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current weight: 138.0
Fitness Minutes: (50,109) Posts: 1,030 7/5/12 9:47 A
I'm glad that you are now going to involve those qualified to treat depression, more - vis the Psychiatrist and a Therapist. Your family Dr realizes she is out of her depth and that is a good call on her part. Hopefully you will see some improvement in your situation. As Lynne has said, it is pointless comparing ourselves with others because everyone has a different situation or combination of things which affect us, and we also respond to them differently.
You will find loads of support here - all you need to do is involve yourself on the message boards. Of course, ensuring that you are getting good nutrition and exercise will go a long way toward helping, too!
If you have any questions just ask there is usually someone around so a response shouldn't be too far away.
My answer to your question ("why can't I handle things better?") is: each person's difficulties are unlike those of other people around them, especially in the specifics of the challenges. And the resources that each person brings to bear in his own particular situation are also very different. Similarly to trying to compare apples with oranges, it is a waste of time to compare oneself with others.
The thing to do is to compare yourself to yourself. If you find yourself in a place you don't want to occupy, then wisdom would tell you to make a plan for specific areas of your life. In a way, you've already begun this journey (your plan to make two phone calls tomorrow for appointments with your mental health team). It's hard not to be impatient, but you've only just started on the road to better mental health, so patience is called for.
You have joined a team of compassionate individuals who are in various stages on their fitness journey. We are willing to listen and to share with other members from our own experience. Stay in touch, okay? I'm glad you've joined us!
Co-Leader, Dealing with Depression Team
"When I say itís you I like, Iím talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed.Ē Mr. Rogers
Pounds lost: 36.0
Fitness Minutes: (55) Posts: 6 7/3/12 11:35 P
I'm pretty blah lately. I know I need more help than I'm getting, so tomorrow I'm going to call and make two appointments. One for my psychiatrist and another for a therapist. I haven't seen a therapist in years. This will be my second visit to my psychiatrist - my regular doc decided that my depression was beyond her knowledge.
I have some financial stress, normal marital issues, and 3 teenagers. Everyone has to deal with stuff...why can't I handle things better?
I can honestly say that its been a long time since I would describe myself as happy. I was first diagnosed as clinically depressed in 1997 after my grandmother died. I've been on meds ever since, and I can't see ever coming off of them.
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