Sounds like you are in a tough spot!
Here are a few shifts in your thinking which you might find helpful:
---Combine the crack from behind (negative consequences of not taking care of yourself) with the dangling of the carrot ahead (positive consequences for making healthy choices).
---Serenity Prayer: Change the things you can, accept the things you can't and tap into your wisdom to know the difference! You fiance & mother...? How much control can ANYONE have over them...? Try to accept this and move on to those things you KNOW you can control.
---For losing weight NOTHING beats tracking the snacking! The Nutrition Tracker and limiting calories to a healthy range is the BEST way to drop pounds. Contrary to popular thinking, working out, in and of itself, is not the best way to drop pounds. Working out has BOATLOADS of benefits...it tones our body, promotes losing INCHES and improves our inner health: better blood pressure, cholesterol, revving up metabolism (which DOES promote weight loss in a more gradual, longer term way) etc. But unless one is working out to an EXTREME degree the calorie loss through workouts isn't the best way to lose weight.
---when it comes to working out be sure to choose activities that you can truly ENJOY! Workouts are doomed to failure if one hates what one is doing during a workout.
---to make workouts more enjoyable pair your workouts with other things you enjoy, such as listening to music that pumps you up or finding a workout buddy who can join you in your walk or DVD workout.
---check out other members' blogs and see what's cookin' for them, how are they keeping on, keeping on...?
---Ask specific questions on the message boards (kudos to YOUR POST here!) or in response to some blogs that you read!
Wonderful post, Bri! Looking forward to having you share your SPARK with our Team! :-)
ps...I highly recommend starting up your own SparkPage and sharing your trials, tribs and SUCCESSES in some blogs!
Edited by: DDOORN at: 8/9/2012 (08:58)
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