SparkPeople Empty Nest Team Messageboard For Parents of adults that have moved out - to college, jobs, whatever… **WE ARE EMPTY NESTERS** If your "fledglings" are old enough to leave the nest but haven’t yet you CAN join us too! SparkPeople Empty Nest Team Messageboard Hello fellow empty nesters <BR> my name is Berberdaisy, <BR> I have been an empty nester for a few years now but, I'm still all mom! <BR> I rejoined Spark after many years because, I recently got injured and I wanted to go back to my roots of weight loss. It is important to me to maintain m weight loss from so many years ago and continue to be fit. I do have to modify my workouts for the time being but, I know the support of Spark will help me keep the weight off as I rehabilitate. <BR> Wed, 13 Jun 2018 10:26:04 EST New to Team (Psuedo Empty Nester) Hi All, I am new to the team. I call myself a Pseudo Empty Nester because I have my younger two DC's in college (DS - Freshman and DD Sophomore) and my oldest who graduated in 2016 currently living at home but basically independent (has own car, insurance, job, life). I will be 51 in May and have been married for 25 years (will be 26 in May). We are definitely having more Empty Nest experiences (i.e. big trips alone) and most nights home with just the two of us. <BR> <BR> I've been Spar... Thu, 5 Apr 2018 09:42:36 EST Almost Empty Nester Hi all, <BR> <BR> My 20-year-old who has been living at home and going to college just informed me last night that she is going to be moving to another state with her 24-year-old boyfriend at the end of school this year. In addition, my youngest is graduating high school in June and will be heading off to college in September. I couldn't hardly sleep last night, and I just ate an entire bag of chocolate! Help! I'm falling off the wagon. Wed, 4 Apr 2018 20:09:08 EST About to be an empty nester ....and it's killing me! My 30 year old son is not just moving out...he's moving halfway across the country! Even though I am also close with my daughter, my son and I have a very special bond. We think alike, finish each other's sentences, and I will miss our 3 am talks. He's not one to open up easily and I always treasure our talks when he IS ready to open up. <BR> <BR> I know it's the best move for him and I know it will take time to adjust, especially while I am out of work due to an... Fri, 27 Oct 2017 21:24:09 EST Hello, New to Team Hi, my name is Kahla and I live in Illinois. I am not an empty nester yet but will be in a little over 3 months. My son will leave for Navy bootcamp on April. It's been just he and I since he was very little so it will be quite different to not have him around. Luckily I will still have the cats to talk to! <BR> <BR> Wed, 11 Jan 2017 20:34:39 EST Lyrics for today (what popped into your mind today I'm always amazed at the lyrics I know and that something triggers a few throughout the day. Here's one that comes to mind this time of year: <BR> <BR> Fast away the old year passes... <BR> Tue, 13 Dec 2016 12:32:34 EST GAME: Two words, change one Get cooking <BR> Sun, 7 Aug 2016 12:07:06 EST Empty Nest - Now what??? My daughter is in her Junior year of college and I am STILL trying to figure out my new purpose. I don't know who I am now. Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:26:50 EST hello! My 4 sons are all studying overseas. They are 27, 25, 23 and 20 years old. So our nest began emptying in 2006... it´s been soooooo hard! <em>24</em> <BR> Our last son left only a year ago. We have been able to reunite the 6 of us only twice since 2006! In 2010 and in 2014 <em>334</em> <BR> I have been on and off SP since 2006, my weight has also been on and off since... always!And it´s my first time on a team since I´m doing the challenge for new members! So I hope that this team is st... Fri, 25 Sep 2015 11:48:32 EST New Hi everyone!! I'm a little nervous and wary of putting myself out in the open like this but I have promised myself that I would do one new thing everyday, and today this is it! <BR> <BR> My life is in a huge transition phase right now....all three of our sons are away at college (leaving me a huge empty nest), I just finished college myself (after 4 1/2 long years), I'm about to start a brand new career, and we will be moving to a new city in a few weeks for my husband's job (leaving behind... Sat, 4 Apr 2015 07:34:24 EST Movies - what have you seen? American sniper <BR> <BR> Really good <BR> Wed, 18 Feb 2015 12:38:31 EST Empty nest but new advetures Hi everyone, I am not new to SparkPeople, but last May we became empty nest parents. We have one daughter who graduated high school and moved out. She still comes home to wash her laundry every week or so. She started college but dropped out. She would rather work a while and go back next fall. <BR> <BR> My husband retired June 2014, after 27 yrs in law enforcement. He took up sport bike racing as a new hobby. I tag along and volunteer as a flag and radio worker on the race corners. W... Sun, 25 Jan 2015 11:50:38 EST Me, too! Hi, y'all. Two kids in college, just me and the hubby at home now. And three cats, two dogs, four chickens and three turtles. <BR> <BR> No, we don't live on a farm... a couple of years ago we turned our kids' old wooden play fort into a two-story henhouse, fenced off a section of the back yard and bought some chicks. For eggs, not for meat. We have a small veggie garden, too, but would starve if we had to depend on it. Hubby even experimented with raising talapia in the back yard last... Tue, 20 Jan 2015 21:40:23 EST New Hello everyone, I'm new to this list, but not new to Sparks. I've been an empty nest for quite some time now and have been trying to lose for over 5 years now with no success. I'm looking forward to great conversations. Mon, 6 Oct 2014 05:52:56 EST New empty nester Hello! I am recently an empty nester and more recently a Sparker. I was very successful with Sparkpeople about 6 years ago. I've returned because I believe my weight is impacting my active lifestyle.v when I was a member last I enjoyed the social support the site offered and I am looking forward to finding that again. <BR> <BR> Rachel Sun, 5 Oct 2014 18:25:17 EST GAME: NEW... Last Letter starts new word. Join me for this simple new game. Type a word with the last letter capitalized. The next person puts a new word beginning with that letter.... etc. Here goes! <BR> <BR> <BR> healthY <BR> Mon, 21 Jul 2014 15:49:33 EST GAME: The next song is... [I got this from another team and it seems fun and easy, so let's try it and get some <BR> more activity here.] <BR> <BR> This is meant to be a long running topic. The rules are simple and there are a millions of songs out there, so let’s see what we can do with this. <BR> <BR> You start with a song title, for example – Magic Carpet Ride – Steppenwolf <BR> <BR> Looking at that title, pick out one word from it and find a new song title with that word in it, (for example – Do You Believe In ... Sat, 22 Mar 2014 19:07:14 EST Nest not quite empty Hi, My name is Annette and my nest isn't quite empty since my 19 year old daughter still lives at home with me. Some days if feels like my nest is empty because of her busy schedule. Sun, 16 Feb 2014 16:05:38 EST Easing into Empty Nesting Hi to Everyone! My son is 20. Nice, thoughtful young man, not rushing into his life. He's spent the first two years out of high school at home, finding his adult footing, building his resume. He's realizing that the world around him has become too small and it's becoming time to expand his horizons. I am happy for him, tho I hope he'll stick with his plan to attend the local, major 4yr university live on campus, mainly because of cost, and then go exploring. I've recently graduated for a prog... Sun, 22 Sep 2013 10:00:28 EST Not 1, but 2 started college Wow. I cried for a week. I girl moved away to college and the other girl is living at home and attending college. I knew it would be hard....... but not this hard. <em>24</em> Wed, 18 Sep 2013 21:27:51 EST Let's Keep This Team Going Come on Empty Nesters. Let's not let this team fall to the way side. Let's get motivated and help each other reach our goals and be a great support group. I am sure we have plenty of good advice and moral support to pass around. <em>220</em> Mon, 29 Jul 2013 22:51:04 EST Love the empty nest but miss the flock Kind of an oxymoron but it's true. My husband and I have 4 adult children ranging in age from 39 to 21. We have 3 grandchildren ranging in age from 19 to 6. We have a maltese named Nicky who is our baby. He is spoiled but we love him very much. He fills the void in-between visits with the kids. Three of our kids live in Colorado and one lives in Chicago. We are planning a trip to see them soon. Fri, 31 May 2013 00:17:23 EST hi Both kids are at college this year, so although we still help they are not home. DH and I are getting to know each other again and trying to get ourselves healthy. Mon, 1 Apr 2013 15:53:54 EST Second stage of adulthood I'm 46, and have a 20 and 22 year old (girls) who are (mostly) independent. Youngest is buying her first home, oldest is married and graduating college this year. So I am really an empty nester! With the freedom that brings, you'd think I would be taking care of myself but I have gained 20 pounds in 3.5 years and feel my weight is getting away from me. I come from a llong line of obesity, so NOW IS THE TIME for me to take action. Mon, 25 Feb 2013 20:43:14 EST hello... hello...empty nest as of august...I've been doing zumba twice a week and a strength training class twice a week, but i've got to get this eating healthy down pat before anything much is going to happen. Sat, 9 Feb 2013 16:45:12 EST New: she's a sophomore and I still get teary Hi. I'm new. Trying to figure out this amazing (and amazingly overwhelming) site. My daughter is an only child and also kind of my partner in crime (wasting our time on funny cat videos and So, even though this is the start of her fourth semester at college I still tear up when she's been home for a bit and then goes back to school. <BR> <BR> Part of the reason I want to get serious about fitness and weight loss is to be able to do add new things to do to my life. <BR> <BR... Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:14:43 EST What's challenging you? What is giving you a hard time in reaching your goals? Is it exercise, food, lack of motivation or something else? Let us know & see if we can help. Wed, 23 Jan 2013 14:48:07 EST Ice Breaker question for Jan 2013 What is your favorite activity to do in the winter when its to cold to get out side? <BR> <BR> <BR> I love to work on my crafts. Mon, 31 Dec 2012 14:10:05 EST Are you taking care of yourself? With the holidays everyone seems to be busy doing other things than taking care of themselves. So I thought it would be a good topic to share ideas on things to do to pamper yourself thru stressful times. So what do you do for you? <BR> <BR> <BR> I like to sit & watch the lights on the tree while sipping a hot drink. Sun, 23 Dec 2012 09:13:32 EST Im a Noobie Hi. Im 36 and have 3 kids ages 20, almost 19, and almost 16. My daughter left when she was 18. My son and youngest daughter are still at home, but HE is fixing to move out with his baby and fiance. My heart broke in two when my oldest left. I had those kids when I was basically a kid myself and its hard to deal with them leaving. I joined this group in hopes to get support. Feeling lost and like I dont even know who I am. All I know is being a mother. Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:10:29 EST Empty Nester of Pseudo-5 years! YES, I am a 56 year old PISTOL of a woman! Actually, Pistol was my nickname while growing up. It was a name of endearment given to me by my father (R.I.P.). I try to use it as a part of a Username, etc., as a remembrance of him. My first name is Sharon, or Shar, for short; hence Sharpistol! Thank you for inviting me to become a member of your Empty Nest Team. I hope to share, and learn a lot, from all of you; plus, of course, to get fit, healthy, and stay this way, for the years forward... Sun, 20 May 2012 17:25:54 EST forging new relationships with our flyaway babies <BR> I am a new empty nester- my daughter seems to have moved out without telling us, LOL. <BR> Last year she started spending weekends with her boyfriend, then we had "shared custody" of her for a time, and now that she's engaged (she's 26) she only comes home on Tuesday nights when her fiance works late. <BR> How have you all negotiated your relationships? Obviously when they are not in your home you cannot parent in the same way you used to. How do you stay involved without going int... Wed, 22 Feb 2012 19:52:10 EST An Empty Nest for Me, Too Hi , <BR> <BR> I'm Jill and my youngest daughter moved out a few months ago. However, my empty nest has benefits - we have many more quality moments with Kara now. When she comes to visit (about once a week) we spend our time having fun together. Last weekend, we walked a mile and a half together. My husband, Kara, and I went to the local Nature Trail and had a blast. <BR> <BR> Please help me find the Progressive Walk - it sounds great! <BR> <BR> Jill <BR> <BR> Fri, 10 Feb 2012 18:47:21 EST New member - if there's room Hi, I'm a returner to SP as it was the most serious advantage I had in losing weight two years ago. I'm a teacher in the Black Hills and in my first SP experience I was in three very large teams (I didn't know what I was in for) and I was overwhelmed with the experience. Eventually, I got tired of tracking everything and I quit - yep, and gained back what I lost. <BR> <BR> This holiday my son is leaving to live across country in Virginia. My daughter in is Wyoming and I am alone with my ma... Fri, 30 Dec 2011 20:22:51 EST Last Week before Empty Nest This is our last week before the nest is empty. Our youngest moves into a college dorm next weekend. She's been living at home going to the community college the past year and a half. Older of our two daughters was married last March and moved 2,100 miles across the country. We want them to grow up into mature adults, but when they do it's too soon . . . Thu, 29 Dec 2011 16:03:39 EST A new empty-nester Hi! My name is Angie and I am thrilled to discover this Sparkteam! I read through some of the posts and I can so relate to many of your experiences. I am the mother of three boys and two step children. All seem to have grown up and moved on and I'm left here wondering, "What happened?!". In a blink of an eye, I have lost my identity. <BR> <BR> That's the bad news. The good news is that, for the first time in 30 years, I have time to focus on my own needs. And that starts with all of the... Mon, 7 Nov 2011 20:37:11 EST Empty Nest? I think so ') Good morning, I'm new to sparks people. I wanted join a group that I could relate to so I went for my age range people in their 50's. I was pleased to discover not only a group of people who have age in common, but empty nest too! WOW too cool. A short time ago my first daughter moved out on her own, then my 17 year old went out of state to stay with my sister while finishing high school. That's when it hit me, depression, confusion, sadness, missing my family became unbearable. I looked up "... Thu, 11 Aug 2011 13:06:03 EST Good morning I am new to Spark. At my annual physical my doctor suggested this might help in my weight loss and goal for a healthier lifestyle. Both my daughters have recently graduated college and one is newly engaged. My husband of 28 years and I are enjoying the empty nest but also miss having our daughters close by. As we enter this new phase of life, I want to be healthier so I can be more active and not have the health issues that have been a part of my life for the past 6 or 7 years. Looking fo... Mon, 11 Jul 2011 09:18:45 EST Do you have a "Bucket List"? What's on it? I thought it would be fun to share some Bucket List items... <BR> <BR> See Australia <BR> Visit every state in the U.S. <BR> Take Alaskan cruise <BR> See the world's greatest symphonies <BR> <BR> <BR> Some stuff I've done already: <BR> <BR> fly an airplane <BR> go to Canada (British Columbia only) <BR> go to Mexico (Mexico City only) <BR> play in an orchestra in Vienna <BR> see Austria, Romania and Italy <BR> ride a horse <BR> waterski <BR> snow ski <BR> ice skate <BR> <BR> <BR> just a ... Sat, 25 Jun 2011 18:38:48 EST Hello, I'm new here. Hello, I'm new here. I live in Texas. My oldest son went off to college in Kansas four years ago. He has married and now has a new baby, and also a new life in Missouri. My youngest is still in college, works, and is marrying the girl he dated in high school and they have a brand new baby. He left home about a month ago and I am struggling. This house is too big to be so empty and it just doesn't feel right. My husband is still here but he is gone a lot at night and I don't quite know ... Mon, 30 May 2011 03:22:39 EST Alone and starting a new life I'm 49 years old and the last of my 3 children just went off to college in August. I have been divorced for 10 years and haven't even considered dating for a few years because I've been to busy raising my kids. <BR> <BR> I have struggled with the empty nest for a few months (yes it was very depressing at first), and finally decided that I'm finally going to start doing things for ME again! So, I quit smoking (just this past week) and want to start a new healthy life. I need to lose at l... Tue, 25 Jan 2011 16:46:19 EST hello, I'm new here well, i have 3 kids, and 5 grandkids. right now i have a empty nest and enjoying every minute of it. only because it usually doesn't last more than several months. like the saying goes, "no matter how much i child proof my home, they always come back". so me and my chihuahua enjoy it while we have it. i am in my 50's and love life. <em>30</em> Tue, 25 Jan 2011 12:59:58 EST hello, I'm new here well, i have 3 kids, and 5 grandkids. right now i have a empty nest and enjoying every minute of it. only because it usually doesn't last more than several months. like the saying goes, "no matter how much i child proof my home, they always come back". so me and my chihuahua enjoy it while we have it. i am in my 50's and love life. <em>30</em> Tue, 25 Jan 2011 12:59:14 EST new here Hi I am new to spark people but I wanted to join this group. My daughter went off to college last August and then my divorce was final in September, so i really am riding solo. Most of my friends are either single no kids or have young ones under 8 years old so that's kinda rough sometimes. <BR> <BR> Im starting out with wanting to lose 10 lbs and then see how it goes from there. <BR> <BR> thanks for letting me be part of the group. Sat, 15 Jan 2011 00:11:32 EST Hello, I am new to 40, almost I am a 40 year old grandmother with two still at home out of 5. Two married daughters with military husbands, one 19 year old son who is just floundering through life, a 17 year old daughter with a baby who lives at home while attending college and my baby is 11 and he is awesome, that is just because he still follows the rules. <BR> My husband and I have decided to embarq on a journey to renew our love and we are going to Galveston in February to renew our vows. I ride horses, I run and I ... Thu, 18 Nov 2010 19:08:41 EST This or That? You pick THIS Or THAT and then you make one up for the next person. <BR> <BR> This: Tennis <BR> <BR> OR <BR> <BR> That: Racquetball <BR> Sat, 24 Jul 2010 21:44:34 EST Alphabetical Attitude of Gratitude A new topic for us.... I saw it on another team and I really liked this idea. Follow the alphabet and list one to three items beginning with next letter of alphabet from last post. What are you grateful/thankful for? Here goes.... <BR> <BR> America the Beautiful (yes the song and the country!) <BR> Amazing friends <BR> Afghans <BR> Sun, 4 Jul 2010 16:47:50 EST Progressive Walk - Training Camp Tishtoes made the executive decision that we should start the virtual walk on May 10. I agree with that, since I will be out of touch until then. <BR> She also suggested that we just train until then. <BR> I second that! <BR> So here is the deal: Everybody add your miles on here and let's see how many training miles we can get in before May 10. Thu, 29 Apr 2010 09:18:15 EST Road Trip Progressive Walk - Planning Stage Hey team members! <BR> Over on the "Let's Talk" board we have been talking about setting up a progressive walk challenge. <BR> The basic idea of a progressive walk is this: <BR> We choose a virtual route that we will "walk" as a team. We choose Start Point/End Point and calculate the distance in between. Each person in the challenge posts (daily, weekly, whatever you like) the number of miles they have walked or biked. The person then subtracts their mileage from the overall total until we re... Wed, 28 Apr 2010 17:45:10 EST Virtual Journey.... We are joining together to take a virtual journey across the GREAT USA...come join us! <BR> We will be starting May start training now! Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:35:45 EST Breakfast and daily goals... I did this on another team and it was a good way to start the day, stating what healthy breafast we had eaten and what our goals were for that day. I also made some good friends on that thread that I still keep up with. <BR> <BR> Breafast today: Shredded Wheat -n- Bran, banana, skim milk, nonfat cottage cheese & blueberries. <BR> <BR> Goals: Do at least a 2 mile Walk Away the Pounds video and study my math 2-3 hours. STAY IN MY CALORIE RANGES!!! <BR> <BR> That's all there is to it, but it ... Mon, 19 Apr 2010 15:15:44 EST Hi! new to the team I have been with Sparkpeople a year and 4 months now. I am more or less at goal weight, I wanted to reach 140 but it's been months since I lost any so I don't know if I'm where I need to be or what. <BR> <BR> I have an 18 year old son still at home, also a husband still at home. Between the two of them, the husband is more trouble, hee, hee. <BR> <BR> When does the whining/wineing start?!? I could get into this! Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:57:47 EST Share your Random Acts of Kindness I thought it might be fun (& make us all feel better) to share whatever random acts of kindness we do or receive. Check out the link below for my posted secret/success story. (I gave a pen to a server at a restaurant last night.) <BR> <BR><BR>ip=4002_more_random_acts_of_kindness_rak <BR> Thu, 8 Apr 2010 18:38:44 EST 1 word that gives you motivation Simple and mindless... <BR> My first word will be <BR> -------SWIMSUIT--------- <BR> makes me want to exercise!!! Wed, 7 Apr 2010 15:58:29 EST Have you discovered SparkSavings yet? I love the new feature "SparkSavings". Have you discovered it yet? It lets you set savings goals, a budget (if you want) and track spending. I started using it in March and it is great! Check out the "Savings Jar" where you can make wise choices and see how it adds up to savings. <BR> Tue, 6 Apr 2010 17:09:50 EST Weigh in today... Weigh in today...If you fail, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep on moving!!! YOU CAN DO IT! <BR> <em>306</em> <em>306</em> <em>306</em> <em>306</em> Thu, 1 Apr 2010 08:08:26 EST A newbie to the team Hi. I am new to the team and like that there are not a lot of people. The Empty Nester name caught my attention. When my last daughter left for college, a month later the dog died. I keep busy so "empty nest" doesn't really bother me. I was hoping I could reconnect with my husband but we are both still so busy. This summer we went to Italy and that was really good for us. <BR> <BR> Looking forward to meeting you all and hope I can contribute to your group. Can you tell me if these mes... Sun, 14 Feb 2010 20:05:50 EST You can call me Rain. Hello team. Did you know there is another empty nest group? It is called "Empty Nesters-Parents of Generation NEXT" <BR> I found both teams when I searched for "empty nesters" but decided to try this team first. I tend to like smaller groups. If you all jump ship and go over there please let me know so I can follow you. Please. <BR> <BR> About my empty nest: <BR> I am 50, married 30 years (ok 29.5) I have three "children." A daughter 28 and two sons 26 and 21. <BR> The first two are married... Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:27:54 EST Just joined your team Hello and I have no idea yet how to use this site so bear with me while I learn how to use it and THANKS! <BR> <BR> I saw EMPTY NESTER and the photo of the two dogs and knew that this was my group... <BR> <BR> This is my first day of starting a new diet/fitness plan and I plan on being a "new me" by end of the year. <BR> <BR> I have two sons...One son is "off the payroll" and moved away, the other in his junior year college. <BR> <BR> Fri, 29 Jan 2010 12:29:36 EST Today is a new day! Today is a new day! I am so happy I found this team! My dh and I are new empty-nesters. My stepson moved in with his new girlfriend in late December and my daughter moved in with her long-time boyfriend in early January. (She had moved out in September but came home in November and then rented a tiny house right behind our house in December and was at our house more than hers). <BR> <BR> It feels so different. Not really bad or good just different. I have to admit, we are enjoying be... Thu, 28 Jan 2010 09:50:01 EST