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12/28/12 10:45 P

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darn, my boyfriend's sister gave me a whole big bag of M&M's for Christmas and I was doing good until tonight when I ate about 400 calories worth! I seem to have no self control.


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5/28/12 3:21 A

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This was exactly what I needed to hear. I noticed this was written a long time ago. Wondering how you are doing today. I hope well. I am on here hit and miss. That is probably why I am not doing well because I have so much emotional eating....I need to stop this behavior if I ever want to reach my goal....I have been gaining lately and I still need to lose over seventy five pounds... emoticon

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8/16/11 1:00 P

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That sounds like a good place to start. Thank you!

I also made myself a todo list for the month. And the first item on it every day is to "Accept Myself". And then I make myself stop and think...what have a I done today to accept myself.

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8/15/11 4:27 P

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LuLu ..........way to go...............
try to remove the not word and negative sounding words out of your vocabulary.......i mean this in a loving way so please don't misunderstand.............the more positive you are the better for you......
all the best with breaking your emotional eating habits.....
blessings and hugs..............lita

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Edited by: L*I*T*A* at: 8/15/2011 (16:27)

ďThere's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.Ē

When you get to a plateau, think of it as a landing on the stairway to your goal. And maintenance is a lifelong plateau, so a bit of "rehearsal" for maintenance isn't the worst thing in the world

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8/15/11 2:24 P

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I've learned something really valuable in the past week or so. I don't accept myself as I am.

I realized even my Spark People activities are geared toward CHANGING myself. Because who I am isn't good enough.

I've decided that I want to work harder on self-acceptance. Being okay with "me" and all my flaws and foibles.

I think that's going to be key to any successful changes I want to make...being able to say... This is where I am. This is where I would like to be. And here is the plan.

But right now, I'm saying...this is what I'm NOT (and never have been and can't do and fail at everything and wish I were different and a normal person wouldn't be like this, etc)..and this is what I want to be. And it's not working very well.

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My plan didn't work as well as I wanted it to. I had two servings of one thing that I planned on only one serving.

and I had two servings of something I hadn't planned on at all.

But....onward and downward.

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7/14/11 2:17 P

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ďThere's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.Ē

When you get to a plateau, think of it as a landing on the stairway to your goal. And maintenance is a lifelong plateau, so a bit of "rehearsal" for maintenance isn't the worst thing in the world

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I have been to the table, decided what I want to eat, and have entered it into my SP Nutrition Tracker. And nicely enough, my coworkers thought that was a really good plan.

I am Pre-Surgery but only on my 2nd day into my presurgery 1200 calorie diet.

Hope this works.
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I get to practice this today. We have a birthday at work and party food (something we don't normally do). We've hired three new employees and one of them likes to do things for employee birthdays.

The previous group (prior to new hires) was very health conscious and I think we brought in holiday food ONCE during my first year here.

So I am going to go over and look at the table. And then plan what I will have (I brought fresh salsa that spousal unit made...thank goodness for him!!!).

and then I will challenge myself to stick to that today. I also brought the things for a peanut butter sandwich (natural peanut butter and deli thin bread) so I can have something on my own plan to eat. And I brought baby carrots.

Please keep me in your thoughts today...I could use some support on this one.

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6/17/11 10:00 P

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I bought the book Shrink Myself and I love. I have gotten about halfway through. It is well worth the money.

"Only I can inhibit my will to succeed" Unknown


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This is great thanks for posting this emoticon

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This is great thanks for posting this emoticon

"Only I can inhibit my will to succeed" Unknown


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5/8/11 9:18 P

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Wow today I wanted to binge and couldn't and it played havoc with my emotions. I know this was hormonally driven as I note the calendar but wow this was rough. Since my last fill I was steadily losing then I went up 1 pound friday. I'm scared to see the scale tomorrow.
Either way I ate way too much, spit up way too much, and will make tomorrow better.


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I still struggle with this but working out with a schedule really helps

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Lita,

I think you posted this while I was on my "break" and I didn't see it until today. I wish I could jump through my computer and give you a big hug! This is exactly what I have been struggling with - I had no idea this was even an issue for me (really, how could I be so blind!)as I always just thought that I ate the wrong foods because they tasted so good. I never really thought about how the food made me feel. Recently I have come to realize that I eat to make myself feel good - indulging in foods that are nutritionally empty but taste wonderful is almost like using a drug to feel better. When I'm not feeling good about myself, how life is going, stress with my kids, at work, whatever...or when I'm bored and nothing is going on...then the cravings to indulge in those kinds of treats get stronger and stronger. I would feel so out of control, almost like "this is happening to me and I can't stop it" like is talked about below. That explains the last four months of my life and the 15+ pounds I have gained!! I would eat to feel good, which would lead me to feeling bad that I got off track, and then I would eat to feel better about that, which of course made me feel worse yet...what a vicious cycle. And I was so bewildered at how this could happen, because somehow I thought it "couldn't" because I have "the band"...like somehow that should fix it all. Crazy!

So, since I have become aware of this, I have been thinking a lot about how to change it. I am just learning that I have a different choice in all of this. I do not need to be the victim to my circumstances. No matter what life may bring, I can stop, shift my focus, and approach the situation from a different angle. An angle of empowerment, where I have the power to choose the things that will bring me to my goals, not indulge my feelings. In changing my thinking, I can take control rather than be controlled.

I'm not "there" yet, but I'm working on it! So, thank you...this is exactly what I needed, and the timing couldn't have been better. I think this is an answer to prayer!

Anita


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FEEDING THE MIND: TEN INSIGHTS REQUIRED TO BREAK THE EMOTIONAL EATING HABIT
POSTED BY DR. GOULD

Iím going to continue talking about the stages one has to go through to be cured of the destructive emotional eating habit, and I will continue to use the comments to the last blog to illustrate what I have to say.

First, I want to remind you that the cure for emotional eating is a psychological cure, and the medicine we use to cure the mind is insight. As I outline the ten essential, and sequential, insights you need to be cured, I want to remind you of the major common sense principle one has to embrace first as the ďtruthĒ. If this is not accepted or acceptable, nothing else I have to say will be of any help. This is the only framework that I know that works. Hereís what I said last week:


"If I could boil down what I said in the first blog, my book, and the ShrinkYourself program to its simplest set of incontrovertible facts, it would be the following. There is a reality. Life is complex. You have the intelligence to deal with it, and you must deal with it. You are better off dealing with reality by using the most intelligent part of your mind. Using food to numb the mind in order take away the pain of thinking means you are shutting off the most intelligent part of your mind, and that is almost always costly, and causes unnecessary pain and suffering."


Here is the ten step insight path from food controls me; to I control my life and my weight.

I start with the conviction that my urges are too strong ó nothing will ever work. I will try again, but I am ready to quit at any time. But others have made this journey, maybe I can.

Sarah represents this starting point when she commented last week, "Your article certainly rings true with me. My problem is that if I want to eat then I must eat. I get massive cravings for crisps, buscuits, chocolates, sandwiches, alcohol, coffee, chips and I just can't say 'no', I know that this sounds like a joke but it isn't. If I get a craving for crisps or chocolate or anything then I will HAVE to have it there and then. There is no stopping me. I can't be shamed out of it. I will eat regardless of where I am or who is watching me. I have no shame but I loathe myself and hate myself and get annoyed at myself for it. Afterwards I beat myself up wondering why I can't stop myself and what is making me do it."

Many others have described their overpowering urges as if there was another person inside of them taking control, making them as powerless as Sarah describes. This is a real feeling, but if you open up your mind a bit, the insight that will help you is; maybe this other person inside of me is me, and it is knowable, not forever hidden from view.
I need to eat the way I eat. Don't take it away from me prematurely. Itís too dangerous to learn more about why I need food to control my thoughts and emotions. I might understand what is happening and start moving out of my stuck position. But maybe that is good, not dangerous.

The mtn bike girl said, "I found this article very helpful. Iím starting week 3 and am realizing that I too have been using food to avoid difficult thoughts and feelings. However, as I write these things down, they donít seem as insurmountable as I had thought they were. In total, they are pretty significant issues, but one at a time, they look manageable. I have been very hard on myself, blaming myself for not having any self-control but now I realize that the problems Iím struggling with are real. Iíve just been using ineffective coping strategies."
Now I see clearly why I need food to control my emotions -- I'm willing to question these reasons and look for alternative ways of coping.

Ben said, "Thank you for the thought provoking article. I often use food to numb physical pain minor arthritis. Often I resort to food once Im tired of trying to address the cause of the pain or I begin to beleive that I'm stuck forever with it. However, the article has helped, if for nothing else, because it has reminded me again and made aware of my relationship to food. I know there are better ways to cope and maybe even a solution. Thank you."
Maybe I am not so powerless in life that only food can comfort me.

Keri said, "Dear Dr.Gould, I was the second commentator in your last blog. I have read and re-read your comments as they have struck me hard. You are right about thinking itself not being painfulit is dealing with the thoughts and decisions that I might have to make. I am stuck at the stage of binge eating to numb the pain of possible changes in my life. The indecision and procrastination and the feeling that I will never get what I might need or want are keeping me fat and miserable.what a sorry state to be in. I must try to deal with this.thank you."
I am confident I can pause and then think instead of eat, but then I need help dealing with my problems.

This is where we want you to be at the end of the first four weeks of Shrink Yourself. You canít be here 24 hours a day, but at least most of the time. When you are here, then the next four weeks of the program will work, and you could benefit immensely by looking at our companion program, My Virtual Shrink, because it focuses totally and comprehensively on problems in living and helps you answer the three most important questions:

What is bothering me?
What can I do about it?
And why donít I do it?

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Edited by: L*I*T*A* at: 3/20/2010 (23:08)

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