LYZ and Coffee Queen,
You're both doing great. Remember that slow, deep breaths will relax your nerves every time you feel uptight. We only breathed deeply when dragging on a cigarette before. We have to learn how to do that kind of breathing on our own. That's why I suggest you "smoke air". It is an initial way to practice those breaths using clean fresh air.
Also, being very gentle with yourselves is mandatory. No matter what comes up, be loving and forgiving. The addiction pushed down a tremendous amount of feelings that need to bubble up to the surface. It does get softer over time. An attitude of gratitude that the lid is off all this suppressed stuff helps. You're getting long delayed relief. The crying happened to me, too. Love yourself tenderly and it will go easier.
As far as a 3 month concern, there are support systems you can put into place that you didn't have in your previous quits. I have found that being a member of Nicotine Anonymous has helped me to grow in many wonderful, amazing ways. Their tools and support are unimaginably powerful. I'm 13 years clean and still go to 2 meetings a week because I'm able to practice its principles in ALL my affairs.
We can do together what we cannot do alone.
With grace and self esteem, honor the Passionate Tiger in You. Refresh your personal high regard (daily) in order to live happy, joyous and free.
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