Welcome, Deena! You're definitely not alone in continuing to have a diet mentality in maintenance. It took me several months before I felt comfortable as a maintainer and I'm still feeling my way through with more than six months down. At first I couldn't bring myself to start increasing my calories because I was afraid it would lead to me going off the rails altogether. Eventually I started increasing them slowly, just 100 a day at a time, and found that the sky didn't fall. Once my weight leveled off, I stopped adding them, though I do still experiment with different combinations. I've found I prefer doing a weekly calorie average as opposed to eating more or less the same amount every day, which means I'll eat more on some days and less on others depending on what's happening in my social life and my activity levels.
My name's Tina. I lost more than 90 pounds between March 2010 and March 2012 and have been keeping if off ever since.
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