I totally agree! Taking care of your own needs so you can regenerate allows you the capacity to take care of others...
Another suggestion... a warm bath or shower, and some mild STRETCHING. Even if you can't walk or do any major exercise, moving a little to try and maintain mobility is SO important--and can even, paradoxically, help you feel better sooner. It's not easy to think of it that way, but think about what happens to a car engine if it sits for a long time without being started: everything freezes up.
Fibro is like that. You hurt, so you don't move... and you lose the ability to move! So even if you just lie in bed, you need to stretch and keep the circulation going...
...You are such an important individual, to your family and to us and to the world. Don't give up, just think of this as a tactical retreat, and regroup.
And we are always here for you! Kathy
"The real secret of success is enthusiasm..." thanks, Walter P. Chrysler. I believe it. That's what I want in my life--to give my imagination a chance, to live with energy and enthusiasm! P.S. I looked up enthusiasm, and it says the root words mean God within... interesting...!
Ralph Waldo Emerson said 'Life belongs to the energetic.' But you don't have to be frenetic and hyper--some energy is quiet and steady, like a heartbeat... and that works too! LOL
Ty all!!! It really does help to read your posts. I knew you all would understand. I will continue to take it easy, eat right, and de-stress the best I can and hopefully this flare (which has lasted 5 weeks) will end soon. Tramadol does help, but I'm afraid to take it too often as I tend to get "immune" (for lack of a better word) to the meds. I'll take them for a while, but then they quit working.
Anyway, just want to say ty for writing to me. It warms my heart to know y'all care and you can truly understand. I'm actually going to be able to rest today while the kids are at school. Who knows, maybe I'll even scrapbook some!!! :)
I hope I am able to get back to exercising soon. I'll just have to drop the time frame of losing the weight by my birthday. I DO have to remember that I have an illness and it's going to be mean and ugly sometimes. In the meantime, I can do stretches, eat right, and spend time refreshing my spirit.
"Goodbye. Be good. Take care of yourselves, and don't leave the path." ~ Gandalf
I want to say bless your heart too. I don't think there is a person on this Team who has not been exactly where you are. So, .That proves you are in great company. I count my blessing everyday, that this fibro did not start when I had three at home. Maybe it would help if you put the emphasis on something other than losing weight. I know. I get a little OCD about the scale. Try focusing on the healthy foods and lifestyle changes you are making. Also in the beginner videos there's a Qi Gong video. It is only fifteen minutes. But I have been doing it daily. It is so relaxing. Try it when you feel frazzled. God bless you. Hang in there, because all of us with this green monster are survivors.
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I hope you are taking advantage of everyone's comments as they are very caring! Hang in there and changes will come but probably not a fast as you want. I took Lyric for 3-4 yrs and even had the dose increased as it didn't seem to be working for me. Finally I ask my Dr. for Tramadol instead as I was having side effects from it and not weight loss. I did keep from gaining but for over a yr. my weight didn't change. We have to work with the fibro as it do control our lives through the fog, the pain, the depression etc. But when one knows that the symptoms occur, don't give in just go with the flow. When a flare comes, take care of yourself by giving yourself permission to let fibro have its way until it begins to fade out. The more we seem to fight it, the harder the hold it takes on our body. It is a disease that not much is known about it but slow progress is being made and someday the right medications will be found. So get your sleep, try hard to de-stress, rest when you need and feed the body for health. Every morning you awaken, tell yourself it is a great day and then make it a great day no matter what!!! You can do it! Take care and stay with us. Blessings to you!
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There are days I feel like that, but don't give up. Take a day off or set sometime to lay in your bedroom and just have a nice cry. It helps me. I'm still in pain, but feel I can manage things better. As for losing weight it does take me longer to lose it then most people on here and it can be discouraging at times, but then I remember I have fibromyalgia and need to take things at a slower pace at times. I've lost 5 lbs. and I'm okay with that. Remember you've lost the weight and can do it again, when your body is ready. Stick to eating healthier then usual and stretch here and there a little. Even a little bit helps to relieve some of the pain.
Bless your heart! I know exactly how you feel. I am just now coming out of a flare and it has been very bad. I was put out of work for a whole week. I am trying CoQ10 300mgs a day to see if that will ease me off some.
We know that depression is a huge factor in fibro. I felt the same way you are now. The thing we have to remember is to take care of ourselves. Pamper yourself, pray, journal, exercise gently, stretch and laugh. Hopefully, this will be a temporary thing. It seems to come at me that way. Stress will bring it on for me. I need to concentrate on de-stressing more. I, like you, have problems with the housework. I have sixteen-year old boy/girl twins and I try to keep up with them but it is really hard. My husband, love him, is so very good to me.
Don't give up or give in. You are worth the time and effort you are giving. You are a very special person to everyone you know and to God you are His child. He only wants the very best for his children. Listen to Him and do what He says.
Take extra good care of yourself. It WILL get better, I promise.
NO, NO, NO! Do not even think about giving up. Just take one day at a time. OK, so today is a bad day. Take the day off if you want. Let your family know that you hurt all over and it is the fibro. Tell them when you've got a flare-up going. I've been fighting fibro for almost 20 years now and there are good days, bad days, and so-so days. I'm thrilled when I lose a half pound and you've lost 7 lbs in the last month. WoW! That is great.
I've been on Lyrica since before it was even mentioned that it works for fibro. It has been a godsent for me. I know it hampers trying to lose weight but I'd rather be slow to lose than endure the pain that I had before Lyrica. Everyone is different and you have to work out what works for you.
We're all here to encourage one another. Hang in there, hon. It will get better. Hugs, Linda
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I really wanted to lose this weight, about 20 lbs, before my 50th birthday on 9/25, but it's not going to happen. And today my kids start back to school and I have such terrible pain and brain fog that I couldn't hardly function enough to make a to-go breakfast for my son. I was doing so well w/ the exercising and eating right for 4 weeks and lost 7 lbs, but then I hit a flare and I've not been able to bounce back yet. I feel like every day is trying to catch up with laundry, housework, etc. I just want to throw my hands up in the air and say, ok fibro, you win! I give up on trying to lose the weight. Maybe I can stay where I am. But I take Lyrica, so idk. I am just a mess this morning. I can't think straight and I can barely walk.
I'm usually pretty upbeat and positive, but today started off so badly, I just want to give up on it all and let fibro win. I'm so tired. I'm so tired of hurting and the brain fog is so embarrassing. I try to cover up how much I hurt and how numb my brain feels. I'm sorry to be such a downer. I just don't know how y'all keep going. I feel like such a failure. I'm usually so strong because God always gets me through and is by my side, but today was just a reminder of how bad my health really is. I keep thinking maybe today is the day I can get back to walking (which is my exercising), but it's all I can do to get dressed, go grocery shopping, clean house, do the laundry, and cook.
I'm thinking of just dropping out of here completely because all it does is remind me how I failed, and I feel guilty that I can't exercise.
"Goodbye. Be good. Take care of yourselves, and don't leave the path." ~ Gandalf
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