I did the same thing, I poured everything I had into taking care of my husband, children, grandchildren, an elderly mom and her elderly husband. Then I had 2 major and 4 minor surgeries and had recovery time to deal with while I still had everyone else to care for. When I started feeling resentful and used by the ones I loved then it was time to reset my priorities. That alone was difficult for me because then I started feeling guilty for feeling that way but I just have to think about myself part of the time now. My health was failing quickly and then I wouldn't be any help to anyone. Hard lesson to learn and even more difficult to put into action. I'm actually still working on that part!
@ Staci, I get the lost thing too. I think as women we step in these roles of wife and mothers and care givers. We don't have much time left to care for ourselves. We take on these "rolls" in a loving way but years later we look at ourselves and wonder where the hell are we and who are we?
I woke up a few years ago and did not realize who I was and looking in a mirror, where I was in the mass of rolls. I would loose some weight and it would find me again. My new thing is, I call it dropping weight, so it can't find me again!!! LOL
I hope you stick with this and I know you will see results and feel so much better. Enjoy this great team!
Watching salt intake also trying not to buy foods that have high fructose corn syrup, sugar, rice syrup, corn syrup, fructose, sucrose etc. in the first three ingredients.
No foods that have more than 3 ingredients that I can not pronounce.
If an item has more than 10 ingredients I put it on the Do Not Buy List as it is too processed.
Hello Staci,I laughed when you had a sense of humour when you said you found those pounds.I think it is fantastic you have been at the gym.I worked in a womans only circuit gym.Most of the clients were in there 60/70 s.Alot of them were lost..Mostly because they didnt have alot of people to talk to.I was the only one they always came to because I cared about them to listen.Keep going to the gym.Dont focus on the number you weigh on the scale.Its on how you feel.I think you found us and also yourself.Great job.
current weight: 156.0
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Nice to have you on the team. There is a lot of support here so don't hesitate to reach out. I understand feeling lost, but please know you are still a beautiful, wonderful person inside under all the extra pounds. You've already started to make positive steps in the right direction. You can be strong and do whatever you set your mind to do. The biggest and best thing I've learned here on SP is to make small changes that I can do for the rest of my life. Small steps add up to big changes over the long haul. That's my goal, a healthy life overall not a diet to get me to fit into some dress by a certain date. That never works. The other important fact to know, is not to beat yourself up when you don't have a "perfect" day. We all have slip-ups, it's normal. It's what you do after that counts. Don't contiue eating poorly. Make the next thing a healthy choice, whether that means having some lean protein, or taking a walk. Get back on track right away and don't be hard on yourself about what went wrong... Congratualte yourself on what went right.
Hi Staci. Welcome to the team. I think it is very easy for women to lose themselves as the take care of their family and it seems almost natural that everyone comes first and they get put on the back burner. My wake up call was when I went shopping with my 85 year old Mom and couldn't keep up with her. I wanted to go home because I was tired, she wanted to shop some more. That was February 2011. Now I am 114 pounds lighter and feel great. I have started maintenance and I will keep the weight off for the rest of my life.
When I joined SP the first thing I read was a daily spark written by Beth. I cried. I never looked back. I knew then that if she could do it I could too. She has been the wind beneath my wings every since. I have read every single thing she has ever written. I have had the privilege to talk to her on the phone once and I told her that I made a pledge that one day I would meet sparkguy and her. I aim to keep that pledge. Don't ever doubt yourself.
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I lost 122 pounds and have maintained it since 12/28/12.
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Hi Staci..... Like you and Colleen I have been lost along the way. I will find myself then jump off the wagon to follow a new diet fad, gain the weight I lost back plus extra, then try to start all over again. Somewhere along the way I got to the point that all the different diets were getting jumbled around in my head and I lost the ability to separate them. So I have had to restart my journey once again and I pray that this time around I succeed...... but I do know that with friends like Beth and Colleen we will have a fighting chance!
Staci welcome to the Team! I was lost for a few years too til this past summer finding Sparkpeople again and meeting with and just talking to people on this team have really been a lifesaver for me!! At my highest I was 413lbs and am now down to 382!! Just stick around here and you will find the motivation, support and understanding to help you on your journey!!
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