Welcome to the team Matt! Be sure to let me know when you have a surgery date so that I can put it on the calendar.
What I would recommend is the following:
1) Bring your wife to the support group. It will help ease her mind as she learns with you about the surgery and what to expect after surgery.
2) I always recommend two books but after the Obesity Help Event I was just at, I am now adding another book to the list. A) Weight Loss Surgery For Dummies (both of you read it. Get two copies or you read a chapter and then she can read the chapter and then you can both discuss about what you read. B) Weight Loss Surgery Cookbook For Dummies (try the recipes now to get a feel for meals after surgery). Try some of the protein drinks to figure out which ones you like. CookWise or the Ditch Your Diet in 30 Days are books by Dave Fouts (he had RNY) are also good cookbooks and not just for RNY but for anyone wanting to diet in a healthy manner with fresh foods. and C) Eat It Up! By Connie Stapleton, Phd helps you deal with the psychological aspects of our food addiction/obesity and will help us learn new ways to handle our issues with food. Again reading it chapter by chapter together and discussing it will help you both in your journey to a healthier you.
Your wife is on the journey with you as she is your support network. Keep her involved and make sure that she knows how important it is to your success that she walk with you on this journey. You may see her come to accept this new weight loss tool.
3) There is a lot of information on the internet. Be sure to check out the source on the website and make sure it is a source that is reliable and respected.
4) Start to build you exercise program now before surgery. The more you exercise now the easier your surgery and recovery will be. Start slow and build from there. If you need moral support and encouragement as you build your exercise program then join the exercise thread. Many there started at just a few minutes of exercise a few times a day to walk miles, going to various aerobic classes, doing 5K runs or walks. I started on my exercise bike two years ago with 15 minutes (I thought I would die at 10 minutes) and now I routinely ride 60 minutes. I will not go higher as I get bored pretty easy.
5) Always remember the RNY surgery is just another tool in your arsenal to become a healthier you. You will need to watch what you eat, track what you eat, drink water, and exercise just lke any other diet. You will just have a smaller stomach and will be unable to eat large quantities of food.
Good luck on the journey to a healthier you. You want to be around to grow old with her!
Cindy - A Co-Leader on Gastric Bypass Sparklers
Proximal Laproscopic RNY 9-10-10
Start Wt: 228 5-21-10
Surgery Wt: 205 9-10-10
Goal Wt: 135
| current weight: 176.0