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7/8/09 12:37 P

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Hey, Becky, WELCOME!!!! I love ROGER GOULD, M.D. What a wonderful help he is.

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DREAMWITHOUTFEA's Photo DREAMWITHOUTFEA Posts: 20
7/2/09 3:00 P

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Hi again,

I really appreciate how quickly everyone responded.

Rachel, I know what you mean when you say you're not sick so healing may not be the best word choice. I guess the way I feel about my perspective with food is this...If I'm eating to numb myself from stress, or have/be fun and stay carefree and avoid growing up, or because I'm scared to be 'skinny', it's coming from an area in me that is lacking. So for me, I see it as a matter of healing those areas and making them whole. That's the place from where I was coming when I posed that question. Thank you for your response. I know what it's like to interact with family when they're not used to you being direct - it takes courage =D

Lady Iris, I have only done the 4 Day Mini-Course, Emotional Eating 101. It changed so much about how I see myself and my relationship with food. If I'm suddenly hungry (kinda like right now actually =D) then I ask myself if carrots sound as good to me as creamy mashed potatoes or cake or something like that...If so, then I'll reach for the carrot (I don't keep those other things in my house) If not, then I know it's emotional hunger and I begin observing my emotions, my surroundings - I'll look at what just happened moments before. This has helped me identify some of my triggers. Another question I ask myself is, "Is this bringing me closer to my goals or taking me away from them?" This most of the time is enough to jolt me back to reality. Sometimes I ask what I'll think about this situation in 5 years...this helps me understand two things, #1. this food is not going to be remembered in five years but my weight vs sense of accomplishment will be and #2. this situation (whatever is driving me to eat at an inappropriate time) is smaller in reality than it feels in the moment.

I'm hoping that going through the program will lead me to understand what my triggers are more fully and show me where I need to heal and make whole. My life is in transition right now - new job and moving in a month - so I'm planning on doing the program after that. I want to be able to give it my undivided attention. My plan is to stick with these steps, this website, journaling, and meditating until then. Also, I'm doing a 31 Days of Loving Yourself Thin series - this is a huge help!

OhLaLa, Thank you very much for your reply. I can definitely appreciate only speaking to where you are now. The present is all we really have.

Thanks again for all of you support. At the risk of repeating myself, I am SO glad I found this group (or maybe this group found me emoticon )


Much love and appreciation to you all! emoticon

Edited by: DREAMWITHOUTFEA at: 7/2/2009 (15:03)
Things I tell myself:

I love you exactly as you are now - No matter how much you weigh or how you look. You are becoming fit and healthy!

You are my best friend. I love you and am here for you.

You lose weight easily!


Things I ask myself:

Will this bring you closer to or farther away from your goals?

How will you feel about this in 5 years?

Is this action coming out of love?


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LADYIRIS313's Photo LADYIRIS313 Posts: 926
7/2/09 2:28 P

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Well, where I am at in this journey is that I do still emotionally eat, but I haven't really had any big binges. I can sort of 'control' the episodes - a bite of this or a bite of that. Sometimes I want a grilled cheese sandwich at 1am and instead I grab a bag of carrots. I really take those as victories.

How about you? What sort of adjustments have you all made as a result of this program?

This happened to me just 2 days ago and I count it as a victory too. Harriett was hollering at me, and I was 'legitimately' physically hungry, but I had two more exercises to do in my routine. I paused, told her to settle down, because I would be done soon and we would eat. "You aren't faint or dizzy or dying and food is on the way, so just settle down, you're ok." Yes, I talk to her like she's 2 sometimes. I went on to finish my workout. It was only later that I realized what a big deal this is. I haven't come to anywhere in the book or online yet that deals with this - and maybe it doesn't, but I find I go into a total meltdown panic if I get very hungry. I suspect this is a big part of the emotional eating when I am psychologically hungry - fear.

"We are all in the gutter, but some of us
are looking at the stars"

Oscar Wilde


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7/2/09 1:52 P

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Welcome Becky! Am I healed? I didn't know I was sick! For me, emotional eating is just a way of life that I developed. I've learned to recognize when I try to stuff away the feelings and I am much better at laying them on the table (just ask my family who have to deal with a much more direct a verbal family member!) Do I never emotionally eat? I no, emotional eating still happens for me. But the times between binges are much smaller and the behavior lasts a lot less. I am very grateful for what I've learned about my inner self and how eating doesn't get me anywhere.

This team is wonderful though we are often short on words so feel free to speak up and get us going!

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7/2/09 12:59 P

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I wish I could say I was healed. All I know is food is not calling to me right now! The hardest part for me so far has been accepting how long I can go without feeling legitimate hunger. However, I have been reading about people doing short fasts-maybe 24 hours at a time, from dinner to dinner-and it made me realize that it does no harm to wait several hours to eat if I am not really hungry. I have certainly not gone 24 hours! I have to face how often I just want to avoid doing difficult tasks. Lord knows it isn't as if I don't have plenty to do to fill the time. In fact, I need to go down to my school today and box things so that the moving crew can get me into a better classroom. I definitely want a new room, but I dread sorting through my things. Oh, well, better pack a lunch and get to it! Hearing from new members makes me want to increase my efforts.

The online information correlates to some degree with our threads here on the book chapters and the Ten Healthy Habits. Please take a few moments and post where your thoughts apply as you work through the material. I have been out of the loop and I will be going out of town for a workshop all of next week, but I will respond to all posts until then, and may be able to a bit while I'm away.

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7/2/09 12:30 P

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Hi everybody! My name is Becky, and I just joined yesterday. I've been changing my perspective on food and exercise ever since I read the 4 Day Mini-course, Emotional Eating 101, on SHrink Yourself. I am incredibly grateful to have come across this information. It has been a bit of an emotional roller coaster. It was so hard even to admit to myself that I am an emotional eater. I truly believe this is the answer to getting myself fit and healthy for good.

I haven't done the course yet and would love to hear some feedback about it. Also, is there anyone who's healed to the point that they don't have this 'crazy' love/hate/guilt regarding food? I am both overwhelmed and encouraged, at the same time.

BTW, it may be useful to know that my boyfriend, with whom I live, has admitted seeing himself as an emotional eater after hearing the information in the articles, but he is in good enough shape that he feels no need to heal that right now. He's very supportive in most ways regarding this part of my journey - no more spontaneous late night "Hey! Let's go to Goodberry's!" - but it can still be emotionally taxing to watch him eat whatever he wants and not pay the same obvious price I do.

Thanks, in advance, for all the support I can tell I'm going to get from this group! Much Love! emoticon

Things I tell myself:

I love you exactly as you are now - No matter how much you weigh or how you look. You are becoming fit and healthy!

You are my best friend. I love you and am here for you.

You lose weight easily!


Things I ask myself:

Will this bring you closer to or farther away from your goals?

How will you feel about this in 5 years?

Is this action coming out of love?


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