It sounds like after 18 years that you both need help to get better. You with your back and him with his addiction. I will pray for you and your family that you both get the help you so desperately need and so that you can become strong and maybe one day to be a healthy family too.....
Get a restrainjng order so he can stay away in order to get help?You can not physically defend yourself with back issues.Do you have a pain clinic near you?Go to your Doctor and let him know whats going on.Those children deserve better and so do you. Reach out for help.My Mom,sister and I were in this exact situation 40 years ago.No one would believe my mom cause my Dad was a cop.Hugs to you.
Thank you so much everyone for your support! You have no idea how much that means to me. Everyone in my life is telling me that I'm overreacting. They don't know what I've been through. I kept thinking things would get better. I've finally come to the realization that I'VE got to make things better. I'm not stupid, I do think I've been too forgiving, though. I've been trying to put up with my husband's behavior for the kids. This latest episode of my husband stealing my pain medicine is simply the last straw. I've been married to him for 18 yrs. & put up with so much crap- esp. for the last 2. I really believe I deserve to be happy & to know my medicine is going to be where I put it (and not have to keep trying to find new places to hide it!)
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@ Alayne27. I am sorry you find your self in this situation. I get it, my daughter had the same problem. You did not say how old your children are but you have to fight for them. They need a nice stable home. They do not need to have an addict in their midst! They don't need to see you in pain because you are short on meds. and they sure as heck don't need the arguments and fights.
Stay strong and make sure he knows the only chance he has to come back is if he gets help! Then find help for you and if your kids need it, them too. Find a better way to live. It will be tough at first but it will get better.
I wish you the very best and we are here for you. Spark People are very supportive etc. Stick with it and let us know how it goes!
Watching salt intake also trying not to buy foods that have high fructose corn syrup, sugar, rice syrup, corn syrup, fructose, sucrose etc. in the first three ingredients.
No foods that have more than 3 ingredients that I can not pronounce.
If an item has more than 10 ingredients I put it on the Do Not Buy List as it is too processed.
Its very difficult struggling with constant pain and substance abuse in the family. Maybe you need help from someone outside to help support your decision to say no to your husband. A short term idea would be to change your phone #- many phone companies will do it for free if its for emotional or personal safety. please keep coming here for support both situations are so isolating.
I am 43, disabled due to severe, chronic pain b/c of degenerative discs & arthritis in my back. I have two kids. I want to live better & enjoy my life more, instead of tolerating it most of the time. Just this week I threw my husband out of the house b/c he stole my pain medicine AGAIN- for the zillionith time. He keeps calling wanting to know when he can come home! I'm STRESSED!
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