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Someone told me long ago to lead with a change. I couldn't wait for my marriage and work issues to resolve before I quit drinking or overeating, and the changes I had to make in my life to accomplish those goals led to all the other changes. I can't control other people (especially the one I'm married to), the weather, the traffic, the neighbor's dog, any of that stuff that had me running to a suicidal solace, but I CAN control my reactions. I learned to substitute other things: calling a friend, going for a walk, cleaning a closet, anything that got me past the despair and rage and fear. The ONLY thing in my life I can control is my reactions to my life.

If I were waiting for my husband to be what I want him to be, I'd never accomplish anything. What I found was that when I started to live the life I wanted to live, the rest just didn't bother me as much. Maybe that's why they say "Too soon old, too late wise."

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Great post WCK - it wasn't until I read your contribution that I realized that my weight loss (and major habit changes) did not happen until a lot of other things resolved themselves. We are the sum of all parts and compartmentalizing our lives doesn't work as well as we think it does!

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P.S. I still DO have issues in my life, believe you me!! I just mean IN GENERAL, things are so much better now...

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Sometimes it's not easy to get motivated to workout or go to the gym. But when I am finished, I have NEVER once said, "Gee, I wish I didn't do that."

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I've been meaning to get back to this thread and put my tiny 2 cents in...

Mimi, about the bit about you not quite hitting your Ultimate Goal; maybe it's as simple as that pesky fear of failure. On the mornings when I've weighed myself, and not quite at my goal, and DH is nearby, I conveniently DON'T mention what the number on the scale is (fear of failure), but I bust out the pom pons when I'm at my goal or 1 lb. above.

As far as the weight creeping up--whether it's during the reduction or maintenance phase--I believe it's almost ALWAYS about "something else." There is just SO much more going on in our lives than we could EVER convey on SP--or would want to for that matter! ~~ Just a tiny bit about my past; during my former (often quite unsatisfying) marriage, I regularly came home from work and sat down in front of the tape of my soap opera with a pint of ice cream, that I would consume in its entirety. I very often ate mindlessly to fill holes in my soul, which of course is not uncommon.

I am now in an extremely happy, satisfying and wonderful marriage, and I often joke to DH that I find it amazing that a half gallon of ice cream can actually remain in my freezer for a couple of weeks!

Anyway, I'm not saying at all that my life is now magically perfect and that I have no problems whatsoever with nutrition and fitness. All I know is that in general I feel a LOT better now, and that has contributed to my overall better success at FINALLY keeping my weight down (notice I didn't say AT GOAL).

Eating to fuel our bodies healthfully and exercising to take care of our bodies can only successfully happen once we've worked on dealing with most of the pesky underlying issues in our lives. ~~ Well, that's the case for me, anyway!!

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11/13/11 11:26 A

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NELLJONES, KTLVGGRT and OOLALA53 - a huge emoticon for your responses. There are some good 'take-aways' from each of your posts (and your blog OOLALA!).

Posting here, thinking about where I'm at and reflecting on your responses is helping me get to the bottom of this....I think I better understand what is happening and will explain here, but it might take a bit of verbage - bear with me!

KTLVGGRT - my history with dieting is limited. In fact, SP was my first ever concentrated effort to lose weight by counting calories and exercising. I was a semi-professional athlete in my younger years, and although I certainly paid attention to good nutrition, I paid surprisingly little attention to body weight....I weighed myself once-in-a-while during the season more to keep track of what the cortisol was doing to body-weight....it was more a stress-monitoring tool than anything. I was more concerned with measuring increases in speed, power and endurance (I have always been a bit of a 'data-junkie' BTW emoticon ) I should probably say that I was never what would be considered 'overweight' - I just knew that I had been much slimmer in my 20's and liked how I looked then. Not that I believe we can look like we did back then - I just know my own body and prefer how I look and feel at a lower weight.

NELLJONES - I like your take on things - being on a program vs a diet. I've never really looked at what I was doing to lose weight as being on a diet - it was more about changing the way my body looked because I wanted to. But I guess I never thought about what I would do 'after' I got to that point. I'm not sure that my old habits are re-asserting - my choices are still generally good. I don't have any binge-eating or emotional eating issues, trigger foods etc - it just feels like I'm drifting.

OOLALA - you mentioned in your blog about the 'what if's' - i.e. what if we could stay at goal and still enjoy less-than-perfect food choices. That's kind of how it is for me - I can eat more than my DH who is almost twice my size - and not have any lasting effects. I like the clean eating approach mostly because it makes food choices 'brainless' for me - I don't have to think about what to eat and when because the guidelines are so simple. I have no problem enjoying treats, outings, special dinners etc and it doesn't make me nervous, anxious or anything - I would consider my attitude toward food to be balanced and healthy. I would describe myself as being decidedly a 'food for fuel' type of person - which means if I don't have a clear set of guideline around what and when to eat, I could really care less....and end up eating whatever's on hand....which is not good for my health, and doesn't set a great example for my kids.

So after all of that, reading your responses, seriously reflecting on what is bothering me about where I'm at right now, I'm coming to the conclusion that it's not about the 2-3 lbs at all - it's about the fact that I seem to have started neglecting my needs (again). Let me explain... (if you're not asleep by now!!!)


This is what I think may be going on......when I was actively 'loosing', all that attention to 'my program' was an automatic way to create some space for myself and focus attention on my life/needs/preferences (I have 2 young children and a husband whose career takes him away often - I gave up my own sr. mgmt position 2 years ago to attend to our family's needs as we made a long-distance / life-changing move). I also work closely with my husband to support and advance his career and our family business. That's where we are at the moment, and there isn't another solution for the time being. This means there is very little time for me - and my own tendency to put myself last on the list plays into this, without a doubt.

When I focused on my nutrition and exercise - including the tracking - it led to a shift in my attitude about my place and priority in the midst of being the 'go to gal' for everyone else in the house. It led to other positive choices that helped to ensure I didn't get 'lost' in the shuffle of facilitating everyone else's life.

When I stop that focus, it leads to feeling put-upon, taken for granted and a general downslide all around. At the moment, there is nothing there to take the place of fitness and nutrition as a hobby or interest (and this just isn't the time to nuture that part of my life right now....soon, but not just yet). This seems like it's less about weight and more about a way to protect and ensure my mental and emotional health. I suspect that I have been judging my interest in tracking, monitoring etc (i.e. my hobbie!) the way I 'think' others might be judging it - as obsessive and self-involved. But why should I care? If it is working for me and serves as a key tool in keeping myself centered and happy, what harm is there?

So what to do now - go back and do what works! I will be tracking, I will be setting firm goals to get back to a weight that 'I' feel good at and let things fall back into place.

Ladies, I cannot thank you enough for helping me walk through this. Apologies for the super-long post! I think I'll adapt it for a blog as OOLALA did - it can be so helpful to look back....

Edited by: MIMICOTO at: 11/13/2011 (11:35)
~Mimi~

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I ended up writing so much, I turned it into a blog, if anyone is interested.

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Mimi, it sounds like when you let up on your new habits your old ones reasserted themselves. One of the problems with the traditional concept of "diet" is that you go on then you go off and "get back to normal", Which isn't really normal but our pre-conceived notion of what we think normal should be. I don't think of myself as being on a diet, but rather on a Program. That Program consists of certain eating patterns, sure, but also recording my eating and weighing regularly to check my work. I have developed new habits, but if I let up on those habits, the old ones are always under the surface just waiting for a chance to take over. Is it an obsession? No more so than making the bed or hanging up my towel after my shower. It's just part of my life, a part that keeps me fitting my current wardrobe. Will I ever be "normal" like my sister? Nope, but that's OK. I have to adjust my carseat to fit my short body, and I can adjust how I maintain my weight to fit my body. Not a problem.

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11/13/11 8:21 A

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Mimi-I don't know your history with dieting, but, I have had to wonder if some of my fear about my ability to maintain is because for my entire life (literally, from age 7 on) I have only thought of food and my body in 2 ways: either I was on a diet or I needed to be on a diet. Now, I wake up and I find myself healthy and normal--so, my entire relationship to food has changed. I no longer need to be on a diet--I just need to relate to food in a good way, keep eating what makes me feel so good, and I think FEAR is real for a lot of us---fear of success, fear of failure.
I remind myself daily that I truly deserve to feel good, look good, and be healthy. Then, I find myself wanting the foods that make me feel good and I know are good for me-
I am by no means pretending to be an expert---maintaining is new to me (5 months) but I keep trying to figure this out!!


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Hi ladies!

I was browsing around on the team forum - still looking for answers! - and found that this thread was still going strong! I missed the notifications!

I came back looking some more b/c I still feel like I'm casting about and am afraid I'm on the road to slip-sliding backwards. I hope you'll bear with me cuz I'm feeling the need for some help with this.

Here's how things have gone. I stopped tracking sometime last spring (so about 8 months ago). I stopped because I was starting to feel obsessive about my weight - I was 2 lbs above my ultimate goal weight. And I was also feeling a little burned out on SP. I switched to the 'clean eating' program espoused by Tosca Reno. Worked great - I felt super, my weight stayed stable and I didn't need to track....

Then, during the summer, I let the structure around my health and nutrition go even more - still exercising regularly but without a lot of rhyme or reason to it.

In the meantime, my eating habits have gotten fairly poor of late - I am not very interested in food any more, so end up grabbing stuff without thinking, getting over hungry etc - and I am most def NOT getting all my freggies in any longer, which is really not me. I'm not even sure I'm drinking my water at the moment...and now I find my weight up as follows:

+ 5.0 from my ultimate goal weight (which I have not quite been able to make yet...I think I'm afraid to do it, to be honest, cuz I've never believed I could)

+ 3.0 from my "less than ultimate but WOW I looked great" weight

+ 2.0 from my "I'll settle for it I guess - still looks pretty good"

And if I keep going like this, the numbers will only get bigger. It's simple math. Oh, I should add that I am small and can feel a 2 lb difference in the fit of my clothes - 5 lbs is a big change.

So there you have it - what am I looking for? Hmmm...not sure. In part, I think I'm looking for permission to get a bit thinner if I want to (which seems pathetic in some way, but I'm trying to be honest here). I am wondering if what I took for obsession when I was so close to my 'ultimate' goal was maybe panic / fear? I LOVE the structure of routine and like plugging in the numbers (I always track my fitness).

I related to what WESTCOASTKID said about feeling uncomfortable about 'appearing' obsessed....I guess I don't want to get called out on this and have to defend it. Hmmm, is this about more than the weight?

Maybe I should just go back to doing what I did before - track again, set out my weekly exercise goals and nail them, put all of this on the front burner again. What do you wise women make of all this?

~Mimi~

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Welcome! Sounds like you're about at that 2 year mark where things supposedly get easier. Congratulations!

I started SP at 138 lbs in October 2010. My goal weight was supposed to be 125, which I reached in January 2011. I have stayed at 125 (give or take a few pounds) ever since.


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Really appreciating the dialogue with other maintainers experiencing the same kinds of feelings and issues. This connection helps maintain an awareness and vigilance and goes a long way towards the victory of hard fought-for losses.
Thanks to everyone for your input.

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I only get bummed out by the scale if I have eaten the way I know I shouldn't and got caught by the scale. Most days I am OP (a program with wide flexibility) and the daily bounce doesn't bother me. I just remember those times when I was miserably fat, and would sometimes find that I "got away with it". In reality I didn't: weight gain is 3500 cals a pound going up or down, but that sense of escape always fueled my next overconsumption with the hope that I'd get away with it again. My mind will always find excuses. That is why I jot my food in a journal, only takes a couple of minutes a day. I don't use Spark's tracker (I copy meals day to day just for the points); my true food intake is checked off as exchanges for my own benefit. There is nothing like the black and white of an old analog paper journal to feel like I've accomplished another day.

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I do not weigh daily (maintenance x 5 months now) as I HATE how much power I give the scale! I know if I have eaten well and exercised today, I do not want to feel either really bummed out or really happy based solely on a number on the scale. Too much can affect that scale-true water weight, muscles developing, who knows....
I decided (to hopefully avoid getting all obsessive) to only weigh monthly (during weight loss and now maintenance)-so far so good,,,,,,I still do get all bummed out if the scale doesn't reflect what I am doing, but I am fighting it!!! I want to eat well and exercise for the rest of my life-and I want to do it because I am worth it, not to try to see a number on a scale...

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Count and record everything? Maybe. We're all different. I know that if I don't track, I will gain. So it's like Nell says: The time it takes to track is just as important as brushing your teeth, taking a shower, even eating. I don't know how long it has taken you to reach your goal (you're only ounces away!), but you have been successful so far, apparently, with tracking calories in and out and with eating well. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

Keep tracking. It's a part of the new you that, presumably, you prefer to the old you. And it will be especially important during the holidays. We all face that challenge, and we'll all be here to talk about it.


Started at 138, aiming for 125. Got there, and 120 seemed possible. Got THERE, and 118 seemed possible. Got THERE, and 115 seemed possible. And that's where I want to stay. Maintain, maintain, maintain.


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Debby, fear is paralyzing. Just have a healthy respect for the process, which you have navigated successfully so far. I still count whatever I eat, but I no longer notice any time that it takes. I spend more time brushing my teeth and making the bed than I do jotting down my food, but I do all those things. It all just gets absorbed into the rhythm of daily life.

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Hi everyone. I can't believe I got this far! I am scared to death that I won't be able to keep it off.
I haven't switched my ticker over to the maintenance one because I would like to get down a couple more pounds.

So what have you all done to keep it off? To I still need to count everything I put in my mouth and every exercise I do? I will. But this takes a lot of time sometimes.

I hope I can still do this with the holidays coming up.

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I am not crazy about the cookbook. I am not into quinoa pizza crusts, or other tortured adaptations. I like to see lower cal ways to make real food, and I am willing to take as many hours as necessary to do it, so I'm actually disappointed. My favorite cookbooks are the old WW cookbooks that didn't use any prepared ingredients, where you have to carefully read the instructions to remember to start the night before sometimes, and take 4 hours to cook. I enjoy cooking and I just love to eat!

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Nell, I also have many years of calendars that depict not only daily, but weekly and monthly progress as well.....lol....I didn't think another person on earth did the same thing!

I noticed that you bought the SparkPeople Cookbook. Do you like it? I was going to see if I could find it at Walmart. I wanted to glance through it before buying it.


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Me, too... on program or not... calendars going back for-evah with daily (or nearly daily) weights on them. I can see the good years and the bad ones... and probably map the emotional storms, at least partly, by looking at the numerical data!

I brush my teeth daily. What's so different about this?

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Barb, I do the same thing; every morning I write my daily weight at the top of the day in my calendar, and I have calendars going back many years. The most important weights to me are month to month and year to year. I don't consider it obsessive. Drinking coffee every morning isn't considered obsessive, yet I do that, too. My morning weight just tells me what to have for dinner that night.

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Maartjebol, I also weigh every day and count only one day of the week as official. I even record my weight in a little pocket calendar each day (I'm able to look back at my weight loss journey for several years!). I know it sounds obsessive, but it's what works for me. If I happen to over indulge, the scale lets me know I need to be more vigilant for a while. If I have a good loss, I smile all day as I continue to watch myself and stay on target.


Temptation is temporary....The choices you make can last a LIFETIME!

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November, 2001...191.5
November, 2002...176.6
November, 2003...195.5
November, 2004...198.0
November, 2005...207.0
November, 2096...176.6
November, 2007...181.4
November, 2008...200.0
November, 2009...191.2
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I can't imagine caring what my hubby thinks, except for the naked part!

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On the issue of maintenance being an obsession... On the mornings when I weigh myself (which is most of them), I have to take my scale out from under my nightstand (because I don't have room to keep it in my bathroom) and have to carry it out to the uncarpeted hallway and weigh myself there. If DH happens to be around, I feel self-conscious that I'm going through this routine (again & again & again). I don't know why I feel that way, though; he's never remarked on the morning ritual and, in fact, is very proud of my accomplishments. ...Then of course, for DH this "obsession" turns him into Pavlov's Dog, because when he hears the beep of the digital scale, he knows I must be naked!

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Welcome to the team Mimi! I would hope one day I will not "seem" obsessed to the casual observer. For me I have to stay on top of my numbers as well. Nutrution and fitness really count! Keep up the good work and here's to maintenance! emoticon

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When you break down goals into smaller steps, it isn't even that hard. All you have to do is say "yes" to the right thing!



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I've only been at maintenance for 6 months. I guess I am obsessed with the scale although I never used to be. I weigh every day on a digital scale but only consider a once-a-week weigh in as official. I consider it to be a healthy obsession because I can see immediately what I've done and can try to set it straight before the official weigh-in. It's so easy to kid myself without a concrete measurement and a lot of damage can happen in one week within getting things in check. I have never done this well so that tells me to keep doing what I'm doing. I'm envious of those who do not need scale measurements but this is what seems to work for me.
Great to get everyone's input. Love this team.

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emoticon Mimi emoticon to the team I too am hoping when the time comes I'm not obsessed with the scale this is the hardest part for me to maintain I'm still pretty new to it since May of this year I do try ot live my life to the fullest and just enjoy where I am right now doctors still want me a little low in weight about 20 pounds lighter but i am happy where I am right now. I'm finding SP & this team very helpful for the maintenance part as well as the BLC (there is a team for maintainers the panthers)

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Wow - thank you all for the thoughtful responses to my introduction. You've given me a lot to think about and each of you helped shed a new light on this matter.

Looking at it from the perspective that this 'could' be considered a healthy hobby, there really isn't anything 'negative' about 'paying attention' as one of you rightly pointed out (sorry - so many new names! so many good points!). As a point of comparison, I am fascinated by natural healing approaches, but would not consider myself a hypochondriac and would not consider my interest in this subject to be 'obsessive'.

Like WCK, I too stay on top of the numbers for the same reason - a short-term gain can easily become permanent if it isn't reined in.....and I really really like being slim, so why wouldn't I make it a priority?!

Again, many many thanks - very glad to be with you!

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Welcome, Mimi! emoticon

While it would be wonderful to toss out the focus on what goes into my mouth, I know I can never lose that focus. One, I want to be healthy, so I pay close attention to the kind and quality of food that I eat. Two, I want to stay at the weight I am, so I pay even closer attention to portions and ingredients. I think that's what maintenance is all about: paying attention. Not obsessing, just being aware.

This is a great team to be a part of. We're glad you're here and we hope you benefit from it.

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Welcome Mimi!

I have been at goal a very long time, and I am still very careful about how I eat. To a "normal" person it would seem like an obsession, but it is just a part of my life now. There are women who spend a great deal of time on the color of their hair, or their gardens, or sports. They aren't called "obsessions" but rather "hobbies". I will never be able to eat intuitively like my sister who has never been overweight in all her 61 years. But that's OK. Maintaining my weight has become more of a favorite hobby to me, one among several. It has become as comforting as reading or cooking, or spending time with my family. From the outside looking in, it isn't an obsession at all.

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emoticon Mimi! So glad you joined us! emoticon

I, too, try not to be obsessed with the number on the scale, but if I'm not conscious of it at least several times a week, the easy-to-lose "water" weight can quickly turn to "real" weight, and then the struggle begins again.

Just trying to make it a healthy obsession, as ONEKIDSMOM pointed out. I want to keep my weight at a certain number, so I get on the scale most days of the week; I want to keep from getting cavities, so I brush my teeth everyday!

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Having been in maintenance mode for going on two years (in January 2010 I joined this team, being 4 pounds away from my first goal weight)... I can be pretty confident in saying this will ALWAYS play a role in my life. The role changes with the change in motivation to maintain, as opposed to reaching some weight range. But it still occupies a large space in my thinking and routine.

How I *think* about it, though, is different: now it's not about losing weight. It's about staying healthy. And face it, people, that is an aim worthy of spending time and energy and thought.

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Mimi,
welcome to this group. You are so right on about living life to the fullest. emoticon
We all only have one life to live and wouldn't it be silly if we focused all our energy on weight and eating.
OOLALA53,
I love what you said about not having developed a passion, because only once you realize that can you go about changing it.

Birgit

P.S. I consider anyone who is within 20 lbs. of goal weight to be ready to mentally switch to maintenance mode. It takes a while to adjust to maintenance and it really helps to think about it before you get to your goal. Many people never quite make it to goal because the last 10-20 lbs. are the hardest to lose. But's that's ok, too, because you most likely already have all the health benefits of being normal weight. emoticon

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I, too, would like to look forward to having this issue play a smaller role in my life, though I am not at goal yet. There has got to be more to life than making sure I stay in a certain weight range. I'm not married and don't have children; I know that is part of the problem, as I'm not much involved with others unless I'm at work. I haven't learned to pour myself into a passion either, so I can be left with a lot of time on my hands. That's the real question anyway? What will you do when you're not eating or obsessing over it? Do you ever wonder what your life and thoughts would be about if you hadn't been born into a time or culture that prized thinness so much? I do. But every generation has its problems. emoticon

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Hello!

I have been at or near my goal weight for about a year now, after losing about 15 lbs - two years if I ignore a brief uptick that happened in mid 2010 emoticon

Maintaining the weight loss has been fairly easy - but figuring out how to do it without obsessing...or wondering if I should try to lose a bit more - has been harder. Right now, I'm getting comfortable with where I'm at, and focusing more on putting my energy into living life to the fullest.

I'm looking forward to learning from everyone here - and am happy that my good SPfriend WESTCOASTKID sent me your way!!!!

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