You are so right moonshadow. I really do have the thinking that I shouldn't have slipups and that is so unrealistic. I know one of my triggers is feeling overwhelmed on the regular basis. I need to realize that I cannot do everything and it is okay if some things don't get done. Thanks so much for your support and from now on godwilling I will check out the check in thread. Thanks to the both of you.
Hassannah-- come to the Daily Check in Thread-- we support each other through good and bad there!
Here's may take on what happened... First, it is important to think, write, talk about what happened and try to figure out what triggered the unplanned eating so you can then try to figure out how to deal differently with that trigger situation.
But then... FORGET about it. Let it go. DON"T fall into the "all or nothing" trap. You know, the thinking that says "well I screwed that up; probably I should just give up now because clearly I can't do this" or "you know now that i've messed up my diet I might as well have a (fill in favorite treat here) and start again on (fill in date in the future here). The thing is.... you aren't ever going to be perfect. We're human. We can improve, we can get better. The emotional eating can recede to the point where we don't feel controlled by it etc etc. BUT. Its so much more important to learn how to deal with these occassional slips than to keep holding ourselves to an unrealistic standard of perfection. So, focus on whats' in front of you. Make your plan for your next meal, your next trigger moment. Tell youself that one day of slipping does NOT mean that you ruined everything, does NOT mean that you can't do this, it just means you had a bad day or a bad moment and now you are going to pick yourself up and move on.
I'm glad I ran across this thread, but as I suggested earlier-- come to the daily check in! many of us post there regularly and I usually just look at that and one or two others
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Welcome to Beck!!! I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids. Two of the are older...19 just started local college and a soon to be high school graduate 17 y/o and 13 y/o who has autism. So I know about a full plate. I haven't had any luck with a steady diet coach. So I use this team as my coach and it has worked out beautifully. Someone is always here to give a helping hand and lend a shoulder to cry on. you are among friends welcome. Best wishes on your journey.
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AND GOD SHALL WIPE AWAY ALL TEARS FROM THEIR EYES; AND THERE SHALL BE NO MORE DEATH, NEITHER SORROW, NOR CRYING, NEITHER SHALL THERE BE ANY MORE PAIN: FOR THE FORMER THINGS ARE PASSED AWAY.
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Hi everyone! I have been following the beck diet solution for atleast 3 months now and have been doing really well. I lost atleast 10 pounds. I am nolonger overweight but would like to lose another ten pounds to take myself to ultra lean. I read my cards regularly though I have been very stressed lately. I have four children 2 who are in school 6 and 8 years old and 2 who are home with me in the day 4 and 2. I am in school at night. Last night I had been doing really well all day but last night I totally went off of my diet program. Though I had read the beck card twice.
I just didnt have the energy to do what I know I needed to do. I guess my problem is just that I have a lot on my plate right now. I don't really now how I can solve the problem. I live in Saudi Arabia and my family lives in America so I really am unable to get family support or help with all of my responsibilities. Hubby works a lot and doesn't understand anyway. I haven't found anyone here who I feel would be able to support me as a diet coach and I don't want to drop out of school.
I do think that the missing link for me is haveing a diet coach though and just having someone to share my daily life situtions with!
Thanks so much for reading this. Any questions or advices is most welcome.
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