I feel for you and understand your perdicament. I have had FM for 20 plus years and have gained alot of weight because I kept thinking there was nothing I could do to lose the weight or to feel healthy. I have a few suggestions that have helped.
1. Be positive - in all things. Losing weight, exercise, your personal worth. You are very important, especially in God's eyes.
2. Be determined to complete a goal; no matter the size of the goal. Do be discouraged if you have a flare up.
3. Know your limitations - as I read your email, I noticed that you keep yourself busy. Five hours of work, volunteer work, your children, home and yourself. Family is important and spending time with them, as you know, is very important. You might want to look at your daily activities and see if you can dwindle something out; that way when the weekend comes, you have time for them.
4. Deligate - if you can't do something (i.e. housework, laundry, etc) assign someone in your home to help, especially if the children are old enough to do any chores. I had to do this, even though the house wasn't how I wanted it, the work got done.
5. Exercise - this is probably the hardest, because it can cause a flare up. I have a walking buddy that I met on this site and we try to walk our local mall M-F, and we walk slowly, and do anywhere btwn 2 - 4 miles. She walks my pace. Find a buddy who would like to help you that will encourage you and yes, maybe be a drill seargant on days that you don't feel walking.
6. Lose weight - yeah, I know, hard. It is. In August 2010, I stepped on a scale at my mother's house and it topped over 300. I said, "No way! and started to lose weight by using SparkPeople, keeping track of food intake, exercise log and journal. I really got serious this past August and have lost 55lbs. I want to lose another 100lbs. Granted, even when you lose your weight you will still have flare ups, but you will feel better about yourself.
7. Take vitamins. I take Fish Oil for both the FM and Osteoarthritis. I have real bad knees and have to wear braces on both legs to get around. Fish Oil is great, also take a b12 or complex B vitamin. This will give you good metabolism.
8. Find a friend who you can confide in, that you can tell anything to. This is the best stress releaver, and the less stress, the less flare ups.
I know I have said alot, but these are things that I like to remember to help me. Since Sunday, I have had a bad flare up, but I still walked today, and rested afterward. I hate to hear that you are so bad for the weekends. I use to be that way and decided I had to change the way I was living and had to revamp how I was going to spend my days. Please, if you would like, I can be there for you. If not me, find someone, use this group. The people are very knowledgeable. Medication is good, but don't let it control you. I found lyrica worked best for me, but my insurance stopped paying for it. The last advice I have for you and it is probably the most important, find a doctor who know about and believes that FM is real. I was pushed from one RA to another, with them telling me it is not their field and nothing than can do. Very discouraging. You take care and God Bless, Renee
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