Welcome! We have so many reasons for overeating... stress, boredom, frustration, substitution for something else that seems to be missing in our lives... And it can be really, really hard to change the pattern, but it CAN be done. One day at a time, one small change at a time, focusing on what you really want in your life, it all adds up and comes together for a new you.
There are so many great tips and tools here at SP -- from the trackers (use the nutrition tracker diligently, good or bad, preferably planning what you're going to eat in advance so you can make adjustments and keep your calorie count in the right range) to the fitness videos (something for everyone there, no matter what level you're at) and the community support.
One thing that seems to help me is to tell myself in the morning that "just for today" I will ____ (fill in the blank -- not eat junk food, plan my meals, stay within my calorie count, etc.), and tomorrow, if I really, really want that bag of chips (for instance), then I'll have it. Of course, the next morning I give myself the same pep talk... maybe I'm just extra gullible somehow, but this works a surprisingly large percentage of the time!
I know I'm exactly in the same situation as you are, but remember that everyone on this site is here for the same reason- we all want to live a healthier lifestyle.
This is my second time using SP. I started around Christmas in 2011 and gave up around March. Part of it was frustration for not seeing the results that I wanted and another part was depression in being unemployed. This time I'm really trying to make a lifestyle change and the only way to do that is to take things one step at a time.
In that past I looked at the big picture- wanting to lose 40-50 lbs. This time I'm taking it slow. I've created a reward system for achieving small goals; such as buying a gym bag once I lose 5 lbs or treat myself to a nice dinner date with my boyfriend after working out at least 15 times. Not all of these have to be monetary rewards. You could easily incorporate your husband into this and maybe ask him to take your daughter out so you can reward yourself with a relaxing bath at home.
As far as exercise goes, I saw something on pinterest that said "In the time it takes for you to give all of the excuses not to exercise right now, you could have already finished" (or something along those lines). Which is SO true! You definitely have to start small, especially if you haven't done physical activity in a while. I know you live in Michigan, so I feel your pain in not being able to do things outside. But perhaps if the weather isn't too bad out you can take your daughter out for a 10 minute walk. I would make a goal of exercising for 10 minutes every day. There are a lot of free videos on here (and probably one youtube) that last for 10 minutes. I think there are also a lot of videos on Comcast OnDemand.
I guess one of the biggest things that you can learn is that you will fail... BUT THAT'S OKAY! Maybe you'll go over your caloric intake for the day... it's okay. Maybe it's someone's birthday and you had a piece of cake... it's okay. Maybe you were too mentally and physically drained to exercise today... it's okay. Just as long as you get back on the bandwagon the next day.
I hope this helped! Remember we're all in this together!
Hi everyone! I am semi-new to spark people. I have always battled my weight. I am 5'3 and at my largest I weighed 300 lbs. I had gastric bypass surgery in march of 2004 (i was 22 then). I lost 155 lbs, putting me at 145 lbs. It was awesome but I didn't learn to change my lifestyle. Since then I have gained 80 lbs back. I am married and we have a 5month old. I actually lost weight during my pregnancy. I was down to 200 lbs. After I had my daughter in august, i gained 30 lbs back. Even typing it makes me want to cry. My husband and I started the south beach diet for two weeks before Christmas. He has about 15 lbs to lose. I cheated the entire two weeks of the diet. I work in an office and find that I eat constantly. As I am eating I am telling myself not to. I just ignore myself. I feel so discouraged. I love my husband but he does not get it, he doesn't understand how you can be addicted to food. I find that I hide things I eat from him. We thought that after the New Year, things would calm down and we could start the south beach program again. I need to make a change. I have never joined a message board or had any kind of group support. I thought I would give it a try. I know that strict dieting is not the answer. It is a change in the way I think about food that needs to happen. I want to change but even as I am typing this, I feel discouraged, because I think I am going to fail again. I also need to incorporate some sort of exercise into my life! I want to be ale to play with my daughter and live a long time. I don't see myself on that path right now. I like the south beach plan. I have a strong addiction to sweet and think that it will help me get that under control. I also wanted to start walking in the mornings, but I am not a morning person. I think that is the only time though, because after I get off work, we are busy until bedtime. Does anyone have any advice? How do you change a lifetime of addiction to food? How do you incorporate exercise when you have never done it before and you have more going on than ever before. I read these stories and know it can be done, but I don't know why I can't do it.
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