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Posts: 402 2/15/13 12:14 P
I officially retired the first of January this year .... but it was not me wanting to retire. The job moved from Washington State to North Carolina and I did not want to make that move. So, at age 67, I retired. I enjoyed working for the University of Washington at the Veterans Administration in Tacoma in Alzheimer's Research. But now, I am beginning to see where my savings will be dwindling as everyday expenses swallow us up. My husband, age 60 is still working...part time, and we do not know how long that job will last. He is hoping it will last until he is 62 and can also retire. We will see how it goes.
All One Loving All - Eat Less, Move More
Pounds lost: 28.0
Fitness Minutes: (6,553) Posts: 149 8/22/12 8:05 P
Hello, My name is Alicia I was laid off in June from a job I've had for 10 years. I have a supportive family and I'm keeping spirits up. I have some things in the works that may allow me to go to college next spring. I've learned how to budget and what we need vs. want. I'm hoping I can learn some good tips from this group.
current weight: 235.0
Posts: 188 8/19/12 10:29 P
My name is Melissa, and I joined this group for a couple reasons:
1) I understand the challenges with job loss. A few years ago, my husband was laid off for several months. It's a difficult time, and support is definitely an important part of making it through.
2) I am a certified résumé writer. It is my hope to offer suggestions that will help others find their way during the job hunt.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." ~Lao Tse
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." ~Mark Twain
Pounds lost: 29.0
Posts: 621 9/6/11 12:11 A
Hi everyone, I'm trying to get into a better and more regular habit of applying for jobs. I hope to find others online who can join me in this quest -- it's going to require the same type of discipline as losing weight and getting exercise, which I am also doing.
My DH was laid off end of February this year. I still have a job, but I am feeling a lot of stress as a result of him being on unemployment. I hope you don't mind me joining your group. I am the SP member, and my DH is the very supportive other half.
I would never talk to my BFF the way I talk to myself about my body.
December SparkPoints: 211
Posts: 16 3/3/11 11:17 P
I was laid off 3 weeks ago by a company I worked for for 5 years. My position was eliminated. It was in social services so the attachment I had with the people I worked with was hard to give up. But the big kicker was my coworker who is less qualified than me got a promotion. And then I found out this week (just 2 weeks after being laid off) that my former boss got a promotion and now they are short a body. Well they messed that one up! They apparently didn't see the best in me or something... its hard not to take personally. I put a lot of hard work into making that paticular site into a success, so I am angry! In the mean time I am choosing to stay home with my 2 toddler/preschool kids for awhile to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life. With this life changing event I am having a hard time getting motivated to keep up with my spark journey (which I started just about a month before I was laid off). I hope to get some motivation through this team! I have learned already that I could be much worse off and I shouldn't take this time for granted.
Edited by: AMANDAMORGAN7 at: 3/3/2011 (23:22)
current weight: 186.0
Fitness Minutes: (60) Posts: 5 1/22/11 11:35 A
Hi everyone! I was laid off in March, 2008 - my *third* layoff within *five* years! Was able to land a long-term temp job in the medical customer service area in May of 2009, which will end this May.
Unfortunately for me, I had a heart attack 2 months after I lost my last job (05/12/08). I was lucky; I survived. Know all about the high cost of COBRA (after we paid $750/month for 7 months), but also have seen the "other side" of tons of folks like us outta-workers able to obtain medical care free, or at cost. DH and I nearly went bankrupt after 7 months of COBRA payments! (we're still on the edge as I write this). At time of my MI, DH was not working, but TG obtained a acctng collections job with the US Gov't in Feb 2009, which enabled me to get coverage for medical benefits. However, even there, I had $700 bill of "my share" of the MI medical cost (not incl COBRA, copays or deductibles with COBRA or meds) from a nearby hosptial that I had to put on my credit card (or they said they'd threaten to turn me over to collections). Not a good thing for any job applicant to have when future employers will check credit scores, etc.! Funny thing is like I was hysterical day after my MI, when finance mgr of the hospital kept reassuring me when she came to my room, "DON'T worry!!" etc. All words, no action. Then I found a much different (better) med center where I currently temp at. MUCH different policies and offers to help folks like me! :)
And, so my journey takes me full round to TODAY: I start "anew" today, because 8 years ago today is my "quit smoking" anniversary! I actually had a slip & fall on the ice (01/22/03), after having gone outside for a "quick smoke break" in 11-degree temperature (for a different employer). I sustained a compound/open fracture of my L ankle, and surgery that day for it, which also ended my 28-yr/2-pack-a-day+ smoking habit (thanks to the high-level nicotene patch and a great rocking chair at home to soothe my nerves!)... but still am smoke free! :)
Last September I was doing just great with the WW program, having gone from 223 to 183 pounds over a year or so... (heck, I did a five-miler walk/jog on Bally's indoor track day before I did a 12-hour all-out at a local amusement park!!) but was diagnosed with a stress fracture of my L hip - with no-walking/WB activity for over 12 weeks given me by an orthopedic MD, followed by super depression that sunk in, a *highly* stressful job, and ... almost all my weight gained back that I lost!! :(.
So, today at 220 lbs, I am starting back today, going to Bally's for a "little" "back-into-it" of 20 mins walk/20 mins bike/20 mins swimming this afternoon.
For me, I struggle to devote my time: shouldn't I be job-hunting instead of working out??
I can tell this group that in my non-working months (between temp jobs, after my 03/2008 layoff) just going to Bally's gym each day *kept my sanity sane* - no doubt about it!
Sorry to all for the long post, but I am determined NOT to give up, remembering how *good* thin felt, and to be the active and non-depressed person God wants me to be!
Best to all! :)
Fitness Minutes: (29,555) Posts: 3,244 1/20/11 10:11 P
So I was, in reality, fired on Dec 29. Basically, they were in the process of firing me in October when I realized something was really wrong and went and got diagnosed with ADD. Because that is covered under ADA, they gave me 7 weeks to get it together while they made "reasonable accommodation." Well, 7 weeks went by and here I am. All in all (except financially) it's a good thing. It was really stressful and the work environment was awful for my ADD. I will be collecting unemployment.
I am surprisingly very excited. I am looking at this as a time to start over. My 59th birthday is next week and I have been engaging is some brainstorming with some friends. It will culminate on the 29th with a birthday dinner.
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. e. e. cummings
current weight: 217.4
Posts: 8,565 1/16/11 6:53 P
I am a new member planning on losing 140 pounds and willing to go any length to achieve my goal. Here are 10 things to introduce myself:
1. I am Carmen. 2. I am from Puerto Rico. 3. I have 3 grownups, living on their own, up states. 4. I am a First Grade teacher, but not working this year. 5. I love water aerobics. 6. If no water aerobics, I love water jogging. 7. I love to do crafts, specially jewellery. 8. I am starting gardening with indoor plants. 9. I relax going to Borders, having a cup of great coffee while reading a good magazine. 10. I enjoy the writing process and Blogging as wells.
Carmen From lovely San Juan, Puerto Rico and loving the beach!!!
There's nothing wrong with using the word "diet". It comes from the Greek word "diaita", meaning way of life. So to lose weight and keep it off we need to change our way of life.
December Minutes: 0
Posts: 44 1/5/11 7:25 A
Hail and well met!
I just got laid off yesterday, after working for 6 months as a data entry clerk for a used book warehouse. The company is privately owned and they're having issues with money, so they've been slowly and steadily laying people off to try to compensate. I just happened to be one of those people yesterday, along with 6 others.
On the bright side, it gives me plenty of time to focus on working out, and to focus on my classes, and of course on my kids.
"If you aren't going all the way, why go at all?" Joe Namath
current weight: 215.0
Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 7 10/16/10 8:37 A
Well, here I am again I guess. I have joined SP plenty of times. I am more stressed than normal. My husband, got pink slipped from his math teaching job, held a long term sub position and his last was Friday. We have four little boys, our home is getting reviewed for a lower home payment program; however, we weren't approved for a Loan Modification and now the bank is saying we owe $14k in back payments. I guess I'm not alone though; it could be worse
I just don't know how to eat right living in poverty. It's not like it's really anything new for me, I mean my husband was working as a teacher and with a family of six money doesn't go far. I just wish I could let myself believe I could somewhat take care of myself health wise. I just figure what's the point...well guess it might get better. I'm not going to say it can't get worse, because it can. I'm grateful my children's health.
current weight: 243.0
Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 7 10/16/10 8:32 A
Hi 4leef, I also just joined the group. I hope everything get's better for you; I have heard that COBRA cost an arm and a leg.
current weight: 243.0
Posts: 740 9/26/10 2:51 P
I love lemonade! (good vibes from team icon) I was laid off from my job end of 2009, with one month severence, and COBRA insurance, thanks to Obama admin making it affordable. I thought - o.k., with this economy, three or four months, I'll be back on track. Ha! Not so easy! Like many, I'm finding the bites on the job line to be few, and keeping them on the hook even harder. I feel like I have earned the unemployment support over all these years, but it certainly is not like a vacation! There are so many hoops to continually jump through, to keep things going on all levels, it is just as stressful as being employed in a stressful job. The unknown is the worst part for me, though I can philosophize about this to defuse the stress. I worked one month for the 2010 Census - they said it would be longer but it wasn't. It did remind me that I am skilled, able to adapt, be productive, good for a self esteem boost as well as the income. Then back on unemployment for a few more months -- why isn't the temp agency sending anything my way?! I decided to accept a few temp jobs - below $10/hour to get on the "radar" with the temp agency. Little did I know how that was going to screw up my unemployment schedule! Got that sorted out, and now have a longer term full time temp job, $11/hour (less than previous employment, more than unemployment) My savings is about gone so I'm stressing over that, and the temp job caused me to loose my COBRA insurance. Now I'm trying to make do with a much weaker plan through the temp agency, to deal with a few chronic conditions that need maintenance/management. I got most of the immediate big medical stuff done while under the COBRA but it is still more complicated than when I was younger than fifty. I believe the economy will continue to improve, and I believe I will get another very good job, hopefully one that I will like better than my previous job. I just hope I can hang in there long enough to get there with out serious personal damage. I cope by maintaining my hobbies and personal relationships, using the extra time I had to focus on exercise and healthy nutrition on a budget, working with SP. I chose to not join this group earlier, because I thought focusing on my employment situation would make me feel worse, but I feel differently now. I occasionally feel somewhat depressed, but can usually pull myself out of it, and keep looking forward. I'm very glad to have found Spark People, as it always is a good source of support & ideas for improving and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
current weight: 194.0
Posts: 868 9/22/10 8:50 A
Hi everyone, I have been a member of this group for awhile, just don't post much. Have been out of work for over a year, thankfully my husband is still working. I'm starting to think I will NEVER find another job, I am either overqualified or maybe just too old, I don't know which. It is hard not to get discouraged when all you receive is letters telling you how great your resume is but they have hired someone else. I'm tired of not working and hearing people talk about how lazy unemployed people are and they are just taking money. I worked for over 30 years and am not lazy. I just started doing some substitute teaching work, that will help some. I guess I just needed to vent a little, thanks for letting me "talk". My unemployment will be out very soon. We have tightened our belts, I even planted my first garden this year, along with canning, so veggies will be plentiful this winter. We will be fine. I wish you all luck in your job search.
Lifes journeys consist of challenges . Challenges lead to growth. Growth leads to wisdom. ....No wonder I'm such a wise.... (one) !
current weight: 178.0
Fitness Minutes: (719) Posts: 12 9/12/10 2:15 P
Hi all :)
My name is Jacob. I have worked for the past 3 years as a "Guest Experience Manager" for a small family entertainment company. I did everything from schedule employees to help the owners scout locations for the new business. Recently, they had voluntary lay-offs, and I realized it was time for me to get out of there.
I really enjoy the people I worked with, but the job was just too much responsibility for too little benefit. I'm currently trying to work my way into government work. I would kill for normal hours!
My severence ran out this month, so now I'm strictly on unemployment from here on out. I'm ok with it. . it pays for rent and groceries, but I'm going to have next-to-nothing for any kind of personal money. So, it's really time to find some work.
Ugggh, I'm really not looking forward to the whole interview process. It just sounds like such a grind, ya know?
Oh well, thanks to SP I'm a lot more positive than I was a month ago, so I'm sure that will go a long way.
Good luck, all!
current weight: 440.0
Posts: 10,890 8/23/10 10:25 A
Just went from being "the bomb" to having my position being eliminated.... life can really suck sometimes. But I will get through this.. given enough vodka! Hugs, WW
Life is NOT a dress rehearsal, ENJOY every moment!
current weight: 181.0
Fitness Minutes: (38,730) Posts: 3,220 8/12/10 11:58 A
Hi everyone! My name is Debbie. I was laid off about 2 1/2 years ago. Well actually I worked 11 years for a jewelry store that went out of business 3 years ago. 2 weeks after I went to work as bookkeeper for a Real Estate company. After 6 months I was "laid off" (if I hadn't been, I would have quit - I didn't like the job). So here I am. I haven't been searching much until recently. Now I need to find a job. The only problem is that I don't know what I want to do. Oh well... I was happy to find this team - and maybe you can help me decide what I really want to do.
"never jump into a pile of leaves with a wet sucker" - Linus (thank you Jenny for this quote, xxxooo)
If the sky were green, would it not still be the sky? (author unknown)
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. e. e. cummings
Pounds lost: 1.4
Posts: 1,495 7/21/10 7:07 P
Hi, I joined the team today because I am tired of feeling like it is my fault that I am unemployed. I worked for a payroll company that sold to another payroll company because of the all companies closing their doors here in Florida. They only wanted the Book of Business, not the employees. I worked in the Benefits dept and it was horrible up to my last day. My heart just went out to all the single parents, single income families, and single income homes.
I am angry that people see me as a lazy piece of crap draining the good ol' USA. I am angry because I spoke with a person from England that said her biggest shock coming to America is that America does not take care of her own people. She said I make over 6 digits a year in your country and I can get more help than you can. What is wrong with this picture?
I am looking for support to validate my feelings and that I am not alone.
Thank you MRE1956 for the FYI.
Edited by: JRDIAMOND4 at: 7/21/2010 (20:23)
7 But the LORD said to Samuel, Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the LORD does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart 1 Samuel 16:7
Pounds lost: 9.6
Fitness Minutes: (3,720) Posts: 45 7/19/10 6:28 A
Hi, my name's Carsten, and is from Denmark (the country, not the city). I've been a SP member since september, and between jobs since december 2008.
I used to work with computers (tech support), but resigned due to problems with stress.
At the moment I'm fighting to stay motivated, both regarding my job hunting but also becoming healthier and losing weight.
From september 2009 and until april 2010 I did pretty good, but have alot of problems since then. Even though I know what to do, and what NOT to do, I still find myself doing the bad things for my health. It's getting harder and harder to motivate myself into going to the gym.
Pounds lost: 9.0
Fitness Minutes: (2,655) Posts: 530 6/28/10 11:47 P
Hi all! My name is Toni and I've been on SP for a little over 2 months now. I've been on a medical leave since last August and unless my doc releases me to go back to work by August 4th, I will lose my job. Chances of getting released are not good. My husband has actually been laid off for a year and a half as well. It's nice to know that we're not the only ones being affected by these trying times, but I pray that we all get relief soon!
Know and LOVE yourself!
Pounds lost: 22.0
Posts: 4,041 6/16/10 11:46 P
Hello, all! There must be a Spark team for EVERYTHING!
I was welcoming a new member on another team, clicked on the commenter before me's (huh?) Spark Page and found this team!
I was laid off May 31 after Governor Quinn's treat to close the facility where I worked for the State of IL, Dept of Human Svcs went through. We cared for developmentally disabled adults.
According to our labor relations guy, many new jobs will be posted after the beginning of the fiscal year. We should all have jobs before the election.
Anyway, if I had a job, I couldn't Spark as much!
I joined to lose 100 #s. I am finding the more water I drink, the more I want. The more I MOVE, the easier it gets. The trackers are great.
Everyday I find something new on this site.
OCTOBER IS BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH!
Co-leader A Course in Miracles Spark Team Co-leader Toastmasters Spark Team Co-leader Lesbian Fiction Readers Spark Team Co-leader South Suburbs-Fan the Spark team
President of West Suburban Toastmasters, Club 930, La Grange Park, IL
"It seems to me that most folks are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. " Abraham Lincoln
I AM ...One Life, One Spirit, One God, One Love....I AM
current weight: 244.0
Posts: 401 5/5/10 12:46 A
You too, have a good rest of the week
current weight: 217.0
Posts: 2,296 5/3/10 9:12 P
GREAT to hear from you, GIRLG33K! Thanks for adding me as a friend (my first). Have reciprocated. After posting my message, I was ok for a while but then I got into a funk. Instead of the usual stress noshing, went to the community park and walked. Just 45 minutes, but it helped. Made a couple of stops on the way home. What a NICE SURPRISE to find your response. THANKS for making my day! Will check in tomorrow. HAVE A WONDERFUL evening!
Pounds lost: 12.0
Posts: 2,296 5/3/10 1:18 P
HI! Wow, GIRLG33K. Sorry about your situation. Used to be gov jobs were considered to be pretty safe. NOW, like you, I know better personally too. Friday afternoon I was caught completely off guard by being called in and RIFed after 14 years with the local school systems as a programmer/analyst. There were just 4 of us in the HR/Payroll section - coordinator (30 yrs there), network admin (10 yrs), operator (ex-sec, 10 yrs) and me. I thought IF there was a layout I would be first, but I was optimistic and thought I would be safe for another year. They didn't even let me get my purse, but brought it to me and escorted me out! I was numb with shock for the 1st 12 hours. Then panic and fear and humiliation set in. It would have been nice to have been given a layoff packet. I have no idea what actions to take- forms to fill out, unemployment claim to make, etc. My wonderful, retired hubby says to not worry and let's just relax for a month until I settle down. Intellectually I understand the situation and know God is just starting a new chapter in my life. But emotionally I AM A MESS! Having been employed since 1971, work has always been a BIG part of who I am. Now I feel like NOTHING. GIRLG33K and anyone else, PLEASE share your advice and coping mechanisms. Thankfully, there is this wonderful Spark community. It has helped me so much with weight, food and heath issues. THANKS FOR YOUR PRAYERS AND SUPPORT AND I WILL HELP ANYONE THAT I CAN TOO. Blessings!
Pounds lost: 12.0
Posts: 401 4/13/10 3:01 A
I was working for the government for 23 years and got laid off during a merger in September 2006.
I was able through alot of hard work on my own put in for Worker Retraining and working on my secondary degree in CIS, I have been in the IT field over 20 of those years.
This has such a dramatic effect on my self-esteem, I went from making $60,000+ a year down to nothing. I am on the verge of losing my house, my car and my 22 year marriage came to an end. I got so demeaned, cut-down by him for losing my job and not being able to find a job, like I had any control in it.
I am with 3 temp agencies and they cannot seem to find me a job, I call in to them as instructed, I put in for everything I can find in the newspaper.
I have had to take jobs that were sparce the last few years doing daycare a few times a week and cleaning a house or two a few times a month. Nothing steady at all. And these jobs were through the church I went to.
It is a really humbling experience to go from being so experienced, college educated, Microsoft Certifications and more, down to cleaning someone's toilets.
I am hoping the economy will turn around, but I am not holding my breath, because I am too busy trying to keep myself from hitting rock bottom and trying to stay afloat somehow.
current weight: 217.0
Posts: 401 4/13/10 2:06 A
I know exactly how you feel, I was told after hunting down the HR people why after 1 1/2 years of being with several temp agencies I can't find a temp job with them. They told me I needed to dummy down my resume that it was too overwhelming and supposedly turning the employers off (giggle, why because I can be a worker bee and do their job too)
They need to create a temp agency that finds jobs for those that are highly educated, experienced and skilled (i.e. certifications, degrees, etc).
current weight: 217.0
Posts: 303 4/12/10 4:36 P
Hello all! I'm Susan and I lost my permanent job in February of 2009. I've worked a few temp jobs since that time, but I seem to be over-qualified for everything! I was in the process of getting my Master's of Accounting and Financial Management degree (which I completed in June of 2009) so I think some companies see that Master's degree on my resume' and decide they can't afford me!
Things are starting to pick up a bit in the job market, but not to where they've been. You'd think with all of the talk about focusing on job creation it would have picked up more, but that's the way it goes.
In the meantime, I've had the opportunity to spend time on websites like SparkPeople!!
I can do this, with God's help!!!
With God, ALL things are possible!!
Now all glory to GOD, who is able, through HIS might power at work within us, to accomplish INFINITELY more than we might ask or think! -- Ephesians 3:20
current weight: 196.0
Posts: 931 2/19/10 11:12 P
Hi my name is Jen. I recently lost my job. I didn't see it as a bad thing at the time because I knew it was time for a career change....but once I set into daily life without work, I started getting really bored and lost my momentum. I am excited to see there is a team for people like me. :)
"Don't let your memories get in the way of your dreams." -Anonymous
"Everyone has to start somewhere!"
I am starting right here...right now!
current weight: 209.0
Posts: 1,364 2/19/10 3:37 P
Hi everybody. I'm Donna and have been laid off from my last two jobs. What a delight to discover this SP Team!
The first time I got laid off was just before a move across country, so I had no local professional network to lean on when I arrived. It took me 15 months to find work. We used up all of our savings to survive.
After I did find work, I got laid off again last 12/2 after only 9 months. It was a nasty shock right before the holidays.
Unemployment checks just barely manage to keep the bills paid, but after they run out things are going to get nasty. We are living hand to mouth in our pretty little middle-class home. Nonetheless, I manage to keep my chin up. It's all a grand adventure-- a crazy one to be sure, but still a grand adventure. I'm having to shake off most of my preconceived notions about my priorities and goals in life and that's ok. I like the me I have been becoming as a result of this challenge, even though it stings a lot sometimes.
I find searching for work in the best of times to be very stressful and demoralizing, but in this economy it's brutal. In order to cope I have several strategies that I shared today in a list on my SP blog. I named it "Ten Things Unemployed People Need to Know to Survive." Feel free to check it out. I started writing it to post here, but it just got too long.
I'm looking forward to spending time getting to know you all better! Believe that we will all get through this eventually.
"I'm beginning to know myself. I don't exist. I'm the space between what I'd like to be and what others have made of me." -Fernando Pessoa
Pounds lost: 8.5
Fitness Minutes: (53,986) Posts: 1,909 2/19/10 12:32 P
Hello to all.
I was laid off two weeks ago today. Yes, this was a surprise without forewarning. Although, I did have a suspicions as most of my major works are installed and producing cash flow for the company. As the major breadwinner for the household, this job loss will begin taking a toll on the family. From a small company there is no severance package. Luckily, I had just finished my third year and earned my vacation.
Being in the middle age group, 46 this year, and in middle management, director of engineering, I suspect a 10 to 14 week time frame will be in order to reacquire my level of income. A lower paying position is still between 4 and 6 weeks if things fall into place. And, the potential for contract work is still possible.
As far as weight loss, I have lost 34 lbs since October. Most recently I have hit a plateau and glycogen levels are increasing as I have increased my exercise levels. It has been a disappointing week on the scale but this measurement is a lagging indicator. Physical measurements tell a different story as does my physical stamina.
I am positive I have so much more to do and give in this world. I am positive better employment opportunities abound for me. And, I am positive the Sparkers here are cheering me on as I do for them
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” - Aristotle.
current weight: 253.4
Posts: 64 2/19/10 10:07 A
My name is Gaby. I'm 22. I've been laid off from my past two jobs. But I'm not letting it drag me down. I am in school, but because of financial issues I had to take a leave of absence for the second time. That makes me feel a little -sigh- I don't even know how to pt it into words. I am trying my best to not feel depressed (cuz that won;t help me at all), but sometimes it gets to me. I am trying hard to make ends meet with my husband while trying to lose the weight that makes me feel even worse. So far I've lost 22 lbs, and that's what keeping me going at the moment. That and the support of my husband, Bryan, my best friends, Justin and Mike, and my little 8 yr old brother, Emiliano (who I'm trying to get to start eating fruits and veggies). My parents, are weird, they love and support my decisions, currently employed by them (only making $5 an hour and I work about 20 hrs a week, the have a tiny restaurant they started out with and when my husband got laid off, they hired him as well. They're trying to help us out as best as they can, so I understand why we make low wages. Eventually that will change). With the weight loss though, they want me to lose the weight and they are happy when I tell them I've lost some extra lbs but the moment they realize I'm still in the 200s, they get a little discouraged.
I try to be a positive person. Especially for my husband. He seems to have taken this a lot harder than we both expected him to. He was always the happier person and I was always more depressing. Now it seems we have switched places. But my happier more positive attitude started when I started eating healthy and exercising. Also, he is currently about 25 lbs over weight and that is also something that bothers him, and I'm trying to get him to start exercising with me and eating healthier too. But he does it once or twice a week but then gets discouraged. Any advice for that?
Gah, I meant to just say hi to the group and introduce myself. But sometimes voicing your problems helps to keep you in the right path. Right?
Tell all the haters to shut up and smile. =D -Bowling For Soup
current weight: 246.0
Posts: 142 2/18/10 6:13 P
Hi everyone - been bouncing around Spark Teams trying to find something I fit into.
Although I willingly left my job as an office administrator three years ago to care for my elderly mom, I have been trying to reenter the workforce for the last year or so (Mom passed away). Financially we are totally stretched as many of you understand and I'm also BORED TO TEARS! I was continuing my education but ran out of money. I'm at an "unmarketable" age - will be 50 next month. Been told I've "over qualified" one too many times, but someone, someday, will realize my great knowledge, experience, and wisdom will outweigh some young whippersnapper :) LOL (haven't lost my sense of humor!!!)
Naturally with unemployment comes boredom which brings on laziness causing weight gain! Glad I found SP as it has been the saving grace for me since January.
I found a part time position as a home companion three days a week, 2 hours each day. I really can't consider it a job but hey, take what you can!!!
To all those out there - things are going to pick up again, the economy can't stay like this so hang in there, chin up, breathe deep, and keep sparking! Looking forward to some great conversations, tips, suggestions, and motivation!
Pounds lost: 14.0
Fitness Minutes: (63,060) Posts: 671 1/5/10 5:39 P
I decided to look for a team for this topic as it is getting me down this week... I was laid off in June from a teaching job (budget cuts) and have had very little luck in finding anything since then. I have a BA in Sociology and a MA in Elementary Teaching. I have applied for every job I am qualified for that doesn't pay minimum wage and I've only gotten 2 interviews in the past 6 months!
So as I sure many of you understand, I struggle with depression over being jobless! I have been focusing my efforts and energy on doing house projects and getting my weight back under control. It helps most of the time, but sometimes I just get so frustrated!
I am substitute teaching in the meantime, but only getting work about 8 days a month or so due to the enormous amount of unemployed elementary teachers out where I live. Luckily, my husband is stable in his job and can support us for the most part. It just feels so demeaning and depressing to apply for jobs week after week and only get rejection letters.
On that note, I am training for a half-marathon in May and have lost 13 lbs since July. So I am proud of the accomplishments I have made since joining Spark! One of my New Year's Resolutions is to be more positive!
Thanks for reading! Melinda
Edited by: MTRAMMELL1 at: 1/5/2010 (17:42)
"If nothing ever changed, there would be no butterflies" Unknown
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Posts: 206 1/3/10 10:21 A
Hello, yeah I hoped there was a page dedicated to this topic! I hale from Ground Zero of the economical mess! (Northern IN) - we had all the recreational vehicle plants that closed. I worked as a studio manager/photographer for a commercial photo studio - at the time I should have started estimating our biggest job for an RV client - I got my walking papers. I am extremely type A and this has nearly put me over the edge. There is next to nothing here in work. I have returned to school to work on my graphics and web design skills - still trying to go over the edge in the ad world I guess....LOL.
I still work some as a freelancer and also rep. a dog food company and work in photo labs at the school I am attending while carrying 12 credit hours. I have aged so much since this happened last Feb. 09. I am estimating I have gained 40 lbs since being laid off - my dog has also gained...LOL she was a studio dog and also get her papers.....so it has been different for us.
I see this as positive, I think it open some doors eventually if i can hold on. I was very active and spent my off hours working in animal education/awareness and as an animal foster. That has slowed down a lot at a time when more animals are in need, but I have to take care of my own before I feed the animals of the community!
So that is me! Just kicking myself back into gear and trying to keep my head above water. I don't want to say it is wonderful to read of others tales, I wish this on no one, but when I read these here today, I felt a sigh of relief that I am not alone...thanks to all of you for being here, looking foward to learning more about all!
I can and I will......
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Posts: 9,360 11/20/09 7:30 A
I don't recall having introduced myself, so I might as well do so now. Apologies if I've duplicated the effort.
I've been looking since the end of August and it's been hell, especially since I lost my mom during this time. Well, yesterday morning I had quite an interesting phone interview and it looks like I'll be starting a temp assignment within the next week or two (I believe this will run for 4 months). While my goal is a full permanent position, after the misery of my being where I don't want to be and dealing with sudden loss, at this point I'm only too happy and grateful to be back in the "out of the house" game! At this point I'll also be taking some time to do some serious soul searching and a personal "post-mortem" analysis and figure out what, if anything, I have or might have learned from this latest experience. (This is my third bout of idle time since '01).
I'm also restarting my SP journey as I have gained close to half of my weight back.
I won't remove myself from the team at this point due to the nature of my new role. I'll probably lurk from the shadows from time to time (I hope nobody objects).
I wish all of you the best in your SP and search journeys!
Don't wait for inspiration to come to you - take action, and the inspiration will come! - Gilad
If you don't love yourself, how are you going to love somebody else? - RuPaul
I'm as mad as hell and I'm not going to take this anymore! - the late Peter Finch as Howard Beale, "Network"
The time is always right to do what is right. - Dr. Martin Luther King
You've got to work at living. Ninety-nine and nine-tenths of Americans work at dying! - Jack LaLanne (RIP
Fitness Minutes: (145,775) Posts: 4,646 11/14/09 9:42 A
Hi, everyone. I just found out about this team and joined today. I lost my job at the end of March and have really been struggling to find another one. Luckily, my husband still has his job so I have insurance through him, and I'm really thankful for unemployment, too.
I actually made it to a second interview and a job shadow at one place, but no job offer. :-(
I just went for another interview yesterday - Friday, the 13th!!!! which will hopefully become my lucky day. It's a perfect job for me, so I have my fingers crossed.
I haven't let depression set in so far - I've been going to libraries for free movies & classes & stuff like that...plus walking every single day!
I think this team is great!
A setback is only a setup for a comeback!
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Posts: 11,989 10/27/09 10:29 A
I just wanted to let you know I'll be departing (I'm trying to simplify my life a tad). I have a job (in IT); I joined here in order to see if there was someone who might want some of my clothes. Which I am still happy to do. Feel free to message me -- I've got 16s to give away.
Thanks and take care, you're all doing wonderfully well. :)
I'm T.. I've been working in corrections as a social worker for the past 15 years. Last year , the prison that I worked at closed,for 6 months I did not know what was going to happen to me and my family. (I'm a single parent with two children). I was able to transfer and relocate to another facility .. I've been there 4.5 months and two weeks ago I found out it will be closing too. I have been in a rut since then... I'm ready to feel better and move forward. I'm ready to focus on greatness and not lack.
Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over she turned into a butterfly
Pounds lost: 12.6
Posts: 93 9/6/09 2:28 P
Hi I'm Jo. I introduced myself in the Challenges section under a new Accountability thread. I'm posting here as well in case you don't scroll down that far.
I'm a single mom with 3 school age children. I recently lost my job and am in transition. I love the lemonade icon for our group because it looks so refreshing and it reminds me every time I log in to our team pages that this time CAN be a time of refreshment and restoration. I'm using the time to get my body back. The stress of my last job added 35 pounds to my already overweight frame and now I'm in the brown paper bag stage (don't want anyone to see me) and am horrified at what I've become. I miss the real me and the cute wardrobe that's still hanging in my closet in size 8 & 10.
I'm joining this group hoping to support others and find support and accountability as I look for a new job. I believe in the power of prayer and will pray for you and ask that if you do also, you pray for me whenever you see my posts. G-d has a plan and I believe He'll guide us and provide for us.
Please check out the challenges section and post what you've been up to in your job search. This is new to me and I have a lot to learn.
Silvermist, I envy you greatly! I don't have the time to work and go back to nursing school but G-d knows I've always wanted to be a nurse (actually a doctor, but ...) Keep me up-to-date on how that's going. I'll live vicariously through you.
current weight: 214.2
Posts: 7 8/23/09 6:02 P
Hey all, My husband and I both lost or jobs the last day of Feb. Now we get to go to school. I didn't much like it the first time around. So now we are both going to be nurses because at least there is a chance of getting a job in that field. I went from being on my feet 12 hrs. a day to sitting in front of a computer or book. All the mind work instead of physical work has been hard on my weightloss. Thank goodness I found this site. I seem to be getting back on track. I am tracking everything I eat. I am getting up really early in the mornings for a 20 min. walk/jog five days a week and spend a large part of saturdays walking with my family. I don't know what is going to happen around exam time? I have faith though. LOL
current weight: 253.0
Posts: 6 5/27/09 10:14 A
Hi my name is Niki and I was laid off in March. This is my third layoff in six years. I had a baby in December and I knew that if I took maternity leave I would get laid off. I am a certified teacher and will receive my masters degree in june. I don't know how I am going to pay the loan off. I know that being overweight will not help my employment situation. As much as we hate to admit it discrimination is alive and well. I am african american female and weigh 226 at 5'6. I need potential employers to see my intelligence not my lack of self control.
On a good note. At least I get to stay home with my baby for a while. But to be honest I am not cut out to be a house wife. But I love being a mother. I have two children: a son who will be 16 this year and a daughter who is six months and they are the best things I have ever done. My husband is still working and is optimistic about continuing to work but who knows. I thought teaching was a solid gig.
current weight: 195.0
Posts: 112 5/7/09 9:26 P
it's ironic that I am joining this team and I say that bc I say the team the other day scrolling through the different SP teams. I knew I had recently reapplied for my job a few weeks ago and made it to the final interview. The ironic twist is i thought I had made it was going to be kept on the job. BRICK WALL!*!*!* I was told TODAY that next Friday will be my last day. So, I have joined today in hopes that I can find te motivation I need to stay with my weight loss plan. I already had to take it easy due to a leg injury and now this. So, I really feel torn. Although, Now I have all the time to exercise in between finding another job. So, Here I am trying to sink everything in. Wish me luck!
current weight: 208.0
Posts: 213 5/7/09 9:24 P
Hi everybody! I was layed off three years ago from my job of 14 years. I received severance pay & then unemployment. Thank God, my husband has money coming in - he's retired. For awhile it was great, and my husband didn't want me to go back to work. Then we realized we couldn't live day to day anymore,and the fun was over. I live in NY and have been continuously looking for a job. I worked in a big Co., and now I've been trying for a cashier job, or really anything! NO LUCK! I will not give up. I have to stay strong!
Fitness Minutes: (5,390) Posts: 673 5/5/09 11:26 P
I am very excited to find this group! I was 'officially' laid off in January, but was very fortunate to have worked for a very good company. They helped me out in many ways to make the transition relatively painless - all things considered. Also, I knew that my job was going to come to an end a little over two years ago, so I had plenty of time to prepare. We stashed away a fair amount of money and limited our extra spending LONG before THE day.
Of course, timing could be better. A couple of years ago there were more (and more appealing) opportunities. But, this too shall pass....SOON I hope.
I'm excited to get to know everyone here.
~Christy Lee (CeeLee1111)
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Fitness Minutes: (905) Posts: 628 5/5/09 11:12 P
Boy did I need this team!! My husband got laid off in november after 11 yrs and we really have been struggling but just when you think it can't get worse it does. As of this past friday I have been laid off after 9 yrs on the job. I am torn up about this but know that I have to be strong. The worst part is i live just a few miles outside of detroit which has a huge unemployment rate due to our sole source of income is auto industry. There are no jobs to be had here and in whole of michigan. I don't know what were going to do but somehow we will come through this we have no choice. But anyway saw this group and knew I had to join just mfor the support alone. Thank-you for having a group like this I just know its gonna help me through this most difficult time and i'm looking forward to making new friends!!!
Posts: 65 5/5/09 9:18 P
Hi everyone! I was laid of back in October. My husband was set to get out of the military next week and we really struggled with whether or not he should stay in since I was laid off. Well, we decided to sell our house, move to a sunny beach town in Florida and open our own Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Academy! My husband has been training his whole life and I have been training for about a year -- we took a big risk, but the academy is doing really well in its first month. My husband's official last day in the military is Monday and we couldn't be more happy with where we are in life. We are taking a huge risk -- giving up the guaranteed pay of the military and my career as a lawyer, but with big risk comes big reward, right? Anyway, I think being laid off was a great awakening for me and an opportunity to put my health and my family first. I hope others are having the same experience.
current weight: 144.0
Posts: 20 5/5/09 5:15 P
Hey everyone. Just saw this SparkTeam and had to join. I was laid off one month shy of 18 years with the company! The first two weeks were really difficult for me - I stopped eating and exercising. But, with the help of family and friends - and SparkPeople - I have gotten myself back on track. I ran a half marathon on 4/26 and am preparing for the next one.
There are many resources out there for those of us who are unemployed. It may seem daunting, but with a little time and effort, things can turn around. I went to a two-day seminar and they said that we should be putting in 25-30 hours a week in our quest to find a job. This includes networking, sending out resumes, follow-up phone calls and interviews.
Hang in there and things will get better. I keep telling myself that because I believe it to be true. There is a reason I was let go at this point in my career and I look forward to discovering why and to the next challenge/opportunity.
“Fall seven times. Stand up eight.”
current weight: 123.0
Posts: 10 5/5/09 4:37 P
I just saw this team featured on the main page and it seemed like the perfect fit for me. My husband has been laid off more than he was worked for the last 18 months and it's really taking a toll on us (especially me and my eating habits). I consider myself laid off too, since we are a one income family.
Things have been rough, but it feels good to know we're not alone.
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Posts: 275 4/23/09 5:05 P
hi just found this team, it seemed perfect. i have been layed off since new years eve. the worst part of my story is i was working at my freinds preschool and instead of talking to me and letting me know what was going on she mailed me a letter over christmas break laying me off. right now the job situation in my town is preety bleak the want ads are down to like one column.
christine " Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. Its what sunflowers do." Helen Keller
Pounds lost: 15.0
Posts: 15 4/5/09 8:35 A
I was relocated by my company from Ohio to Maryland in 2006. In November of 2008 the Maryland market was closed down. I had to lay off 65 employees and stay on for 2 weeks to close down the operation. It was a very difficult task emotionally. However, I kept my chin up and traveled to visit friends and family during the month of December.
The market is hard. Just getting an interview is a challenge with an average of 400-600 resume submissions for any given job posting. I heard from school district in IL that a janitorial position was posted and over 500 resumes were submitted, including those of candidates with MBA degrees (multiple).
I have signed up to volunteer with the Girl Scouts of America and I am investing time in myself. I was working 50+ hours a week at my last job and I needed the rest!
Exercising is a great stress reliever. I am so happy to find this site for the nutrition tracking. My coffee creamer was really causing me to spin my wheels and I did not get the big picture until I started tracking it! :)
Good Luck to everyone in their search and goals!
current weight: 153.0
Fitness Minutes: (1,107) Posts: 10,755 4/4/09 1:24 P
I hope you will use this as a time to reinvent yourself a bit. Time to exercise, cook homemade healthy food and look for a job. I hope you can find something more lucrative. 10.50 is not enough for anyone actually. I think we are all under paid, especially those on unemployment.
current weight: 321.0
Posts: 834 4/3/09 8:23 A
Welcome to the team, Laurie!
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Posts: 2,579 4/2/09 2:10 P
Hi all, Warbler pointed me to this club after she read my blog. On Tuesday I was laid off from the university where I worked through college and then got a full time position there. I wasn't totally taken by surprise; I knew that as the lowest rung on the ladder in our department that I'd be the first one to go-- assuming they decided to take people from the busiest part of the library-- and the area they dump everything else into when they're cutting things. I was fired along with fourteen other people. They got rid of two entire departments as well. One lady had been there for twenty-six years. I've spent the last couple days crying, trying to cheer up my former co-workers, and of course applying for jobs. To add to the craziness, my bf told me to give my landlord thirty days notice. We're working on getting a condo (he makes a lot more than I make and his name is the only one on the paperwork) and it looks like it's going to happen (we're just waiting on the loan). I was going to move in with him in May, but this is speeding up the process and I'm dealing with the rapidity of all these changes at once. Another Sparker told me to apply at a certain place, and I had actually applied for two jobs there and she's been very encouraging. Added bonus: I LOVE the place...it's where I donate platelets every couple months. I have good platelets that are good for preemies and cancer patients. My doctor got promoted as a director of some sorts over there last year and I have a friend who works there. I have three months' severance pay and health insurance so I've decided to be a little bit selective in the job search process. Utah's economy is supposedly a little better than the rest of the country. Since I have the time, I'm attempting to get a job writing or editing, things I'd love to do. Most of the jobs I've applied for have been writing or editing related. I'm fairly optimistic that I can find a job that'll pay more than $10.50 an hour, what I made at the library after being there since 1996. Thanks everyone for being here and listening to me ramble. Hopefully we'll all be fortunate and find work soon.
current weight: 250.0
Posts: 39 3/30/09 10:53 P
Hi all, I'm J and just started with SparkPeople on Saturday (in other words, still getting the hang of it!)
I was laid off almost a year ago now, at the same time a series of family emergencies occurred so I am now finally getting to the job hunt. Mmmmm...maybe should wait another year (I wish I could!)
Anyway, have gained some weight over the past year (and quit smoking!), so I'm here to get more in shape, motivate myself and lose some pudge!
Looking forward to meeting you! -J
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Posts: 834 3/26/09 7:57 P
Hi, everyone. I was laid off from my position with a university on January 27. I've sent out over 50 resumes and job applications so far and have had only four interviews. Unfortunately, I'm over qualified for most of the positions open in the area where I live, so I continue the search.
I'm glad SparkPeople started a team for folks that are laid off or unemployed since we all have that additional emotional and economic stress to cope with. This is my second layoff in less than two years--two entirely different positions. One was as a Publications Specialist doing graphic design and desk top publishing. The second position as Customer Service Representative/Estimator for a university in-plant printer. The second position represented a significant reduction in income, but it was suppose to be one of those 'bridge' positions until something in my field came along again.
Now I'm scouring the job listing sites for anything from secretarial work to graphic design. I know pretty much for certain, I'll be taking another cut in income with any of the positions for which I'm applying. It is discouraging but I'm really hopeful that I find a position before utter desperation sets in.
On the bright side, I've lost 15 pounds since losing my job. As others have mentioned here, I am cooking at home again. Of course budget is a primary concern, but being out of work means I have more time at home to actually prepare a healthy meal. When I was working, I would be so exhausted at the end of the day, I'd stop and grab take out on the way home.
I also have time to exercise, though I'm fighting with myself to stay motivated. Although I've seen results from the 15-pound loss, in the last week, I've been balking when it comes to exercising. I don't know if I'm taking my frustration out on myself or what. It's very confusing for me.
Edited by: WARBLER1 at: 3/26/2009 (19:57)
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Posts: 53 3/25/09 5:09 P
Hi Team. I'm new and my name is Diana. I have been looking for a team like this and I am glad that I finally found it. I am not unemployed yet but I am about to lose my job on April 20th for the second time during my 5 year tenure with this large Fortune 100 company. I graduated from college in 2004 with a B.S. in Business with majors in International Business and Marketing. The first time I was laid off from the company I was an intern and offered no benefits. This time they are reducing the global strategy team and gave me until my date to look and then they are not liable for me... meaning probably no severance. Needless to say, I am ok with it this time since I do not agree with the way this company treats its largest asset (or maybe not since they don't see it that way). I am looking but am becoming disheartened by all the scammers out there looking to take advantage of people with "marketing" on their resume.
One thing I am looking forward to if I do go unemployed is the extra time I will have for myself in the gym to clear my head.
I wish us all luck and to remind everyone that 92% of the population is still employed.
HOPE - Helping Other People Excel
current weight: 161.0
Posts: 10 3/20/09 4:32 P
Good, just wanted to make sure.
current weight: 172.0
Posts: 760 3/20/09 1:57 P
Already did the math and at my age, there isn't much of a reduction and at least it is income.
Posts: 10 3/19/09 7:54 P
If you start drawing social security before full retirement age there is a permanent reduction in your benefits. If you wait until you are past full retirement age you will get a larger benefit. Full retirement age is based on your birthday and the later you were born the older full retirement age is. The tables are on http://www.socialsecurity.gov/retire2/agereduction.htm http://www.socialsecurity.gov/retire2/delayret.htm
current weight: 172.0
Posts: 22,093 3/19/09 3:02 P
Whew, Lisa...thx goodness for the severence, at least...so many haven't even THAT luxury...if that's what you want to call it...!
Perhaps reinventing yourself with a private endeavor of your own might be worth exploring...?
Co-Team Leader for All Health Pros, Binghamton Area Losers & Laid Off But Staying Strong SparkTeams
Don't die with your music still in you. -- Dr. Wayne Dyer
"We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." --- Carlos Castaneda
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." --- Buddha
Please explain. In Ohio, there is no reduced benefit for either benefit.
Posts: 10 3/19/09 1:59 P
Is the reduced benefit going to be enough?
current weight: 172.0
Posts: 760 3/19/09 12:30 P
You might just want to start up your own business, especially if you have contacts.
I filed for Social Security yesterday since there is nothing on the horizon for this 64 yr. old. Can collect both unemployment and SS in my state.
Posts: 10 3/19/09 12:02 P
I was laid off in Feb from my Insurance Wholesaling position. It was a big surprise; we didn't think any of the cuts were coming from our department. I'm looking for a new job and trying to make up my mind and/or get the determination together to start my own business doing the same thing I was doing, just for myself. I'm currently waffling on the decision. I am grateful that I get severance and have some breathing room. I've finished the CLU and am studying for the series 7 as well.
current weight: 172.0
Posts: 760 3/12/09 11:39 P
Found out what was happening with the unemployment benefits that is in the Stimulus Pkg. Went to our governor's web page and all I wanted to know he had posted there. Ohio will see the additional benefits once the computers are set up for it and the xtra $25 per week will be retroactive to the week of the bill signing.
Posts: 656 3/12/09 11:29 P
found a pretty good site today.www.rezume.com
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