First Welcome! I am so sorry for the loss of your mother and for the stress of your husband's cancer. Both are difficult, having both so close together must be overwhelming.
Please make a Sparkpage so we can ge to know you. When you are feeling agitated, just start plowing through the enormous body of information and resources on Spark. Start collecting Sparkpoints; it's like a little daily goal. There is so much here, it will take awhile.
You DO need to take care of yourself. My husband is diabetic and had a stroke in December. Then he broke his leg which got infected and required more doctors and surgery and home IVs....it has been a terrible winter and spring. And my oldest son lost his job so I have to support him for now. I know that there are plenty of resources out there for an ill patient, but precious little for the caretaker. That's where we come in.
I LOST weight with the stress. With my life falling about my feet in shards, the one thing over which I could have control was food.
This is a Maintaining Board, so I assume you are still closer to goal than not, so it's the best time to reach out. You have come to the right place! You are among your tribe!
Nell Reston, Virginia
No one ever got up in the morning wishing she'd eaten more the night before.
Original Goal: 114. Current old lady goal: 106.
current weight: -1.5 under
Fitness Minutes: (110,035) Posts: 18,986 6/8/11 12:50 P
I too am sorry about the loss of your mom and your husband's illness. It's ok to eat, just not all the junk that adds on the pounds! For me, when I want something but I'm really not hungry, chewing gum works really well and I keep negative words out of my vocabulary. YOU CAN DO IT!! BELIEVE IT!! The journey begins with just ONE step!
Barbara .....that's what my friends call me! Never cared for the name Barb.
Make it a blessed and healthy day! IT IS YOUR CHOICE!
Remember how special you are and how you are soooooo worth it to be healthy and fit!!
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I'm sorry about your mom and hope your husband is doing ok. I had reached my goal last year and then my grandson passed away, and I quickly gained 10 back. Your back on sparkpeople so that's a start. I try to tell myself, I can control what I eat and if I exercise, even if I can't control other things in my life. I found that I feel better after I exercise but it was hard starting over again. Give yourself time, take slow steps! We're all here for you!
I am very sorry to hear that you are going through all this. Stress like what you are going through can be a very big issue when trying to maintain (health more than weight). Your are learning that your new, healthy lifestyle is not so well established yet that you can't fall back into old patterns but we all do. I would suggest to do everything possible to not worry about weight gain but simply eat as many healthy, nutritious meals and spend time outside getting some sunshine and walking for exercise. At the same time consider a regular time of meditation/prayer, whatever matches your spiritual beliefs, possibly in combination with journaling. If you are fairly extroverted and benefit a lot from sharing with other people you could do an open journal on your sparkpage or you could join a support group for people whose family members are dealing with cancer in your community. The power of eating clean, if possible organic food is also huge in helping to deal with cancer. Many cancer clinics have nutritional counselors now that will recommend a diet full of natural foods that equip the body to fight back against cancer and some people think this may be even more helpful than cancer drugs. Don't try to handle this alone and don't neglect your own needs, because you can only be helpful to your husband if your take care of your own needs, too. The best way you can honor your Mom is to do the best you can to live a full and healthy life. It's not always easy but just take one step at a time. You are in my prayers.
Edited by: HOUNDLOVER1 at: 6/8/2011 (00:02)
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Fitness Minutes: (0) Posts: 5 6/7/11 11:31 P
Help...lost quite a lot of weight about 4 months ago. It took me about 7 months. i was so happy with myself. Changed my entire life and work and made time for em. The I found out husband had cancer and my mom died 40 days later....,,,,now all I do is eat...seems like I am on a downward slop and I hate it. Any encouragement/ideas/suggestions/anything offered is appreciated..I am 60 yrs old, very active..just can't get back on track....the funnny thing is I have a complete gym in my basement....just makes me so sad that i put it back on...depressing..
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