Wow! You definitely deserve a chance to take care of YOU....for the sake of you and for the people in your life that count on you. On days that I want to throw in the towel and figure "I'm fine" I remember I am not doing this just for myself.
Spark is a great place to be!! WONDERFUL tools and great connections to others. Enjoy...and you are an inspiration!
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Wow, so many major events going on at once. You have proved that you are a strong and courageous woman with great character. It is so easy to get sucked into the anger and yuck of a divorce...and to meet the love of your life as well. YEAH!
Spark People is a great place to meet those struggling with similar difficulties and miracles. Take your time and check out the different teams and what they offer. If you need help with anything just post your question in any of these forums and someone will assist.
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Pounds lost: 42.0
Fitness Minutes: (85) Posts: 4 11/30/10 2:59 P
thank you so much for your support. Divorce is so unbelievably crappy, I cannot describe, especially with children. If you ever want to talk - you can drop me a line and I can give you my phone#. Boy there were so many times that I wish I had someone that understood. Keep in touch, I can always use another friend. Thanks again and ~God bless!
current weight: 174.0
Fitness Minutes: (1,541) Posts: 750 11/30/10 1:11 P
Welcome to the team! First of all you are an inspiration! Just knowing people make it through such trials gives me faith I can make it through mine! Being willing to share them offers so much to others who are struggling! I too have been through a divorce and know that it is not easy. God Bless you and your family. I hope you are able to find a strong support system on Sparkpeople. Good luck on your journey.
Pounds lost: 21.0
Fitness Minutes: (85) Posts: 4 11/30/10 12:39 P
My name is Mary and I am 44 as of this past October. I have 3 wonderful boys: Jon 19, Mark 17, & Luke 8. This past year has been a challenge like I have never known. Since I don't know where to begin, let me just summarize a little: October 6, 2009 divorce began after 22 years together and 20 years married. My little one and I move back in with my mom, then 2 weeks later I have emergency surgery resulting in 2+ months off work. In the meantime with no money, struggling with all the details of divorce. Not fun at the time, but looking back now it wasn't an ugly one because we both agreed it wasnt good for the boys and that we need to move on and maintain civility. Really -it's true and it can happen. My friends were my crutch, and 1 year ago today -I was reunited with an old school friend of 30 years who just happened to be the brother of my best friend. Since that night, we have only been apart one night. He is my angel and the love of my life. He saw me through and after the first week we knew we were meant to be together. The divorce was final on March 17th and we were married on March 25, 2010! It shocks some people, but we are happy = I gave up a lot that should have been mine legally, but it wasnt worth the time, the fight, the money or the hatred. I spent a long time in depression and lonliness and I wasnt going to spend another second unhappy. I found my backbone and am no longer a doormat for anyone. We are happy, but we are still digging out financially, it will happen. We have trust, we have laughter, we have comfort and we have unconditional love. The struggle is not over, because in July my oldest son started to have trouble seeing; which led to endless Dr. visits and tests and a trip to John Hopkins. The final diagnosis through genetic testing is LHON or Leber's Hereditary Optical Neuropathy. Very rare and degenerative loss of sight, no cure, no treatment, and no way to predict onset. My other 2 sons also tested positive and will most likely have it also, but we decided not to tell them and let them live without worry. It will be as it will. Unfortunately, for me - it is passed on maternally. The male children will have loss of sight but will NOT pass it on to their children. I have no daughters but if I did she would only carry on the gene. I did not deal with this well and through it all I ended up going away for a women's church weekend retreat with my friend. Through her I found God and refocused my life. As a result, I am back on track an needing to find a way to get back on track physically. So. . . I am a work in progress in many many ways. I believe I was led here and I am seeking support and positive motivation to sustain a better life for me and my family. That's it ~ God bless!
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