My mom had passed away almost 13 years ago from an accident. That really takes a toll on a person. She also had weight issues and was on and off diets as well. For me though, I've always had a weight issue. And especially after I had my first child, it's been harder fro me to lose it.
About 3 years ago, I had all the ambition in the world to lose weight. I started going to a women's fitness center 3-6 days a week, ate healthy, and my weight was melting off. I would buy a cute shirt or jeans and they would only fit for 1-2 weeks and then they would be too big.
Then we had to look at our budget as money was getting very tight. So my work schedule changed along with our family schedule at home so it became harder to find time to exercise. Then we were going through court hearings for custody of 2 of my fiance's kids. That became so stressful for many reasons - and it really shouldn't have been as bad as it was if there wasn't so much drama drug into it. So that became the focus. Well, he was awarded custody and then the focus became getting everyone adjusted to living together and getting the 2 kids adjusted into our daily routine. So now that everything is getting as normal as can be and less stressful, I'm at this again! I know it has to be a lifestyle change, so I'm taking it one day at a time.
And I do know where you're coming from with your son. My fiance is overweight as well and he'd rather bulk up with muscle when he works out. But he goes through his roller coaster too - he'll work out for a while, then he's too tired from working his butt off during the day at work to go to the gym in the evening. I've been in past relationships that I've been made to feel like my weight is a huge issue that I became insecure and I don't want to do that to my fiance, but I want him around for a while too.
I did the exact same thing after I lost my 40lbs. This was during the time my mom was diagnosed with cancer and she was going to chemo. Can you believe my my mom was 86 when she started chemo. This was her second bout with cancer. And it was a different cancer. Not the same one she got 5 years earlier. Anyway my two sisters and I were taken turns each week taken care of her and still trying to work at the same time. It was exhausting for from 5/07 to 10/08. I tried as much as possible to continue my workouts in the bedroom by using the Biggest Loser DVD and Leslie Samsone.
Needless to say, my mom past away early October 2008. The day after her funeral, I had to run my son to the emergency room. I almost lost him too, but God was with him. He was hospitalized for 5 day. Diagnosed with Diabetes. So now I'm dealing with that. You see my son is over 350lbs and he's not interested in losing weight. So how do you motivate someone like that. I worry about him constantly.
Well after I bought all these clothes because of the weight loss, then met my soul mate and I stopped working out for awhile. Oh I would work out maybe 2-3 times a week, but not like I was doing before. Well 30lbs returned and here I am again.
But I continue to try and workout everyday just to keep myself going.
current weight: 157.6
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I've been the emotional noneater for the longest time, but never lost any weight from that either. When I stop eating, my body thinks I'm starving it, so it holds onto ANY kind of fat it can and my metabolism stops. Our family had a lot of changes and stress over the last several years that it became very hard to keep focused on my diet and I was so exhausted from just everyday stuff that I didn't have any energy to exercise (wasn't depressed, just mentally and physically exhausted). When I did lose all that weight, I started getting rid of my "fat girl" clothes. Well, I've had to restock some now since I can't fit in my "skinny girl" clothes. But it's one day at a time and I'm more determined to do it this time since I know it's not impossible to do since I've done it before.
Welcome to the Team! It's a continuous process to keep our weight in control. Just heads up ladies, it's harder as we age because our metabolism slows down each year we age. I read that in a few health articles a few years ago. And they were right. I lost 40lbs 2 years ago and put 30lb back on. Since I'm now going though the change of life, it's even harder for me. But when I get determined to do something, I get moving. We are all here to help each stay motivated, so ladies, lets get moving and eating healthy.
current weight: 157.6
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I hear ya. And I had a friend who thought I was getting to a weight I couldn't maintain. Well I can't maintain any weight if I don't stay on top of it. I am an emotional eater. I did really well through some pretty tough stuff of holding my own. I had gained some back but all was well in the grand scheme of it all. Then some awful stuff went on with my family this summer that had us all stressed for 3 solid months...I ate my way through it and here I am! It's a marathon of life we're on and there is not end date to this. We know how to do it though and that gives us an advantage!
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current weight: 140.8
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I hear ya Tammie! I'm kicking myself for gaining it all back and then some. And when I did lose it all, it was the healthy way - exercise and healthy food. So it wasn't like I was on a crash diet and gained it all.
Pounds lost: 5.0
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Hello everyone! I was a member of SparkPeople a couple years ago when I was serious about losing weight and lost about 50 lbs. Then life and drama took over and I've gained it all back and then some. So here I am again to muster up some motivation to get my butt in gear. I am taking college courses full-time, volunteer for a couple organizations, and raise a family of 7 kids with my fiance. We are in the process of buying a house too, so that's just an extra "to-do" on my list. Looking for a buddy to help with motivation so I don't get off track. Take care and hope to hear back from you!
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