I am glad to know everyone. Stephanie, your trip to Italy sounds like a wonderful time, and a great focus for your desire to be healthier. Your comment makes me think of a neat real-life example. I have a really good friend, who in turn had a good friend who lived in another state. My friend's friend was planning a walking trip through Scotland and England. The friend's friend was about 150 or more pounds overweight. My friend lovingly pointed to her friend that she would be very challenged to enjoy her trip, with that much walking, at her weight. Something clicked with this woman, and she began following serious weight loss and exercise plan of her own design. She ended up losing a great deal of weight in the 9 months before going to England, and lost all of the rest of her weight. I have since gotten a chance to meet my friend's friend, and she looks and feels wonderful. She actually met a neat man and she is now happily married after leaving an unhappy marriage of many years. She is a real-life inspiring example of what a person can do when they really make up their mind. You have some months ahead and you can use this time to get as healthy and fit as possible so your can enjoy your trip to the fullest. We will all work together to figure out how we can get our heads in the right place. That's what I need to do, at least. I have had the focus and the willpower in the past, but am having trouble getting it now and holding on to it. I need to, because I have 150 to 170 pounds to lose and I feel absolutely miserable. You would think that that, alone, would provide the motivation, but it doesn't.
I think what elle said, about finding out what's really important, is a key. I can see that I focus on the "short-term" important thing, satisfying myself in the moment, but am neglecting to define for myself what's really important.
Wow, pipermarie, your pointing out all that you have given up strikes a chord with me. I have a family wedding in Florida next May, which I probably can't afford to go to anyhow, but I already thought to myself that I'm not flying (which I love) at this weight. I would have to wedge myself into a seat and would overlap dramatically on the people next to me. It would be nice to be able to fly, given the chance, without being embarrassed and miserable in the process. The last time I flew I was thinner than now, and I still had to ask for a seatbelt extender. Lost self-respect for sure.
So, what is the most important aspect of life for me to reclaim? As I sit here and think about it, I believe it is my belief in myself--that I can lose this weight if I set my mind to it. I think that I have become discouraged and haven't been seriously been trying because it seems like too big of a task. So, as my first step here, I'm going to work on ways that I can bolster my belief and vision.
Where are all of you in this process? Do you believe you can do this? If not, we have to work together to get ourselves into that place? Comments or ideas anyone? Sue Ellen
Edited by: SUEELLEN317 at: 9/30/2010 (22:25)