Should your babysitter be your friend? Well, yes, since she is watching after your children.
Should you say something to her? No. Although I can see that it is frustrating, it is better to give than to receive. But it is odd that she would not even give you a congrats when you had your babies. If you say something to her though, that will just add more tension to your relationship. Is she good with your children? If so, I would keep her as your babysitter. Try letting go your resentment by forgiving her in your mind. There may be good reasons for her not getting you anything...maybe she was strapped for cash at that particular time or maybe she was just so busy it slipped her mind. You never know. :) So do not take it personally. It will only hurt yourself.
Ok, I am totally stressing out here and since you have children you might be able to help me out. I've been sending my children to daycare at a woman's house and since I've been there I would consider her a friend. Shortly after I starting going to her, she became pregnant and when she had her baby I gaver her a gift for the baby and even went out and bought her 3 other kids gifts to make them not feel left out. Well when I had my second, she didn't even send me a card. Now I've just had my 3rd and again no card or anything. Yet she just spent a lot of money sending those pink flamingo's to her friends house for her b-day. I feel totally hurt and insignificant to her. I at first thought of her as a friend. But she has made it quite obvious to me that I'm nothing more than money to her. Maybe I am out of line, but I'm sorry, if I'm nothing more than money to her than you would think that when I gave birth to my two other children she would at least send me a card. I would think that I'm worth the .99 for a card and the .42 to send it. Am I wrong, and should I say something to her?
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