Hi! It sounds like you have a great short term motivator with the visit. I think the key is not to expect to look like a supermodel before then. Worry less about how much weight you might be able to lose and focus on how much more you'll be able to enjoy the visit if you're in better shape. Wouldn't it be nice to not get winded if your son wants to take you on a walking tour of his neighborhood or town? What other activities might he have planned? Wouldn't it be great to have enough energy to enjoy them? Get ready by eating a little less junk, a little more fruits and vegetables and getting 10 minutes of physical activity into each day. Don't try to diet your way into a happy visit. It will be great to see your son, whatever you weigh. And if you happen to be carrying around a few less pounds, then that's a bonus.
I agree with the others that nobody is looking at you funny at the gym. They're all too busy with their own workouts (and self-conscious about how they look) to pay attention to you. But if you really can't stop worrying about it, then don't go to the gym. Go for a 30 minute walk outside. Do a strength training video here on Spark. Walk up and down the steps of your house 5 times in a row, 3 times a day. March in place while watching TV. The key is just to get moving.
Also, I'm sure your husband loves you because you're a wonderful person who helped him raise two wonderful children. Don't believe me? Ask him. You can make it a Valentine's Day thing. Tell him what you love about him and tell him that you've been feeling down and it would help to know what he loves about you. If you're really not comfortable asking, then pay attention to what he does. A lot of men don't like to talk about their feelings, but they often show their love through actions. Does he hand you a cup of coffee at a certain time of day? That means that he likes the routine of your days together and he's happy to start/end each day with you. Does he fill your car with gas when you have somewhere special to go? That means good luck, be safe and he'll miss you. Couples tend to take each other for granted after a while, assuming that feelings are known, but sometimes you need express them or look for them to remind you.
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Hi Five, A motivated person can succeed with Spark! Don't be shy about going to the gym. I've been heavy at the gym and I've been thin at the gym and the only real difference is how I am feeling about myself. I am past worrying about what anyone else thinks because I am there for me, not them. But if you are that self conscious try hitting your fitness center between 10am and 3pm or after 8pm when the traffic is the lightest. By 10am all the chipped mommies and just got off duty cops are gone. Gym traffic doesn't really pick up again until after 3pm with the influx of the high schoolers. Traffic drops off again after 8pm when the after work rush is all but over. If those times don't work for you just keep in mind that you paid for your membership and deserve to use it!
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FiveAlive, people are cheering you on when they see you exercise. They are all at the gym for the same reason you are. Keep being aware of your diet and exercise, that is where you have to focus. Do no be concerned with anything else. Come to Spark for inspiration and the tools you need to motivate and educate yourself. Everyday wake again and make that commitment to yourself. YOUR LIFE depends on it!
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Hello, I'm almost 57, weigh 250 lbs. I have a wonderful husband who loves me, don't know why, 2 great kids, one in college, one in the army. I've been overweight ALL my life. Have joined WW 50 times, tried Richard Simmons, read Dr Phil, I've tried it all. With all my attempts, I am successful in the beginning, then for some reason, sabotage myself. I've been a member of Spark People for years. I read the articles, some of the messages, have exercise tapes. I have good intentions, but never follow thru. Early June we're planning a trip to Colorado to visit our son. My husband and I both started diets and exercising to lose weight before the trip. He has been successful, I'm not . I joined the local gym, would go only 2-3 times a week. I don't like going cause I feel people are looking at me. (excuse) I have many health issues associated with being overweight. A couple months ago I found out I have type 2 diabetes. Even THAT hasn't made me want to take care of myself. I don't know what to do, how to get started and stick to it, I feel lost. I need help.
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