Wecome, RAINBOWBRITE152 and PONDLADY ! Spark People has plenty of tools, information and community support to help you achieve your goals. Take one day at a time, and make small changes that you can live with; set reasonable goals and reward yourself for your achievements.
PONDLADY, it sounds like you may have "white coat hypertension" -- kind of a stress response when you go to the doctor's office.Request that the nurse give you a few minutes before taking your BP once you're called back to the room or wherever they take your vital signs, then just sit and try some visualization of a peaceful moment, lying on a beach, walking through the woods in the fall, holding your grandbaby, or whatever works for you... focus on breathing slowly and evenly. I can't guarantee that will work for you, but it works for me... and if your machine seems accurate when you check it at the office, normally the doctor will not hold the increase in pressure when you're there against you!
Best wishes, and I hope you both enjoy your Spark People experience -- if you have any questions about using the site, which can be a bit confusing, please don't hesitate to ask (either here on the discussion boards, or send me a Spark Mail).
Sandy (Michigan Upper Peninsula) -- Say "Ya!" to da U.P, eh?