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2/22/11 9:50 P

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Welcome to the team!

Please don't ever apologize for venting. The whole purpose of this team is to give all of us a safe place to let out our feelings and to receive support.

I think a lot of us can identify with what you're going through. Seemingly everybody has money worries these days, and I've worked off-shift from friends and families before, so I know the loneliness you're having. Please know that you're not alone. You have us, and we will always listen to whatever you need or want to say.

"...there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for."

"We're children of a fighting race that never yet has known disgrace." (The Soldiers' Song, Irish national anthem)

"Every day above ground is a good day." (Chef Justin Kennedy of New Orleans, on Chopped)

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2/22/11 9:20 P

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I joined this SparkTeam a week or so ago and I haven't been on as much as I have wanted. For some reason my depression has taken a turn for the worse lately. My husband and I are having financial problems......I took a new job 6 months ago that pays 60% less than what I had been making and this job is Thursday through Monday....so I am not off when my friends and hubby is off on the weekend. I feel so alone. I do well on my diet a few days and then I get so down I end up binging. I am so tired of feeling like a failure. I really don't know what to do.....my medication does not seem to be working. I called a new doctor and today and he isn't taking new patients.....so that made me more discouraged. I live in a very small town in Florida and I really don't have anyone I can talk to.....sorry for venting, but I needed to tell someone how I am feeling.



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2/19/11 1:05 P

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Carol, thank you for sharing your story and for the inspiration! People like you are what Spark is all about.

"...there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for."

"We're children of a fighting race that never yet has known disgrace." (The Soldiers' Song, Irish national anthem)

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2/19/11 12:55 P

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i know how you feel alittle bit.i feel like that alot of days,my kids are grown,but they still worry about me.but i don't like going out are anything because of my weight but i have learned to deal with it.i have lost some weight but not as much as i need to but am getting there.everytime i lose 5pound i reward myself with something nice.and you can do itjust take it one day at a time and you'll start to feel alot better.and you will become more open.and also remember. a true a true friend is preious and rare and hard to find and a fake one can be found anywhere.when you pick are find a friend let it be a true one,and that will help a little so you can have someone you can talk to when you'll feeling down, emoticon

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Thank you Slimmer and lady irish,
Duane did see his doctor when we went to the ER a week ago and also saw his ortho dr. He has finished his antibiotics. He has to be ready to see the dr. again, or he just won't go. Today was better and he was better also. Thanks for listening!!!!! emoticon

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We're here to listen, Flame.

It sounds like your husband needs to see a doctor. There's something going on there. Hopefully it's minor and the doctor can scope it out and mend it quickly.

And keep leaning on us!

"...there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for."

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Hi, you don't indicate whether the Cellulitis is fully healed or just considerably improved. It sounds like there COULD be a bit of infection going on, still. I would be inclined to phone his Dr and take him ASAP - or to an Emergency Clinic.

It is good that you have the support of a counselor, and are obviously a medical Dr given that you are on p.meds. I can understand your feeling of "gloom" about it, too. It isn't exactly a picnic watching all of this going on when you are in the best of health, let alone when depression is involved. Perhaps an appointment with your counselor may be beneficial for YOU at this time, but still ensure that hubby is seen to medically ASAP!

Keep in touch and let us know how he is.

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2/13/11 1:57 A

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Having a bad night. I can't really tell what started it. My hubby sprained his ankle really bad when the ice storm hit NE Texas. It was really swollen and cellulitis had set in and that has healed pretty much. He had a seizure Friday morning. That could be it. Also, he is really sleeping earlier in the day. He does get up early, but he is going to sleep at 8 pm and that really concerns me. I am getting a sense of gloom about it all. I do have a counselor and take meds.
I just don't like this feeling. Thanks for listening.

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I'm so sorry you're having such a bad time. Do you have a therapist? Mine has literally saved my life. In the meantime, Lean on us all you need or want to. We're all here for each other.

"...there's some good in this world, Mr. Frodo, and it's worth fighting for."

"We're children of a fighting race that never yet has known disgrace." (The Soldiers' Song, Irish national anthem)

"Every day above ground is a good day." (Chef Justin Kennedy of New Orleans, on Chopped)

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Made a sparkpage. Have been depressed for a very long time now. I have trouble getting out of bed most days. I have a nearly-5-month-old son and a soon-to-be preschooler and a tween. The best of all worlds. I feel like I'm going nuts. If I didn't have so many people relying on me, I'd probably curl up and die. I'm not the best at making friends. I'm afraid of allowing anyone into my heart who isn't already there. More or less, I'm afraid of losing the ones I love. I've grown to hate going places where I know for sure I'll see people I know. I hate the fact that I've allowed myself to grow so big and lazy. I hate the fact that for the past month, I have had to keep rescheduling a doctor appointment that will allow me to get back on antidepressants. It would be nice if they would allow me to keep the appointment tomorrow, seeing how the weather has been so crazy lately. I had to cancel twice in the past few weeks. The first time was because my baby was hospitalized, the second on account of icy road conditions, and tonight, it will snow AGAIN!! I just want to feel okay again. I hate being on meds. I hate having to try new combos. I just want to get better.

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LIZRAINBOW and MKSPAETH welcome. The Start page does have a link for creating your SparkPage and it will take you through those steps. Remember to click the "save" tab when you have done it. Remember to not give your private details (address, phone no. etc.) for internet safety! You can also create a SparkPage from the SparkPoints Page. Just have a look down near the bottom of the lists and there is a link there.

You both may like to join in one or both of two threads on this team. One is "Help, I'm Having a Bad Day" and the other is "Daily Check-In". Both are stickies. You will find that regular contact, particularly on either or both of these threads, will give you more of a sense of belonging and the chance to vent in safety, AND make new friends in the process! It is like family and you will both be very welcome.

MKSPAETH Hopefully you are having medical/therapy input re your emotional health (and physical if need be). If you don't then please make an appointment with your Dr ASAP, explain what is going on and ask for a referral to a Therapist. You have a LOT going on, and perhaps the bulk of what is happening with you is that you are over-extending yourself, and become exhausted as a result. This is where some "housekeeping" will come in to it's own. Make a list of all that you do, and then look at it, and remove what doesn't really need to be done, or reduce what you do of it. If possible, delegate some of it! If you are the main cook, then perhaps bulk cooking when you have the time and freeze in meal serves - that will free up a fair bit of time for other stuff (and actually, it will save you money, too:-)

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MKSPAETH, I'm sorry you are so depressed.
Are you getting any help for your depression? Have you seen a psychiatrist? Are you on meds? Do you have a therapist?
Instead of eating, try some exercise if it isn't time for a meal or snack. March in place, or walk briskly; these will reduce the tension you feel.
Keep posting too. Venting here will help you, and others may have more suggestions for you.
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It's been so long since I made my sparkpage, I'm not positive, but I think you go ^^ up above, where it says 'My Tools' and go to Start, and it should have information there.
If I'm wrong, I hope someone will provide the correct information!
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(You could also check under 'Community' where one of the choices is 'Sparkpages', and maybe you can set one up there.)
Best wishes to you!

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hi people...I'm new at this....so be prepared. I am sorry if it seems like I rant at times, but today, I just need to attempt to get some of this stuff out...and you're my outlet...sorry.

Okay. First off, I just started a work "Biggest Loser" club, and I am soooo not going to be able to make it through. I am going to school, I work full-time, I sleep less and less every night, and I'm exhausted most of the time. Today, we had a wonderful meal that my boss made for all of us "Biggest Loser"s (I've yet to lose a pound), but I need something more. Right at this moment, I feel like I'm going to cry. Food is the way for me to deaden the pain a bit. There would be days I'd get like this and I would gorge myself on chinese food and chocalate. THEN, I would feel guilty. That is my primary problem, for the most part, I can't turn off the craving. The sad thing is that I just can't have a small amount of anything. In the Spark Newsletter I got, I saw where there are some people who are addicted to food....THAT'S ME. And I seriously don't know how to stop myself. Any suggestions?? Any suggestions on how to keep me from being totally depressed when doing this journey?

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1/27/11 12:53 P

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How do I make a sparkpage? Sorry if I am being really stupid or if it is really obvious. I am really struggling and I hope someone will help me. I will try to reciprocate as well as I can. Please help me. I don't have anyone at all to talk to.

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Right now the pain feels unbearable, I can tell. When my son died I couldn't imagine how I was going to ever live with the hurt. Over time, bit by bit, it became more bearable, and eventually life felt worth living again, but it took time and until then, I had to hang on, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute when necessary.
It isn't that you want to be anywhere else. It's just that you want the pain to stop -- is that right? In the hospital they can help you not to hurt so much so you can get through it, and you won't be so alone.
Please reconsider. I know it feels that way but the way that you are feeling right now is not permanent. It can and will change if you give it a chance.
Please make the call to get help! I care, and I am worried about you!
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1/22/11 7:35 P

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I'm not interested in building a new life, this isn't where I wanna be. I cant bare what my family have done.

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Hi ANGELIQUE,
I am a former leader of this group who is a survivor of suicide. I know how hopeless life can seem when the depression is bad.
The thing is, the depression makes tough things look even worse. It's like looking through dark glasses all the time -- you couldn't see the light even if it was there!
I am not doubting for a second that you have had a lot of hard breaks in life, or that you face considerable challenges now. I totally get that. I have lived through abuse and poverty and health issues and lost a child, for instance, so while my problems are not yours, I do emphathise with what you are going through.
That you have reached out to us here, where you don't have to deal with your social anxiety is smart. People here will be as supportive as they can, and many of us have been at the edge too.
Meds have literally saved my life. There are so many different meds and combinations of meds that it takes a while to find what works for any one person, and somewhere out there is the right fit for you. Personally I am on quite a cocktail of Rx's myself.

You say that you aren't interested in meds, and I DO hear you, but they are our best hope when things get this bad. You can rebuild a new life, but you need to get your body's chemistry more on track so that you can see how to manage things more clearly than you can right now.

Please contact me privately by SparkMail if you would like to have someone to write to personally. I won't judge, and I am hard to offend, so please consider giving that a try.
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The trying meds is so frustrating huh? I know I've been on about everyone and it was a "last straw" when I BEGGED my Dr to PLEASE put me on an MAOI which finally did the trick for me, but they don't like doing this med cos it has many food and other allergies. But it's a dream med for me. I had been told about it from a friend on the internet and it had worked for him. Its a very old med and the Drs don't like using it, but it really works. I am NOT NOT NOT pushing that you try this, just saying sometimes there are still somethings out there to be tried. Yet we get so discouraged huh? I was and just didn't see the need to try any more. Are you also at that point where it seems hopeless? It sounds it hon. I hope you can gather the strength from deep inside to see the beautiful person you are when others can't (and you ARE !) and keep on fighting.

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I didn't mean it to come across as harsh or negative in the way that it has appeared.

I don't mean it is YOUR fault in that sense - I mean that depression and anxiety appears to be holding you back. Sometimes it is the familiarity of what we have around us that gives us the sense of 'don't rock the boat'. Sometimes also we really WANT to be healthy, but we are afraid to actually push for the options that are there, or even create some. You appear to have pushed for what is there now, but perhaps if you could have a talk with a counselor over the phone and explain the issues you have re the time of day, they MAY be prepared to be available to you in the evening when you are free!

Another thing to consider, are you able to use "sick leave" on an ongoing couple hours a week/fortnight so that you can get day-time help. I agree about the evenings for 1 on 1 - there ISN'T much after hours available for that in NZ.

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So it's my fault for so called deliberately avoiding just so I can keep myself safe! Forget it BTW there isn't any 1 on 1 in the evenings in my area been there tried that. Don't bother replying

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It sounds like you need 1 on 1 therapy before you get into group considering you feel like that around people. By giving in to anxiety attacks (which you are by avoiding others) is very counter-productive. This CAN respond very well to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I understand the "trust" issues - I had a very similar problem which even included medical providers. Thankfully the ACC sent me to Psychologists and I never had any choice if I wanted to continue receiving compensation. It helped me deal with PTSD and other issues.

Question: The doc who prescribed the meds - a Psychiatrist or a GP? IF it was a GP, then getting an input from a Psychiatrist will be far more beneficial - they have access to more drugs here and a better understanding of mental health issues. It may even be that you have a "multi diagnosis" which could mean a combination of medication, plus therapy.

I REALLY don't think that it is "your" choice - I think you are letting history dictate your future! By dealing properly with the past, you will be able to live a happier future! It needn't be like this.

Do you have protection order against your ex at all? If you have, you should be able to access FREE counseling through a "Stopping Violence" programme. My daughter was able to access this for her son and herself.

I checked with our local Women's Refuge and was informed that they DO do 1 on 1 counseling and that with my local Refuge it could be with a Counselor or with a Psychologist depending on need, BUT that other areas have other resources available to them. Some areas have a Maori Women's Refuge within their umbrella, too, if that applies to you.

Please think about it - we are only here to help you!

Kris

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I've tried the meds and the doc was surprised they were not helping at all. As far as making friends, I can't be around ppl without having a major panic attack. I tried to attend a small group at the refuge with women who had been through similar and I couldn't even get in the room. I no longer trust anyone. I know it's my choice but the life I have now was not my choice.

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Meds don't be have to be forever. I know cos I am off and on them myself with my Dr's blessings as long as I work with him. The last time I was off them for 3 years. Right now I am back on them and I can tell you its so worth it. I feel so much better and my world suddenly cleared up with more positive thinking so yeah, as much as I don't "taking them" its worth it. I hope this can help you with the stigma.

As for friends and family I know when I am down and was at my worse they weren't really in my life (well family) and for the most part other than facebook some of them still aren't. I have made another "family" of my own with friends and am so much better off. I choose who I wanted as a granddaughter who is the delight of my life and she's been in my life now for 15 yrs (since she was born). If you can make your own family and make new friends who WILL care that'd help. Be aware of those who only want something from you it should be a two way street. Hope this helps.

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When I went to the refuge and told them my husband was about to kill me, already having almost killed my son they did nothing, along with police and they wonder why the domestic violence is so high in NZ.
I've lived all my life with abuse, health issues and injury i was even attacked at knife point by a stranger and survived, I can handle my health issues as I have lived with them all my life but having the ppl who are supposed to care and support you not be there is what is devastating.

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I just read your "add-on" to your SparkPage. We are more similar than you may think!!

I have Benign Essential Tremors (check out my link to the team below)

I have had injuries which affected the spine - I also have arthritis of both hips and the lower spine, and Scoliosis of the spine! Do you qualify for ACC assistance at all?
I don't have a kidney problem, but my hubby does, and our brother-in-law did - requiring dialysis (non-diabetic)

Often serious accident and/or health issues can cause or aggravate depression. Severe pain or just ongoing chronic pain can easily do this. Factor in lack of support increases the risk. Factor in abuse and it multiplies it further! I could tick all of those boxes quite easily!

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Angelique, you DO want help or you wouldn't have posted. I have almost no support in my "real" life, but the support and love here on Spark make a huge difference.

Kris knows the resources available to you where you live, and she's shown she wants to help. Please let her.

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Altho' it is obviously your choice, why are you not interested in taking meds? A lot of us wouldn't be here now if it weren't for them! Often depression is caused by a chemical deficiency in our brain. Sometimes it is because of situational conditions, and sometimes it is a mix of both! It doesn't mean you are weak or inferior at all, and you would be surprised at the number of people in the community - people you KNOW - who are taking them, but you don't know! It also doesn't mean that you would require them all the time - it may only be while you deal with the seemingly insurmountable issues that you are dealing with. If you had Diabetes, would you refuse medication for that? If you had heart disease would you refuse to take meds? Also, if you had a broken leg, would you struggle without a cast? The cast is only temporary while your leg heals sufficiently to bare your weight properly - why not think of medication as a cast for your mind?

Unfortunately a lot of our members don't have support in their "real" life - DO know that you DO have the support of all your virtual friends here - we ARE here for you!

Where it comes to your finances, have you considered seeking the input from the Budgeting Service? They are free - it doesn't mean that you DON'T know how to budget, but with a bit of brainstorming from you and them, you may come up with a solution. When hubby lost his job because of alcoholism, he had a 5 week stand-down period for the Sickness Benefit [1 week stand-down anyway and 4 re the holiday pay] because his holiday pay had to be used up first. Only thing was, he had been using it during the year without my knowledge. He had also been on a very low income anyway - enough that we both qualified for a Disability Allowance and Accommodation Allowance. We just got by with food grants and businesses being very understanding when I contacted those we owed money to! AND being totally ruthless and slashing all non-essential food items. 9 months later, we are still in that ruthless mode (because of necessity!) (well I am anyway, because I am the one with the control over the finances!)

Take care,
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I have already checked and although I am in deficit each month finacially i am not entitled to anything. Even when I sneaked out with nothing, WINZ wouldn't help me out, I had to try and find money for bond and rent and then rebuild a home from scratch. I am unable to take any time off work, work won't allow it because of all the time I have already had off in the short time I have been with them and I have no leave left either. I tried every agency in the book. I also have other health issues which I have added onto my page today. As far as building relationships with my family, I am not interested, they've hurt me so badly I could never forgive em. They've never loved me otherwise they would never have abused me as a child and now as an adult fail to support me when my life was in danger. I'm not interested in taking meds, I've always been a loner and I will do this alone as I have no choice but I appreciate those who have responded to me I just wish my family and those who know me had responded too. I have done nothing wrong towards anyone, I have always been a good person and done the right thing so where is Karma?



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ANGELIQUENZ - I have been re-reading your original post. You comment that you haven't been able to access agencies or support groups because you work full time! Without asking financial details re income, sometimes people who work full-time can get a Disability Allowance to help cover things like therapy/meds/Dr's visits. It MAY be worth your checking this avenue if finances are a problem. A lot of Medical Centres have therapists who work with them - not for them - and have had success! My ex son-in-law is one of those successes after a suicide attempt!

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ANGELIQUENZ - I am also from New Zealand.

Are you able to give me an idea of what area you are from, or what District Health Board you come under - e.g. Waitemata DHB, Canterbury DHB etc.

Here is the 24/7 Ph. No. for the NZ Life Line:

FREE Phone: '0800 LifeLine' - 0800 543 354

PLEASE USE IT!
Print it off and have by your phone and with your mobile phone also!

Did your Dr put a referral to the Mental Health stating the urgency? They can also phone through for you to be re-assessed urgently. You can also contact them yourself. I have done this for others, and with positive results.

Perhaps if you find it difficult to talk at your appointment, you could print off your post here. You can also jot down some thoughts/notes to take with you.

Medications CAN work very well, but sometimes it takes the Psychiatrist a bit of juggling with the medication itself, the dose, the timing, or even sometimes a combination, to get a right balance for you!

When you presented at the hospital, was it a big "Base" hospital like Auckland or North Shore, or one of the smaller ones? Some of the smaller ones don't have the expertise in the ER (altho' they should!)

PLEASE stay in touch!

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Hi All,
I do have a public spark page and would love any comments or support on it, I could really use any insight or help esp. this time of year. Winters and lack of day light really wear on me!
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Being in another country puts us at a disadvantage as how we can aid you in this time of crisis. I am not sure if there are any other options in your area that you have not tried. I know there are some others who do live in your area who are on SparkPeople and might better advise you on local matters. But what you are going through is not something that others on here do know about. You have people who are caring here to lean on and we will do our best to help you as we can.
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I am back again, I wanted to get those numbers posted so you could use them.

As you can tell there are people that care here and I think somewhere deep down you do also. Please hang in there and call and reschedule the appt. you missed, don't wait for them to return a call, there could be a number of logical reasons they did not get back to you.

I am sorry about the circumstances surrounding your family issues. I am sure this is very painful, but there is hope that you can work at rebuilding those relationships. It can start today by you working on you and getting the right help. The same goes for the job - you can choose to work on better communication where you are at or look for something that fits you better.

emoticon see right there are 2 things you can hang on for and try to improve.

Please tell us that you will hang in there and either get the help you deserve, you will call someone or go to the ER if you feel like harming yourself and that you will reschedule your canceled appt.

We are here for you and we do care. Many of us have been in similar situations and have pulled through. I am giving you some of my hope and strength to start living for today and what you can have. You are right about no pill being able to magically make things better, it takes work - one small step at a time things will get better.
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ANGELIQUENZ - I agree with LI about getting help now. I am also giving you some numbers where you can at least talk with qualified professionals.


National Suicide Hotlines USA
Toll Free, 24/7

1-8000-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)

1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

1-800-799-4TTY (4889)- Deaf Hotline

For individual USA State hotlines:
http://suicidehotlines.com/ and select the dropdown for your State

• Call 411 and ask for: Suicide Hotline
• Dial 0 and ask for: Suicide Hotline
• Check the FRONT of the phone book for:
• suicide prevention
• crisis intervention
• hotlines - crisis or suicide
• community crisis center
• county mental health center
• hospital mental health clinic
• Or. call 911 and ask for help. Tell them you are in suicidal danger.



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If you are actively suicidal, which it sounds like you may be, the crisis team will indeed pay attention! You must be honest with them and tell them the things you have said here.
A pill may not give you back your family, but the right meds CAN help you to regain a sense of purpose.
We care about you, and want only the best for you.
Please, get to the hospital to see the crisis team again!
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No I don't want to, I have already been assessed by the crisis team 3 times this year, but they say I don't meet their criteria cos I'm not bipolar or have a disorder. I've tried antipressants and continued to decline. The last time I was checked at my medical centre I was classified as Severely depressed yet, they haven't even got back to me despite leaving messeages after I couldn't make the last appt. At the end of the day no pill will give me back my family or give me a purpose to be here

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Friend, PLEASE get to a hospital as soon as possible. The depth of your self-destructive feelings is terrifying. You ARE worth being here. You are deserving of life, love and happiness. Please, please seek out the help you need, and let us support you. We're here to help you all we can.

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Hi there, I have been trying to deal with depression on my own for sometime now. I had to sneak out of my family home/marriage due to violence, my ex was an alcoholic, but in this process my family have turned there backs on me and Christmas 2009 I received txt's from my family to advise me I wasn't welcome to join the family for Christmas dinner. I was already in a bad way as I couldn't find any support from any agencies or support groups here because I worked full time and didn't have a young family but this just totally crashed my world, I threatened to kill myself on Christmas and instead of enjoying my Christmas the police were watching over me to ensure I didn't harm myself. I have felt pretty much this way since, I also lost the job I loved where I had friends and the job I have now my bosses are sexist and abusive which is deepening my depression. I feel I no longer have a purpose being here. I hate myself to such a degree I can't stand being around ppl and when I have to be, I feel so inferror and like they think bad things of me. I feel I have wasted my entire life. I've been abused my whole life even before my marriage. I was married 28 years. I find myself in a world I don't want to be in, I can't sleep at night and this has been ongoing for so long years, I don't know how I function at all. I continually think about ending my life as i can't bare the hurt I feel.

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Just love it that you quote Ru Paul. I used to hang with her in Atlanta when I was a teenager. Haven't heard the name in a while. Hope and love to you,
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I am working on my goal for this group & checking in with at least one person, so I want to say HELLO & Welcome. Please comment on my SparkPage anytime.
I know we can do this journey together!
Happy New Year!!!
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Thnaks for the information in this blog. I have started a Sparkpage and hope to get support from others. Please feel free to visit and leave comments. I know the reason I am on the page is try to get some support for what I am doing. I hope to find some people going through the same trials as I am so I can be motivated and keep working toward my goal. emoticon

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I'm thinking that making your own Sparkspage and taking care of it, watching for mail, talking to people about how you're dealing with your weight loss and healthy life journey. It can give others ideas or you can get ideas, I often look for this feature.

Take care all,

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Great point!

I occasionally get messages about a new person joining a team and I can't welcome them as I can't send them a message......

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Couldn't agree with you more LadyIrish...

When I was first diagnosed, just being on the computer was a big issue, and when I do go down occasionally I can spend limited amounts of time on it as well. But the more I make myself, the better I feel, always. I'm glad you made that point.
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I agree with this idea. Personally for me, I know that when I see a post that has 500 replies already I'm less likely to comment because I feel that reading the last two entries probably wouldn't give me the whole story. I do however comment on blog entries because I can read the one excerpt and feel confident in my response.

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LADYIRISH...THANK YOU for posting this message.

TREATL is correct that we can reach out to our members and offer support by SparkMail. Our leaders do that on a regular basis, however, we have members who post "I NEED SUPPORT" on the Huddle Wall who not only do not have a SparkPage but also are not accepting SparkMails.

When a member asks for support only on the Huddle Wall, has no SparkPage, and will not accept SparkMails...our hands are tied other than to post supportive comments for that member on the Huddle Wall. I wonder how many of those members actually return to the Huddle Wall to see if messages of support have been posted?

Our leaders and members are here to support each other. Having a SparkPage is THE BEST way for a member to receive support. If one chooses not to have a SparkPage, in order to get support one will either have to post a thread or accept SparkMails.

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I understand what you're saying, but we have some people who ask for support in the Huddle over and over. It hurts to have no way to give them that support. And I wonder if they think they're being slighted when they don't hear from us.

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I agree with you. The thing is, however, that the new Spark member may be at such a place that they are too injured to trust other people, whether it is online or face-to-face. We can still reach out to the member through Spark mail. It's not as organized as other means of communication (forum posts, Spark page blogs, etc.)because it prevents any continuity of team communications and it limits the amount of feedback the member can receive.

Perhaps at a later date the member will begin to trust enough to let others see his/her Spark page and begin to get to know him/her.We cannot be all things to all people. We need to simply accept the individual where he/she is.

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People with depression need all the support they can get (as I know from my own experience). One of the best ways to get that support here is to make a Sparkpage and make it public. That way your teammates can visit your page to leave messages of support and give you Sparkgoodies.

It hurts when we see our friends here who need support but have no way for us to reach out and give that support.

Please let us give you all the support you need and then some. Let us reach you on your Sparkpage and via Sparkmail.

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