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3/26/13 7:17 P

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emoticon Weightliss and Iam_His! I have four kids, 2 girls and 2 boys ages 12 to just turned 18.

Iam_His, I'd have a serious talk with the hubby. It sounds like some, if not a lot, of the problems stem from him not backing you. Maybe some couple counseling and then family counseling?
I wish I had more advice for you, but I don't have any experience with this one. Sorry.

Hang in there. I wish I could do more, but I can give you some emoticon .

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3/22/13 12:02 P

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Welcome Weightliss--glad you joined us. emoticon emoticon

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3/22/13 11:56 A

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Hi there and welcome to you also Weightliss....glad to have you join us

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3/22/13 11:52 A

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Congratulations! You have a teenage daughter! I am new here too and joined this group for similar reasons. The tone of voice thing really gets to me too. Knowing that it is common helps me feel better, but it does not make it OK, so it is definitely a work in progress. I agree with the other post, MOST IMPORTANT******You and hubby have to be on the same page. This is the most crucial! And then follow through with whatever you two decide together.

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3/22/13 11:48 A

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I would then say have first a conversation with hubby this is vital...he sounds disrespectful himself and you don't deserve that from either of them....they both need to be set straight...He absolutely needs to start backing you and you him when it come to discipline or it just won't work....keep at it with her...keep showing her love and support...let her know you will not give up on her....and keep coming here and to family and friends for continued support....good luck to you sweetie

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3/22/13 11:43 A

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You hit the nail on the head. My husband's only concern is that our daughter likes him more than anyone else. He does NOT back me up and he does feel bad about saying something critical about me in front of her. She speaks to me in a tone of voice that says, "I can't stand you".

I try to show affection towards her and she pushes me away most of the time. She tells that I am NOT to tell her teachers the truth about why she did not hand in her homework. Because her teacher tell her that they do not like her lying to them. Instead of feeling bad about being a liar, she only sees me as being against her.

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3/22/13 11:31 A

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Hello and welcome to the team....I have a question for you are you and your hubby on the same page when it comes to the kids....if not that's a problem....Hubby needs to stand by what you say if that's not that case...you need to demand respect....I'm going to tell you something that I finally figured out that worked for me because taking their things away just didn't work anymore....but when I started deducting money from their allowance it changed their whole attitudes towards me....they are more respectful...they don't pout as much and they are still a work in progress but this I find is working they don't like me messing with their money....I'm not sure if your kids get allowance but it's worth a shot....because I'm sure you've already tried talking and explaining how disrespectful and hurtful she is towards you....I'm sure you've tried taking things away if not I would suggest those things as well.....let us know...and you and hubby need to agree on every related to discipline with the kids or they will play you one against another

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3/22/13 11:14 A

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I am new and really need help! My 12 year old daughter blames me for everything. She does not take responsibility for her actions--she blames me for many things. And she loves her dad, he NEVER DOES ANYTHING WRONG.

Today I am crying because of her hurtful words and actions towards me. I so need help---she always bad talks to me and uses a tone of voice that communicates she has no respect for me.

I am the only parent who makes her accountable for her actions. So she dislikes me and shows it often emoticon

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