Hello Ursi, I too am so sorry to read of your loss.I created a special folder where I save
special Forum discussions for me to bring up later to re-read and think about,before replying. I too am a fairly new Widow - June 29th, am a bit older 68 and was never able to have children so my three puss-cats,Cinders, Rastus and Tipsy are my constant very much loved companions. (My page introduces me a little more fully...) One thing I didn't mention was that my hubby, Allen began developing Dementia, diagnosed as Alzheimers approx 7 years ago. He also had a heart condition, aspesdosis and skin cancers which frequently broke out and had regularly to be treated in form or another. The Passing of our "mates" is such a very personal thing ... and something each of us deals with so very differently. Even now there are times when for me it all seems kind of surreal.
I came into "Cooking for One or Two" because setting myself a pattern of preparing a meal for one has been my biggest problem, and even although I know I am being foolish, it is also very easy to say .. "Can't be bothered, I'll do something tomorrow."
Some of the things I have found helpful for me, are
1-: The memories of times shared...different from living in the past ... and the smiles often evoked.
2-: I have returned to the two groups we worked in
together as Volunteers. Both had really happy associations and I am with the people who knew/know us both and so no explanations are necessary.
3-: To try and set myself an eating pattern,I began by buying the little single serve frozen dinner packs and zapping them in the microwave. (Not a perfect solution , but at least a start.) Now, I have the first of my home grown vegetables and so can make salads ... which I love ... etc.
There are so many other bits and pieces I could share. So please, feel free to e-mail me through my
Spark page if you would like to chat ....
Be encouraged Ursi, ...
Be kind to yourself, take things one day,one step at a time. Thinking of you and am glad you've joined
Spark People !!
Hilary . Dunedin. South Island . NZ.
Every day when fully lived- is a grand succession of experiences both pleasant and unpleasant - for life is made up of both- and without the one the other would not be recognized or appreciated.
I would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I had just been myself.
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