Welcome, Pam. Hope you find as much help here as I have. It's been a year for me on this GF journey. I can say I never cheat knowingly. It's not worth it as I feel like a different person!
No question is too silly to ask, and a good whine once in a while is helpful as well.
Kathy/Kate, depending on which team
"It is only with the heart that one sees rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
Antoine de Saint Exupery: The Little Prince
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."