I hear you. I have a 10-year gap between my oldest and my youngest, who was born when I was 40. Oldest started high school at the same time youngest started preschool. I felt misplaced at both schools! We did drivers education and kindergarten at the same time. Who planned that?!
I think you do the best you can. You are a seasoned parent so there may be fewer surprises with the younger children. At the same time, you need to remain flexible to accommodate their changing needs and growing personalities. Hopefully with age comes increased patience and understanding, along with knowledge.
I view my youngest child as the icing on the cake of my life, so I am much more relaxed with him than I was with my oldest. I believe this to be a good thing.
So I would suggest that you sit back and enjoy this season in your life. It will be brief and fleeting like the infant days, but so brimming with possibilities. While others of the same age may have grown children, you have the opportunity to keep doing new things and act like a little kid with your youngsters.
They will keep you young! And later in life, that will be quite important. Some of my peers are grandmothers now at my age (52). Me? I'm trying to run the bases with my 11-year-old and keep up with his latest crazes for long hair and skinny jeans. I wouldn't have it any other way!
Take good care of yourself. Go easy on yourself. Drink a lot of water. Eat as healthy as you can. And ride bikes, walk and/or jog with your kids. Conserve your energy now, because you know you'll need it later to face their teen-age years whiles you're in your 50s!
"You cannot accept another with a hateful heart. You cannot hear the other with a closed mind. You cannot embrace with closed arms. You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist."
--Indira Priyadarshini Gandhi
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