I'm far from my goal weight but I find that silky lingerie and slinky tops make me feel more sexy - it helps to give up on the concept of a 'perfect body' because there isn't any such thing. I personally am quite a bit overweight still but have learned to love my body because it functions well [mostly] and gets me around. Maybe I'm just too old for any other criteria but I finally realized that the outside is not what makes a person attractive, it's the inside - a lot of sexy, attractive women do not have perfect bodies - they just have the attitude.
Congrats on your progress and good luck with your self-acceptance!
Lynda in Orange County, So Calif
God Grant me Serenity to Accept the things I cannot change, Courage to Change the things I can and Wisdom to Know the difference!
Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. -- John Wooden
"Winners are not those who never fail, but those who never quit."
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Fitness Minutes: (490) Posts: 17 10/10/12 8:26 P
I can relate! My belly is my biggest issue!!! I have an unsightly sag of skin that reminds me of how far I've come, but prevents me from feeling like I can ever undo what was once done. It's not enough to make me give up--I'll never give up on myself--but will I ever be happy with MY best? I'm not sure. Sometimes I debate about losing any more weight because I'm afraid the skin will get even more saggy. I am in the healthy weight range now, but not at my goal. I'm currently squeezing into a size 6, I'm 5'9", but mostly wear size 8 stuff. My goal is to be confortable in a size 6, so I'm getting there. Yay! Not sure why I am so uncomfortable with my body suddenly. I had more self-esteem wearing a size 20 then I do now! How messed up is that!? I feel like my relatively minor imperfections (in comparison to the old me) are mocking me every time I look in the mirror.I refuse to have my tummy tucked because I really don't have time for a proper recovery and I can't see spending our hard-earned savings on my own vanity. I am trying to be positive, really am. I am proud of myself (and all of you that have worked so hard!!!) I just wish I felt comfortable in my own (saggy) skin again. : (
Oh my girl!!! First i dont know how much you lost and how much you weighted to begin with BUT congrats cause that is always hard to do..! also and if your young its much easier.. But i do understand some what,. I lost a lot of weight and i felt awesome.. and i could almost wear what i wanted.. i was happy.. even thou it was hard to keep it off and mantain the attitude.. and keep eating better.. i gained not a lot but i am still happy but not with my stomach.. and some loosing of my skin.. but hey.. we cant be perfect! There is different ways of looking at this and yourself.. you need to love oyurself from the inside.. and be happy you lost and you can do a lot. and wear a lot too..!! love to see pics.. cause i bet you look awesome! and remember we look and see all the negative.. start seeing all the positive!!!
loving myself as i am beautiful inside and out!!! Think positive .. you can do it!!!..... i do care.��Life is not easy for any of us, but what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves.� � Don't give up we all can do this!! Lost 110 pounds so far! i am loving it! I am now exercising 50 mins a day working up to 60 ! Keeping active is so important! classylady~Geri
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Fitness Minutes: (490) Posts: 17 10/10/12 4:13 P
I've spent my entire adult life at the same weight--not a good one--but I felt comfortable in my own skin. I started my weight loss journey in October 2011...sort of by accident. I started walking to combat the stress of raising four crazy kids while enrolled in college full time (better late than never, right!? And isn't it amazing what a fast-paced walk with an ipod can do for your mental state! Who knew?) Anyway, I started to not want that 4th or 5th slice of pizza (who has time to cook!?) because I'd lose my feel-good "high" from all the sweating I did that day. Fast forward 6 months....and I'm creating 100% vegetarian meals from scratch for my family daily. (Yup, I finished school. Yay for free time!) Fast forward 6 more months...I'm swapping clothes with my 8th grade daugher & friends and have happily given up my cozy reading area in my bedroom for a home gym. Today I am 60 pounds lighter. I wear skinny jeans & am even sporting a tattoo! (Ok, three tattoos.) Sounds like a success story, right? (And in some ways it is.) But I'm more unhappy with my body than I have ever been!!! I see the flaws so clearly now. To be honest, there are a lot of them. The realization that some of the damage I've done to my body has left its scars was a tough pill to swallow. I'm trying to remain positive during these last 14 pounds, but it's hard. I thought losing weight would make me happy & give me the body I've always wanted. Well, here I am...at a healthy weight for the first time in my adult life & I'm still just me. Where's the sexy, confident woman I thought I'd find under all those fat rolls!? Looking for someone to normalize my feelings! Please!?
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