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3/26/11 9:52 P

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Lindagravel your right I need to grieve but I don't want to lose what I have done so far. I am taking the exercise slowly. Since I lost two weeks I'm planning on starting over on Monday. I need to do this for my health. I know my Mom was very supportive of this diet. If I let myself down it'll be like letting her down. I don't want to do that.

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3/25/11 9:34 P

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emoticon for your loss,you need to have time to grieve,then worry about your diet.

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3/25/11 5:17 P

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Thank you all for the advice. I'm ging to check out the grief sites. All of you are so right I need to give myself time to grieve but I don't want to sabbatoge my diet either. The eating because I'm sad has not hit yet but I'm sure it will. Right now I'm just focusing on eating at least three meals a day. I'm sorry for all of your losses. I hope I didn't upset any of you. It helps to know I'm not alone in this grieving and dieting thing.

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3/25/11 1:05 P

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Sosmegod,

I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my mom last August. Her death was sudden as well. I believe that when there is something so huge and powerful as grief that we may need to just focus on that issue at the moment. Working on following a new lifestyle such as a diet may be asking a bit more than the psyche can handle. I say that because we have a tendency to be extra hard on ourselves if we don't do something just so. Now you need comfort and the place to have whatever feelings you need to have.

If I could make a suggestion to seek out a grief group in your area. The local United Way could help you find one. They are free and there is the opportunity to talk with others who are going through a similar situation.

My post was a bit long winded, I hope it helps. I also second what others have said to reach out to people here.

Karen

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3/25/11 7:58 A

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My parents were so ill, for several years. It was such a blessing when their time came.
But, I can surely understand your emotional loss and it will heel in time.



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3/24/11 11:33 P

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Hi SOSMEGOD - I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mother. Whether a person is sick and the passing was expected or not makes it no less difficult to cope with. Obviously you are grieving and that can affect our appetite, sleep, emotions, relationships etc Below is a link which you may find useful:
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When my father died very unexpectedly nearly 31 years ago, I went a full week with very little food at all. I lost bucket-loads of weight but it went back on as soon as I started to eat! make sure that you talk with your Dr and let him/her know what is going on, because it MAY be that you could benefit from a little counseling and/or medication for a short-term.

I can understand the eating issues, but please ensure that you eat regular meals and try to get something from all bases - fats, carbs, protein - ensuring that you get lots of fruit and veges. If you aren't feeling like eating normal-sized meals, try to ensure that you are eating (grazing) throughout the day - especially with other health issues involved!

If possible, try taking a walk to help clear the mind. This will help with any depression that could be setting in, and also help with your sleep (and weight-loss!) At this point of time, I wouldn't be too concerned with your NOT losing weight - just ensure that you aren't eating a heap of junk and watch portions.

Big hugs,
Kris




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3/24/11 9:37 P

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I am so sorry about your Mom and will keep you in my prayers. When my Mom died our son was dying of bone cancer and so I did not have time to grieve for her for a couple years.

I would suggest you journal what you eat and why you eat it and the time...........are you hungry or bored or restless or sad? Are you eating too much comfort food or are you eating fruits and veggies? Instead of a nap, can you walk around the block or ride a bike or walk in the mall for 30 to 60 minutes? Ask a friend to drag you there!!

You cope one hour at a time.......do not sabotage your diet or way of eating and try very hard to come here and let us help you. This is your life and we want you to grow old with us.

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3/24/11 8:45 P

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I started this diet 4 weeks ago. I was doing pretty well too. However last Monday on
March 14th My Mother passed away suddenly. She had been sick for a long time and we knew it was going to happen some day just not that quick. I'm trying very hard to stick with my diet but I don't have the energy to exercise any more. All I want to do is sleep. How do I stick to my diet when I'm an emotional mess. Have any of you gone through this? How did you cope? emoticon

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