Wow, you took me back 8 years to when my husband had a major stroke and could not walk, talk or see. It was so scarey and I am "it". We have no family here and I could not find a sole to hire and the doctor did not send in Home Health. Fight for some help!!
Call RSVP, retired Seniors that volunteer help, or a church or whatever you have in your town. I did not have any kids at home and I don't think I slept the first year.
Bud had to be taken 45 minutes each way to Physical Therapy, rest an hour, then go to Occupational Therapy and then rest and hour and go to Speech Therapy. We had a ranch and so I had to get up extra early to feed the horses, cows, pigs and rabbits, then feed Bud and away we'd go. We got home about 4 or 5 at night and I had to take care of the animals again. Bud and I ate out or I'd grab something to bring home as I did not have any extra energy to do one more thing.
I lost myself for a whole year and I did not think I would survive. Neither my doctor or his doctor would get me any help. I finally sold the ranch and moved us up here where the doctors and hospital are about ten minutes away. I should have put him in a nursing home for a few months and taken care of myself. I'd do that if it happens again.
I am glad you have a 14 year old and I pray the kids will each help you and do what they can. ADHD is not easy to live with but our grandson has it and as long as his world is structured, he does well.
My heart cries for you as I have walked in your shoes and being alone and helpless is the worst thing I can think of. Fight for some help or put him in a nursing home so that you can be a Mom and a Wife. I am so sorry you can't get help. You are welcome to vent here and know that all of us will cheer you on. Many of us have gone through this and there is advice on here from others who survived also. You can do this!! Please come to our 2010 Community Chat and share your needs and know that many of us will be praying for all of you.
I am having back surgery next Monday and will be gone for at last two weeks on here but I want you to know I care and will be back. Hugs and prayers, Marianne
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