New to this group - I have a 14 yr old and a 9 yr old, both boys. And while the 14 yr old can be affectionate, his standard behavior these days is to find some corner of the house by himself and ignore us all. Which is kinda frustrating and kinda sad, but I keep trying to remember this is normal, he's got to separate from us.
Also, read this great quote a few weeks ago (and can't find it!), but the idea was - Raising kids is like building a boat in your basement. It should be floating on the water when it's done, if it's still in the basement you've done it wrong. (not to cast aspersions on parents with adult kids living with them - it's just the concept rang true with me).
I do try to meet him where he's at - occasionally he wants to tell me about some great new video game he's discovered, and I try to stop whatever "important" stuff I'm doing and focus in on showing interest.
In any case, best of luck - I think like all difficult parenting points, this too shall pass. And you're certainly not alone!
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