SparkPeople Never Known a Normal Weight Team Messageboard For those who have never known being a normal size in their adult life. This team offers support for finding the belief to succeed in the face of so much failure. SparkPeople Never Known a Normal Weight Team Messageboard new girl in town. hello, my name is Stephanie i am 25 years old from a small town in northcarolina and have been over weight my whole life im ready to change that but i am gonna need lots of support to get healthy. Wed, 24 Apr 2013 19:54:32 EST I'm a normal weight today. I haven't been very active in this team... or on SparkPeople at all, lately... but I wanted to share this with people who know where I'm coming from. <BR> <BR> Last week my heart skipped a beat as I saw the numbers on the scale read 149.5. The 140's... I never thought I'd see them. Then again, I felt that way about the 150s... and the 160s before that, for that matter. Then I remembered... If I get below 149, that means my BMI will fall into the "healthy" range. I blew it off. I told myself ... Sat, 7 Apr 2012 13:47:28 EST Spit or Swallow This is a game i saw on another team and it is fun way to get some sparkpoints... <BR> <BR> Heres how you play, i will type a food, and the next person will say in their post spit if they wouldnt eat it or swallow if they would, then suggest another food....the next person would reply spit or swallow to that and suggest the next food... <BR> <BR> Ill start: <BR> <BR> Apple Cinnamon Rice Cakes <BR> <BR> spit or swallow? Thu, 13 Jan 2011 02:06:23 EST would like to get to know you all!! hey im lovely_lavei and im about a 3 weeks in [and 12 pounds down] on the rest of you ive NEVER known a healthy weight or BMI and for the first time in my life, i am 100% dedicated to get there... <BR> <BR> id love to get to know some of you! you can add me as a sparkfriend if youd like, im on here daily, take care :) Sat, 18 Dec 2010 16:15:59 EST Body Acceptance or Body Battle? If you had to describe yourself are you someone who generally accepts and loves your body or do you battle with it almost daily and have a poor sense of self? <BR> <BR> When I was in my teens and early 20s, I hated myself. Although I was much smaller than I am today, I always felt fat and not worthy. I would have done anything short of cutting off a limb to be a certain weight. <BR> <BR> Today and this has been the case for a couple of years, I like myself and dare I say, love myself. I am... Thu, 16 Dec 2010 11:45:54 EST Is there anyone like me, and what do you do? I've been overweight all of my life. I think I'm a medical mystery. My cholesterol is great, if fact the MD said he's never seen lipids as low as mine, even in teenagers. My sugar is great, I don't even show a predisposition for diabetes and it's major in my family history. My MD was amazed by that, too. I told him I eat pretty healthy and exercise, and the proof is in my bloodwork. I had gone for a visit to an endocrinologist because I had gone through cancer treatment and wanted to make su... Fri, 10 Dec 2010 01:03:26 EST new to posting I've hovered on sparkpeople for awhile but I've never posted anything or gone public. My name is Jamie and I'm a freshman at PSU. I did sports all through high school and when they were over I gained a lot over the summer. I've always been bigger, but now with the extra 20-30 lbs it's even worse. I've lost about 15 lbs so far but I still have a long way to go. I'm hoping to make some changes when 2011 rolls around. Thu, 9 Dec 2010 15:47:24 EST new to the team hello, my name is Sheena and I just joined this group. I am a recovering bulimic who has never been in a normal weight range. I am trying to do things the right way, but am of course having trouble. I either binge and purge or I don't eat at all. I am 26 years old and sick and tired of being so big. I am hoping to find people on here that can help give me support and ideas on doing things the right way. Hope to talk to people soon, thanks!!! Tue, 30 Nov 2010 21:26:25 EST New to the Team Hi everybody. My name is Fawn and I have never been a normal weight. As far back as I can remember into my childhood, I was always the heaviest kid around and I have pictures to prove it. LOL! <BR> <BR> I joined sparkpeople in September and have lost 36 pounds but I still can't believe that this will lead to me becoming a regular sized person. I really fear that the doubt I have may cause me to fail. I look forward to getting to know everybody and offer whatever help and support that I... Fri, 19 Nov 2010 19:46:54 EST are you? Hi I have never posted before but there has been something bothering me lately and this seemed like the perfect place to talk about it. <BR> Are any of you angry at your parents for letting you be overweight as a kid? Or for not doing anything about it? I didn't use to be angry at them but now I have two kids and I work really hard to make sure that they have good eating habits and eat lots of nutritious foods. And it matters to me that they are healthy but I don't remember my parents ever t... Mon, 23 Aug 2010 15:03:36 EST Turbo Jam? Just started a Turbo Jam DVD last evening. Any one have an success with that? Tue, 10 Aug 2010 09:10:08 EST Help! Why won't my blog post on my Team Pages? I wrote a blog today and I can't find it on any of my Team Pages. I'm sure it's a Privacy Setting issue? Any suggestions? Wed, 21 Jul 2010 10:12:18 EST Protein powder, anyone? We are not big breakfast eaters at our house so I have started making fruit smoothies in the mornings. I cut up all the ingredients and put in the blender in the frig over night. Then in morning all I have do to is add the ice and the liquid and blend away. The issue? I find that after an hour or so, I am starving! Anyone have any experience with protein powder or maybe even adding some slimfast or ovaltine or something? Tue, 20 Jul 2010 14:48:51 EST Hello! I join this group awhile ago, but have been MIA for a bit. I just want to reintroduce myself; my name is Deanna. I am rededicating myself to a healthy life style!! Wed, 14 Jul 2010 05:42:38 EST Hi, I'm new! I just came back to Sparkpeople last week after a year's absence. I am glad to be back. My husband and I have committed to a healthier lifestyle beginning July 1st, but I wanted to get started early with some small steps to make the transistion easier. I have about 150 pounds to lose, but am focusing on 5 pounds at a time. It seems I have been fighting with the same 5 pounds for a couple years, so right now a solid 5 pound weight loss would be a thrill! <BR> Anyway, just wanted to say hel... Wed, 16 Jun 2010 08:39:08 EST New To The Team... Hi. My name is Kim. I have NEVER known a normal weight. Always have been overweight. This is the year I change that. Sparkpeople has helped me so much so far with my weight loss efforts. Without SP .. I don't know where *I* would be right now. So, when I saw this team - I just had to join. <BR> <BR> Have a great night & great Friday! <BR> ~Kim Thu, 13 May 2010 20:12:44 EST New Hi, I just joined this group and I have been a part of Sparkpeople for a few months now but just recently started using it. I have been overweight for most of my life and I want/need to know what it feels like to be a normal weight. I Hope to get to know you all and help you on this journey. Wed, 7 Apr 2010 10:47:39 EST Help! Strength Training Tracking Does anyone know if there is a way to copy a workout to another day? I have been taking an hour long Strength Class and it is a similar routine every time. It is very time consuming to enter every exercise one at a time each day. It would be nice if we could "copy a workout to another day" just like we can "copy a meal to another day". <BR> <BR> Suggestions? Wed, 31 Mar 2010 11:44:42 EST Exceeding Calories Burned Do people stick to the calories you need to burn number, or do you adjust when you've burned more calories and you get that little warning message at the bottom of the screen? If it is Wednesday and you have hit your goal, do you continue cardio all week or do you quit? Tue, 23 Mar 2010 11:10:30 EST Another Newbie here... Hello everyone - I'm never very good with the introduction thing. As of today I am basically starting back at square 1 with my weight loss. I keep sabotaging myself into gaining weight every time I make some progress. I evidently have some deep-rooted issue that I have yet to uncover. <BR> <BR> I have been a fat girl all of my life, starting out chunky in elementary school and progressing from there. I remember when I met DH at 16 I was 160-ish lbs. Well, I'm twice the age and twice t... Sat, 6 Mar 2010 01:14:17 EST Hello Hi! my name is Jordan and I have not only never known a "normal weight" my entire adult life, I have never known it period. I was born at 13 pounds 12 ounces, and it only built from there. The last time I was close to my "ideal" I was going through puberty at 14. I am now doing well loosing again, and doing all I can to not loose motivation and actually stick with it this time. It is great to be here with other people who may have the same experiences as I did. Wed, 3 Mar 2010 13:17:32 EST Share Your March Plan & Goals... Good Morning... <BR> <BR> March 1st, here it is and here we go towards Spring. I've got my nutrition ranges locked in atleast for the next week and my cardio & strength training is scheduled. My goal for this coming week's weigh-in is to lose atleast 6 pounds that would bring me to 100 lost since starting w/SP back in September. Mon, 1 Mar 2010 07:40:53 EST goal weights... We all must have weighed our goal weight at one point in our lives. For me, I was 11 years old. I was in 5th grade. Just curious if anyone else is shooting for a goal weight that they haven't seen since childhood... <em>150</em> <em>207</em> Mon, 22 Feb 2010 19:35:27 EST See how much sugar in foods These are pictures that are more shocking than just reading about the sugar in foods. From this link you can go to desserts, breakfast foods etc. <BR> <link> </link> Mon, 22 Feb 2010 11:15:32 EST Granny with attitude Hi my name is Pam. I have been overweight all of my adult life and most of my childhood. I am a Mom of one daughter and 4 grandchildren. I really need to get more motivated. I did good when I first started sparkpeople but have not been really doing good this year. I had lost 25 pounds last year and put it back on. Now trying to lose it again and more. In the last 2 weeks I have lost 7" and about 5 pounds. <BR> I go to bed at night thinking, in the morning, I will and when I get up, I j... Sun, 21 Feb 2010 11:00:48 EST I wonder sometimes.... So I know statistically BMI is a good measure of health, but what if it our only measurement that isn't healthy? I am 5'4" and weigh 196 lbs. My BMI is in the obese category. I just got my blood work back and aside from my BMI I am completely healthy. I come from a long line of heart problems on both sides and my father had a heart attack when he was 39. So what does it say when I am completely healthy except for being fat? Fri, 12 Feb 2010 12:25:03 EST My 11 Names..give it a try. Got this from my local city team...thought I would share. <BR> <BR> My 11 Names (this is fun!) <BR> <BR> 1. YOUR REAL Name: Ryan <BR> <BR> 2. YOUR GANGSTA NAME:(first 3 letters of real name plus izzle.) <BR> Ryaizzle <BR> <BR> 3. YOUR DETECTIVE NAME: (favorite color and favorite animal) <BR> OrangeFish <BR> <BR> 4. YOUR SOAP OPERA NAME: (your middle name and street you live on/or neighborhood if it's a number) <BR> Jamie Pleasant View <BR> <BR> <BR> 5. YOUR STAR WARS NAME: (the... Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:08:48 EST New Team Leader... Introduction Hey fellow an effort to stay even more connected to my own new healthy plan, I volunteered to be the new team leader. I've been active on SparkPeople everyday since 9/18 and have lost 78 pounds since then & 125lbs since last January. <BR> <BR> Plugging away and sticking to the plan. Hopefully I can become a more active part of this team and we can support eachother through all the daily challenges. Spark On! <em>213</em> Thu, 14 Jan 2010 07:49:11 EST Let Me Introduce Myself My name is Tonya and I am 47 years old. I am somewhat new to this website and I have been finding my way around. I am trying to get myself involved in the various teams and challenges. This one really caught my eye. I have never in my life known a normal weight. I was the chubby child, which turned into the fat lady. Now at 323 pounds, I am yet trying again. I have been on Weight Watchers, Sadkhin, and used supplements. I have lost some weight before (at my highest about 10 years ago,... Wed, 30 Dec 2009 09:33:15 EST Helpless to turn your life around- life coaching Hi - <BR> <BR> My name is Maggie and I am just starting a master's program in Wellness & Fitness. <BR> <BR> I am looking for input from severely overweight people as to the barriers that keep them from being able to turn their lives around and achieve a healthy lifestyle. <BR> <BR> I am interested in hearing everything from the smallest fears that people might even be embarassed to admit, to the major obstacles (can't get up the stairs to the gym, can't get shoes on - everything). <BR> ... Fri, 4 Dec 2009 19:27:23 EST Does someone in your life just not get it? My mother died at 46 of a massive heart attack. She was morbidly obese. <BR> <BR> Growing up in a single parent, low-income household made making healthy food choices nearly impossible. When that kind of environment is all you know-the kind where eating hearty, high fat meals makes you feel good-it's hard to know anything different. And when you're finally ready to make that change, every day is a struggle. <BR> <BR> You must constantly fight to rewire your brain. To turn those McDonald's ... Mon, 16 Nov 2009 14:43:57 EST Nutrisystem? Anyone ever use Nutrisystem or Jenny Craig? Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:31:11 EST Finally reached a "normal" weight... This is the first time in my entire life that I have finally achieved a "normal" BMI!! Now, to stay here at a normal range and not creep back into the "overweight" category. I started at borderline overweight/obese and in about 6 months I have finally reached the goal of being "normal" Tue, 6 Oct 2009 17:35:53 EST A swedish hello! Hi, I´m Cecilia and just joined this group although I have been on Spark Team since 13 september. <BR> <BR> I have been dieting myself into overweight since I was a teenager and claim to be very good at dieting; I´ve lost about 490 kilos in my days. Unfortunately I´ve gained about 550 and I have never reached a goal wight throug all that dieting. I am compulsive overeater and a member of OA. My pattern is to take ten kkilos off, then put eleven back on - the new strategy shoulc be to take el... Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:31:33 EST New Girl Hi, my name's Nikki and I'm a 25 year old Mum of one. I spent most of my childhood overweight with a brief athletic stage as a teenager. I've been overweight since about the age of 15 and even though I have lost weight on and off I've never been considered a healthy weight. Sun, 20 Sep 2009 05:50:28 EST What's going on? Just thought I would stop by and see how everyone was doing? Any big plans for the weekend? <BR> <BR> Nothing interesting for me. Kids soccer games and a relaxing weekend with the fam. <BR> <BR> Smooches <em>212</em> , <BR> Scrappy Sat, 12 Sep 2009 14:07:56 EST time to introduce myself Hey y'all <BR> finally, it is time to introduce myself: My name is Barbara, I am 36 yrs old and from Germany. I just returned from 2 years in Italy.. kind of have the moving bug ;-) <BR> As long as I can remember I was told, that I am a bit too chubby... and later that I was fat. Looking back watching pictures from when I was a kid, I shortly realised that I wasn't fatter than my siblings and friends.. no idea, what came to my family's mind. Even today they are telling, that I had a weight p... Tue, 8 Sep 2009 06:47:59 EST What your weight equals... so i saw this in another team and thought i would share it here! <BR> how much weight have you lost? <BR> what is it equivalent too? <BR> <BR> <BR> Here are some weight comparisons...What equivalent have you shed and what will you be shedding? <BR> <BR> 1 pound = a Guinea Pig <BR> 1.5 pounds = a dozen Krispy Kreme glazed donuts <BR> 2 pounds = a rack of baby back ribs <BR> 3 pounds = an average human brain <BR> 4 pounds = an ostrich egg <BR> 5 pounds = a Chihuahua <BR> 6 pounds = a human's... Tue, 8 Sep 2009 04:34:13 EST hello all hi my names jo and im currently around twice the size i should be and always have been from around the age of 7 so thought id join your team <BR> thankyou and goodluck to everyone Mon, 7 Sep 2009 18:50:51 EST ?otd 9.1 When is your favorite time to workout? How long? All at once or split throughout the day? Tue, 1 Sep 2009 06:41:52 EST This Roller Coaster is killing me First off I KNOW that it isn't good to weigh yourself everyday but it is something that I do to stay accountable. That said I'm a little stressed. I know I brought it on myself because I checked this morning but man. I was down to 247.8 on Friday...Happy dance all over the place. This morning I weighed in at 251. I know it's still 5 days til my 'official' weigh-in so I'm still hoping that the week will hold good things but man...I feel like I was doing so good. <BR> <BR> Now that I've... Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:52:55 EST ?otd 8.31 How many different Sparkteams are you on? Do you post on all of them? Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:51:34 EST 10 year old gaining too much weight. Help! My almost 10 year old has gained quite a bit of weight this year and I'm worried that this may get out of control. I realize that gets fluctuate as they grow but I want to nip this so she doesn't have such a huge problem all her life like I did. I'm trying very hard to focus on "healthy" choices as oppposed to telling her she's overweight and needs to go on a diet. I'm cooking healthy meals...asking her to go on walks to keep me company, etc etc etc. I remember as a child, I was put on a... Sun, 23 Aug 2009 11:04:09 EST ?otd 8/21 When is your favorite time to workout? What is your favorite thing to do? <BR> <BR> For me: <BR> <BR> I have found that I prefer to work out at night...normally around 8pm. I love the treadmill and the Elliptical. Now I'm trying to head into the "man-zone" and get on the weights. Fri, 21 Aug 2009 02:01:15 EST New to the Team Just stopping in to introduce myself, and get to know a few people. My name's Angie, and I have always struggled with my weight. I hit a low of about 130 somewhere in High School, but that was a very long time ago, and now I'm 342. 342! I don't know how this happened except to say that I don't stick to anything, and it is high time to learn some serious discipline! I'm tracking my calories and working on working out...we'll see what happens. I'm incredibly hopeful! Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:33:23 EST ?otd 8/20 Are you a NAME BRAND snob? Clothes, purses, Food, ETC? Thu, 20 Aug 2009 05:26:46 EST ?otd 8/19 What is your favorite TV Show? You know that show that you ignore the DH, kids and telephone to watch. Wed, 19 Aug 2009 05:49:03 EST ?otd 8/18 We all got here the same way so here's my question... <BR> <BR> Where is the one place you really still need to work on when it comes to your eating? Tue, 18 Aug 2009 06:16:27 EST ? of the day 8/17 I do this on a few other boards that I'm on so I'm just throwing it out here too. If it sticks then I'll do it again. If not...well I tried. So here goes <BR> <BR> Do you read the newspaper everyday? If so, do you read the whole thing or just sections? Mon, 17 Aug 2009 10:07:26 EST Did this happen to you? So when I started working out I was pushing myself pretty hard but I was hardly sweating. Fast forward a month and now I feel like I'm pouring buckets when I workout? Why the change? Fri, 14 Aug 2009 17:15:48 EST new to the team my highest weight is 310 and my lowest was 150 never been a small woman.. doing this to be healthy.. in need of alot of support and motivation Fri, 14 Aug 2009 11:36:04 EST 'nother UK joiner! Hi all, just wanted to introduce myself: I'm Rebecca, I live in London (UK), and I'm 34 for another couple months. I had a little look today for a new team to join, and the name of this one grabbed me immediately. <BR> <BR> I wasn't obese as a child, and in fact used to do ballet and gymnastics and so on, however, I was always, always bigger than the other girls there, and only remember one or two people from school who were bigger than me. Naturally, when I was young I was called fat... and... Tue, 11 Aug 2009 10:30:26 EST Proud Moments Ok we all are busting out butts to get these numbers to why not let us know what you are proud of that you did today. <BR> <BR> Me--I knocked out 30 Day Shred (barely), then I did 45m on the Elliptical this evening. I'm so proud I did it. <BR> <BR> <BR> Your Turn... Mon, 10 Aug 2009 15:32:31 EST Pedometer problems Well I bought a pedometer...nothing fancy just something so I have some idea of how far I'm walking. Well here's the problem. It doesn't register every step. I don't know if it because I'm a big girl and it's getting caught in a fat roll (sorry for the visual), if it's placement or what. <BR> <BR> If you have one...which one and have you run into problems like this? Mon, 10 Aug 2009 12:00:56 EST Mini-Goals Did you make interim goals along the way? If so, how far in between each one? Fri, 7 Aug 2009 17:19:15 EST Workout Music So what's your theme song? What's the one song that you play when you think you have nothing left but listening to that song just gives you the motivation to go on? <BR> <BR> Mine is Eminem's 'Til I Collaps. I needed it 3 times in a row tonight to finish but I finished. Thu, 6 Aug 2009 16:10:33 EST I told the DH I finally told the DH that I'm doing this. He's seen the sparkpeople and he knows about the pedometer. He even brought home a polar HR chest. I kinda had no choice since I dropped $200 on a new gadget. I wanted the GWF so I had to...couldn't hide that in the checkbook. Now I have to deal with the questions, comments and everything else. Wed, 5 Aug 2009 16:30:29 EST Always big but working on it ... 310 - 230 My name is Jessica, Im currently 27 years old and have been working on changing habits and creating a healthy lifestyle for myself and my family this year. <BR> <BR> In high school I started out around 150 pound as a freshman, 180 pounds by the beginning of senior year and by the time I graduated I was around 310 pounds. I was overweight to begin with and then got in a very bad relationship my senior year and pow... what happened? <BR> <BR> I dieted off and on from 2000 - 2005, going down ... Wed, 5 Aug 2009 15:33:59 EST Today vs yesterday So I don't know what's going on with me but I've been WAY emotional lately. Not sure if it's that time or not but something is going on with me. So all this introspection has prompted this question... <BR> <BR> Do you feel the same today about your journey as you did yesterday? Or even as far back as when you started? Wed, 5 Aug 2009 10:45:42 EST GoWearFit? Ok so I'm probably one of the last people to watch Biggest Loser. I had never watched it before...I think it was jealousy that kept me away. Well I finally watched and of course I couldn't help but notice the armband. So after 2 hours of surfing the web reading about the Bodybugg (what they wear) and the GoWearFit (something similar) I'm thinking about taking he plunge. <BR> <BR> Anyway, my question you have one? Do you like it? <BR> <BR> If you don't have one? Would you wa... Sun, 26 Jul 2009 05:35:29 EST Going to do it, this time Hello all!!! I've been on Sparkpeople for a few months, but never really got involved. I lost 40 pounds and got stuck. Now, i have been floating along at this weight for a couple of months. I'm ready to be part of the community and lose the next 40! Thu, 23 Jul 2009 19:13:36 EST Silly "otd 7/22 Ok...I like quotes but sometimes life can be way to serious. So here's my contribution to taking things easy. Your silly quote today is... <BR> <BR> <BR> If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. <em>20</em> Wed, 22 Jul 2009 02:20:06 EST Before & After So I haven't done them yet but was toying with the idea. Did you take a before pics? Or are you taking pics during your journey? I Don't know if it will be a setback or if I'm will be upset I never took any. <BR> <BR> Thoughts anyone? Tue, 21 Jul 2009 09:02:11 EST Counting Water So first let me say that I HATE WATER. I mean I just don't like to drink it at all. I will mix in Crystal light but that's the closest I can get. So here's my question(s) <BR> <BR> 1. Does it count as water if I mix in Crystal lite mixes? <BR> <BR> 2. Do you count each 8 oz you drink or each glass (my glasses are about 16 oz)? Mon, 20 Jul 2009 07:47:07 EST Restarting AGAIN Well I'm home after a long wonderful (albeit fattening) vacation. I've updated my info and in 4 weeks of eating everywhere there is to eat in the US I gained back 6 lbs. So now I restart...The food log has been updated but my body feels like a block of lead. So I guess I have to start working out like I have never done it before. I get the weight gain but why the 10 steps backwards in the workouts too? Sun, 19 Jul 2009 06:22:02 EST The Vacation did me in Well I know before I left I was worried about what would happen on my vacation to the states and I have to admit that it wasn't as bad as I thought. So now I'm trying to regroup. So here's my question... <BR> <BR> After you've fallen off the wagon, how do you get back on? Do you reset all your stats or do you just keep on going? Wed, 8 Jul 2009 20:55:51 EST New to this group Some of my earliest childhood memories are being called fat, now though looking at those photos I am no where near some of the sad cases of childhood obesity we see today. I was just pudgy. <BR> <BR> But pudgy or not, it turned to fat and I have always been fat and always been the biggest person where ever I have gone. <BR> <BR> So yup, new to this group. Mon, 29 Jun 2009 07:17:02 EST Bonjour! Just joined this team :) I joined this team because well, I have never known a normal weight. Maybe there was like 1 year there when I was 4 or 5 when I looked normal but I was fat before that and just seemed to get bigger from age 6 on. I wore adult clothes in elementary school and plus sizes in middle school and high school. Currently I am 21 and 370 pounds. I am trying to change all of this though and am getting addicted to all the awesome supportive people on here. I joined last month but didn't really do anythin... Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:29:15 EST Another newbie here Hello all! When I saw the name of this group, I knew I'd found my place! Coming from a very large family, I have tried to fight off the weight my entire life. Other than my kids, I'm the smallest at 5'4" and 205 lbs. Thankfully, a lot of that is muscle, but I still recognize the need to get a grasp on this now! <BR> <BR> What's worse yet is my 15 y/o daughter is now complaining that she is 5'8" and 211 and gaining! I hope to find a lot of helpful advice here and others who have never se... Mon, 22 Jun 2009 13:30:05 EST SP Message Boards/Teams I know that SP has some ungodly number of boards but I was just curious, How many Team Boards are you on? And do you post similar things on all of them? <BR> <BR> For me right now, I'm on about 8. Sometimes, I feel like asking the same questions on all the boards but don't want to bore people. Fri, 19 Jun 2009 05:50:25 EST When to cut back So I've been walking at least 2.5 miles a day...everyday. And of course my legs are starting to really hurt. The question is do you work through the pain or take a day off? Thu, 18 Jun 2009 15:37:54 EST Summer Break So are any of you out there SAHM? I never realized how much I do during the school year and now that it's over I'm just here. Nothing to do but thing about the stuff I can't have. <BR> <BR> The weather here in germany has been pretty rainy so going out with the kids isn't really an option. When it stops though that's the first thing we do is get out. <BR> <BR> So what do you do to keep yourself busy? Tue, 16 Jun 2009 03:28:07 EST Starting to get Worried Well as the days tick by I am becoming more and more anxious about my trip to the US. I know I am super excited because of all the things me and the family have missed out on. But that's also my biggest problem. You don't realize how much Americans eat out until you have it all taken away. All my kids talk about is which restaurant we are going to go to. I can't blame them that's what's on my mind too but I don't want to blow what I've started here but I still want to enjoy the food. Th... Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:43:52 EST Hey all! I wanted to introduce myself. I'm Staci and I'm 30 years old. I think the last time I was thin was around 4 years old. Too young to really remember what it was like. I was reading through the posts and really felt comfortable here as soon as I found this group. Can't wait to get to know some of you and get this weight finally GONE!! Sun, 14 Jun 2009 20:55:33 EST Amount VS Taste So now that I am getting the hang of this I was wondering about others approaches... <BR> <BR> Do you eat based on the amount of food you can eat for the calories or for the taste of the food for the same calories? Sun, 14 Jun 2009 03:51:42 EST Weigh-In 6/13/09 Well I didn't see anywhere for this so I just thought I'd start. <BR> <BR> How did you do on your weigh-in this week? <em>193</em> <BR> <BR> I'm down 1.5lbs <em>244</em> 5 Total and I'm so over the moon I could bust. Sat, 13 Jun 2009 08:42:43 EST How do you plan to eat out? I'm sitting here stuffed to the gills after going out to eat with the family. I tried to cut back and I actually did eat less but I still ate to much. So my question is, do you pre-plan when you go out to eat or do you just wing it and hope for the best? Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:02:05 EST Starting Young Ok so I know this isn't really that big of a deal but it really pissed me off. I took Zowie in to see the Dr. for her sports physical. No biggie. Well the Dr. looks at my 8 yr old and asks her "Are you happy with the way you look?" Are you kidding me, are you trying to give her a complex? <BR> <BR> For those of you who don't know my kids, my daughter is an amazon. She's always been very tall for her age. Well she measures 105% for height and 120% for weight. Now I get it she's off the charts... Tue, 9 Jun 2009 01:52:24 EST Posting your weight loss Well I know we are supposed to only check our weight loss once a week, but I just can't stay off the scale. So far it hasn't had a negative effect on me so I check it almost daily. That said, if you check more often than just weekly do you record your weight loss as it happens or only on your actual 'weigh in' day? Sun, 7 Jun 2009 08:41:16 EST Hey Hey... Well when I saw the title of this board I just knew I was going to fit in. I've always said I was a plus-size baby (not that I actually know) but what I do know is I've been "BIG" Erika my whole life. I hit 200 lbs in the 9th grade and haven't see it since. I hope to very soon though...hopefully by the new year. Anyway, I'm here and I'm ready. Fri, 5 Jun 2009 13:08:43 EST Hi! I'm Leciadb! Hello everyone! My name is Lecia. I'm 28 and have been overweight my whole life except maybe kindergarten. I have no clue what I would look like at a normal weight but I am excited to find out! It is coming off slower than I had hoped but as long as I'm moving in the right direction.... I want to be normal. I want to feel normal. I want to look normal. I want to be treated normal. It's time. I will need your support. It helps to know their are people struggling like me and people who have bee... Fri, 5 Jun 2009 09:27:55 EST I'm re-introducing myself to the team!! Hello everyone! I have been a member of since '07, and a member of this team for quite some time, but I haven't been involved or active in the forums, goals, fitness tracking, etc., as I honestly have not been truly serious about losing weight, getting and staying healthy, and improving my life overall, until now. I am reaching out to everyone now, because I know what a difference having friends and encouragement will make in my progress. Thank you everyone, in advance for ... Mon, 1 Jun 2009 18:20:09 EST Funny typo searches. The DIET CHAIR Now do not get offended here about at least one stereotypical remark: Engrish rules the Internet ... But some of the bots made for creating webpages are sooooo chinese ... <BR> <BR> This link is part of a search I was doing on a fad I heard about in regards to geocaching. I was searching on "GPS DIET" ... :) <BR> <BR> What I found though was too funny. A "DIET CHAIR" ... That's right. This chair is for dieting. <BR> <BR> Again, Engrish strikes again on a sales generated website. <BR>... Wed, 27 May 2009 13:51:46 EST Yes, I'm a newbie! Hi! I'm new to SP, and just found this group off a new friends page- this place gets better and better every day! <BR> I am 24 going on 25 and have been overweight all my life! Even as an infant I was off the charts. I'm glad to have found a group that can really understand what it's like to have no idea what it's like to be in shape and all that goes with it! My husband is trying to lose weight also, but he has BEEN in shape before and knows what he wants to get to. He has NO idea what this ... Fri, 22 May 2009 11:45:32 EST Potassium intake. I've spent the last two weeks doing a lot of reading on potassium as a way to help curb problems with hypertension. <BR> <BR> Genetically I will be hypertensive. I have been before, borderline now, and will be again in my later years for sure. With that in mind, I was trying to incorporate SP's guidance with diet to help alter my intake ... <BR> <BR> The problem, like I'm sure so many have noticed using SP, is that achieving 4500 *minimum* is a real challenge. The challenge comes not so ... Wed, 20 May 2009 13:20:55 EST Hello All! I just would like to introduce myself as a new member, I have some reservations about joining this website but I know I need support that others whoa are not dealing with the same struggles cannot understand. I am 47, and I began college two years ago I am majoring in Psyh. this is a huge accomplishment for me and a goal I've had for years. I've had two major losses in the last three years my mom in 06 and my bestfriend in November 08. My friend and I went to school together and had been f... Fri, 15 May 2009 21:38:09 EST So ready!! I am officially done making excuses. I am ready for a change, and the only way it is going to happen is if I finally do it myself, and be responsible for my own actions and decisions. NO more saying friends led me to temptation. Or I was to busy to eat right or exercise. I can always find 10 min 3-4 times through out my day to do some cardio and strength training. Today is the day I change......EVERYTHING!!!! Fri, 8 May 2009 07:51:18 EST Do I deserve to be a normal weight? For me, who has been overweight all my life (birthweight 9 lb.s 12 oz.) and now am actually losing significant weight, I find myself face-to-face with the issue of "deserving" stuff. It is easy to believe that other people deserve to have their dreams come true. But, and I hate to say this, the thought occurs to me - "what I have done to deserve this?" Please don't respond to this post by saying - You do deserve good stuff. I know that, and this is not the issue. The issue is the belief in my... Fri, 1 May 2009 08:54:57 EST Do you randomly read people's blogs? Oddly I find a combination of mirth and inspiration as well as some useful information by surfing people's blogs. <BR> <BR> Funny thing is that's what got me to look at Spark in the first place. Large Meta search I did for some information on Cancer patient diets lead me here. <BR> <BR> Yes, no, rarely? <BR> <BR> Thu, 30 Apr 2009 14:11:54 EST Hello Just wanted to drop a note and say hello. I am looking forward to using this site. Mon, 30 Mar 2009 20:26:10 EST Hey, I am new here! Hello, my name is Misty. I joined this group because it seemed like the title fit my life perfectly. I have been overweight since I was a child, I have never been able to lose weight and keep it off. <BR> I started on this website and weight loss venture back in November, and I have not accomplished anything. I mean I am eating better, and trying to drink more water. I can not stay on an exercise schedule and it is no ones fault but my own. I am a sahm mom and I have plenty of time to ex... Sat, 28 Mar 2009 10:00:35 EST New Here My name is Melissa and I have indeed never been at my normal weight. Even as a baby, I was underweight. From toddlerhood on, I was always overweight. Never ever, been NORMAL? I currently weigh 245 pounds and hate it so much. I try to eat healthy and get in some exercise, but it never is enough. It's getting crazy that I can't shet this weight. I joined SP on Sunday and have been trying it. Never done anything for weight loss, so this will be interesting. Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:46:16 EST Hello Hi, my name is Holly. I am from the midwest, in my 30s. I recently (within the last 3 months) decided to change my life. I am going to be healthy and fit. <BR> <BR> I have been over-weight all my life. I grew up in a fat household. I never learned how to eat normal portions or exercise. Food was a treat, comfort, everything. <BR> <BR> I am here to develop good habits. Sun, 22 Mar 2009 20:34:23 EST IBS Anybody found a solutiopn for irritable bowel syndrome. I really hate this and it messes up my weight too. I can't seem to regulate it without laxatives, and I hate that. I am open to suggestions. <BR> Liz Sat, 7 Mar 2009 10:48:29 EST Hard time imagining... Does anyone one else sometimes struggle with even imagining themself at a normal weight. I have been so big for so long, I simple cannot picture myself in a healthy weight range. Sometimes it feels a little hopeless and I get close to giving up. I just keep telling myself "I can be healthier, even if I can't be as small as other people," but even that is not the ceeriest thought! <BR> <BR> Do you stuggle with this? How do you try to handle it or think about it? Thu, 19 Feb 2009 12:20:51 EST New to the team Hello! I just joined this team and wanted to say hello to everybody! I have always been a little bigger than other people, but in high school I was dealing with a really tough family situation and my weight really ballooned. I gained about 75 pounds in high school. I can't wait to get to know all of you! Sat, 14 Feb 2009 11:50:27 EST Hello. hi, i'm new. <BR> <BR> as far back as i can remember i've been the chubby or fat girl. boys used to call me "jelly rolls" in 3rd grade. i don't know what it's like to be skinny or even healthy. <BR> <BR> i don't know what my highest weight was but i used to wear size 22 jeans. <BR> <BR> i weighed in when i started wearing size 18 and i was 215 lbs. <BR> <BR> now i'm at 197/196 lbs and i'm wearing size 13 jeans. <BR> <BR> i do yoga every morning and i like jogging. i got my mile down to ... Wed, 28 Jan 2009 10:49:50 EST Hello! (An Introduction) Hi Everyone, <BR> <BR> My name is Jayme and I found Sparkpeople a little over two weeks ago. I'm loving it here, and finding that the daily nutrition and fitness tracking is really helping me stay motivated. I was thrilled to find this group in particular, as my weight has been a lifelong issue for me. Here's my story: <BR> <BR> In November, I went to a wellness screening, and the results scared me into jump-starting this new lifestyle. I was officially diagnosed with type-2 diabetes, and ... Thu, 22 Jan 2009 09:34:19 EST Hello! I am new here Hello everyone, <BR> I am Julie, a 33 year old wife and mother (I have 2 daughters a 3 year old, and a 12 year old stepdaughter), I am married to wonderful Army soldier. <BR> I have been obese since I was a child, starting around age 9 when I hit puberty, my weight has been ever increasing since then. <BR> I have dealt with all the teasing and rude comments that comes with being obese, I have built up a wall around me, so those comments no longer bother me. Even as an adult those things said... Thu, 15 Jan 2009 08:29:38 EST Movin' on down the line (New kid) Hi guys! <BR> I just realized that I haven't introduced myself and told my story. I was commenting on other people and all that, but here I was a complete stranger! <em>20</em> <BR> Well, I've been the "fat girl" all my life. The biggest in class, school, at work, in my group of friends...whatever. I can't say that anymore, but I was growing up. Real bummer on the self-esteem. At some point in Grad school I decided I was hot, even if no one had told me - they were just too stupid or blind t... Tue, 6 Jan 2009 21:00:18 EST Hello all My name is Stephanie and I'm not new but it has been awhile and I am starting fresh. I am a wife and mother of two. I live in Logan, UT and love it here. I have some major weight to lose and hope to love half of it by the time I go to Disneyland in June! <BR> <BR> Fri, 2 Jan 2009 02:23:40 EST The Support Thread I have noticed that there are some in this group that hunger for more posting and support than seems to be happening in this group. I would like this particular thread to help those who need this. If you post to this particular thread, then I would ask that you make the commitment to post at least twice a week here. That way, perhaps, we can at least have some who can know they will receive responses, and those who can post more or give more support have a place to get involved. I know it's t... Tue, 30 Dec 2008 07:27:01 EST New Year's Challenge Yes, here we are again, at the cusp of a New Year. I , myself, have high hopes for 2009. We got a Wii Fit for Christmas and it has been awesome. Please share with us your hopes for the New Year and any goals you may be setting or may have already set. For me - my goal is to use the Wii Fit for 1/2 hour each day. This is a doable goal for me. I have long been the one to make high and mighty goals that I can never reach. So I am beginning small and shooting for consistency. Share your plans wit... Mon, 29 Dec 2008 10:43:42 EST Hi Everyone!!! Hey everyone :) <BR> <BR> I am new to the site and have added myself to a few groups that are my motivators - or honestly things that have always been my problem areas. <BR> <BR> I have been overweight since I was very young. My most successful diet was Atkins...but when it made me start losing hair and having extreme moodswings I stopped it. <BR> <BR> I am hoping that joining this website will be a good way of losing weight HEALTHILY, and be something I can enjoy. <BR> <BR> Look fo... Sat, 27 Dec 2008 18:28:07 EST New Team Member Hello all! Hope you all enjoyed the Thanksgiving holiday! I'm very much looking forward to corresponding with many of you. <BR> <BR> I first joined Sparkpeople in 2006, but never committed to it 100%. I hope to do much better this time around. I am 32 years old and live in NYC. My highest weight was 322 pounds in January 1999. I managed to get down to 198 and have since then yo-yoed from about 230 to my current weight of 208. My goal is to lose the last 50 pounds and keep them off permanen... Sun, 30 Nov 2008 18:06:27 EST My Story Hello all. I joined this team because I just realized that I am smaller now than when I got married just out of high school in 1985--and it scares me to death and I don't know how to deal with it. I've been big for over two decades so I don't know how to act. I'm not to my goal yet and frankly I don't know if I will ever reach it, feeling the way I do today. I'm my own enemy now when it comes to that, aren't I? <BR> <BR> Anyway, I'm 42 and I really don't know what my ideal weight and m... Mon, 17 Nov 2008 16:49:17 EST New to all of this. Hi all. I'm new here and new to Spark People by about a month. I'm glad to know that I will have a lot of support in this group. Times are tough for me right now as I am grieving my Mom's passing, but I intend to survive - one day at a time. My eating is out of control and my motivation is gone. I really want to get thin, but again, one day at a time. I hope to become more involved with this group. Sun, 16 Nov 2008 11:38:43 EST New! About me - I hate these btw! I never know what to say... <BR> <BR> I am a 23 year old dog trainer. I've been training for a good 6/7 years. On the 16th of October I lost my best friend. He supported me in all that I have done in my life and its been really hard to walk without him by my side. (hes my dog btw - the golden retriever on my page) <BR> <BR> I've been fat pretty much my whole life and I've also stood in my own way with trying to lose weight. It scares me to be honest. I have st... Fri, 14 Nov 2008 13:52:26 EST Coming Home I was here in 2007 and ended up straying. I have regained all that I lost and starting from scratch again. <BR> <BR> This time I am trying to change things slowly and not all at once so I can effectively manage the changes. I tend to take on to much and then cannot keep up the momentum. <BR> <BR> It is nice to see some familiar people out there and a bunch to get to know. <BR> <BR> I have a now 5 yr old daughter and wonderful husband who is working on this with me. We live in Alaska... Wed, 12 Nov 2008 15:24:01 EST Hi! HI! I have to tell you, I was just thinking about this very subject a few days ago...Never knowing a normal weight. It isn't an easy subject to explore, but I am here to do just that. What I weigh now, is what I can remember weighing for as long as I can remember. I did go to 166 when I was 16 and went to Weight Watchers. That was 32 years ago. That lasted a few months before the weight came back. Anyway, I am glad I found this team. I hope to learn a few things. The scale has been stuck for... Wed, 22 Oct 2008 08:50:51 EST Hello! Hi everyone! I have been on Sparkpeople for almost a year now.... I was faithful for the first few months but then after a series of issues this year I fell of the wagon. <BR> <BR> I have been overweight my entire life! I was born at 8 lbs 11 ounces and started gaining there! Growing up, I was always the fat kid... <BR> <BR> I struggled through an eating disorder, pills and numerous fads while in high school and my early twenties. None of which helped! <BR> <BR> Last year, after a pretty... Fri, 26 Sep 2008 15:51:57 EST Hello again Hi, I haven't been using spark consistently for a few months, and I just got my own computer, so it's time to get back in the swing of things! I've been having a hard time this year. I hit a big ugly plateau, and became very discouraged. I stayed the same until about June/July and since then have gain back about 12lbs. I'm very disappointed in myself, and frustrated because I'm having a hard time being dedicated like I was for the first year and a half. I thought I'd never loose that mot... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 01:48:48 EST Trying again Hi, I don't remember if I ever got to the point of introducing myself in the past. I have been away from Sparks for far too long. I've needed to take a great deal of time to help care for my mother who has had a real rough time with health issues this year. However, I have really drug my feet in getting back. <BR> I'm from Indiana and like all of you have been overweight all my life, maybe with the exception of my original birth weight, which was large for that time period. I work from ho... Tue, 23 Sep 2008 00:09:55 EST Hello everyone! My name is Nancy and I live in the Northwoods of Wisconsin. I have been a Spark Member for quite a while now, but recently have been motivated to getting this excess weight off! I had more than 200 pounds to lose, and am close to having 60 of it gone! <BR> <BR> This is the perfect group for me as I don't have any real experience in being average weight. I have been overweight ALL my life....and I'm sure that I had/have an eating disorder. I remember as a child eating two cheeseburgers ... Mon, 22 Sep 2008 15:20:52 EST New team member Hi! <BR> I just found this team. It caught my interest immediately because I do not recall ever being a normal weight. I think no one expects I could ever be a normal weight, including me. I need support from people who understand what it is like to never having felt thin. Wed, 17 Sep 2008 11:27:14 EST Yeap... I can totally relate! Normal Weight? What is that?? SERIOUSLY.... I have been up and down my WHOLE life. I want to win this battle this time around. HOW MANY TIMES have we said that. I am heading into my 40's and hoping to get where I need to be with my weight. <BR> <BR> After becoming the HEAVIEST I have ever been in my life- even after giving birth to my last child I didn't weight what I did in Feb. of this year. I have dropped 20 pounds and would like to continue to get the unwanted weight off. I had bee... Sat, 13 Sep 2008 22:09:00 EST This is like the perfect team for me! I nearly gasped when I read the title for this spark team as it fits me perfectly.... <BR> <BR> I have never been a normal weight....the lowest weight I can remember myself at was around 156 pounds in 5th grade. Now, when I look back on it, I wish I could be that weight again. I was about 5 foot 2 or 3 in 5th grade, so I was somewhat tall. <BR> <BR> I just want to be a healthy and normal weight, ya know? At this point in my life I don't care if I can ever get to wear a bikini or the beach o... Tue, 9 Sep 2008 11:31:31 EST Check in. How are you doing? What are you up to? I am putting a new check-in thread to the top in the hopes the title will inspire team members to share. My own progress is not good. It is baffling when I eat poorly and lose weight and eat well and gain. It is also very discouraging. [Sigh]. I hope some of you are having a better day than me. <BR> Liz Sun, 7 Sep 2008 10:31:42 EST The S Word I am going to take a risk here and ask how others on this team are dealing with sex. I have a huge struggle, because 1) I don't feel sexy, and 2) Having sex when I weight more than 280 lbs. is just plain uncomfortable. But I love my husband and I feel terrible that I have no drive at all. I don't even know how to begin to change things. It's all very frustrating. Anybody else willing to take a risk to share thoughts on this topic? <BR> Liz Wed, 27 Aug 2008 20:23:12 EST heya Hi, <BR> I'm new to this, and have met a few people that are in the same boat. I've been big my whole life, and had given up for a while about trying to change it. Now I feel there is a resolve there never was before, and I am on a good path with good tools and friends. I have a non-specific goal weight since I've never been that skinny, so as I get closer I'll adjust it accordingly. I live in FL and just turned 24, and am realizing I don't want to be a fat mom, I don't want to die early, an... Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:37:06 EST Hey there! :) I've been a member of SP since early May. I did really well until my wedding on May 29th, and from then until last Friday (August 22nd)I stopped... My husband and I learned that we're expecting our second child and that was the 'Spark' (I know cheesy... but that's me. lol.) I needed to get back up on the proverbial horse. <BR> <BR> You see, our daughter Lilly was delivered through emergency c-section 6 weeks early, because I developed preeclampsia. I know this isn’t necessarily a weight rela... Tue, 26 Aug 2008 13:47:40 EST So Cal Loser! hehe Hiyas! <BR> <BR> 32 y/o never been married, no kids here. Have over 100 lbs to lose *takes a deep breath* <BR> <BR> Glad to be here! Tue, 26 Aug 2008 02:11:56 EST Recipe for Oatmeal Meatloaf Hello Sparkers, <BR> <BR> I have a bunch of oatmeal to use up and am looking for the classic Seventh Day Adventist recipe (or any other) a friend of mine used years ago. I have looked at sparkrecipes and googled but can't find it. I do not care for lentils, tofu, veggie burgers, beans, etc in my meatloaf; instead I want oatmeal as the main ingredient. Of course I will add other ingredients and veggies. Just hoping one of you might have the recipe. <BR> <BR> The oatmeal I have is Old Fashi... Sun, 24 Aug 2008 17:46:55 EST Plateau Busters Some of us have been "camped" around the same weight numbers despite good efforts. Any ideas for moving the scale downward in such a situation? <em>225</em> Wed, 20 Aug 2008 07:56:04 EST Vegetarians I was wondering what do vegetarians eat to get protein? It has been on my mind to get some information on becoming a vegetarian. I would like to see if it is right for me. Thanks for all the help!!! Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:39:36 EST What about the kids? I am curious to know how those of us who are parents are handling weight issues with our kids. It would seem we have some baggage if we have never known a normal weight in our own lives and that would somehow play out in the next generation. So how does that work for everybody else? For me, one of my five children is seriously obese - but unlike my parents with me, I have never shamed her over her weight. <em>48</em> <BR> Liz Tue, 19 Aug 2008 23:07:17 EST Get it off your chest! I'll begin! <BR> <BR> I should only eat what my meal plan says. Its balanced out for me for a reason and I should and must stick to it. The minute I think I can allow my tastebuds something not stated on there I go wrong, wrong, wrong! <BR> <BR> I cannot stray of the track! I cannot eat something that is should not on the plan, I can't cope, I clearly cannot manage myself! The plan is there to make things easier for me, I should take that option. <BR> <BR> Now I've got that off my chest.... Mon, 18 Aug 2008 15:51:23 EST I'm new I just wanted to say hi to everyone. I joined SparkPeople a couple years ago and kind of gave up, but I am back. I started back on the 15th. I joined a local gym. I found out recently I have high blood pressure as well as high cholesterol. I'm only 31, and I need to make a change for the better. I have struggled with weight issues all my life. In High School I struggled with severe anorexia nervosa, and now several years later, I am obese. I have beat my poor body up. It's time I treat my bod... Sun, 17 Aug 2008 14:54:17 EST Daily Challenges In an effort to increase participation in the team. I am looking at posting a daily challenge. The first challenge just to get this process started is to post whether or not you are interested in trying this. Challenges will be things like posting, pushups, getting your fiber, etc. Thanks, Chris Thu, 14 Aug 2008 13:27:36 EST The "Why" Behind the Issue I would like to get a discussion going, if I can. There are many people who joined this team because the name "Never Known a Normal Weight" resonated with them. Here's my question for discussion -- <BR> <BR> Based on your knowledge of yourself - issues, habits, etc. - why do you think in your whole life you have never known a normal weight? What has impeded you from reaching a normal weight in your life? (I am assuming it is NOT from lack of trying.) <BR> <BR> Let's see if we can get talkin... Tue, 12 Aug 2008 16:28:23 EST Help For a long time I have struggled with what to do with this team. The title has resonated with many people, but we have far too few postings (I think) to really be a support to the members. I am asking for some members of this team who would like to help me jump start things here to contact me, either via spark mail or via this thread. In essence, I am looking for a co-leader or leaders who can help with regular postings and encouragement to facilitate the participation of more of this teams m... Thu, 7 Aug 2008 12:44:43 EST HELLO I'm not new to spark people I just decided to come back. I learned alot of good habits when I was on before and began to have good discipline with exercising. However, I just went through my grandmother passing away and have found it to be a struggle to simply eat let alone exercise. I am trying to get the motivation I once had so I can get back on track. I know the grieving process takes time but at the same time I dont want it to begin to be a crutch for me not to take care of myself. I ... Wed, 6 Aug 2008 16:32:01 EST New Team Member Hi, I have been battling the weight all my life. I have lost many pounds on many diets and each time I gain back even more. I have a lot of weight to lose and this time I will keep it off because I am not on a diet, I am changing my lifestyle. <em>104</em> Wed, 16 Jul 2008 21:01:27 EST Always been the jokester? I was watching this documentary today on weight issues. There was this one person who talked about how someone who's been overweight most of their lives is mostly described as loud, cheerful, friendly etc. They talked about how overweight people try to compensate for their appearance by being pleasant, always being the one with the jokes, appearing confident etc. Basically doing everything they can to be 'liked' by their peers. However, in real life they may or may not be like that. <BR> <... Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:04:42 EST Laugh - Stress Reliel... STRESS RELIEF... <BR> <BR> Click on the word BUBBLEWRAP!!!! <BR> <BR> Too cool!! <BR> Don't forget to go to manic mode.... <BR> THIS IS AWESOME! <BR> WHO WOULD HAVE THOUGHT YOU COULD DO IT ONLINE!! <BR> <BR> A great stress reliever for this time of year!!! <BR> Go ahead, you know you want to... <BR> <BR> BUBBLEWRAP <BR> Sun, 13 Jul 2008 01:28:39 EST 23 and have got to lose this weight! Hi my name is Ashley I live in York, PA. I have been over wieght for as long as I can remember. I started this weight gain when I lost my grandmother when I was 9 years old. Ever since I have been packing on the pounds. At first it was really fast. The first 2 years after she died I gained 80 lbs. So by the time I was a teenager I was over 200 lbs. And as the years passed I just kept on gaining, and now I am 23 weighing 318 lbs. I have been up and down my entire life and I am sick of ... Fri, 27 Jun 2008 13:14:36 EST UK Newbie Hi, <BR> <BR> I'm a serial dieter - 53 years old - and disabled with fibromyalgia. <BR> <BR> I've been overweight since having TB when I was 3 - the children that could put weight on were the ones who survived, and if you started losing it again it could be a sign that it was back - so I can't really blame my parents (who are also big) from keeping me heavy. When I was 16 I was allowed to diet, by which time I was over 200 lbs and the damage was done. I'd learnt to overeat and although I'... Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:24:44 EST A life long struggle I'm a 22 year old lady. I'm a copy-editor, textbook author, and the wife of the best husband in the world. My struggle with weight began so early it's among my first memories. I was six when my pediatrician told my mom that I was overweight and he recommended that she reduce my weight somehow. <BR> <BR> Two weeks later, I went to Weight Watchers which was very hard to sit through even for me and my notoriously long attention span. Soon, watching my weight became her obsession. I wasn't al... Tue, 24 Jun 2008 16:35:24 EST Hi, I'm new to the team I've been using Sparks off and on for over a year and have just begun in the last month. I was born small 4 lbs and 8 oz., but it's all been uphill from there. It was especially hard in high school when "Twiggy" was all the rage. Thank heavens, I was intelligent, musical and even though I was overweight, I did participate in sports. The dating scene was a no - go and my self confidence really suffered even though I had a lot of good qualities. It was often difficult to tell if others wa... Mon, 23 Jun 2008 23:21:22 EST Did You Know? Lets get to know each other in a fun way. Come to this area and list 3 things that we don't know about you. If everyone does it a few times we will learn alot. Thanks, Chris Mon, 16 Jun 2008 14:52:11 EST What color is your day? Dr. Seuss writes: <BR> <BR> Some days are yellow, <BR> Some day are blue. <BR> <BR> On different days I'm different too. <BR> <BR> You'd be surprised how many ways, <BR> I change on different colored days. <BR> <BR> On bright red days how good it feels <BR> to be a horse and kick my heels! <BR> <BR> On other days I'm other things. <BR> On bright blue days I flap my wings. <BR> <BR> Some days, of course feel sort of brown. <BR> Then I feel slow and low, low down. <BR> <BR> T... Sat, 7 Jun 2008 22:03:03 EST The Relationship With Food For people with issues - whether it is drugs, alcohol, food, sex, or other substances or behaviors - there is a progression of involvement. With the exception of certain substances that have a documented physical reaction in the body(opiates being one) there is no such thing as instant problems (or addiction). For this thread, I would like to focus on the relationship with food. Please copy the questions below and paste them into a new reply with your answers. Again, you are free to respond o... Fri, 6 Jun 2008 21:56:34 EST How's It Going? I am starting a new checking in thread in the hopes that people will post again. If you haven't posted for awhile, please tell us all how it's going for you. <BR> <BR> I am so pleased with the response to the research questions. I want to encourage others to check out the "Research into Chronic Obesity forum. If you have already and you feel comfortable doing it, post to the three topics (one is not visible in the top 3 - it is titled "background") and share about your experience. <BR> <BR>... Fri, 6 Jun 2008 07:25:50 EST Exploring The History of Your Thinking About You This is probably a little more in-depth in terms of writing. I am trying to find/see some threads of commonality in what everyone is experiencing. It's rather surprising to me how some of what I would think of as true, appear to be myths, according to this group. In other words, they are not experienced by everyone and so don't seem to be "the cause" of chronic obesity. Some of these include family history, trauma, birth weight, and family dynamics. <BR> <BR> <BR> Within the categories belo... Tue, 3 Jun 2008 07:09:40 EST Emotional/ ersonality Background Copy the questions below and paste your answers into a new post. Note that questions that use the word "child" apply up to age 21, or adulthood. <BR> <BR> Emotional/Personality Background: <BR> <BR> Describe your personality, being aware that it may take several sentences to do so. (Type A or B, anxious, outgoing, introverted, adventurous, etc.): <BR> <BR> What kind of family environment did you grow up in?: <BR> <BR> What was your family's attitude towards obesity?: <BR> <BR> How did yo... Sat, 31 May 2008 22:32:23 EST Discussion I just wanted a place and space at the top here for anything anyone might want to discuss related to this research. I, for one, find the answers fascinating. Especially the kinds of things tried before age 21 to lose weight. We were all kids for pete's sake. I will post a new series of questions shortly. I am also going to send an email to the team to invite people to participate and let them know what we are doing here. The larger the sample size the better. Anyone is free to post to any of ... Fri, 30 May 2008 17:04:17 EST Background Please copy the bottom of the following post and post to this thread with the answers. I emphasize if you are not comfortable answering anything you are free to leave it blank. You are free to participate or not participate in any of these threads. Any information used in research analysis WILL NOT contain any identifying information. In any instance where it <BR> might be necessary to use a name (such as utilizing a quote) a pseudonym will be used in place of the person's name. All informat... Thu, 29 May 2008 19:33:07 EST What Do You Think? I've had this rattling around in my head for awhile and I want to put out some feelers to see what the team members think about this. As a professor in a tenure track position, I have some obligation to do some research and publish. I have struggled with this issue of being overweight all my life and I am amazed to see how many are in the same boat as me. In reality, when I started this team, I truly believed I was all alone. Never did I ever dream we would be pushing 300 members!!!! <BR> <B... Tue, 27 May 2008 20:30:57 EST Awareness I realized today that some of the stuff keeping me stuck is lack of awareness of the things I do. One particular behavior that struck me today - for the first time(!!!) is that of garbage disposal. Here's the way it went. <BR> DH and I were in McDonald's. We both got the sundaes for dessert. His had 1/3 left and he got an ice cream headache. He said to me - "you can finish it" and pushed his unfinished sundae my way - and I did. It didn't hit me then, but later today we had supper, which ha... Mon, 26 May 2008 19:12:15 EST Exercise So what kind of activity, (exercise) is everyone in this group doing? I have been a member of Curves, rarely ever to go. This week I have made it 5 times and feel great. I have a goal of doing all again next week. Sat, 24 May 2008 18:49:24 EST hello Hi :) I just joined a few days ago and I thought I'd say hello. so, um, Hello! <BR> <em>184</em> Thu, 8 May 2008 09:07:55 EST First month evaluation Well last night was my 1 month evaluation at the fitness club and the results are.... <BR> <BR> I've lost a total of 11" and 6 lbs! <em>9</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> I am so happy!!!! <em>104</em> <BR> <BR> Wed, 7 May 2008 09:34:07 EST Ideas for Healthy Snacking Hi All, <BR> <BR> I am wondering what people use for healthy snacking. <BR> <BR> Since I am eating a lot less often (and amount) than I was a month ago, I find that I want to keep eating frequently, and understand that it's a good idea to eat every few hours. <BR> I want to stop opening my fridge in a panic that I either have to do without or eat stuff that isn't good for me. <BR> What do people do for healthy, low cal, nourishing, pleasing snacks? <BR> <BR> Wed, 30 Apr 2008 20:09:25 EST The "Make Some Progress" Challenge Hello fellow teammates! This thread is created to begin a new challenge - one that we all can get on board with. Select and post two goals that you would like to work towards. Then beginning this Sunday, check in again here and post your progress. You get one point for each goal you achieve for each day. We'll do this challenge for two weeks, and the person with the most points as of Saturday evening, May 3 gets the grand prize - to choose the photo representing this team for the next month. ... Wed, 16 Apr 2008 22:13:53 EST About me Hello. I joined this group the other day and have been so busy not had time to post until now. <BR> Sounds like you all have been fighting the weight battle all of your lives also. Some of my story is on my page, so check it out if you choose to. I am the oldest of ten children, none of my own. I have been heavy all my life and it seems that the older I got the bigger I got. But the worst of it came during my abusive marriage. I was married at the age of 16. I did reach 600 pounds then had th... Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:39:43 EST Crashing I guess I just needed to create a space for myself to vent and do a little "poor me." The good news is, it has nothing to do with eating. But it does have to do with my life. Within a 24 hour period earlier in this week I went from a great high to a big low. I'm sure everyone is aware (some more painfully than others) of the recession. We have never been able to stablize financially. I had an expectation of a fairly large payment earlier this week than not only never materialized, but likely ... Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:36:06 EST Hi from Shannon! Hello All! I'm happy to find this group, as I too have been overweight all my life. I remember bursting out crying in 5th grade because a little (much younger boy) rode his bike past me and said "you're so fat, you must weigh 100lbs!" and I was actually close to 200lbs. I'm only 24 now, so I like to believe the next 3/4 of my life will be different :) Tue, 8 Apr 2008 15:09:01 EST Tells us how you are doing!!! Hey everyone, check in to this loop just to tell us all how you are doing - whether things are working for you or if you need support. I think sometimes we want to post but don't really know what to say. This is something helpful to all of us - just to let everyone know you are still out there and still hanging in there. <BR> <em>134</em> Liz Sun, 6 Apr 2008 14:02:16 EST New to the Team Hi I'm excited to have found these boards and can't wait to start meeting new people in the same boat as me. <em>303</em> I need all the help I can get. <BR> <BR> I have always been overweight - ya know the biggest girl in the class, getting called names, no boyfriends in school etc.... I've got a great man that I'm married to that I didn't meet until I was 31 and that was over 12yrs ago now. I was at a great weight when I met him and then found out that I really did know how to cook and t... Wed, 26 Mar 2008 18:11:20 EST Check in and Connect The old thread was getting a bit long, so I'm starting a new check in thread. How's everyone doing? I am just coming off a spring break after visiting the family in Utah. It's hard to get back to work. The good news is, I haven't done so bad, even while not really watching what I was eating. That's a good sign, as it took me like 6 months to losr five pounds because I would lose it and gain it and lose it and gain it. Still hanging in there. <BR> <em>134</em> Liz Sun, 23 Mar 2008 22:43:42 EST Hello Everyone. I'm so happy I found this site. It's taken awhile to get settled in and get moving,in other words I've been procrastinating would like a buddy to help me get started. I need to be accountable to someone starting out. I have a lot of issues I need to work on. I work nights and I eat at night when I come home. I sit on my job and my B... is spreading. I feel out of control and that is a very scary feeling. I told myself that I will take one day at a time and set realistic goal and take act... Wed, 19 Mar 2008 23:06:10 EST New to the team Hi,I've been in sp for a month. Just began a new diet plan 3 days ago and while reading ahead in the book, I see that they only expect to lose 6 lbs. in 4 weeks. I don't expect to lose like lightning but I know I can do at least that well, without a $40 book and tight eating plan! Looking to just change my habits, eat better, do some exercise, meet people. Is anybody doing the spark diet? I really don't want to spend anymore money on a book, group, program,plan! I've learned most of the info ... Fri, 7 Mar 2008 21:52:16 EST I was the fat twin I was 5lbs, 1 oz @ birth. My twin was 5lbs 8oz. I had trouble gaining weight, it was a cause for concern, and I was fed more frequently with both formula and rice water supplementation. (I often wonder if that set me up for weight issues throughout my life.) Well, it worked. From early childhood on, I was the fat twin. <BR> Being the fat twin left me feeling awkward and inadequate. <BR> Fast forward 48 years (37 years of yo-yo dieting) and I’m still dealing with this “weight thing”. I’v... Fri, 7 Mar 2008 15:00:34 EST thinner friends does anyone have that thin friend who went from a size 2 in high school to a size 8 and bitches about it? i've never been in single digit clothes. the smallest i've worn was a 11/12 and now i'm and 18 bordering on 20 which i refuse to do. <BR> <BR> and what's worse is when they talk about their weight i start feeling bad about myself because if they see themselves as big how do they see me? Wed, 20 Feb 2008 13:16:18 EST Introducing myself I am 33 years old and frustrated!! I have spent my entire adult life fat and unhealthy. <BR> <BR> I make a million excuses.. but the truth is deep down for some reason I just can't make the changes to loose weight! Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:39:33 EST introducing myself! hi, someone told me about this group on a message board post and I thought it was perfect for me to join. My name is Tara and I'm a 22 year old female with what I think is a total weight loss max of 50 pounds. I too have never known my true healthy weight and so I am going in this sort of blind! but here's to going at it strong! <em>213</em> Mon, 18 Feb 2008 12:15:56 EST down day... its a down day for me... sometimes i get depressed over the little things... or when i feel i know i can do something and at the same time it feels like the 'dream of knowing i can do something' is being crushed by someone else.... i feel mentally incapable of being normal... i'm sure they don't really mean to come across that way... that's just the way my brain is perceiving it <em>46</em> <BR> <BR> now i just want to eat whatever and however much i want... don't worry, so far i haven't..... Sun, 10 Feb 2008 11:22:31 EST Calorie Counting I still haven't had time to thoroughly look through and so I was wondering if anyone might know if there is a counter (here at that calculates how many calories one needs to maintain and/or lose weight? <BR> <BR> Also, what is the difference in Kcal vs. Cal (in exercise) <BR> <BR> Thanks <BR> <BR> Beth Wed, 6 Feb 2008 10:48:42 EST Let's Celebrate the Small Stuff Success really is found in the consistent small steps. Succeeding where I have never succeeded before means doing things differently than I have done before. Let's use this thread to celebrate to small victories of change. Here's my latest. <BR> <BR> The other day, I was done with my food for the day and I had the "munchies." I was going to make a bag of popcorn and add butter to it. Instead I just popped the bag and left out the butter. Even better, I was going to eat the whole bag, but I a... Mon, 4 Feb 2008 11:57:38 EST Learning to be okay with me, just as I am One thing I really stink at is patience. Everything has to be done yesterday. All problems solved, all progress completed, etc., etc. I am doing my best to be patient with my progress. For example, in one month I lost one pound. But the real progress is slowly establishing new habits, and especially being okay with today, and ultimately with me - who I am right now. <BR> I have been so freaked out all my life about who I am not - normal size. This is the background noise of my life that ult... Sun, 3 Feb 2008 19:32:44 EST I'm back Hi all, <BR> <BR> I've been away from Spark for about 5-6 months :( (I'm so ashamed!!) But I guess things are better now than they were before... I have a new outlook on my health ( I actually joined a gym and have been faithful!) <BR> <BR> I was wondering if anyone has thought about trying a raw food diet?? I am really interested in doing this but just can't seem to pull up the will power. <BR> <BR> I would love to hear ideas about this, if anyone has tried it or is currently doing this,... Sat, 2 Feb 2008 17:32:36 EST Hullo from SC Glad to find this board! It's nice to have the support of knowing there are others in the same boat.. but willing to change! Thu, 31 Jan 2008 23:22:05 EST Did you have a healthy day? I am a teacher and our school was closed in Buffalo NY due to weather...I was home with my children...made them pancakes for breakfast...but, turned my caloric intake around by eating light for lunch so as to not go over my range AND I did 32 minutes on my elliptical AND we went mall walking together!! <BR> Before spark, I would have binged all day and sat on the couch watching tv... <BR> Thank you to all of you for inspiring me!! <BR> <em>252</em> <em>247</em> Wed, 30 Jan 2008 16:05:54 EST help with calorie adjustments So I am trying to up my calories into a healthier level than the 400-500 I have been doing. My question is how can I start doing this without gaining weight? Should I up it so many cals a day, or a week? I am also going to the gym 5x a week for cardio and doing strength training 3x a week. I think I know how I am going to incorporate the cals, Im thinking whole grains like brown rice and whole wheat bread. that way Im upping my fiber too, and adding a tuna or salmon steak or chicken brea... Fri, 25 Jan 2008 11:00:19 EST Perfectionism I had an experience today where, on an ambulance call, I made a mistake. <BR> This wasn't a patient care mistake, it was more of a protocol/procedure/the way we do things around here mistake. My crew explained it to me when we got back. They had a good point and I understood what I had done. <BR> What is interesting is how I reacted. I thought about it and experienced a ridiculous level of anxiety followed by a crashing black mood. Ironically, the little magazine I get from a program I follo... Sat, 19 Jan 2008 20:19:23 EST hi all my name is renee and Im 37 and live in jacksonville, florida. I have always been overweight, except when I starved myself. the smallest I ever got down to is a size 8, then I had alot of drama and stopped caring and ballooned back up, I did this over and over, each time getting bigger til Im now over 300#s and in a terribly unhealthy mindset about dieting. I have been dieting but wont eat over 5oo cals a day without freaking out that I ate too much. I dont know how to do this any other wa... Thu, 17 Jan 2008 17:17:54 EST Weight Loss --> ANXIETY <em>24</em> <BR> <BR> I've been on the weight loss wagon before and even had some success (30 pounds). The problem is that when i lost the 30 pounds i started feeling very unbalanced and anxiety-ridden on the inside - i didn't use any over the counter or prescription remidies, just good old fashioned weight watchers. I was noticing very positive changes in my physical body and was happy with those changes - i just couldn't get past the anxiety that was building up inside me. So the stra... Tue, 15 Jan 2008 07:53:10 EST I'm New! Hi, <BR> <BR> I'm Amy and so glad to have found this team. When I'm on some of the others and they say that they've only become overweight a few years ago, or after baby, I started to think I'm the only one who ever grew up overweight. I'm 22 years old and can't remember a moment in time that I wasn't overweight. I want to know what the girl inside that's never been able to come out is like. And I want my future children to know that person inside from the get-go. Thu, 10 Jan 2008 20:44:14 EST Reaching out challenge I know that the more we help others the more we help ourselves. We have quite a few members on this team, but only a handful of active ones. Speaking from my own experience, it's very easy to isolate, and subsequently drop out. This challenge is to help others, and so help yourselves. Between now and Sunday, check out some of the members of this team whom you have not seen post, go to their spark page to learn more about them. By Sunday, either post a comment to three team members' pages invi... Thu, 10 Jan 2008 11:12:52 EST Get Moving This challenge will go from Thursday to Saturday (just 3 days). We have more than 170 members of this team. Let's see if we can add 750 total team exercise minutes between now and Saturday night. Move the number from 9,735 minutes to 10,485. Log your minutes and use the stats from your fitness page to report on Saturday your contribution. The winner will choose the next challenge for the team (or if that doesn't motivate you, then the winner will have a spotlight done on him/her). <BR> Liz Wed, 9 Jan 2008 17:16:56 EST newbie shout out Hello all, <BR> I am new to spark people, but not new to dieting. I figured this would be a good group for me because, even though I'm not too bad off health-wise (yet!), I have never really believed I could weigh what I'm supposed to for my age and height in spite of how many times I've lost a good amount of weight. I think that this will be the last time I go on a diet because I am planning on meeting my goal and staying there. I've never set a goal this big before either, so this will be ... Wed, 9 Jan 2008 01:57:31 EST New here~from Minnesota Well I'm new here and will need "ALOT" of help as I want to lose 70 pounds. The kids have grown and I live alone. Some days I can do well and eat 3 meals a day & then some days I go with just having a couple of snacks Just as some days I "get moving" and some days I just sit here in front of the computer on my 360 page. So I don't get out much~just a couple of times a month for shopping & there is a little store within eyesight that I go to at times to just walk around and look.(It's in a sma... Sun, 6 Jan 2008 19:22:54 EST glad to find others! newbie Hi all, <BR> I am glad to find this and will be reading and writing here for a spell. I have never had a normal weight. Today I have what alot would consider an enviable body, very, very fit from decades of training but most ladies who weigh what I do are really struggling. My strength is such that I can manage my weight through push ups, challenging yoga transitions, running, etc... I know logically I shouldn't get all crazed about the scale and BMI, but I do. At 180lbs I have a 28 inc... Thu, 3 Jan 2008 08:31:37 EST Adjusting Your Self Image Here's my question/problem that I'd like to get input on. Maybe, a little background first would help. I've been overweight my entire life - essentially from grade school on. My highest weight was 253, I now weigh 156. I know that I'm very close to a healthy weight (15 pounds). And I'm very fit. I exercise 6 days a week; 3 weight training days and 3 cardio days. I'm doing all the 'right' things. <BR> <BR> My trouble is that when I look in the mirror I still don't like what I see. Log... Wed, 2 Jan 2008 12:34:05 EST 1st "Small Steps" Challenge Let's begin, shall we? Please post here what you will commit to doing for your first challenge to move forward in small steps. If you can, also include what your reward will be if you succeed. Ideally I would like the challenges to start on Sunday and end on Saturday, with the new ones posted by Saturday night. However, anyone can jump in anywhere along the line. This first small one will only last until this Saturday, Jan 5 - just so I can even it out. <BR> <BR> For me: <BR> Goal: Walk 1.5 ... Tue, 1 Jan 2008 13:36:10 EST Just chit chat Chris, thanks for pointing out that we really need a thread just to chat. Here it is. <BR> Liz Tue, 1 Jan 2008 13:32:21 EST Intro I had sort of lost touch with SparkPeople for much of last year and was looking for a different group to join. The title of this one caught my eyse since I fall into the category exactly. I look forward to hearing advice and direction as well as motivation from people on this team. Mon, 31 Dec 2007 11:36:45 EST Something ingrained in you but it does not work I think part of the issue in never having known a normal weight is having stuff ingrained into my head as a child that operates in the background automatically. I'd like to keep this thread going to expose all the crap we taken on over the years that is really someone else's issue. The following issue was my mother's, who has some freak thing about throwing food away. <BR> <BR> <em>198</em> First on my list is NEVER THROW FOOD OUT! Well, if I can't throw it away, the only other place for i... Sun, 30 Dec 2007 09:45:43 EST Replies and support for the New Year thread I want to keep the New Year thread pristine, to see how many from this team we can get to post before the new year, so I'm creating this thread for replies. (BTW, if you have friends on this team encourage them to post to the New Year thread.) <BR> <BR> Carol and Joy I am SO GLAD you got the ball rolling! We can all support each other. I have long felt the discouragement. Even worse, I felt like I was supposed to be some sort of role model because I'm the team leader. Instead, I have been fa... Sun, 30 Dec 2007 07:20:27 EST New member ... that's me. I have always felt like I was fatter than everyone, even in kindergarten. I got down to 130 lbs in high school after trying purging, but could not sustain that (thank goodness). I sometimes wonder what it feels like to be thin. Sat, 29 Dec 2007 22:30:35 EST Check in HERE before the New Year <em>283</em> Hey everybody! Check in to let us know where you are at - succeeding, failing, stuck, needing encouragement, needing support, whatever it is. There are 163 team members~ let's see if we can meet the challenge and get 163 posts to this thread before 12 a.m. on Jan. 1, 2008. <BR> <BR> You can't begin until you take stock of where you are at. Here's mine~ <BR> <BR> <em>134</em> I got started again just a few days before Christmas. I've been trying to set small goals and just sta... Sat, 29 Dec 2007 20:47:43 EST Small Steps to Success I realize that for a problem so entrenched as NEVER having known a normal weight, success will only come by the very small changes in things like my attitude, my choices, my thinking. I would like to record some of my own small steps that I feel move me in a positive direction. Any great success is a sum of many very little successes, even if it's doing something for an hour or a day. It is a place to build upon. <BR> <BR> I got through a difficult day yesterday, and I did something for the ... Sat, 29 Dec 2007 08:02:36 EST Finally an intro(longish) I joined this group before I did another disappearing act from Spark. I don't think I ever got around to posting an introduction. Now that I'm trying to get back on track AGAIN, I thought I'd come out of hiding and start being more accountable. <BR> <BR> Anyway, my name is Tracy and I was born a preemie, which in my family was a license to overfeed. By the time I was in Kindergarten I was 10% over what was considered normal weight. It just went up from there. <BR> <BR> Now I'm a 41 year ol... Thu, 27 Dec 2007 13:41:21 EST Focus on the Positive I was reading a post from someone on the emergency thread - where you post when you are in trouble. While I certainly empathized with her struggle, she was only looking at the crap. I thinking that is my tendency as well, so I wanted to do a thread on the positive, to balance all the negative stuff I tend to dwell on. <BR> <BR> My first positive post is that I am on day three of no bingeing! Yay for me! <BR> <em>244</em> <BR> Liz Thu, 27 Dec 2007 13:21:22 EST The Success Stumble One of the things I would like to talk about is something I call the success stumble. Everthing is going well, and then there's a little voice that says something like - can I really be doing well? Something is sure to go wrong. <BR> <em>198</em> <BR> It's almost like I am afraid of success, particularly in weight loss. This is part of my own baggage at never having known a normal weight. I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. <BR> Tue, 25 Dec 2007 12:20:24 EST Isolation I have the hardest time connecting with people. In all of this struggle I still feel so isolated. I'm not sure what the deal is. Perhaps I don't reach out enough. I know I need support to accomplish this goal, because on my own it is a nightmare. I give in to the slightest push against my resolution to eat healthier. Yesterday it was getting a gift of chocolates. In so many ways, it seems like it's still just me. I started this team to find people who were like me - dealing with a lifelong st... Sun, 23 Dec 2007 14:46:03 EST hello everyone Before in my life I never knew what it was to stay one size, I have finally found a organisation in denmark (I was born and raised in New Zealand) that has helped me loss weight. <BR> Now I am a normal weight, I still get scared and I ride my bathroom weight every morning more than I use the bus to get to work. <BR> You can never relax or get sloppy, as those kilo's just sneak their way back. I am tired of being a swing door weight loser, this time I staying thin, if my heads image will acc... Wed, 19 Dec 2007 23:37:40 EST Not wanting to go outside Most people don't understand this ... but I don't want anyone to know I'm exercising. I've always had a hard time going outside for a walk even before the OA got me. I just didn't want anyone knowing I was trying to lose weight and get healthy. <BR> <BR> I think there are a couple of reasons for that. Once when I was in a late teens, I was at the drive-in movies with my little brother. We were walking to the restrooms when someone yelled at me from a car we were passing ... 'Hey, go to V... Tue, 11 Dec 2007 12:44:17 EST Hello everyone I think I have found my soul mates! <em>30</em> I have always been overweight. I look at pictures of myself from very young and can't imagine what it would be like to be at a "normal" weight. It seems like it has been a lifetime struggle to lose weight. I'm glad to see there are others out there. It's nice to meet everyone. Thanks, Jenn Sun, 9 Dec 2007 08:04:09 EST Believe You Can Succeed I wanted to open this thread too because I think this is a major factor. I am not sure why, but when it comes to weight loss, my discouragement level is very high. Small setbacks turn into reasons for giving up. It doesn't make sense to me, because in other areas of my life I understand that the day-to-day stuff is not the whole picture. Small setbacks can easily turn around. Problems are opportunities. I am not certain where to find this - a belief that I can do this - but I know it's import... Thu, 6 Dec 2007 09:48:17 EST Posting challenge - Check in once a week I am creating a new thread here to see if it might helps us all out. I just saw that there are 161 members to this team! This thread is a challenge to everyobdy to post at least once a week here and let everyone know how you are doing. Posting helps us all because we gain support from knowing we are not alone. <BR> <BR> The idea of never having known a normal weight appears to resonate with many people. Share that resonance with us! <BR> Liz Thu, 6 Dec 2007 09:25:26 EST Slow metabolism I know for me this is the hardest. After years of up and down dieting, my metabolism is shot. It seems to not matter when I restrict eating, the scale still doesn't move. So I give up, and of course it creeps higher. (Well, sometimes it's a lot quicker than creeping.) I feel trapped and discouraged. <BR> Liz Thu, 6 Dec 2007 09:21:10 EST Blogs Write what's going on in your life and allow others to relate, respond, and encourage. Mon, 3 Dec 2007 09:42:31 EST hi im a new member Im from New Zealand and am 210 pounds and am trying to lose weight, this time hopefully successfully. I have been this size since about 16yrs old and am slowly losing some of the weight and feel better than I have in years. Thu, 22 Nov 2007 02:37:58 EST Thanksgiving is coming... yikes! So for many of us who have always been overweight, Thanksgiving and other food-centered holidays are a bit difficult. We are around our families -- including people who we haven't seen in a while -- and they might notice that we have gained/maintained/lost weight (you know when you've been heavy, even maintaining ("failing to lose") weight is comment-worthy from some people! We are surrounded by food that brings back lots of memories. Everyone is overeating. Maybe we worked a "free" day i... Fri, 16 Nov 2007 19:44:50 EST Hi- I'm new Hello all! I just wanted to introduce myself to my new Sparkteam, and let you all know that I'm so happy to find a group that knows my deep-down demons concerning weight-loss. I need constant motivation and encouragement to keep on the right track, and by reading bios and going through all of your sparkpages I've been able to keep it up for about 11 days now. It seems like a short amount of time, but this is pretty darn amazing for me! Here's to having more than just a pretty's to... Fri, 16 Nov 2007 08:27:56 EST New to this Team Hi - I've been using SP since July, but I'm more of a lurker on the message boards. I've always been heavy. I was 100 lbs. in the 4th grade and the biggest kid in class too. I was down to 145 for about 4 months years ago but then I found I was pregnant and never saw less than 185 again. I am very fortunate that my husband of 29 years has always been supportive of me. We joined SP together and he is also doing very well (he didn't have as much to lose and now is a very healthy weight). I... Sun, 11 Nov 2007 23:03:19 EST kid friendly meals I see that this group doesn't appear very active. Hopefully that will change as it seems like a good thing to have. <BR> <BR> What are some of the healthy meals that you can get your kids to eat? My girls are very picky and they don't want to eat some of the things I make... I have to force them to eat veggies and anytime I bake pork chops or chicken, they don't want to eat it. My oldest daughter is 9 and weighs 80 lbs, so I know that she would benefit from healthier meals. My middle c... Fri, 9 Nov 2007 10:20:28 EST hello Hi, I'm a 31 year old SAHM to 3 children, 9, 7 and 6. I recently got married to the best man in the world. I love him and am thankful that he is the kind of guy that loves me the way I am. He is in the Navy and just deployed Oct. 1. I am an emotional eater and not having him here is hard and I am dealing with that as well. I also moved to a new area in June so that I could spend the 4 months before his deployment with him, as we had married in March and have NEVER lived together. Those ... Fri, 9 Nov 2007 01:47:17 EST Day 1 - Hi There I found this website when looking through a carb chart. It looks like a great support tool and I have a long way to go. I've been heavy since childhood and have always struggled with my weight. I've have times when I've lost significant amounts of weight but gradually put it back on. I'm facing some health issues and am determined to do this right. I've got a wonderful husband and family who will be supportive. I'm 48, no children, and have good friends and a good job. That's a short i... Wed, 24 Oct 2007 13:33:48 EST my dad wants to try again My dad is one of us -- not on Spark, (he barely tolerates the internet) but he is also a person who has never been a normal weight. He's ALWAYS been heavy, and he's been obese for most of his life. Certainly since long before I was born. <BR> <BR> He's 71 years old, 5'10", about 270 (I'm estimating), has diabetes II, gout, a pacemaker (had a valve replaced and a triple bypass 3 years ago), he takes medication for cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes. <BR> <BR> Almost all of his ... Wed, 17 Oct 2007 18:11:37 EST I need to vent! I have to just get this out, and you all will understand me. I have to kind of explain the situation, thanks for your patience!! <BR> <BR> I have a good friend, let's call her Rachel (because that's her name). Rachel and I were friends for a few years, and then I left for a few years -- during which time, I went from 245 lbs to 165 lbs, and she went from a size 14 to a size 16+. <BR> <BR> She is really happy for me that I've lost 80+ pounds since she saw me, I know that she is. And she ... Tue, 16 Oct 2007 19:27:30 EST Weightloss supplements Right, so... <BR> <BR> I ended up in a situation where I'm just so sick and tired of being a fat blob, that I've actually started taking pills to lose some weight. I always said that I didn't want to do it, but here I am, desperate... <BR> <BR> I combo ephedrine with Red Bull, giving a burst of energy as well as doing something - ephedrine makes you sweat like a pig! :D I either take it before exercising, or when I'm off to work(giving me the energy needed to work nights...). <BR> <BR> A... Wed, 10 Oct 2007 14:26:33 EST I'd have started this team if I hadn't found you! I was looking for EXACTLY this team. <BR> <BR> Here is my story: <BR> <BR> I'm 26. Ever since I was 4 or 5 years old, I've been overweight or obese. I steadily gained weight all through elementary, middle, high school, college, and graduate school. Between the ages of 14 and 25, my lowest weight ever was 175 at age 18, which lasted about a week, after doing a really intense hiking trip. I quickly started gaining and leveled off around 200-210 pounds until I went to graduate school, wher... Wed, 10 Oct 2007 09:12:39 EST i'm scared of being thin i really am getting a little scared of all of my success, i feel like being overweight was a huge part of my identity and now that i am getting smaller i am finding my self sabotaging my own efforts, i have never been as low as i am now, i believe that this is the weight i was in grade 5. <BR> <BR> every thing is starting to feel really alien to me and new and strange. <BR> <BR> don't get me wrong, most of the time i really enjoy it but i always have this undelying uneasiness where i just ... Fri, 13 Jul 2007 17:51:47 EST working out at home Hi All - Do any of you have suggestions for workouts I can do at home without investing in equipment and machines (I have a very very small apartment!). I've been doing a couple of video workouts, but I'm definitely interested in your recommendations for new exercises or routines. Fri, 22 Jun 2007 20:19:54 EST The Hardest Part The hardest part is believing when there seems to be no reason to believe. <BR> The hardest part is doing things differently, and pushing against the pattern of same old, yet expecting different results. <BR> The hardest part is trying to carrying forward on your own. <BR> Liz Mon, 18 Jun 2007 14:05:09 EST Introduce yourself Hi! I'm Liz and the team leader for Never Known a Normal Weight (NKNW). I started this team because I felt like I was the only one who has struggled for an entire lifetime and only seen my weight go up instead of down. I'm ashamed to say that in this past week I have reached my top weight of all time. So you can see, I'm still struggling. I have a food addiction and I am in counseling to address issues around this problem. I am heartened to see that the title of this team resonates with so ma... Mon, 18 Jun 2007 14:02:49 EST Welcome to new people - please introduce yourself! We have quite a few new people to this group. <em>235</em> to you all! Please take a minute and introduce yourself to us so we can get to know you. Especially tell us why the team Never Known a Normal Weight resonated with you and prompted you to join our ranks. <BR> Liz Wed, 30 May 2007 09:50:02 EST Buddies I think it's hard to find support when posting is so little. This isn't a criticism. It is simply a statement of fact. For me, I have had greater success when I have a personal connection with a person. I am opening this thread and making it the 3rd sticky topic. <BR> <BR> The purpose is to post your interest here in connecting with someone as a "buddy" or in being a "buddy" to someone. This means you are willing to either email each other personally or whatever kind of connection you agree ... Tue, 22 May 2007 12:50:33 EST Started the week right, Got in my 30 min work out this am at 0630 and ended it with a 30 min walk!! <BR> <BR> Annnnddd only had 1 box of 100 calorie Oreo snacks today!! <BR> <BR> Down from 2 boxes a day ( at least) <BR> <BR> Yes, I am a recovering addict <BR> I addicted to 100 calorie Oreo packs : ( <BR> <BR> Mon, 14 May 2007 21:45:58 EST What does it look like? Hi all! I'm new here. I have a question... <BR> <BR> So know how some people motivate themselves to lose weight by putting up a picture of themselves when they were thinner? What are us NKNW people supposed to do? Since I've never been thin, not only do I not have a photograph of it, but more importantly I can't get a mental image of myself as a thin person. I feel like this is acting as a mental block for me in my weight loss journey. <BR> <BR> Is anyone else in the same boat? Any suggesti... Fri, 11 May 2007 04:25:53 EST Hello and happy "It's almost the weekend" Well I believe in celebrating the small things,sooo <BR> I am celebrating working out once already this week, <BR> AND bike riding for 15 min and a 1.5 mile walk : ) <BR> <BR> Any other celebrations ? Thu, 10 May 2007 22:57:37 EST Hello everyone i am new here... Hey everyone i am new to this group and i am here to lose weight for not only myself but for my son too...I am singlemother of 1 and well, he is the love of my life and inspires me to do everything..I have overcome many obstacles..He makes my life brighter and well i woke up one more and realized i needed to do this for him cause i want to see him have children.. <em>201</em> Tue, 17 Apr 2007 23:35:40 EST Food for Thought I'd like to create a new positive thread for the third sticky topic. I call this Food for Thought because I would like us to use it to post any inspirations, lessons learned, etc. Hopefully it's a place to come when you need a lift. <BR> <BR> <em>26</em> Liz Thu, 12 Apr 2007 23:44:26 EST FAT: What No One Is Telling You Hello, all! I'm currently watching this very interesting documentary on PBS right now. WOW! Please check your local listings and take the time to wathc this. I hope to get a dialog going about some of the things discussed in this show. <BR> <BR><BR>about.html <BR> <BR> Wed, 11 Apr 2007 21:57:05 EST Move it! I am beginning a challenge to get moving. It will be on this thread. Pick a destination you want to walk/run/bike to, calculate the miles, and get moving. Create a post (you will see mine) with your challenge and then edit it each time you make progress so you have one post that keeps a running total (pun intended) of your progress. You can also add a time goal, and a reward, if you choose. Take a look at my post to begin and follow along. And let's get moving!! <em>182</em> <BR> <em>104</... Sun, 8 Apr 2007 11:08:50 EST The Power of Food Okay, self-revelation here that I am going to share. I was posting on the thread - Why is it easier to give up - when I realized I have never really given up. What I DO do, however, is give in. So I would really like to start an open discussion on the power of food in our lives. <BR> <BR> For me - it is both a comfort and a stress reducer. A pattern for me is to eat healthy for about a week <em>210</em> and then pressure builds, I blow it, wallow around for awhile while I gain back most of... Mon, 2 Apr 2007 11:53:12 EST Just joined Hello, <BR> My name is Melynn. I just joined this team. I have never been a "normal" sized person. My earliest memories are of the other kids in school teasing me because I was bigger than they were. I've always been "The Eighth Continent" (Their nickname for me.) At any rate, I'm interested to connect with others who have known this same situation and who struggle with the same things. <BR> <BR> I look forward to meeting new friends. <BR> Smiles, <BR> Melynn Tue, 27 Mar 2007 17:27:32 EST Are you struggling? I want to continue to open topics that might be helpful to this team and I encourage others on NKNW (Never Known a Normal Weight) to do so as well. <BR> <BR> This topic is important to me. I need to talk about the slips and struggles "out loud." Because you know what grows in the dark - mold and slime! Being open about where I am at is important. I am certainly further along that I have been for awhile. One thing is not giving up and NOT beating myself up when I slip. <BR> <BR> Yesterday I ... Fri, 23 Mar 2007 11:20:52 EST Strategies for Success For those of you who have succeeded or are succeeding in moving toward your goal of a healthy weight, please post here some of your stategies that may help those of us who struggle. Working together, we can make it happen. <BR> Liz <em>134</em> Thu, 15 Mar 2007 11:57:33 EST New Challenge Available - Starts Mon, Feb 26 Please note: this is on the private loop, "Feet to the Fire," affiliated with this board. If you want to join, let me know and I will send you an invite. <BR> <BR> <BR> I'm taking a cue from Leigh on this one and it will be a "create your own" challenge. We all have different goals, different approaches, and different areas that present challenges. Choose one or two that you need to work on. Is it exercise? Diet? Water? Staying motivated? Tracking calories? Strength training? Let us help ... Sat, 24 Feb 2007 11:50:06 EST Why is it easier to give up? First, I recognize that this topic doesn't fit everyone. If not, that's okay. But I'm putting it out there to get some more discussion going around our "issues." Well, truthfully, in this case they are my issues. As I have participated in several challenges, I have seen a pattern that, for me, is extremely common. I get excited, jump on the bandwagon, get going - then about a week later, sometimes more, sometimes less, I end up not sticking to the plan. It is like letting the air out of a bal... Tue, 20 Feb 2007 11:22:53 EST Check in I hope some of you who have yet to join in the discussions will decide to do so. We need the strength, hope, experience of everyone. Everyone has something to give. Give us your ideas about a good challenge to get those of us on track who can't seem to get on track. We need your input! <em>189</em> <BR> <BR> Liz <em>134</em> Tue, 20 Feb 2007 11:10:14 EST Need Ideas/Su gestions for New Challenge As some of you may know, we have a couple of private loops affiliated with the main group. Liz has allowed me to take over the "Feet to the Fire Challenge" loop and we are gearing up for another challenge to start on Monday, Feb 19. <BR> <BR> If you have some ideas or suggestions you'd like to share about possible challenges, please post them here. Once I get something hammered out, I will post it and you can let me know if you'd like to take part and I will send you an invite. <BR> <BR> ... Thu, 15 Feb 2007 19:38:42 EST Self Acceptance So I was getting ready to take a long shower after work and school this evening. A long hot shower has become one of my self rewards, with lavendar scented soap and such. But I stood in front of the mirror, frankly evaluating my appearance, as always, in slightly self-flagellating and abusive ways. Enumerating flaw after flaw. <BR> <BR> And as I think about everything that is wrong with my body, I feel the slight soreness of having used untested muscles. I feel that extra energy from good f... Fri, 9 Feb 2007 00:14:47 EST Perfection Okay, I'm going to keep this stuff going because it helps me to process my own stuff. Here's my fear. I get going and I'm doing really well and then I screw up. Yesterday was a wash, mostly because it was a long day and I couldn't get in the exercise or much posting (which keeps me grounded), and I went out to dinner with my son and just decided I deserved a break. So I had a milkshake with dinner and a piece of pie for dessert. Here's the fallout - What if I can't get back in the routine! I'... Thu, 8 Feb 2007 11:01:46 EST What is your barrier? Discussions on this thread seem a little slow, and I want to keep in the forefront the idea that there are REASONS why we have never known a normal weight in our lives. I know for me, prior to exploring this in more depth, my assumption was that I was just cursed and I was doomed to be this way all my life. I looked at external reasons, reasons beyond my control that kept me where I am. I now know that much of it was my own choices and my own laziness. So I want to open this thread to encoura... Tue, 6 Feb 2007 11:55:08 EST Food obsession Here is an issue. While I was taking a shower this morning, I caught myself thinking about what I was going to have for lunch. Why was I thinking about that? I think about what I am going to eat next while I am still eating - what's for dinner while I am eating lunch and the like. I have decided that I am obsessed with food. <BR> <BR> My father has hypnosis CDs that he uses to help him get over his banjo playing performance anxiety. My mother says they have worked. The doc that he got... Tue, 23 Jan 2007 09:19:36 EST Do We Have Something Against Success? I want to open this thread for discussion because it's something I've been thinking about - especially as it relates to my own long term issue of never having known a normal weight in my life. When I start succeeding with weight loss, I start to get this panicky feeling. I think, "I'm bound to mess up somewhere. I always do." While I recognize that those are "tapes" in my head that should be thrown out, I can't help but wonder if there is something about succeeding at losing weight that I res... Sun, 21 Jan 2007 18:46:10 EST For the Compost Heap I am hereby dumping on this compost heap the garbage that came my way two days ago and that I have been brooding about ever since. As I looked into it more I discovered that the issues belong to the person trying to dump them onto me. They DON'T belong to me! I have worked hard on my dissertation and it's a great piece of research. It has a few problems that are fixable, but it's GOOD!!!!!!! So (person who dumped on me), I drop ot here. And good riddin's!! <BR> <em>225</em> Sat, 20 Jan 2007 23:47:32 EST Look On the Bright Side Week 1/21 thru 1/27 Since Debbie is away for kids swim meet... thought I'd help her out. <BR> <BR> Post here for the Bright Side for this week <em>67</em> Sat, 20 Jan 2007 21:53:45 EST Just Plain Tired I don't know how the rest of you are feeling but right now I just feel beat. It seems that things just pile up and pile up until I'm exhausted, and I don't seem to have the capability to get back on track. Luckily, at this point anyway, food is not an issue. But it does become an issue when you plod along and plod along. Giving up - for me anyway - is a deep issue around never having known a normal weight. What must be accomplished is huge. And not only is it overwhelming, but it must be acco... Fri, 19 Jan 2007 16:38:10 EST What's up? I am creating a new check-in thread, as the old one is getting very long. So I have made this one the "sticky topic" to move it to the top of the list. It's easier to stay on top of things when you don't have to read so far down. I will do this periodically just to keep things fresh. However, I do encourage anyone on the team to create topics of issues pertinent to them such as the one Melissa (Sun_Clay) created on nature vs. nurture. I really want this team to be as much about talking about ... Mon, 15 Jan 2007 18:09:58 EST New challenge sign up Hello everyone. This is a thread for signing up for our new two-week challenge. The last one we held was very successful for those who participated, and I would encourage anyone on this team who needs some support and extra incentive to get going on a program to sign up. The challenge is basically this. You decide on what goals you need to pursue and set them forth at the beginning of the challenge. You agree to post twice a day (absolute minimum) on your progress. Non-posters will be kicked ... Mon, 15 Jan 2007 18:01:14 EST look on the bright side WEEK 01/14-01/20!! Today…. <BR> I did not make the best choice for lunch but it could have been much worse. <BR> I have been drinking my water. <BR> I let the kids play in the pool instead of practice laps….lol <BR> Weather has been really icky cold but I am looking at it as …. The landscape is beautiful! ( rolling my eyes) <BR> <BR> Sun, 14 Jan 2007 20:38:23 EST Nature vs Nurture Something that has been on my mind lately is the fact that there are so many young kids that are overweight. I guess there have been times in my life that I just assume I am not going to be able to lose weight because I have some great aunts that were large. I figured that trickled down from both sides and got me. I have always been overweight. I have never really overeaten the way you hear about some people. I blamed my last 100 lbs on depo provera (birth control shots) because I star... Tue, 9 Jan 2007 10:05:57 EST Exercising Causes me to look sunburnt! Well, I have to say, it has been a long time since I was proud of myself. But, yeah! I am. Every work day this year, so far, I have hit the gym at my work during lunch. <BR> <BR> So, the problem is, that even after I shower, I'm beat red and people either think I have a sunburn or think I've been crying! And it stays that way for hours! I mean really, hours!!! <BR> <BR> Anyone have any ideas on how to get my coloring back to normal quicker? I appreciate any input! Thanks! <BR> <BR> ... Mon, 8 Jan 2007 16:02:54 EST Look on the bright side! 01/07-01/13 <em>67</em> Here to a bright start of a brand new week! <BR> <BR> <em>67</em> Sat, 6 Jan 2007 21:40:38 EST Mini Challenge Ideas With Liz's leadership permission, we're going to try a Mini Challenge thread. <BR> <BR> Mini Challenge Ideas: starting a challenge and would like input from the team. <BR> We need some positive motivation and a mini challenge of your focus needs will be the challenge. <BR> <BR> Using this your need, for example: <BR> "I need to work on actually doing my strength training 3 times a week." <BR> <BR> ... vote on the top 3 Mon 1-8-07 <BR> ... Challenge to Start on Wed 1-10-07... Sat, 6 Jan 2007 19:24:25 EST Developing a healthy relationship to food? I am looking for a book or something that would help me to eventually develop a healthy relationship to try to make it not such a huge force in my life. As much as tracking my daily intake/calories burned helps right now, I'd like to get to a point where that is not necesary, where I can trust myself not to hurt myself with food. A lot of the books I've found on binge eating and similar topics advocate strictly monitoring one's diet for the rest of your life, even to the point of ... Thu, 4 Jan 2007 21:10:17 EST Look on the BRIGHT side 1/03-1/06 I was asked to start a positive thread for our team here. <BR> I will put up a new one each week to try and keep the size of the thread manageable. <BR> What we will be doing it taking anything positive from out day and posting it. It can be one thing or a dozen, however many you feel like sharing. <BR> <BR> Another thing is to try and take something negative that happen and find something positive in it. <BR> For example: the other day I ate part of a brownie. That put me a little over ... Wed, 3 Jan 2007 15:26:25 EST Can you help? :(( I'm not just really sad - I'm in tears - probably will be all day. :(( <BR> <BR> Could some of you please visit my sparkpage and read what I added to my blog today (1/1/07) and maybe comment on it either there or here? <BR> <BR> I've got to do something! <BR> <BR> Thanks! <BR> (feeling like there's no moxee left in me) Mon, 1 Jan 2007 07:14:48 EST The depression link I now know a major contribution to my eating troubles is a link to depression. It is a cyclic problem, because I eat when I am depressed to lift my mood, but my eating actually creates more depression which then makes me want to eat more. Anybody else relate to this? Any ideas beyond anti-depressants (which I am on) to handle this problem without food? I'd like to use this loop to address how to deal with this. Thanks for your input. <BR> Liz Tue, 26 Dec 2006 11:33:36 EST The challenge for those who struggle Okay my friends, as administrator I am taking charge (well, trying to at least for mysself). Beginning Friday, Dec. 29th I am going to create a special loop which will be private. It has a specific purpose to challenge those people like me, who struggle to keep it going for even one or two days. If you wish to be a part of the challenge to get on track, here's what you do. Post to this loop a simple message - "I'm in." Then when I create the loop, you will be sent a message to subscribe. The ... Tue, 26 Dec 2006 11:30:44 EST New...I was wondering if there were others. I know it's sort of mean, but I always felt jealous when I heard people say: "I haven't worn a size 6 since ...", and I feel like saying: "I haven't worn a size 6 ever." My earliest memory was buying size 12/14s in the shop before I was a teen. (I think that's a size 10/12 in America.) I could never just buy clothes straight off the rack like my sister, I always had to try them on. <BR> <BR> And she always got the nicest clothes. I started to hate shopping because whenever I saw something I... Fri, 22 Dec 2006 12:07:20 EST The Issues I am so glad to see the growth in this team and how many of us can relate to the pain and struggle, especially of finding a way to hope for something we have never known - a normal weight. I realize there's a lot more to it than hope, but for me, it kind of feels like the kid with no money in his pocket and with his nose pressed to the glass of a candy store. I really want what's inside, but what chance is there with no money (in my case no lasting success)? <BR> <BR> I appreciate posts arou... Fri, 22 Dec 2006 11:06:21 EST smaller goal to be more realistic for me... getting a little discouraged with myself lately and I decided to change my diet goals. <BR> <BR> my ticker as you will notice has a goal of 230 lbs now instead of 140 lbs. <BR> 230 is a 25% loss of where I started at 260 lbs. As I reach that goal... I will change to show the next goal of a 50% loss...200 lbs. and so on... that way I can stay realistic with myself as well as my goals. <BR> <BR> I will ultimately get to my 140 lbs goal...but within reason and not setting my mind on it happen... Thu, 21 Dec 2006 14:46:00 EST Will i ever loose this weight Hello.Dr. Liz.. <BR> I like you have not seen the true me in over 40 years. I was starting to gain weight in grade school and here i am at 52 still carrying this awful weight. I have tried everything and nothing works. I guess you could say i am at the end of my rope. I know that i have missed out of alot of things because of my weight which i will never get back. I hate myself but i love food, it is always there for me when i need it. I can rely on it not like other things in my life. I... Tue, 19 Dec 2006 11:21:07 EST Welcome, please share To all our new members, <em>235</em> Please share something of your story. We who are on this loop struggle with the truth that in fact, we have been overweight all our lives and never really known a time of "normal weight." For myself, I can remember dieting at age 8 (second grade!) and grew up with family members that constantly teased and harrassed me, not to mention schoolmates and even complete strangers! <BR> <BR> As a result, my own self-esteem is/was shot and I used food for comfor... Tue, 19 Dec 2006 10:36:49 EST new and checking in I am new to the site and this team. I have always been heavy. From childhood on I have been the biggest kid. As an adult I have continued to gain weight and get larger. Even when I was at my lowest adult weight of 180, I was still listed as morbidly obese. Oddly enough I have led a pretty active life and been able to keep up with my family until just recently. Lately I feel the wieght is holding me back and I have notice I'm not as strong as I used to be, so ... here I am taking charge ... Tue, 19 Dec 2006 08:36:13 EST Waving Hello... I'm new to this group, but it fits me to a tee. I've never known a normal weight in my entire life. Even when I was a child, I was overweight. I don't know what a "normal" weight is for me, but I am shooting for 160. Tue, 19 Dec 2006 08:08:56 EST Affirmations One thing I don't do very well is affirm who I am TODAY. I am too focused either on who I am not or on who I want to be. I decided as long as I am posting daily to my exercise challenge, I am also going to post an affirmation here each day of who I am -today. <BR> <BR> ***I am a kind and caring person.*** <BR> <BR> <em>26</em> Liz Thu, 14 Dec 2006 00:16:53 EST Let's start a challenge here...any ideas?? can we come up with a challenge? <BR> <BR> leave ideas here and then we can vote on which one... <BR> <BR> any takers?? Sun, 10 Dec 2006 01:48:45 EST Checking In Well, I'd like to try and keep this group going but sometimes it's tough to carry it all. I haven't posted lately because my days have been busy. I realize this is really going to be for the long haul, and also that as much as I want to lose weight, I really have to look at establishing better eating habits. I guess that's an issue for never having known a normal weight. Never had good eating habits. Wow! That's really true. I never knew how to, because food is so much more than food. That's ... Mon, 4 Dec 2006 14:31:39 EST Expectations ~ EXPECTATION ~ <BR> <BR> :~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~: <BR> “How long does getting thin take?” Pooh asked anxiously. – A. A. Milne <BR> :~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~:. .:~*~: <BR> <BR> Everyone is into quick. Quick meals. Quick solutions. Instant fix. In today’s fast-paced world things that take time are often devalued. We may come into a weight loss program with the idea that our problems will be quickly solved because we have found the solution. However, know... Wed, 29 Nov 2006 16:49:19 EST A problem with the "hard wiring" What a crazy day yesterday was. I was on some kind of ride that I couldn't get off. I was aware of my behavior, but like being fascinated with a train wreck, all I did was watch from some disengaged place within myself. Early in the day I was aware that some kind of "switch" was triggered. I don't know what the specific trigger was but the next thing I knew my eating plan was shot to pieces and I was on a bender. I ate and ate and ate. I remember thinking how crazy it was, the quantity of foo... Tue, 28 Nov 2006 11:23:59 EST Dumping the baggage I wanted to do this topic because I think when you have never known a normal weight you come with an inordinate amount of baggage that actually belongs to other people. Meaning - they have given you their issues and you have somehow picked it up and owned it. Little kids have no defense against what adults say to them. Remember, as little kids, we believe in Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy. So, my father saying something to me like - even if nobody wants you I will always love you - is a mess... Fri, 24 Nov 2006 12:15:49 EST Why we do that :) When answering Liz's sticky topic above I thought of adding a list on exactly *why* we are trying to lose weight. <BR> Leave your thoughts and hopes here (and let's be positive :)) if you like :) <BR> <BR> - I'd like to be fitter so I can go out for hiking with hubby <BR> - I'd prefer to fit into an airplane seat without thinking and worrying about it <BR> - I'd like to wear clothes that actually fit and don't look as if the clowns need a) a new home and b) new clothes ;) <BR> - I'd like to... Wed, 22 Nov 2006 02:39:24 EST So What's the Problem? I've thought about this for awhile. By saying I've never known a normal weight, what am I saying about my experience in regards to a healthy weight? Clearly I believe it's a different experience than for those who have been a normal weight, gained weight, and then seek to lose it and return to a normal weight. <BR> <BR> The very first word that comes to my mind is Fear. Fear, first of all, because it's never been, that then it is not possible to be. Second is the fear of experience. Clearly ... Tue, 21 Nov 2006 10:03:06 EST That's exactly the story of my life... Hello :) <BR> I saw your post over at the 100pounds group and I can totally relate on what you and some others said. I was skinny exactly two years... and then I started getting heavier and heavier. My first diet was forced on me at the age of 4 ( the only "food" allowed was a horrible tasting shake 3times a day... exactly what a kindergarten child needs <em>24</em> don't you think? ;) As a result I very quickly learned how to sneak into the kitchen and eat as much as possible before I was ... Mon, 20 Nov 2006 15:17:25 EST The Bad News It's discouraging to see that we get shot down everywhere. Instead of hope, we see things that tell us - you're not gonna make it. I was discouraged to see on the news last night a feature about the morbidly obese. The gist of the story was that gastric bypass is a really good solution because it reduces some chemical that is in abundance in the morbidly obese that blocks telling us we are full. Even worse, at the very end the newscaster pronounced that researchers say you can probably only r... Mon, 20 Nov 2006 09:59:45 EST You said exactly how I have felt for a long time!! Hi Dr Liz! Wow! I can feel the determination in your words to succeed and you will. You are in for a wonderful experience. This is a Marathon not a sprint(that's what my Husband told me). I will be 40 in Dec. and I have two girls under the age of five. Before each pregnancy I lost 50 pounds and got pregnant twice!!! I can no longer have any more babies and I will reach my goal weight for the first time in my life!! I have a sister who is six years younger than me and has always been thin an... Sun, 19 Nov 2006 10:46:39 EST Beginnings <em>15</em> Beginnings are always hard. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten pumped up and excited that this time(!) I am really going to succeed. In all my memory since I've been 21 (I'm 49 now) I have never lasted more than 4 months. My weight has steadily creeped up until I am so close to 300 pounds that it's scaring me. I need to lose that negative energy of never having been a normal size, and I'm looking for support to do it. I truly want this to be a permanent way of living so ... Sat, 18 Nov 2006 21:48:15 EST