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Fitness Minutes: (57,413) Posts: 3,009 6/10/08 2:23 P
Posts: 593 6/10/08 12:30 P
My friend who said that I could never be her size decided that she should lose some weight too, and got really serious about it once I started to succeed. She reached her goal of 110, and was fortunately not bitter about the fact that I not only reached her old size, but passed it by. I'm sure it was still hard for her to no longer be the "tiny" friend, but she's actually accepted and complimented my weight loss and I'm really glad that she has reached her goal too. It was so novel to be the same size as her for a little while (I'm ten lbs more, but almost three inches taller) but I'm over it now (mostly-hee hee), and it's just nice to not have to deal with my jealousy while still wanting to maintain our friendship. It was really tough to be the "fat friend" but I'm sure it can be equally as tough to go from the "skinny friend" to the "same size friend" ya know??
Anyway, it's too bad that your friend doesn't even acknowledge your accomplishments :( she doesn't sound like a real friend. You've come a super long way, don't let anyone tell you that your goals are set too high as long as they're in a healthy range for your height. A lot of people assume that if you're overweight, you must have a naturally larger frame...but we know this isn't always the case, and YOU know that you can reach your goals :) Keep up the good work!!
Fitness Minutes: (15,222) Posts: 1,362 6/10/08 11:58 A
current weight: 199.0
Posts: 113 6/10/08 8:29 A
A similar thing happened to me. There is a friend of mine that said that I was setting my goals to high and basically doesn't even acknowledge the weight loss. She gave me some clothes and I tried them on the other day and they are to big! That was a good feeling!
Thank you everyone for your support. I need a little motivation every once and a while. I was slipping the last 2 weeks and now I have gotten up the last three days at 5 am to go running. I feel so much better about myself after I run!
current weight: 153.5
Posts: 7,311 6/9/08 6:49 P
You've learned one of the most important lessons..doing what's comfortable for you. Trying to do what well meaning friends/relatives think you should do scrambles your brains!
current weight: 127.0
Fitness Minutes: (204,392) Posts: 22,030 6/9/08 4:46 P
Hi and welcome both of you! Maintaining is harder for me than the actual weight loss. :( I'm doing it though. People continually ask me why I keep working out so much and so hard. I just tell them I do that so I CAN eat some extras once in a while and not have to worry about it. :) I do what's comfortable for me not what anyone else thinks I should be doing. :)
I LOVE that story, FAIRGLENN! It must be very satisfying to wear those pants!
current weight: 127.0
Posts: 593 6/9/08 4:21 P
Wow, the person who told you that you'd gain it all back is a jerk!! One of my major motivators was a skinny friend who told me that I would never be her size because my frame was too big. Yeah, she just gave me some of her pants from when she was the size that I would "never be" and they're a little too big :) Love it!!
Posts: 7,311 6/9/08 1:41 P
We all understand where you're coming from! If your dream is to lose another 5 lb., don't listen to the people who tell you you are too small. They mean well, but don't let them steal your dream! The one thing that keeps me on track more than any other is the woman who said "You'll gain it ALL back in a year's time". I am not willing to let her have the satisfaction of being "right"! Maintenance requires diligence, but it is so worth it!
current weight: 127.0
Posts: 3,012 6/9/08 12:28 P
Welcome and congrats!
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. : Ralph Waldo Emerson
current weight: 131.5
Posts: 593 6/9/08 11:59 A
Karasantona, I agree that it is way tougher to maintain!!! I'm sooo glad to be here, but I'm also very glad that no one told me I wouldn't be able to go back to life as I knew it once I got here...or I'm not sure I would've continued on!! It's worth it though :)
Posts: 593 6/9/08 11:57 A
Oh honey, I understand!!! For at least three months, I was terrified of waking up thirty lbs larger!! I hate that fear, but it is what keeps me motivated ;)
I also understand the trouble with being able to say no when on a diet, yet finding it hard to do when at a "happy weight." I myself LOVE to eat, and once I get started...it's all over ha ha. SO, I have basically put a ban on all things unhealthy. I only eat the healthiest of foods, with my one cheat ALSO being chocolate (we could definitely be friends!!!). I have chocolate daily :) I used to love Mexican food like no other, but when I consider sliding back into a size 14 in comparison to just saying no...well, it isn't worth it. Ever.
I also understand what you mean with people telling you that you are "too small." Someone once said to me, "If you lose five more lbs, you'll have nothing left!!" I told her that was the point ;)
Anyway, it's super nice to meet you, and I'm really excited also to have friends who are where I am and understand as well :)
Posts: 17,703 6/9/08 11:48 A
Welcome to both of you! I'm new to maintenance mode myself --- reached my goal in April this year. It is every bit as tough, and in some ways tougher, than weight loss mode. That's why we're here together.
Energy and persistence conquer all things. Benjamin Franklin
Pounds lost: 65.2
Posts: 113 6/9/08 11:45 A
Welcome! Although I am not exactly where I want to be I am within 5lbs and believe that if I stay here I will be happy. I am new to the maintaining and I am finding it a little more difficult than I expected. For the longest time it was easy to say no because I was on a diet. Now people give me a hard time saying that I am getting to small and that I have worked hard enough so I can have it.
1. I am not really that small I could stand to loose more but have decided I am happy where I am!
2. I enjoy food and was not willing to give everything up because I knew when the diet ended I would want it back so I have always kept the chocolate but accounted for it in my daily intake.
Anyway! Long story short I am looking for people who understand where I am coming from and that I realy am afraid of putting the weight back on!
current weight: 153.5
Posts: 593 6/9/08 11:31 A
I reached my goal weight last October (07) after five loooong months of diet and exercise. I couldn't wait to eat normal again!!! Ha! Was I in for a surprise...turns out, maintaining weight is a little bit harder than actually losing it ;) Anyway, I love this site, and am very excited to be able to chat with others who are in my boat :)
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