebushwhacker.com/the-old-new-n
uclear-fuel-thorium


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
 
0
6.25
12.5
18.75
25
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
1/5/11 9:15 A

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
revisited from an older post of 2008 emoticon and I am still working on beck. Oh well this is a process not perfection. I tend to think on the perfection side of things sometimes. No one is perfect including me. My imperfection just make me human.

It is funny how much I can think at the allergist office...I guess at home there is so much going on it it hard to concentrate or think.

My hubbie has gotton somewhat better at not being a food pusher but there is room for improvement on both our behaves. Pusher in progress but a sabatour you bet he is. This is why the nuts are still on the counter. emoticon read the daily chat....

My card for him goes like this: *if it is sweets* No thanks, I appreciate you thinking about me though. If it is something good that well help me toward my weight goal I except it and plan around it.

strangers: *It it is sweets that are bad for me (they don't care if I refuse)*No thanks, I am diabetic. Some say Oh I am sorry. I say it is ok I am in control of it. Many folks think that diabetes is a death just waiting to happen. It does not have to be. It does not control me but I control it. With each step I crush it under foot! emoticon BAM! emoticon CRUNCH! emoticon KERPLATT!

Edited by: GODZDESIGN95 at: 1/5/2011 (22:04)
PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
12/29/10 1:15 A

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
restarting this chapter... finishing it hopeful by the new year. Chapter 26 and 27 was an eye opener.

PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
ANUSCHKA9's Photo ANUSCHKA9 SparkPoints: (167,241)
Fitness Minutes: (145,106)
Posts: 5,750
9/23/10 8:33 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This is a major problem for me. And, it is MY problem. I allow people to make me feel guilty. I'm tired of other people treating me like their personal garbage cans. My mom bakes a cake and then cries that she's getting too fat, but of course, I'm supposed to help her out by eating it and getting fat instead. I've learned to redirect my anger at her... I now take satisfaction in throwing out all of the junk that she buys or makes and leaves for me to eat.

"Enthusiasm is the greatest asset in the world. It beats money and power and influence. It is no more or less than faith in action." - Henry Chester


 current weight: 218.0 
 
222
205.25
188.5
171.75
155
ANNANN63's Photo ANNANN63 Posts: 2,241
2/7/10 7:58 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This day is not a problem for me. I do not have any food pushers in my life.

I found that some of the ideas could be helpful in other situations not food-related.

Annie
Central Florida-EST


 current weight: 143.0 
 
157
152.75
148.5
144.25
140
COFFEE666's Photo COFFEE666 Posts: 95
12/13/09 5:00 P

Send Private Message
Reply
Yeah this is not an issue for me at all. I have no problem saying "no" to anyone.

My problem is wanting it and saying "no" to myself.

"Looks like your expectations let you down. Expectations have a way of doing that." -Pedidiva


 Pounds lost: 13.0 
 
0
22.5
45
67.5
90
CINDILP's Photo CINDILP SparkPoints: (78,067)
Fitness Minutes: (59,489)
Posts: 10,802
11/20/09 1:55 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I need to resist the food pushers around me at the gas station and the grocery store. Actually, I'm doing better with this one.
Cindi

Cindiï

Team leader:
Careers
Funny, I Don't FEEL 50 (or 60 - it's all good)!
Parents of ADHD Children
The United Methodist Team.
Sonoma Diet
Social Workers, Counselors and Therapists




 current weight: 172.2 
 
178
171
164
157
150
NANCY-'s Photo NANCY- Posts: 7,311
9/21/09 11:20 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
"Lead me not into temptation -- I can find it myself."
I have taught my children to sample a "no thank you helping" when trying new food.

But I am a food pusher. Oh MY!!!

Be polite and firm. "you're entitled to do what is right for you."
At the very least this day gave me insight to make me stop being a food pusher and gives me ammo to deal with those pushers.

Expect Success

*´¨)
¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨)
(¸.*Stress comes from focusing on problems,
........relief comes from focusing on solutions.

Reward yourself for behaviors, not results.


 Pounds lost: 6.0 
 
0
5
10
15
20
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
12/8/08 10:44 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
revisiting this again. for the holidays and always!! food pusher just don't get it. revisited my cards to.

PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
10/9/08 9:30 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Sometimes we have to work this around to our own situation. Trying to eat sparingly and saving for later sounds like good strategy. Good Job!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
BUTTERFLYWINGZ's Photo BUTTERFLYWINGZ SparkPoints: (15,160)
Fitness Minutes: (5,375)
Posts: 2,693
10/9/08 3:46 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I forgot to post here when I finished this one...

And it's a good one for me, as my in-laws are French & my MIL really takes offence when you pass on her offerings. Wine & appetizers are also abundant when they visit, so I need to keep this advice close at hand. I do like the suggestion to ask to keep it for later, that way I can nibble on it at will and not feel as though I am offending anybody.

~~ Renee ~~

My Motto: "DO IT ANYWAY!!"


 Pounds lost: 0.0 
 
0
19
38
57
76
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
8/13/08 10:02 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I didn't mean to sound like your hubby was a bad guy. I totally understand the "food treats" and it's wonderful that he gives you treats. I guess maybe I can be lucky my hubby doesn't give me treats? I'm sure you'll find a balance with him. You could tell him that he's enough sweets for you!

Sandy emoticon

Edited by: FINDINGSANDY at: 8/13/2008 (22:01)
Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
8/13/08 4:56 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Thanks Sandy he is not a bad buy may be a little unsure right know. Most men need reassuring that no matter how other men wink or look you are still his gal so to speak. Giggles.

People show love thorough giving food. Habit are hard to break. He is not difficult he's used to eating junk. I used to eat all that junk with him. Now I am different. I guess since he shows some love threw food-- when I refuse it is like I have refused him instead of the food. We have talked about.


For example when we were little my sister and myself/my mother would make a big after church Sunday dinner. Whew I remember those days. Traditions for many families are still going on now. I still carry those traditions but with healthier versions. We celebrate every holiday around food think about it..

RuntoRide I like your ideas I do ask for fruit now as a goodies. As far as the junk goodies, I am one of those who if I eat anything it sets off triggers, and I can not stop. I would creep into the kitchen until all those goodies would be gone.

Still gonna use some southern sweetness. We have been married going on 21 years. So somethings working emoticon

Edited by: GODZDESIGN95 at: 8/13/2008 (17:49)
PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
RUN2RIDE's Photo RUN2RIDE Posts: 1,182
8/13/08 1:56 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
my dh is a bit like that too... and i know that at the heart of it, he just wants to feel like he's doing something special for me and/or reassured that even tho my body's changing, my affection for him isn't changing.

So i do a few different things --
...sometimes i'll accept the goodie and tell him how nice it was that he thought of me. ...and then replan the rest of my day or the next day so that i stay in calorie range. Like the other night, he brought me an apple fritter from my fav bakery - by omitting my planned dessert and my baked potato, i stayed in range! :)
... sometimes i'll do the above, cut the goodie in half, make a big show of enjoying it (cuz i really do enjoy the goodies he brings) and also let him know that I'm saving half cuz it's too much for me right now. This approach actually got him to buy me small McD shakes instead of the large ones. He started seeing that i consistently put most of it back in the freezer.
...sometimes i'll do the above and discreetly throw the 2nd half away.
...sometimes i'll just say "thank you! that's so sweet -- I'll enjoy it later cuz right now i'm rather full." and sometimes later never comes and it discreetly ends up in the garbage ;) but he knows i appreciated that he thought of me...
...sometimes i'll plant ideas like "ooohh, i;ve really started enjoying blueberries as a treat!" so now he's bringing me blueberries - but so many that i'm having to freeze them! ;)

sometimes i feel i'm being a little deceptive which i don't like but i think trying to balance my needs (how i eat) with his needs (reassurance, affection and gratitude) is worth it... and i try to remember that underneath it all, he's worried about how my changing will impact him and i try to make sure my actions alleviate that worry too...

LOL on the southern sweetness -- i bet your charms will work wonders! emoticon


oh yeah - I did the day 29 readings too...


Edited by: RUN2RIDE at: 8/13/2008 (13:58)
My ticker represents 6 years of learning and losing (and regaining a bit) - I'm NOT going back! I *AM* fit 4 life!!


 current weight: 166.0 
 
213
198.5
184
169.5
155
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
8/12/08 10:36 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
There's usually someone that is like that; too bad you have to live with the person though. Can you try just a little?

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
8/11/08 8:08 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I just finished this chapter. It will take some practice with hd. He gets super sensitive when I refuse a goodie.

Being a christian southern girl.... sometimes it is said that being assertive is like being witchy substitute the letter B. This will take some true practice. I should not allow him/her to push me around and get me off track. I will only kick booty when I have to giggles. emoticon emoticon . Much practice with a little southern sweetness. emoticon

PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
7/31/08 11:19 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Hang in there! Maybe he'll figure it out sometime.

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
7/31/08 5:28 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
His response he say playfully"If you love you will try it". My response is if you loved me and would not ask me to take a bite. I remember when he went out and brought some Frozen yogurt I refused to eat it and he got all bent out shape. (upset) I think he loves me and shows it sometimes with food. We were all programmed that way. I am trying to break that cycle with this program. Onward going!!!!!!!!!

PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
7/31/08 9:21 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Maybe you need to talk to him about it and find out why he takes it personally. I'm sure he's enjoying your weight loss!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
GODZDESIGN95's Photo GODZDESIGN95 SparkPoints: (92,630)
Fitness Minutes: (97,621)
Posts: 27,607
7/30/08 11:15 P

Community Team Member

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Huhhh I just started reading this and my hd must be the exception he is hurt if I refuse goodies. I may spend some time on this one.

PAT

BEING CONFIDENT OF THIS VERY THING, THAT HE WHICH HAS BEGUN A GOOD WORK IN YOU WILL PERFORM IT UNTIL THE DAY OF JESUS CHRIST.

PHILIPPIANS 1:6


25 BLC FBI
24 BLC FBI
23 BLC stingrays
22 rocking rose rangers.


 current weight: 176.0 
 
193
181
169
157
145
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
4/5/08 8:43 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
This is a hard one and you're right, people don't mean ill by it. I've noticed that when my mom goes to one of my brothers houses or anywhere she always tells me what she had to eat before she tells me who was there -- the food is the most important part. Explains a lot!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
MOV4WARD's Photo MOV4WARD Posts: 10,632
4/3/08 4:18 P

Send Private Message
Reply
I usually encounter food pushers the most at work (co-workers bringing goodies) and at family get2gethers where food is served...

i *think* this is really an important thing to consider ~ and it surprised me when I thought about it....

for me, participating and enjoying a little when I want to is happy making (like pumpkin pie @ Thanksgiving or cake on my birthday!), but sometimes I don't want or need to... so it is ok to say no, thank you to more or extra food :) If they persist, I usually just say something like: It looks wonderful but I'm not really hungry right now, but thank you :)

If they really push, I ask if I can just take some home and repeat I'm not really hungry, but thanks for doing this, thinking of me... whatever is appropriate for the event/person...

it dawned on me one time though, that sometimes it is just people being kind & wanting to be a good hostess and that socially we do celebrate with food... I can remember my gramsies & gr8aunties buffets and they were always asking "can I get you more of this or that, coffee, dessert? r u sure u've had enuf?" etc... until everyone was replete & unbuttoning their pants & moaning from being 2 stuffed!!!

It dawned on me that I do the same thing, but I swear, it's just the hostess coming out... I want people to be happy = eating food.

i also know that i have worked hard to put out beautiful buffets, and i'm disappointed if people don't eat, (and used to be upset and then had to try to eat all the leftovers myself so they wouldn't go to waste ~ now, i try to send most home with my guests ;)

so, on the other hand, I also learned to respect people when they decline the 1st invitation instead of pushing a 2nd or 3rd time...

FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
11/22/07 10:37 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today we're going to here "It's Thanksgiving, you have to eat!" I don't think we need to overeat to be thankful! Work that Resistance Muscle!!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
MAZZYR's Photo MAZZYR Posts: 8,869
11/22/07 9:55 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Today is Thanksgiving... beware of food pushers!

Quoting Dr. Beck:

"Once I firmly believe I'm entitled to say no to food pushers, dieting will be easier."

I'm generally assertive and don't ususally have a problem resisting food pushers, however, LOL... my friends mom, a definite food pusher, is hard to say no to. LOL... my plan is to take offered food (she's older... I don't want to hurt her feelings), then do what Barbara Walters' friends do... push it around my plate and not eat it... LOL... no problem unless "I" really want it. I'll try "no thank you" first... unless "I really want it."

Mazzy


 current weight: 150.0 
 
150
142.5
135
127.5
120
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
11/11/07 7:52 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Good point!

Sandy emoticon


Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
MAZZYR's Photo MAZZYR Posts: 8,869
11/11/07 6:00 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I'm very good at resisting food pushers... I just say "no thank you." If pusher further pushes... I am assertive in resisting, however, if the pusher pushes something "I really want... that's a different story... LOL.

Mazzy


 current weight: 150.0 
 
150
142.5
135
127.5
120
PEANUTBUTTER14's Photo PEANUTBUTTER14 Posts: 214
9/25/07 7:02 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I am going to try that I'm allergic to it. I hope they push so I can tell them why.
lol. that is so funny.
Mary

 
150
142.5
135
127.5
120
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
9/24/07 11:27 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I think it's ridiculous that people have to insist that you eat something. You can be social without stuffing your gut. You're right; if it meant your health, they wouldn't press. But it does mean our health!!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
MOM2TWO!'s Photo MOM2TWO! Posts: 218
9/24/07 10:57 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I have a couple of friends who are food pushers. I avoid them, because they just don't get that their behavior is annoying. I have experienced this with family too. Family members tend to take it more as an insult if you don't try their food.

I read once somewhere that I should say I can't eat that because I'm allergic to it. And if pressed further say it makes me break out in "fat":).

 current weight: 225.0 
 
225
203.75
182.5
161.25
140
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
9/24/07 6:53 A

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
I think this one used to get to me more than it does now. I definitely used to give to the pressure of going to someone's house to eat; birthday parties are the worst! Do you have to eat the cake?!

My mother is a HUGE food pusher, but I can tell her to knock it off!

Sandy emoticon

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
FINDINGSANDY's Photo FINDINGSANDY Posts: 5,756
9/23/07 8:44 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
Reply
Who are the food pushers in your life? How do you handle them?

Feeling healthy is much better than ANY food tastes!!!

STG - Have a 4 week streak!


 current weight: 229.0 
 
229
211.75
194.5
177.25
160
Page: 1 of (1)  

Report Innappropriate Post

Other Beck Diet Solution General Team Discussion Forum Posts

Topics: Last Post:
Day 8: Create Time and Energy 1/8/2014 10:52:42 AM
Day 4: Give Yourself Credit 6/8/2014 4:37:46 PM
Skipping A Lunch With Beck 9/10/2013 1:43:46 AM
Three Months Down 5/31/2013 2:14:55 PM
Why I want to lose weight. 2/10/2014 11:02:10 PM

Thread URL: http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x10071x9084568

Review our Community Guidelines