Love leads you into all sorts of different directions and on many unexpected paths. But it makes you all the stronger being a caregiver for a loved one is never easy but with moral support can be done. We support one another here and that is a great thing.
current weight: 182.4
Fitness Minutes: (175) Posts: 1,234 6/30/08 6:53 A
Oh wow Bree, what a story, not many people would do what you have done - leave home and go look after someone you've never even met. Good luck with it all and come here and vent whenever you need to ok?
Deb Victoria, Australia You go girlfriend
current weight: 182.0
Fitness Minutes: (9,106) Posts: 7,246 6/27/08 3:58 P
Hey, girl, glad you joined this team! I am about the same age as you, I turn 32 in less that 1 1/2 weeks :). I, too am a caregiver to my husband (I know you're not married, and I'm not normally one to say something like this, but you might as well be. You sound like you love him like a husband). Our 10th anniversary was just a couple days ago. My husband was born with Cerebral Palsy.
Anywho, welcome to the team! And no, you are not alone. If there's ever anything you need help with, just let us know! And take care! (trust me, I know how hard that one is sometimes)
Teams I am on:
Boise Sparks Idaho Living Caregivers support (leader) Celiac & Gluten Free Frucose Intolerance Leaving 210- ville LDS Ladies Love Kids, Just Don't Have Any One Person, One Dream (pay it Forward) People w/ Cerebral Palsy People w/ DIsabilities on Fixed Income Plantar Fasciitis Sleep Apnea South Beach Diet Tall Ladies
So my friend told me about spark and here I am. I am from Vegas but have been living in Denmark for almost 2 years now. My story is long...but I will try for the short version. I met a man online. We fell madly in love. Small problem was that he was Danish. I was not. After 6 months of talking EVERY day for up to 24 hours. (I was working freelance)I didn't get a phone call from him and I knew in my heart something was wrong. It took 3 days for me to track down the danish police to look for him. Finally they said it was in the hospital. I was able to talk to his mom from the ICU and I was on a plane ASAP. He had heart failure and was on a respirator and they were telling us he would be in a "vegetable" state. I hate that term. So I left my life of 29 years and never stepping foot off American soil to be my the side of the man I loved and had never met face to face. Long story short. He suffered anoxic brain damage and spent 4 months in the hospital. I spent 4 months living in a room with his mother in the same hospital. I was at his bedside from 7am-10pm everyday. He had to be taught to walk and eat all over again. He was only 31 at the time and was in perfect health.The doctors beleived he needed to be put in a home after 4 months because they couldn't help him anymore. We refused. So I was allowed permission to stay here in Denmark as long as I had a job. So I was hired as his caregiver. He has been home now for over 1 1/2 years and was in a wheelchair and after many months of physical rehab he is now jumping, running and balancing!! The problem is suffers from is Memory Loss. To this day Jonas doesnt remember talking to me for those 6 months but somehow in his heart he recognized me that day I met him in the ICU. I do mainly the responsibilities around the house due to the memory loss, and I help him with all his hobbies, talents in re-training, along with his mom. Its not easy living with my boyfriend and his mother in law but with Jonas' progress I dont think this will be for much longer. :) I have made it through the worst of the hell and now we are finishing up the last part and it is VERY difficult and stressful (the overweight doesnt help) and I dont have much time to myself. Especially to have a proper exercise routine. So that is my story, kind of a love story as well. Despite the stress & sadness of the situation I have never been happier than when Im with him. I hope this team will help me to see that Im not alone when it comes to caregiving. :) Bree
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