I really appreciate how quickly everyone responded.
Rachel, I know what you mean when you say you're not sick so healing may not be the best word choice. I guess the way I feel about my perspective with food is this...If I'm eating to numb myself from stress, or have/be fun and stay carefree and avoid growing up, or because I'm scared to be 'skinny', it's coming from an area in me that is lacking. So for me, I see it as a matter of healing those areas and making them whole. That's the place from where I was coming when I posed that question. Thank you for your response. I know what it's like to interact with family when they're not used to you being direct - it takes courage =D
Lady Iris, I have only done the 4 Day Mini-Course, Emotional Eating 101. It changed so much about how I see myself and my relationship with food. If I'm suddenly hungry (kinda like right now actually =D) then I ask myself if carrots sound as good to me as creamy mashed potatoes or cake or something like that...If so, then I'll reach for the carrot (I don't keep those other things in my house) If not, then I know it's emotional hunger and I begin observing my emotions, my surroundings - I'll look at what just happened moments before. This has helped me identify some of my triggers. Another question I ask myself is, "Is this bringing me closer to my goals or taking me away from them?" This most of the time is enough to jolt me back to reality. Sometimes I ask what I'll think about this situation in 5 years...this helps me understand two things, #1. this food is not going to be remembered in five years but my weight vs sense of accomplishment will be and #2. this situation (whatever is driving me to eat at an inappropriate time) is smaller in reality than it feels in the moment.
I'm hoping that going through the program will lead me to understand what my triggers are more fully and show me where I need to heal and make whole. My life is in transition right now - new job and moving in a month - so I'm planning on doing the program after that. I want to be able to give it my undivided attention. My plan is to stick with these steps, this website, journaling, and meditating until then. Also, I'm doing a 31 Days of Loving Yourself Thin series - this is a huge help!
OhLaLa, Thank you very much for your reply. I can definitely appreciate only speaking to where you are now. The present is all we really have.
Thanks again for all of you support. At the risk of repeating myself, I am SO glad I found this group (or maybe this group found me
Much love and appreciation to you all!
Edited by: DREAMWITHOUTFEA at: 7/2/2009 (15:03)
Things I tell myself:
I love you exactly as you are now - No matter how much you weigh or how you look. You are becoming fit and healthy!
You are my best friend. I love you and am here for you.
You lose weight easily!
Things I ask myself:
Will this bring you closer to or farther away from your goals?
How will you feel about this in 5 years?
Is this action coming out of love?
| current weight: 162.0