My name is Elizabeth and I am 27. My soon to be ex and I started dating when we were 18. We stayed together in a long distance relationship while I was at college on the west side of the state and he was on the east side of the state. I moved back after graduation and got a job here on the east side and he proposed after 6 years of dating. We got married the same year and have now been married not even 3 years. our 3 year anniversary would be in late August this year. So a grand total of 9 years was spent with this guy.
We put off a honeymoon until this year in May at his urging. The night before we went he came home from the bar and proceeded to tell me that I don't take good care of myself and don't try to impress him. Then he told me while I was at school and I thought he was faithful, he had been sleeping with his ex girlfriend "a hand full of times" throughout our relationship. Don't know if I buy that or that he never cheated on me during the marriage even though he said he didn't. He had told me he never cheated on me when we were dating. Such a convincing liar! Come to find out he was interested in a girl he works with who is 23 (so much younger than 27!) and had kind of been on a date with her already before I had even told him he needed to file for divorce. So when I told him to move out and I filed for divorce, he was still seeing her. I had even asked him if all our "problems" he said we had were because of a girl before he told me about her and he said no. Again a lie!
Can't wait for my divorce to be finalized! Luckily we didn't have kids (I was ready to have one before this all started) so it should be pretty quick. He is very immature and emotionally abusive and won't ever grow up because he is suffering from Peter Pan syndrome.
Bad thing is that he told me to consider his friends my friends and I did for 9 years. Now I can no longer hang out with them since they were his friends first. So now I have to try to make new friends on top of trying to date again eventually. I told him he had destroyed my life and he didn't even care. And he didn't say a word!
I also can't talk to his family anymore (I was very close with his mom, brother, sister-in-law, grandma, and one aunt. Also won't be able to see my nieces. I feel like half of me is gone forever and is something I will never get back.
Good thing about this is it helped me by jump starting my weight loss. I was at 166 and am now down to 142. My goal is 115 because I am 5'2"
Edited by: EJS2720 at: 7/26/2010 (09:05)
| current weight: 135.0