Hi JacquieAnn, I really like your new thought. I hope you will not feel guilty about it. I think you deserve to do everything wonderful for yourself. Why shouldn't you?!
I have never been a people pleaser, but I seem to attract people pleasers as my closest friends. I must have some kind of complementary personality, something like "demanding" ...
But when my friends do their people pleasing thing, it drives me nuts and I want to pound them! I was just having lunch with a very dear friend who runs a program that had a rough year financially. Well, who didn't have a rough year financially this year!? So she said she feels like she let them down. I asked her if she thought she had been lazy or had missed opportunities to increase enrollment or if she had made bad decisions. She said no, she had not. So I said, why does she think she let them down? Why does she blame herself? She got my point!
Anyway, that might have been a little off track... but I think that one of the things that Beck stresses is that you have a right to take good care of yourself. You have a right to make choices that "upset" someone else, like if someone wants you to eat something they cooked. And you have a right to spend time on yourself! Losing weight takes a lot of time and concentration, and nothing else you are doing (the things you do for everyone ELSE), is more important than this. You are allowed to do things for YOU!
So, I'm glad you went for a walk. And one more thing... I have another good friend who is a life coach, and she is always saying, "Guilt is a wasted emotion!"
Sparkfully Yours, Judi
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