My name is Christi. I'm divorced with no children. I live across the street from my parents. My dad has Alzheimer's. My mom is crippled from a head-on collision back in the early 1990's.
Dad still remembers who we are and can speak, but he can't express himself (feelings, can't find the word) or remember what he had for lunch. He has a hard time reading and struggles to follow the plot of a movie. He mixes up his medications and has had a few inappropriate language episodes in public.
My mom was hospitalized for 3 months with her injuries and had multiple surgeries. She is a trooper, though. The doctors said she wouldn't survive the night, that they would have to amputate her arm, and that she would never walk again. She's one determined lady, and none of their predictions came true. She does suffer from a lot of pain and has fibromyalgia and neuropathy. Last fall she had back surgery, which reduced some of her pain and gave her more mobility.
Even though I don't live with the parental units (my nickname for them), I see them or speak to them nearly every day. I take my dad on errands to give my mom a break. My mom is relying on me more and more lately for all kinds of things, which ups the stress level. From ordering something for her on the computer to helping her balance her checkbook to making household decisions, to running errands (dad can't drive alone anymore). I understand she is under a lot of stress. They both are, and I love them both dearly.
But some days THEY STRESS ME OUT TOTALLY!!!
I also have a stressful job, and am actually working 3 jobs at work right now, not doing any of them well.
I have 2 siblings who each live an hour away, but they don't show much interest in helping out. My sister offered to come and stay in my house to allow me to go on a vacation for one week, which is nice, but that's not the kind of help I (we) need. It would be nice if they could come over on the weekend and mow the grass once in a while, or help with home projects, or just take the PU's out to eat or something.
Anyway, enough whining, although you will hear more of that from me, I'm sure. This is the only place I can do it! Tomorrow morning my mom has a knee revision surgery. We have to leave the house at 4:15 to get to the hospital by 5:45. This is just one more doctor visit in a never-ending series. Please don't misunderstand me. I love them and I want to help them and I'm so glad I can be there for them. It just wears me out, ya know?
Thanks for listening.
Edited by: SHAPNUP at: 6/2/2010 (15:50)
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