It feels like the whole earth and universe is against you, I know that feeling. Right now you are still dealing with shock as it takes time to move through it. The initial physical shock moves through by the first day, then the emotional shock sets in. Combine that with the stress you are already experiencing and it will feel overwhelming.
Couple ideas. Rally those close to you, around you. When I hit black ice, went through the stop sign and got slammed, I called friends and family. I was very broke, I was being charged 100% of the accident which meant my insurance would go up etc. In my case the guy who hit me was drinking - I could smell the alcohol and he admitted it - but the officer on the scene decided he didn't want to do a breathlyzer and it was simpler to call it my fault.
Life isn't always fair.
It really helped to know that I had support. I also contacted lawyers for free, as it was a system set up here that you get the initial 30 min free, then you have to start paying. You are allowed to call 3 lawyers - I did. There wasn't anything I could do to sue the other guy for damages, but it felt better to know lawyers agreed it was wrong.
Look in your area and see if there is anything similar or if any local lawyer offers free consultations.
The other thing is look at your money coming in, going out and figure out what you actually have. Look at your bills. Figure out priorities and set the priorities.
If necessary look at free services in your area, like food banks etc.
And when it feels too much, remind yourself that regardless of what you feel the sun will come up in the morning and it'll be a fresh new day.
I had to at times break it down to 1 hr intervals - "for one hour I will be fine, life will be good, I will get through this" and I continued that for 24hr cycle. It got me through a rough night. Then I focused on one day at a time until I got through that. You can do that too.
Last, look around and see if there are free services for victims. It really does help to talk to someone about what happened. If there aren't any, pull on those around you and tell them you don't want answers, you just want support and talk about what happened.
You can do this, you aren't alone.
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