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SHERLE & JAQ - such an enjoyable "read." You are truly amazing SHERLE with your positive attitude, your no nonsense look at life and your interest in people who will give back and not just "take from."
To know you is to love you and anyone lucky enough to be your friend has great wealth.
Yes, it is natural to cry when you remember a loved one who is gone. You give yourself permission to "be" to "enjoy" to "like your own company" to "be comfortable in your own skin" and you can joke and give others a reason to "smile."
Thank you both for this look into the life of someone who knows who she is and is happy with that person.

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2/4/08 4:01 A

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Sherle, I have to agree with Jackie...you are a comfortable friend and have dealt with life with so much wisdom and a wonderful sense of humor which comes through in every thing you say.

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2/3/08 7:34 A

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Shirle, it is so nice to meet you! We started this chat team about a month apart and can be considered "old timers" -- I guess in more ways than one :)

We are constantly adding new people in our lives however, I find, women protect "who they really are." In Sparks we seem to be able to anonymously become ourselves, and Jaq's interviews reinforce -- gone is the cover; we are bare and revealed. However, I don't think you ever carried much cover -- and I always liked you. No frills and fluff. Just the important stuff. emoticon Jackie

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1/31/08 11:37 P

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Well, Sherle, I have learned nothing......I knew you were a great woman the first few posts you made with us, and none of this changes my mind. You are so funny, and can make me laugh with only a few words spoken. Your sincerity, love, graciousness, all were there the first post. I have laughed and cried at your blogs. You made me think! Not an easy thing to do.

You are beautiful, dammit! and you made us say it about ourselves too! You have made me feel like a somebody, too, did you know that?

I just took a trip down memory lane with you Sherle..I went back to your first posts with us, your sense of humor showed in your very first line. Yup, I knew you were a keeper!



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1/31/08 11:58 A

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Thanks for your kind words ladies!!! even though i'm 'comfortable in my own skin' - i'd be even more comfortable in it if there was perhaps a little less! emoticon

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1/30/08 11:51 P

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Sherle i like you also cause you are right you are a very nice person..
i will cry with you on Franks birthday .. is it the end of Jan or Feb.
even though we can strangle them sometimes we do still miss them when they are gone... mine is 3 hrs away from Edmonton right now and i miss him although i would have liked to strangle him yesterday ..lol
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1/30/08 11:10 P

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Wow! is right !!! Marie stole my thunder by saying it so perfectly. I was thinking, "Sherle is one of the most grown-up grownups I've known." "Fits [beautifully] in her own skin," as Marie said. Sherle, you exude wisdom and psychological health. A good model for many of us. Thank you sharing with us in this interview.

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Wow! wow! wow!

What a gift you have Jaq, and just reading the whole interview twice, I think I've finally met someone who fits in her own skin Sherle. None of us walk through life without ups and downs, but you seem to have found 'the balance'; to like yourself and certainly to encourage other people to like you. What a delightful personality you are. Thank you both.

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INTERVIEW WITH SHERLE PART III -

Jacqui: SHERLE, we know you have had projects to complete and have a yard on or near the river. What are your favorite activities now?

Sherle:
Our area has several interesting places to walk and take photos. I enjoy gardening and other yard work in warm weather and the house project is still keeping me busy. I have fabric to begin a few home decorating projects but am currently becoming reacquainted with my sewing machine.

Jacqui: Do you have any physical limitations?

Sherle:
Nope... not any more! I have a new pair of knees and can walk again without pain... just had cataracts removed and can see better than ever! My biggest limitation is my brain. Seems I need it to push me a little harder to get more exercise.

Jacqui: Our love affair with food is one of the factors that brought us to Sparks. What is your favorite food?

Sherle:
mmmm... fried chicken and seafood, spaghetti and meat sauce, pizza and once in a while a really good burger! I could almost live without sweets if it weren't for chocolate. No, I don't eat like that on a regular basis. When the husband was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, we met with a registered dietician to learn a heart healthy diet. I learned to cook low fat foods and it's been my way of life for many years already.

Jacqui: My DH favorite food is Fried Chicken also..Probably half of America loves that one..How would you describe yourself?

Sherle:
Oh, I don't know... satisfied, easy to get along with, excitable, tenacious, not the dumbest rock in the box, and a bit cynical.

Jacqui: We love the description and agree in a loving way. What do you consider your greatest strengths? Why?

Sherle:
I think I'm rather strong-willed. I refuse to allow incidents and situations get me down. I do this by consciously trying to find an optimistic reason for things over which I have no control.

Jacqui: Your optimism is a shining beam in your post. What do you consider your greatest Weakness? Why?

Sherle:
Procrastination. I like to say I do my best work that way because there's no time to change my mind but I really think I'm just lazy. Besides, it's surprising how many things we think we have to do that, when put off for awhile, really don't have to be done!

Jacqui: In what areas are you trying to improve yourself?

Sherle:
This is the year I will stop talking and start doing... no matter what it is. I am also trying to find new interests and especially the courage to go places alone and meet new people.

Jacqui: OUCH, Procrastination has become a trait of so many of us. It is not as good a companion as we hoped..Whom would you like to meet and have a conversation with? ...sit and listen to? ...party with?

Sherle:
You know, I'm not really impressed by power and greatness and all that so I can answer all three of those questions with one simple answer. I enjoy spending my time with people who do not try to impress others... people who are not always 'on' but are only interested in pleasant two-way conversation about just about anything.

Jacqui: Well, we have enjoyed meeting you.. and we would love to sit by your river and talk..we will even let you take some goofy pix of us.
Where would you like to go and spend a month? Why? What would you do?

Sherle: Nowhere. I don't like being away from home for more than a week. Ten days is even a bit too long.

Jacqui: OK, If we ever get a "GET TOGETHER" we will keep it under 10 days..LOL..
In general, how do you feel about yourself?

Sherle:
I like me! I'm a nice person...

Jacqui: If there is something you would change about yourself, what would it be? Why?

Sherle:
I'm working on it... I want to lose a few pounds... not necessarily down to the official correct weight for me, but a few. Mostly I just want to maintain my physical health and my healthy attitude.

Jacqui: What aspects of your life are you most happy? ...least happy?

Sherle:
My life is good... does that make me happy? I still miss Frank. I will always miss him. I will probably cry on his birthday... the end of this month. That isn't unhappy, is it? Isn't that just sort of... natural?

Jacqui: No, you are not ever coming across to us as unhappy. Your positive out look is always shinning. You are not a whiner or complainer..
What self- improvement plans do you have? How does Sparks assist this?

Sherle:
Since weight loss is the center of my lifestyle improvement plan, Spark People fits right in. I joined for the recipe calculation tools and ease in calculating my daily calorie intake. I stayed because of the people support, especially people like you who have the experience, the knowledge, advice and encouragement that I need to be successful in this important phase of my life.

Jacqui:
If you could buy anything in the world, or out of the world for yourself, what would it be? Why?

Sherle:
I think I would buy unlimited time. Time is one of our most valuable possessions... most taken for granted... and most wasted.

Thanks SHERLE. Another glimpse at a great Sparkler..

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1/29/08 9:31 P

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it is always so lovely to hear of a good marriage. they are rare and when husband and wife are best friends that is so wonderful... i loved reading your story .. sorry it took so long . and now i can't wait till the next chapter... it must have been so very hard to loose Frank just before your anniversary .. i know it would have been hard any time .. we just don't want to have them go and when we see them suffer.. well that will be very hard to take.. i am so glad you are doing fine and have such a nice family and good friends to you ... i love getting together with my kids. and grandkids... they are the love of my life...
hugs fr donna
and thanks for taking the time to do this for us Jaq and Sherle
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Hi, I know I haven't commented on either of the interviews with my friends, but these interviews make me realize why I love these 2 ladies so much and I long for a chance to meet in person, but believe we have met in the heart. Jaq, thank you so much for allowing us to have a glimpse in the lives of Sheryle and Carol ...you do an amazing job of bringing out the things we all need to know about those who are here. I never dreamed I would find friends when I signed into SparkPeople...not only are we friends, but sisters of the heart.

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Ya'll are just awesome. Sometimes when I come in here and read the things that come from your hearts, I feel almost as though I've been to church. I can't think of anything I could possibly want more than to meet all of you.

I know that every life has some problems and some joys and it really does bring people together to hear more about each other, and sometimes helps some of our own hearts heal, when we read about others who have gone through heartaches similar. Thank all of you for being lovely people.

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CAROL... a song in your heart is a great beginning to healing the heart! i must agree - i hope we get to meet all of the fantastic people we've met here in this special group.

LORI... thank you for your appreciation of my little story. i love Lake Michigan even more than the Saginaw Bay area and must have been a fish in a previous life... as i can't swim worth a darn but LOVE being on and around the water. I've seen the Pacific and the Atlantic Oceans but there is nothing as beautiful to me as our fabulous great lakes!!! Lake Orion is the only one i haven't stepped my toes into but i'm putting it on my 'bucket list.' lol

JEAN:)... i truly appreciate the sharing of your feelings and consequences of handling unexpected crises with loved ones. One of the most difficult things i can imagine is fear of losing a child or of any major physical difficulties for them. i also must remember that i am my mother's child... her firstborn..... and thank God He gave me an opportunity to reconcile with her, even though it took the loss of my best friend to get me there.

CAROL... i know it will sound flippant saying, 'all it takes is a good shrink.' but the fellow i talked with sure helped me! Funny, all he really did was push me in the direction i wanted to go anyway. i'm glad if i help you in any way... and attitude is important. Your experience with your mom helps me appreciate my mother. i thank God often that i've been given this opportunity to change my attitude toward her. She is a good woman who did the best with the opportunities and misfortunes she met along the way. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us also.

MOJO... your compassionate love of our fellow humanity shows in all you write. Thank you SO much for caring... and do not be sad. All that happens to us sort of cures us and helps us prepare for that which will follow..... don'tcha know?

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OK, everyone, please don't hold this against me, but I can't help having two songs go through my head as I ponder these interviews, and the other things we all share. They are: "Getting to know you, getting to feel free and easy ....." and "To know, know, know me, is to love, love, love me . . ." I find myself feeling such an affection for so many of you, that increases as I know you better and better. OK, I'm blushing now, but I hope some of you will feel the same way. (BTW, I'm much friendlier than I look in that profile picture. I hope to get a better one soon.)

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Sherle, What a fabulous recollection of your life. It was nice to be able to relate to the geographic locations as you told your story. The strength you've shown throughout your life to overcome so many things is awe inspiring. Thank you for sharing these precious memories with us.

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Another beautiful chapter. Thanks again for sharing. I spun out when my Mom died in 1978, and it took counseling and listening friends to pull me back to normal. Having been in the depths, I have worked hard to keep from re-visiting that place. Even when our son lost his leg, I prayed for my sanity and ability to cope -- should've prayed for DH's, too, but didn't realize his pain. I truly think you are a stronger person now and won't let life suck you back into the pits.♠

Like you, my best friend is my DH. I have a few lady friends, but actually am closer to my daughter Pam than to any of them.

I'm so happy your daughters are coming for a weekend of fun. How precious for all of you.

I'll carry you in my heart on Jan 30th and pray you'll find peace even on that day. You are remarkable.
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Dear SHERLE. I'm so glad you took the new doctor's advice to talk to someone. What makes me feel really good is at the end of this "chapter." The girls' scrapbooking weekend, and your newly-developing relationships with your sisters sound so wonderful. It seems to me you are making great decisions about how will live your life now, and exploring new possibilities. Nothing will ever be the same, and you will always miss your DH, but that doesn't mean life can't be pretty darn good. (Especially with you at the helm.)

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us in this interview. Your reminiscences about earlier family activities made me smile and also remember some good times my family had in similar ways. (Not every minute for me was awful, just as not every minute in a good marriage is not lovely.)

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DEAR JAQ & SHERLE,
What a wonderful story and how skilfully you ask the questions JAQ.

SHERLE,
I can FEEL the love and pain which are still so much a part of your memories of your dear husband. He is with you every day and I cannot even imagine my life without my Jim. He too is my soul-mate and sounds very much like your Frank. Projects start and never quite go to fruition but that is okay. I have his hand to hold for now. Every day we have is a blessing and I take NOTHING for granted. He is now 68 and I believe that was the age of your husband when you lost him so suddenly.
I really cried when I read the part about his sudden death and the lack of compassion you received from the medical people. You must have been living in some kind of unreality and your feet not feeling on the ground. How fortunate for you to have neighbours to care for and about you. You would be a joy to know. Through all your sadness you can still manage to bring so much joy and fun to the lives of others and to us here on Sparks. I am glad that you were able to talk through some of your feelings with a psychologist and reconnect with the world and your family/ It was not that long ago that you lost the love of your life and I know that many times must bring thoughts of him and tears might fall and that is okay. I am sure it hurts.
Your recollections of your life with Frank was told with such passion and sentiment and honesty and there was joy mingled with sadness, real feelings of what it takes to make a marriage work and that everything isn't always "a walk in the park." But you were blessed to have almost 50 years together and out of that 6 beautiful daughters with whom to share your life. You had an amazing adventure which came to an end far too soon.
God Bless you SHERLE and thank you for opening up the wounds of your heart and sharing this story with all of us. You really are a remarkable lady and I'm glad to know you. I will be thinking of you a lot on January 30th as I am sure many other will as well. Take care of YOU!

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PART II INTERVIEW WITH SHERLE

MARRIAGE AND FAMILY and Personal

Jacqui: Sherle, we know you were married and have a wonderful family of “girls”. When did you marry? Share a glimpse of your life with Frank.

Sherle:
Married at age 19; Frank was 20... it was the Thing To Do. Mom 'didn't have to worry about me anymore' - whatever that means! We wanted a small intimate wedding; Mom wanted a big Italian wedding (step dad was Italian). We had a big Italian wedding.

We were both raised to believe marriage is forever... and somehow we made it through until death parted us. Is there a perfect marriage? Does the 'Brady Bunch' family exist? Of course not! Two people with volatile personalities, we argued and loved and at times seemed to almost hate each other... but we made it through the tough child rearing years. We talked things out... sometimes quite loudly but we never hurt each other physically and any emotional wounds were not severe.

Both of us were dreamers and doers; both ahead of our time philosophically. Both of us enjoyed planning and started loads of projects. We tended to tire of the old and start something new. Unfortunately for me, his projects were the BIG ones... remodeling the same house over and over because he wanted stability - didn't want to move again. I guess I did too. He was a do-it-yourselfer so much so that 2-1/2 years after his death I am still hiring a carpenter to finish his projects.

We bought a shiny new 30-foot trailer to live in until we could afford a house. It had one bedroom... pretty much like any travel trailer you can buy today. Exactly nine months after the wedding I gave birth to our first child... a girl. It became crowded so quickly that we had to resort to renting a place while we saved more money for a down payment on a house.

I birthed 6 daughters but only had 5 pregnancies. We solved the middle child problem by having twins. By the time we moved into our own home and had five children I finally discovered what was causing all those pregnancies and then decided I wanted one more so my youngest could have her own sister buddy. Yes, after sneaky, leaky and the rhythm twins I finally planned my last child! (Is it okay to say that?)

Jacqui: Your fun and young attitude about life makes me think mother hood was a fun part of living. What was the most fun about raising your family?

Sherle:
We grew up together! Well, they had restrictions but we were young enough to remember being kids and knew when to give in a little. The girls will tell you a whole 'nuther story but that's MY story and I'm sticking to it!

I guess I didn't mention that when I started working the husband was working two jobs... daytime at the company and moonlighting construction work. Part of my motivation to work was to allow the kids to have two parents.

We were involved with Girl Scouts. I taught catechism because most of the moms teaching it didn't like the 'new' catechism being introduced at that time. I took them to Sunday Mass and my non-Catholic husband stayed home and cooked a big breakfast for us.

Summertime we went camping in a tent and soon found a well-used houseboat that we used in Saginaw Bay on weekends and annual summer adventures in the boat to East Tawas public docks. The girls loved fishing and swimming off the boat. As they grew older we moved the boat up to the Mackinac Bridge and after several attempts to cross the Straits of Mackinac Frank and two of the girls managed to cross the Straits to Lake Michigan without me! Once there we kept the boat in a dock at a small public marina in Elk Rapids, just north of Traverse City. There we spent many weekends going to Marian Island, which was public at the time, and to a small beach where we loved to search for Petoskey stones and we could always find new ones after a good storm.

All six of the girls played musical instruments so we attended lots of concerts and when the oldest were able to drive, we enjoyed many musicals where they loved to perform in the pit band at a local community theater. During their formative years we had season tickets for the whole family and we enjoyed the Symphony Orchestra together.

Jacqui: We know you are entering the anniversary of Frank’s death. The experience is traumatizing, the results a new beginning when we are so comfortable in our lives as they exist. How has this effected your life?

Sherle:
Frank died suddenly and unexpectedly in August 2005 less than a month before our fiftieth wedding anniversary. He had a pacemaker in his chest, a successful triple bypass surgery, and had congestive heart failure. When I finally got a doctor to sign his death certificate it said he died of congestive heart failure, but I'm not so sure that's correct. It would take too long to tell you why.

Frank's death was the most traumatic event in my life. Not only was the entire hospital part of the experience surreal but also afterwards I didn't even have a doctor to talk to. When I phoned for an appointment I learned she had moved on to the local VA hospital. By the time I found another doctor months later, I was an itching basket case with a serious case of shingles! The new doc said I really NEEDED to talk to somebody and so I did. The psychologist and I got me through it. Before that year was over I literally fell on my face twice. The first time I only broke my foot. I was thankful my shiny new knees were not damaged... can you imagine?

The second time I stumbled over a big pavement marker in the San Diego Zoo parking lot - after a delightful week in Hawaii with my youngest daughter and her dear friend. Frosting on that cake was a horrible sore throat that I developed on the plane and kept for ten days! I still swear it is the reason I ended up with what a specialist diagnosed as Barrett's Esophagus. So much for 2006! I set new goals for 2007 and even better ones for 2008. So far, so good.

Jacqui:
Who were your best friends? Where are they now? What is your longest friendship?

Sherle:
Frank was my best friend. We were soul mates. I've never thought much of friends as a quantity thing but as a quality thing. We had loads of friends/acquaintances over the years, based on interests and what was going on at the time.

Outside of family I must say my best friend and longest friendship is my neighbor. She welcomed me when we moved here. Although we went our separate ways during our 'growing up' years, when Frank died Jacquie was there for me. She and her husband are both my best friends. They don't want me to sell my house and move away and he does 'guy things' for me like trapping the critters that like to make a home under my garage and plowing snow from my driveway.

Jacqui: How are you involved with your family now?

Sherle:
The girls and I are having a girls' scrap booking weekend next month. Hopefully a couple of granddaughters will be able to be here too.

My mother moved in with my brother and his wife about a year before my husband died so they have pretty much taken on responsibility for her. I visit her when she's home alone. We all get together at their house for dinner occasionally and it's become a new Christmas Day tradition for me since living alone. My sisters and I are getting reacquainted and we've begun enjoying new times together.


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JAQ AND SHERLE what a pleasure to read these life story's .. i agree with everyone it is fantastic to be able to get to know everyone's history .. this way .. thanks for taking the time to do this... i am really apriciating the time that everyone is taking and enjoying the posts... and reading Sherle's life reminds me so much of my school days with the nun's too... looking forward to the next chapters... hugs fr donna emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Omigosh!!! So many nice comments! ...and here i am, finally checking in!

MARIE - isn't it strange? No matter how different we are the similarities predominate somehow, don't they?

CAROL - after your wonderful interview i was really surprised when JAQ asked me.

MOJO - JAQ is a talented interviewer... or as i like to say, 'She done good!'

ARLENE - I hope by getting to know me it doesn't scare you off! I enjoyed doing the interview.

GINNA - yes... nuns didn't change much back then. They have now though! Matter of fact one of my dear friends is a nun and no, i didn't meet her in church.

JEAN:) - i'm so glad you like my story. JAQ is good, isn't she? She got me thinking about things i hadn't thought about for years. It's a GOOD thing.

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Wow!! Another young'un born in 1936 -- nice going. Me, too. I love your life story. I feel like I know you better now. Thanks so much for sharing. I look forward to learning more about the real you. I guess you are glad your Mom was able to keep you even though your relationship with her was not always smooth.

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Thanks again. You do ask the questions a wonderful friend would ask.
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I loved the interview. I was behind you in school, Sherle, but in my backwoods, things were much the same several years later. I didn't encounter nuns until boarding school, but your restrictions on clothing were much the same. You had an interesting childhood. I can see why your posts are such fun for us to read. Your sense of humor really comes through.

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Good job Jaq and Sherle. Sherle I don't really know you, but in reading your posts, I have gotten a chuckle or two out of your sense of humor. Thanks for sharing with us. emoticon emoticon

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WOW Jaq and Sherle, another fabulous interview with wonderful revelations of the "life of Sherle." I agree that this is a terrific way of getting to know the members of this TEAM and a super way of presenting the information via an interview.
Sherle, you do possess wit and sarcasm and would fit into our family just fine especially during our family boardgames. You and I could have been high school friends. I loved Latin and English and went on to teach both.
I am looking forward to the next chapters of your life. Very interesting and no wonder your school story was written into a play.
Thank you both for sharing this with us all.

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SHERLE, wonderful interview. I can't wait for the next "chapter." I surely can tell you were always a voracious reader by the way you express yourself. I get the feeling you were and are a champion over-comer. I, too, love your wit and compassion. Thank you for doing this interview. And, again, JAQ thank you for this terrific idea.

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Another great interview. It's nice to be able to read hear others tell about their lives and find differences or similarities along the journey of life. Looking forward to more!!!

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Jacqui:
SHERLE, I love your ability to combine wit and compassion into your post. I always smile when I read your post and come away enlightened. You are cynical but in a delightful way, talented as an artist, again with a whimsical and upbeat subject. You appear so comfortable in your own skin. So tell us where you begin your life, and with whom.

Sherle:
I was born in Midland, Michigan March 11, 1936. We were living with my mother's older sister at the time. There was no hospital in Midland and I was born in my Aunt Ruth's house.

I have one brother and three sisters. I'm the oldest child. My brother Don is two years younger. My parents had a volatile marriage. My father was an alcoholic and they separated several times before mom finally gave up and divorced him. I actually don't remember much about those younger years because we moved frequently, sometimes living with somebody and sometimes in yet another house or apartment. Each reunion between my parents involved a new sibling. My sister Gerry (Geraldine) is six years younger (1942) and sister Barbara was born three years later (1945).

Mom went through more than a year of canonical bureaucracy so she could have her marriage to my father annulled by the Catholic Church. I guess this means my first three siblings and I are technically 'bastards' then, eh? Mom married my stepfather in 1950. For the first time in my young life, we had a stable home. My sister Susan was born in 1957. Mom and I were pregnant at the same time, she with her fifth and final child and I with my second... and no, it's not fun being pregnant concurrently with the grandmother of your children.

I don't remember much of my youngest years. There were so many different places we lived, mean babysitters, a few nice ones. Don & I lived with Aunt Fleda out in the country for a while. She was my father's sister so mom didn't like her. Aunt Fleda took in 'strays' from her other brother's family as well, and she referred to the other girl and me as her girls. I learned later that she had attempted to have my mother declared unfit so she could keep us and raise us. Mom was not unfit, just in a bad marriage!

Jacqui:
What did your parents do for a living?

Sherle:
Mom worked in a factory during WWII, literally a 'Rosie the Riveter.' She wore blue work pants and a blue hairnet with a visor to work. When the war was over she found work as a waitress. She still worked as a waitress well into her 60's. Funny story. She actually saved her tips all those years, using them only for leisure activities. She loved gambling at the casinos, visiting Vegas in the older days and is in her glory at the local ones to this day.

My father was a carpenter. I remember he worked for the WPA during the war. My dad (stepfather) was in the army during the war, met my mother after it was over when he came home. He worked for the City Public Works Department.

Jacqui:
What was your role in the family?

Sherle:
I was my mother's confidant, scapegoat, whipping boy, maid and cook... not all at the same time but as her mood and needs suited her. Whenever she was angry with me I was 'just like my father', and other times she wasted no words in letting me know what a rotten good for nothing he was.

Jacqui:
Yikes, another frustrated mom and spiked-up daddy.
What were your early school years like?

Sherle:
My mother didn't scold me for not doing homework or poor grades. My fourth grade teacher was married to an optometrist. She decided I probably needed glasses after she moved to the front of the class and my grades improved. It's the one time I remember my mom coming to my school. I started wearing glasses and was amazed at what I'd been missing all those early years!

Jacqui:
What were your favorite subjects? Your least favorite subjects?

Sherle:
Gosh, I always enjoyed reading. I read everything I could get my hands on. I liked English class; didn't even have to study to get A's... and by the time I was in high school, I added Latin to my favorites. Okay, so I could have answered that one with two words - language skills. I also enjoyed art classes especially after I found out that not everybody is good at drawing.

Subjects I disliked math and science. I remember getting a C in first year algebra but an A in Algebra 2. Don't know why... I didn't try any harder. As an adult I got an A in Biology 101 without ever having to dissect creatures myself. I provided the cutting tools and my lab partner did the cutting. Second semester, when I learned the final was a one on one oral exam with the teacher, I memorized every bone in the human body a couple of days prior to the exam and aced it!!! Today I can't tell you which is the tibia and which is the fibula... but I can still spell them.

Jacqui:
In spite of a troublesome beginning, you developed wit and a positive outlook.

What is one of your fondest memories as a child?

Sherle:
I wrote a story and the teacher liked it so much we did a play using my story. I was the lead. It was a story about a little boy who wanted a pony.

Jacqui:
That does not surprise me. Your expression in Sparks post make me smile and entertain us all.
Who inspired you as a child?

Sherle:
My first 'favorite grownup' was Mrs. Kolch, the teacher who sent me to get my first pair of glasses. She was so smart and so pretty I wanted to be like her.

Within the family my inspiration was Aunt Ruth. She was who she was. There is no other way to say it. My maternal grandmother died when mom was fifteen and I think Aunt Ruth became the grandmother surrogate in our lives. She lived on a five-acre property; she and Uncle Art gardened the whole thing. She attended Mass every day. She was not a 'church lady' even though she spent many hours weekly caring for the altar, providing flowers, laying out vestments and ironing linens. She was a fantastic cook and we frequently dined at her house along with the priests and even the Monsignor.

I learned from Aunt Ruth to be true to myself and everything else will be okay.

Jacqui:
What were your teen years like?
Was high school fun for you? What fads were you and your friends into?

Sherle:
Whatever... I had a few friends. I attended Catholic school from grade six through twelve and my neighborhood friends did not, so I had to make friends with a couple of girls in school. It wasn't easy because I attended so many schools prior to then. It was really difficult to make friends as a shy myopic kid and the shyness didn't really go away once I could see.

We did not wear uniforms at our school. I do not, however, recall ever seeing a poodle skirt there. We wore saddle shoes and slim skirts were popular. A girdle was essential with those skirts, no matter how skinny we were and believe it or not, kids called me Beanpole! I'll never forget my embarrassment when one of the nuns told me I could never wear my favorite white sweater to school. Apparently my little 'fried eggs' showed up in front.

Yes I had a crinoline but they weren't all that popular at my school. Sweater sets were though, and cashmere was the preferred knit. Thanks to the relatively new invention of Orlon, the girls couldn't tell my sweaters were not cashmere. Either that or they were too kind to mention it.

Jacqui:
Did you date much? Go to the prom?

Sherle:
I worked in a restaurant from the age of 14. My dad's aunt owned it and my mom worked there, so I convinced her to hire me. I enjoyed working there and it compensated for my meager dating experience.

I had a couple... well, a few boyfriends during high school. None were from my school. The one my dad approved of was the biggest dork! He was the only one my dad would allow me alone in a room with. His saving grace? He taught me how to drive with his dad's nice new car! I found out one guy was married...okay, enough! I could tell stories about those losers! Even though I didn't go to the prom I was not scarred for life.


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