SparkPeople Shrink Yourself Team Messageboard Hopefully I can bring back threads from the book Shrink Yourself, which was the original team. It is a book by Dr. Roger Gould, and I highly recommend it. It pinpoints emotional eating. SparkPeople Shrink Yourself Team Messageboard QOD ~ 5/4 If you could go on vacation anywhere in the world, where would it be? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Wed, 4 May 2016 21:21:15 EST QOD ~ 5/3 <em>346</em> When was the last time you wore a dress or a skirt? What was the occasion? <em>346</em> <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Tue, 3 May 2016 16:02:04 EST QOD ~ 4/30 Adult Coloring has become popular. Have you tried it? If not, do you think you would like to? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Sat, 30 Apr 2016 14:38:39 EST QOD ~ 4/29 Do you live close or near to where you were born? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Thu, 28 Apr 2016 23:07:08 EST QOD ~ 4/27 Would you rather see the future or change the past? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Wed, 27 Apr 2016 15:38:35 EST QOD ~ 4/26 What was your favorite Comic Book? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Mon, 25 Apr 2016 22:33:36 EST QOD ~ 4/24 <em>38</em> Apart from money, what is the most important thing you treasure in your life? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Sun, 24 Apr 2016 10:33:11 EST Tips for Weight Loss I found some cool tips to keep hunger at bay. If you find a tip on the message boards or anywhere, please share. Copy and paste. Inquiring minds want to know! Woo Hoo! You may not agree with all of them, but it gives us a fighting chance! <BR> <BR> McDougall's The Starch Solution <BR> <BR> Our bodies are geared towards plant based starches, (beans, legumes, potatoes, corn, pumpkin, whole grain breads, whole grain pastas, etc.), that's why we crave them. There's enough fat and protein in the... Sat, 23 Apr 2016 19:39:13 EST QOD ~ 4/23 What is something you really want to get for yourself, but just keep putting it off? (for some reason or other) <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Sat, 23 Apr 2016 12:06:50 EST Meeting Harriet This is a really powerful chapter that points out how we let that nagging voice in our head sabotage us, our inner critic. . I had to laugh at the idea of naming it Harry/Harriett -- I always called it the 'mom voice' -- not necessarily my literal mom, but the scolding/nagging universal parent. Isn't it funny how that voice is reminds us to do better, but what it actually does is tear down our self-esteem and our resolve. <BR> <BR> Yes, I agree it is a vicious cycle. Simply noticing when &... Sat, 23 Apr 2016 05:27:30 EST Bouncing Back! Here is a typical thought pattern that bingers have. Let's call it, "The Old Way." "When I slip up and eat something I know I shouldn't, I throw in the towel. I use that as permission to go on an overeating spree. I tell myself I'll start again tomorrow, or Monday, or next month. I already messed up, so why bother?" <BR> <BR> In Shrink Yourself they teach you The Ten Healthy Habits that you need to know to master your weight. One of these is bouncing back. It's the habit that helps you get b... Sat, 23 Apr 2016 05:16:44 EST QOD ~ 4/21 Do you have any siblings? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Thu, 21 Apr 2016 12:23:33 EST QOD ~ 4/18 <em>38</em> What is the one thing that you want to achieve in life? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Mon, 18 Apr 2016 23:06:48 EST Freedom to Be Yourself There are 3 stages of development of you conscience. You've mastered the first - you no longer obey every single rule your parents taught you, so your conscience is not the absolute master of you as it was when you were three. <BR> <BR> You are in the long second stage, where you and your nagging critical conscience are in contention for control. <BR> <BR> You are heading for the third stage, where the nagging and false accusations are a thing of the past, and you consicence represents your... Mon, 18 Apr 2016 18:19:54 EST Helping you Conscience Grow To interrupt the immediate need to eat, you'll learn to slow down long enough to look at what's going on in your inner reality and what's going on in the external reality, and then reinterpret things in such a way that you'll be able to own your power and become the author and agent of your life. Mon, 18 Apr 2016 18:14:43 EST The Costs of Powerlessness Chapter 3 discusses Power versus Powerlessness. There are at least two different kinds of power for us to consider: the power over others and the power over yourself Mon, 18 Apr 2016 17:58:10 EST What positive thing did you do for yourself today? Today after physical therapy, I did an 8 minute walk outside and really enjoyed the sunshine and gave myself a self massage on my leg with lavender cream. Ahhhhh!!!! Mon, 18 Apr 2016 10:29:25 EST Do you have a resentment against someone: Are you harboring a resentment towards someone in your life? Do you feel yourself stewing about something that someone did or failed to do? Is the only way that you can escape your feelings of upset or rage to enter into a food trance? If so, keep reading. <BR> <BR> Booker T. Washington said, "You can't hold a man down, without staying down with him." Anger boiling under your surface can be so physically and psychologically uncomfortable that you end up eating just to escape the pain. Forgiv... Mon, 18 Apr 2016 10:16:38 EST QOD ~ 4/17 <em>38</em> What is one thing you do to motivate someone? <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Sun, 17 Apr 2016 20:35:27 EST 10 Second Insights Yay! I found some of Dr. Gould's insights to think about. What do YOU think: <BR> <BR> Remember This One Thing Everyday <BR> 12/4/2015 <BR> <BR> It takes courage to see yourself not as weak, or stupid, or less than, every time you've turned to emotional eating, but simply as being human. A work in progress. A person deserving of patience, and dignity and love — especially the love from your own self. <BR> <BR> For me, I have a better esteem, and don't have to eat because someone doesn't ag... Thu, 14 Apr 2016 18:49:02 EST The Food Trance I have really been getting in touch with my "food trance" episodes. I know a big trigger for me is coming home for work. I use to always stop by the frig to see "what could relax me". Now, I know that I need to exercise to get the same results of the food trance. There are times that I am "physically hungry". I will eat "healthy". There are times when I start eating "healthy food" in attempt to get a food trance. I can get there even with wasa crackers and laughing cow cheese. I am not foolin... Wed, 13 Apr 2016 11:19:21 EST Chapter 2-Food, the over the counter tranquilizer Yes, wouldn't it be great if we can use food and soothe our emotions in a food pill form. lol But unfortuanately medical problems arise. <BR> <BR> If food really does make you happy and contented, even if only temporarily, what a powerful narcotic it becomes. To resist it, you need to get the entire picture, to see the end of the pattern, in the way a junkie needs to see that the fast high leads to a future of overdosing, infection, poverty, crime, and so on. In the case of food compulsion... Mon, 11 Apr 2016 19:41:06 EST What are you thankful or grateful today? For today I am grateful for being alive and getting some errands done that I have been putting off. <em>244</em> Fri, 8 Apr 2016 12:19:48 EST How do you deal with stress besides eating? I find that exercise has really helped me deal with stress. Now instead of turning to food, I go for a walk, or keep my hands busy and do some crossword puzzles. How about you? <BR> Wed, 6 Apr 2016 00:00:08 EST Thinking before you Eat Here are a few things to go deeper into your emotional eating. Having a journal really helps, but I would love to hear posts about how other people feel. Like what happened today, tomorrow, or anytime you feel like eating. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> 1. WRITE DOWN any and all “thoughts” that are present and could be motivating you to eat. <BR> <BR> 2. WRITE DOWN any emotions or feelings that are present. <BR> <BR> 3. WRITE DOWN what would happen if you DID eat – and what would happen... Tue, 5 Apr 2016 22:57:16 EST What fun thing did you do instead of eating? What fun thing did you do today instead of emotional overeat? All who post will get a fun goodie! Woo Hoo! <BR> <BR> I listened to music and drank water while dancing around with my cane. lol <em>351</em> Wed, 30 Mar 2016 12:32:15 EST Night Eating Are you a night eater? How do you handle it? Here is a link from a team that talks about night eating. <link><BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=877x3822x10<BR>384674 </link> Tue, 29 Mar 2016 20:25:22 EST Why Is Emotional Eating So Hard to Stop? Here is a quote and will discuss further. <BR> <BR> "Inside some of us is a thin person struggling to get out, but hey can usually be sedated with a few pieces of chocolate cake." Anonymous from Dr. Gould's book. Mon, 28 Mar 2016 14:48:18 EST Powerlessness I know I am powerless over food and working on not letting control my mind. Mon, 28 Mar 2016 14:42:11 EST Meditation and Relaxation There are many relaxation meditation videos on youtube. You can also do it yourself. Think and calm your mind and just take 5 minutes to think about happy thoughts, relax your body and go to a happy place that makes you feel good. <em>334</em> Mon, 28 Mar 2016 14:26:41 EST Affirmations for Health Think of Positive Affirmations that make you feel better about yourself. You can put as many as you want to make you feel better. <BR> <BR> 1. I am a good mother. <BR> 2. I am a good wife. <BR> 3. I am a good grandma. <BR> 4. I am worth it. <BR> 5. I love and honor mysellf. Mon, 28 Mar 2016 14:23:07 EST 2 words, Change One Getting Lost Mon, 28 Mar 2016 14:17:11 EST Does everyone understand how this works? I just want to make sure that everyone knows this is from the book from Dr. Gould to understand what's going on your head and why we overeat and what we can do about it. Any suggestions, please feel free to ask. We're here to help. We can do this together! Sun, 27 Mar 2016 19:19:57 EST What Triggers Your Phantom Hunger? It could be anything from your boss, your spouse, family, life stressors. Try to figure out what triggers you and what you could do besides eat? <BR> <BR> My husband's work usually stresses me, because he gets so upset. So instead of eating because of his boss, his boss wouldn't even care if I did that, but I would only hurt myself with heart disease, hypertension, high cholesterol, and more, I would do some meditation, read, do some exercise, or something that relaxes mes. Sun, 27 Mar 2016 19:07:41 EST Phantom Hunger vs. Physical Hunger Here is a great link that describes the kinds of hunger we have. It's not from Dr. Gould, but has a lot of his messages in it, that Dr. Gould recommends. We can do it! <link><BR>al-hunger-which-one-is-keeping-you-ove<BR>rweight </link> Sun, 27 Mar 2016 18:49:03 EST Accountably Thread Feel free to post your feelings and staying accountable. You can also use the self-sabatoging thread. Sun, 27 Mar 2016 18:40:40 EST Accountability Thread Feel free to post your feelings and staying accountable. You can also use the self-sabatoging thread. Sun, 27 Mar 2016 15:14:24 EST Are You an Emotional Eater? Here are seven questions to find out if you are an emotional eater. You can copy and paste them and answer them when you have a chance. You don't have to answer them all at once. <BR> <BR> The last time you ate too much: <BR> <BR> 1. Did you notice your hunger coming on fast, or did it grow gradually? <BR> <BR> 2. When you got hungry, did you feel an almost desperate need to eat something right away?: <BR> <BR> 3. When you ate, did you pay attention to what went in your mouth, or did you ... Sun, 27 Mar 2016 14:12:32 EST Self-Sabatoge and Emotional Eating How do you self sabatoge yourself and how do you control your emotional eating? <BR> <BR> I had been using my emotions to self-sabatoge myself and ending up gaining more weight. I have a bad problem with my leg now, and I know it has to do with weight, so I either put on some meditation music or meditate or try some Tai Chi or something similar. Sat, 26 Mar 2016 02:02:23 EST On Board and Ready to Lose! Hi Everyone! I am excited to be here and love the goal feature...I am looking forward to working toward success with lots of people who are also on the same mission as as I am <em>104</em> Wed, 9 Apr 2014 18:20:40 EST SPRING (emoticon or words) <em>376</em> <em>126</em> <em>378</em> <em>440</em> <em>437</em> <em>440</em> <em>378</em> <em>126</em> <em>376</em> <BR> <BR> share what you like (looking forward too) in SPRING... <BR> <BR> I sooooooooo cant wait.... brrrrrrrrrrrr... <BR> <BR> <em>376</em> <em>126</em> <em>378</em> <em>440</em> <em>437</em> <em>440</em> <em>378</em> <em>126</em> <em>376</em> Tue, 25 Feb 2014 18:11:15 EST CO - LEADERs REQUEST <BR> <BR> I could use some help with the team... is anyone interested in coLeading.... Wed, 5 Feb 2014 12:05:29 EST SHARING the LOVE (emoticon / words etc) <em>252</em> Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:05:36 EST SHARING our CHALLENGES <BR> <BR> what are you feeling challenged by right now Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:53:50 EST SHARING SUCCESSes: <BR> <BR> Please share with us your successes Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:53:14 EST SHARING: BOOKs & BLOGs <BR> <BR> read any good books or blogs lately .... do tell Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:52:37 EST TODAYs: NUTRITION (did you stay on track) <BR> <BR> how are you doing with your nutrition Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:50:19 EST TODAYs: PHYSICAL FITNESS (how did you move today) <BR> <BR> share with us Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:48:59 EST WEIGHing IN - Daily. Weekly. Monthly How R U doing <BR> <BR> Let us know how you are doing.... <BR> <BR> daily weekly monthly. scale... or... you can just say up or down... whatever you feel most confortable Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:47:50 EST TODAY: I will be FOCUSing on ______ <BR> what is your days focus today Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:46:10 EST TODAY: is a NEW Day... I WILL_____ <BR> <BR> What will you be doing today Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:45:26 EST Thinner Self Name Have you nick-named your Thinner self.... <BR> <BR> if you havent... what name would you name Her/Him <BR> <BR> Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:42:53 EST DEBY is BLESSed ~HI~ My name is Deby... I am 55 years young... I am in the Process of reaching my final goal weight... it has been a very long journey... <BR> <BR> ~I have a wonderful husband and 3 AWEsome adult Sons who now have families of their own.~ I am soooooooooooo Very BLESSed ~ <BR> <BR> I saw the team and thought it would be nice to re-activate... thus... I became the team Leader <BR> <BR> We can do this... Lets push for 2014 being a year filled with successes.... <BR> Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:40:47 EST ~WELCOME~ (re) Introductions here or Start thread <em>235</em> Everyone... Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:38:53 EST TODAY: I AM FEELING (emoticon or words) <BR> <BR> Share how you are today Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:32:22 EST TODAY: my thINNER Self says_________ <BR> <BR> share what you think your Thinner Self would be saying to you Tue, 7 Jan 2014 10:29:35 EST TODAYs: Hi's & Hello's & Chat <em>524</em> Tue, 7 Jan 2014 08:49:03 EST Happy New Year 2013 Let's make this a great year and reach our goals. Wed, 9 Jan 2013 00:14:22 EST Helpful Holiday Tool from R. Gould I wonder if anyone of you has looked into this free tool for dealing with the holidays by Roger Gould from 'Shrink Yourself'? <BR> Just tried it and I think it's very helpful. <BR> <BR> <link> asp?f=quick_tips_for_a_happier_holiday </link> <BR> <BR> You get led through a series of questions that help you prepare for and move through the holidays, with regard to how to stick to your plan. <BR> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 08:36:21 EST How do you stay positive during the Holidays? I think this is an issue for many of us who are emotional eaters. Food is everywhere and if we get sad over the Holidays it is easy to eat way to much. I am not letting myself turn to food, but inside doing more reading. Sun, 25 Nov 2012 20:45:01 EST LOVE the book-thinking of doing the online group Hi, I just read this book and love it. It really hit home for me. I was thinking of joining the online support group in fact since I liked it so much. Has anyone else done the online group recently? What was your experiences? Mon, 12 Nov 2012 21:29:44 EST Rereading the book again. Got my "SHRINK YOURSELF" book out last night and started reading it again. I know with the Holidays coming up I will need it. Very emotional time and easy to overeat. Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:15:43 EST Oprah's Life Lessons- forgiveness Did anyone happen to watch Oprah's life lessons last night on forgiveness? It was a really good episode and had comparable information to the Shrink Yourself program. That you must forgive yourself to release the pain and suffering you continue to hold on to, that the only person you hurt by hanging onto resentment is you really think anyone else cares as much as you do? One incident does not define your life-the past is the past and the future is what you make it. I found it to... Tue, 17 Apr 2012 20:02:06 EST NEW BEE HI I AM KATHY <BR> <BR> CURIOS HOW THIS WILL WORK <BR> <BR> WILL GIVE IT A TRY FROM SUNNY AZ <em>18</em> Sun, 4 Mar 2012 15:53:36 EST Dr G. Blog--FEB 20 THOUGHTS??? Why the experimental new diet pill will not keep you slim. <BR> <BR> MONDAY, FEBRUARY 20, 2012 | POSTED BY DR. GOULD <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> A California based company hopes to bring an experimental new diet pill to the weight-loss market for the first time in over a decade, with the FDA expected to make its final decision in April. <BR> <BR> Unfortunately, the problem of obesity can't be solved by continuously looking for a magic bullet in all the wrong places. And with the U... Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:24:31 EST Feb.18/12 STARTING OVER DAILY CHECKIN HERE Hi <BR> Lets start over here with our daily check ins....I am 56 days binge free!! woo hoo!!! <BR> You?? Sat, 18 Feb 2012 09:03:18 EST Feb. 18/2012- STARTING OVER WITH INTRODUCTIONS HER Hi Guys <BR> Lets start HERE To introduce ourselves. Sorry if you posted somewhere else--i just think its easier if we all are here on the same page. <BR> I am Laura, your new team leader--did SY two years ago. It saved my life. :) <BR> How about you? Sat, 18 Feb 2012 09:00:10 EST Dr. Goold's Blog--lets discuss!! Be Your Own Valentine <BR> <BR> SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 12, 2012 | POSTED BY DR. GOULD <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated 1 billion Valentine's Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine's Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. Why not celebrate the spirit of the day by sending thoughts of love to yourself? <BR> <BR> This day of love I take a vow... <BR> To love myself despite the passing pain, <BR> of anger, guilt, ... Sat, 18 Feb 2012 08:56:32 EST liked the book and can really identify with emotional eating. Sun, 4 Dec 2011 13:33:23 EST Hello to All Good Morning. My name is Dawn. I've been sparking off and on for awhile now and I do own the Shrink Yourself book. I read about 4 chapters and put it aside to focus on some school work (I'm studying to be a certified fitness trainer and have until Dec to finish my course work). <BR> <BR> I am a certified emotional/binge/compulsive eater. I've been on the dieting yo-yo for as long as I can remember. I need to get a grip on things This has been going on far too long. I am current... Thu, 15 Sep 2011 11:24:53 EST Eating while talking on the phone? Does anyone else have a problem with this? I feel it necessary to gorge myself with food while talkin gon the phone....with anybody!!!!! Sun, 7 Aug 2011 19:55:54 EST Newbie Hi! I'm new to the team and to Spark People. My dietitian recommended Shrink Yourself to me last week, so I thought I'd check out the team and see what it's all about. <BR> <BR> I haven't purchased the book yet...but am saving up for it. <BR> <BR> LuLu Thu, 21 Jul 2011 21:41:00 EST What happens at the end of 12 weeks? Hi Everyone, <BR> I am thinking about signing up for the 12 week program. I signed in for the 7 day free trial and liked the content but can't now access any of my entries. What happens when the course ends? I don't really like the idea of making journal entries online to then lose them when I come to the end of the program. Thanks. <BR> Thu, 23 Jun 2011 03:08:39 EST hello...and help please! Hi, <BR> I've been doing the SP thing for several years now. I have no problem working out, in fact I love it (I have three kids ages 2, 4, and 6 and my gym has free babysitting!). I was overweight starting in college when I put on that 'freshman fifteen' and then never lost it. <BR> <BR> Finally about 3 years ago I got serious and with a lot of hard work and determination I learned about eating right and exercising. I was able to lose most of the weight and got down to an average weigh... Mon, 30 May 2011 07:07:41 EST Newbie Here!!! Hi team! <BR> <BR> I am so glad I found you all! I was just looking online for books to read to help with my binge/emotional eating. I have been battling the last 10-15 pounds for over a year now, and every time I get close to goal, I ruin it with emotional eating!!! I am planning on picking up Shrink Yourself today, and am excited to read this. Hope it helps! Cant wait to get to know all of you through this journey. Sat, 5 Mar 2011 11:04:37 EST Where are you at in the SY program? I'd love to know where we all are in the book or the program! I love the idea of being able to discuss where we're at within each chapters thread posted below under the Book Discussion forum. Perhaps for now with so few of us we could try to support each other in their chapters section as well as checking out the section for our own chapter. This could reinforce previous chapters for us as well. <BR> <BR> I'm also curious as to what your plan is for going forward with the program. I have... Thu, 17 Feb 2011 01:53:02 EST 5 Things About Me Tell us 5 things about yourself! <BR> <BR> 1. I Love SparkPeople! <BR> 2. I am excited yet scared to start working the Shrink Yourself program. <BR> 3. I have 3 teenage girls. <BR> 4. I am a single mom. <BR> 5. I have felt overweight my entire life. Wed, 16 Feb 2011 00:31:07 EST Daily Check In Hi, Today I will be out and about running errands. Today is my day to grocery shop, run errands, and go to lunch with a friend of mine. When I get home later I will start looking into what I need to do as a team leader since this is pretty new to me. If you have any suggestions, questions or ideas please feel free to contact me. I'm excited to hear from all of you! <BR> Have a great day! <BR> Denise Tue, 15 Feb 2011 12:57:44 EST important insights for the holidays, by Dr. Gould There are two kinds of being overwhelmed and two kinds of sadness during the holidays. One kind is appropriate and realistic, the other makes you eat too much or binge. <BR> <BR> It's easy to be overwhelmed during the holiday season. There is so much to do and so many people to see and so many relationships to monitor. If you can stay in the reality of the 2010 Christmas season, you can be overwhelmed and still have a lot of fun. You might need to put out more energy and devote more time to ... Wed, 29 Dec 2010 08:35:49 EST Quick Tips for a Happier Holiday by Dr Gould Quick Tips for a Happier Holiday <BR> <BR> <BR> These are hard times for everyone. Even though there is a cloud of uncertainty hanging over the country, it's still time to celebrate with family and friends. It's not just foreign affairs that challenge us, it's issues much closer to home. "Modern Families" the T.V. show, says it all with humor. There are more modern mixed families than traditional families. What's Christmas like when your children go to your divorced spouse's celebration and... Tue, 14 Dec 2010 11:24:01 EST what exercise did you do today? <BR> Today I walked on the treadmill for 30 minutes and rode my bike for another 17. <BR> After such a hard workout yesterday I was in that mindset of wanting to "give myself a break" (I am a pushover for giving myself a break, let me tell you) but I am very happy that I just did it. Sun, 28 Nov 2010 16:31:27 EST You Are Not Alone have said before that emotional eating is something that we all do to some extent. But when you come to Shrink Yourself we invite you to take a diagnostic that will let you see the ÒX-rayÓ of your particular relationship to food. This is the first step to breaking the emotional eating habit. While you are unique, I would like to offer you a look at the composite picture of the emotional eating profile and share my insights. As we look closer at the most common answers below, you may find your... Sun, 28 Nov 2010 16:29:18 EST 6 ways we use food to rebel Six Ways You Use Food to Rebel <BR> <BR> As you know, the angry rebellious self gets activated for a variety of reasons and acts that anger out through food and eating. Some people didn't get the independence or nurturance they needed early on, and now they assert their will, or they test the love coming to them, by eating in opposition to the demands of others. Some people eat because they want attention they didn't get, and they know wanton eating can do the trick. In some cases, the defia... Sat, 27 Nov 2010 09:27:13 EST How was Thanksgiving and your food choices? Post here about your day. What feelings did it inspire? Did that affect your eating? <BR> What have you learned about food and family today? Thu, 25 Nov 2010 08:55:48 EST your life is worth caring for "The moral of the story is: care."—Maurice Sendak <BR> <BR> Do you remember the children's story Pierre, by Maurice Sendak? It's a small book that's worth having around. It tells the story of a little boy who says, "I don't care," to everything. When a lion shows up and threatens to eat him, Pierre says, "I don't care." And the lion eats him. <BR> <BR> Beware of a voice inside you that says: "I don't care." Many people can see why they are about to overeat, and they know it's not in their b... Thu, 18 Nov 2010 09:31:44 EST So do we HAVE to follow a specific eating plan? I keep seeing mentions of how people are sticking with their plan, tracking foods in their tracker, etc. <BR> <BR> This kind of thing is very bad for me, as it causes me to do a lot of extra eating, out of "rebellion" against a diet probably, but I don't want to mess myself up any more than I am, so is it absolutely necessary that we follow a specific eating plan with Shrink Yourself? <BR> <BR> I'm more of a non-diet/intuitive eating type. Wed, 17 Nov 2010 16:44:41 EST Riding 100 Miles Uphill by Dr. Gould This is the story of a patient who has been struggling with weight issues since her early teens. One day she told me about how she had just completed a 100 mile bike ride for a charity organization. She was proud of her achievement because this ride was on a grueling course, up four hills, each of which had an 8 mile incline. The story itself made me exhausted. I marveled at her strength, endurance and ability to stick to it. She is a married woman in her mid-50s and had only taken up biking ... Sun, 7 Nov 2010 15:23:57 EST "Checking Out In Advance" by Dr. Gould <BR> <BR> Just the other day I heard a patient describe something about emotional eating that I had not noticed before. She said that she found herself "checking out" for the last several weeks, which meant she was binging in anticipation of a stressful event that was to take place soon. <BR> <BR> Checking out meant to her that she was no longer pausing and thinking. She didnÕt want to even try to understand what her emotional hunger was all about. Usually she Òchecks inÓ with herself, is ... Sun, 7 Nov 2010 15:21:56 EST Your Emptiness Layer, chapter 8 in Shrink Yourself <BR> Whenever you overeat in response to an emptiness experience, you are tacitly agreeing that you aren't an adult, but are still a helpless infant in fear of abandonment. It 's not the truth, but it's a version of the truth that you keep alive this way. As you learned in the very beginning of this book, it's a universal experience that on some unconscious level, childhood fears of abandonment get reduced to one almost palpable image of an empty cavity that can be filled only by something o... Sun, 7 Nov 2010 15:17:46 EST bouncing back after a binge, by Roger Gould Did you eat more Halloween candy than you planned last week? Okay admit it, are you still eating it even though the costumes got put back in the closet, and the pumpkins got thrown out? Are you sneaking the candy after the kids have gone to sleep? A bout of overeating or even a binge is bound to happen sometimes. That's why bouncing back is one of the most important habits you'll ever learn. <BR> <BR> Here is a typical thought pattern that bingers have. Let's call it, "The Old Way." "When I ... Thu, 4 Nov 2010 19:53:18 EST biological vs emotional hunger <BR> Can you tell the difference between the two? <BR> <BR> What are the sensations you feel when you are experiencing true physical hunger, compared to how you feel when you are wanting to eat for emotional reasons? Tue, 2 Nov 2010 18:17:05 EST introducti on..listen to this! <BR> (page 5) Food, when used to make you feel better, actually impedes your ability to be informed by your feelings, to complete your emotional maturation, and to have the fulfilling life that you dream about. <BR> <BR> What's your experience with this truth, what do you think about it? Tue, 2 Nov 2010 18:14:04 EST Hello! I'm a poster on the Shrink Yourself boards (I'm ash83 there). I thought I'd hang around here too. <BR> <BR> So...hi. Sun, 31 Oct 2010 17:35:14 EST WHAT are you feeling today? <BR> This is a different question than, "how are you feeling today". As we get in touch with our feelings underneath the reasons we want to binge each day, I think it will help us say no to food-as-medication. So what are you feeling right now, right in this moment? Let us support you. Fri, 29 Oct 2010 12:00:32 EST try a new fruit or vegetable each week <BR> Yes, we want the new mindset that comes with working the Shrink Yourself program. We also want to change habits, and maybe for some of you, you aren't eating enough fruits and vegetables. <BR> What I'd love us to do is to pick a new fruit or vegetable each week. Taste it <BR> and tell us about it. If you added it to a recipe, tell us how you prepared it. <BR> Go out of your comfort zone, or do what I did at the grocery store today, just buy a different variety of a fruit or veget... Fri, 29 Oct 2010 11:51:08 EST a NO CANDY Halloween. Spooky enough for you? <BR> I am not going to have one single, solitary candy this Halloween. <BR> How about you, would you like to commit to that also? Fri, 29 Oct 2010 11:47:27 EST Was the online program worth it for you? I'm torn about signing up for the online program. (I have the book.) <BR> <BR> On one hand, I think it might hold the key for me, but on the other--it might just be a big waste of money, since I've tried SO many other ways to lose weight. <BR> <BR> Has the program been worth it to you? Have you been able to lose any weight? <BR> Wed, 27 Oct 2010 18:46:05 EST Any promo codes for online program? I took the emotional eating evaluation, and it said that there was supposed to be a $20 discount code at the end of it, but there wasn't. <BR> <BR> Does anybody know where I can find a promo code for the online program? Wed, 27 Oct 2010 18:15:37 EST triumph board! Yes, I totally stole this from another group, lol, but it's so important to have a place to share our triumphs! Let's check in each day we are binge free and see how quickly we can rack up the weeks, okay? Also, if there's a little tidbit you can share about what made the particular day binge-less, what you did or said to yourself to overcome the impulse, that would be wonderful, too. Wed, 27 Oct 2010 15:17:28 EST What are your methods? <BR> So what do you guys do to lose weight? You've gotta have a plan and you must start somewhere! What's your's? <BR> <BR> This is mine: <BR> <BR> On the weekends, I cook healthy meals. I store them in the refrigerator so I can eat them during the week. I also buy lots of fruit and frozen vegetables. I take these things will me to school and work for snacks. <BR> <BR> I try to exercise everyday. I usually go for a run/walk that is about 1.6 miles long on the weekends. On the weekdays I u... Sun, 24 Oct 2010 23:40:20 EST Introduction My name is Cassie. I am 18 years old. I just got married in July. I'm a full time student and I have a part time job. Right now, my life is EXTREMELY hectic. Throughout the week it is defiantly a struggle to find time for myself. Somehow, I always do but it is much easier to fall off the wagon. I'm very excited to start my journey with Sparkpeople. I've been here before but not like this... This time it will be different. Sun, 24 Oct 2010 18:05:16 EST will emotional eating ever go away? (from Dr. Gould) Do you dream of a day when you wonÕt ever have to think about managing your weight? Do you imagine that once you finally lose the weight your worries about food will be gone? Do you wish that it would all just go away? If you do, youÕre not alone. <BR> <BR> Expectations lead to disappointments. ThatÕs why itÕs so important to have realistic expectations. It is realistic that you will get better and better at dealing with your emotions without food. It is realistic to believ... Sun, 24 Oct 2010 12:51:23 EST Food is not family, food is not celebration! Heya everyone, my name is alicia, I live in Pittsburgh, pa, and I just stumbled on this book while searching around online, I haven't bought it yet, but I plan to. <BR> <BR> Some of my most recent blogs deal with my (new) weight loss journey and dealing with emotional eating, if anyone cares to read. <BR> <BR> Sometimes you don't even know what's in your head until you start writing and it all comes spilling out! Sat, 23 Oct 2010 20:12:41 EST tip of the week: forgiven ess(from Shrink Yourself) Are you harboring a resentment towards someone in your life? Do you feel yourself stewing about something that someone did or failed to do? Is the only way that you can escape your feelings of upset or rage to enter into a food trance? If so, keep reading. <BR> <BR> Booker T. Washington said, "You can't hold a man down, without staying down with him." Anger boiling under your surface can be so physically and psychologically uncomfortable that you end up eating just to escape the pain. Forgiv... Sat, 23 Oct 2010 19:55:59 EST Growing Up: Doing Things You Don't Like At Times Growing Up Means Doing Things You Don't Like Sometimes by Dr. Gould <BR> <BR> A member asked, "Isn't there a way to enjoy exercise?"For some people there is. Some people love to hike, play tennis or do yoga. But plenty of other people don't like exercise and never will. <BR> <BR> Part of growing up means doing things you don't always like: flossing, getting an annual pap smear or colonoscopy, paying taxes. The alternative just isn't worth it. Exercise for some people is one of those things.... Fri, 22 Oct 2010 10:47:13 EST The 8 Signs of an Emotional Eater Here are some specific symptoms and signs that you can look for to help you determine if you are an Emotional Eater. See which ones ring true for you... <BR> <BR> 1. My hunger comes on suddenly. <BR> Physical hunger comes on slowly. Hunger from emotional eating often comes on quickly and suddenly. <BR> <BR> 2. I crave specific foodsÑgenerally not carrot sticks or steamed broccoli. <BR> Cravings for specific, usually unhealthy foods is a sign of emotional eating. Often people like the rush t... Sun, 17 Oct 2010 20:00:21 EST What the online Shrink Yourself program offers MONTH <BR> 1 <BR> You will begin to break the spell that food has over your life, the spell that makes you think you <BR> are powerless and must eat to make yourself forget that. <BR> You will be able to prove to yourself, with our help, that you can feel and think about what is <BR> bothering you without turning to food to shut down your mind. <BR> MONTH 2 <BR> 2 <BR> You will discover that you can not only address what is bothering you, but you can actually do <BR> something about it. As... Fri, 15 Oct 2010 22:01:18 EST chat about anything! <BR> Here's a place to meet and talk about anything you would like. :-) Fri, 15 Oct 2010 19:49:37 EST a brief bio on Dr. Roger Gould Roger Gould, MD is one of the world's leading authorities on emotional eating and adult development. A board-certified psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, author and former head of Community Psychiatry and Outpatient Psychiatry at UCLA, Dr. Gould has pioneered the use of online therapy sessions focusing on weight loss and stress management in an effort to make the benefits of therapy accessible and affordable to anyone who needs it. He was acknowledged by the Smithsonian institute as a pioneer in th... Fri, 15 Oct 2010 15:47:09 EST observing yourself..... Try to notice whenever you feel like overeating or are tempted to eat the wrong types of foods. Then explore your own mind to see if you can determine why you are feeling this way and how you might deal with the urge to overeat in some way other than eating. <BR> <BR> What are you finding? Fri, 15 Oct 2010 15:42:06 EST bingeing and the holiday season <BR> Well folks, the holidays are fast approaching. Halloween, Thanksgiving, Chanukah and Christmas will be here before we know it! What small steps will you be taking to prevent yourself from bingeing during holiday/family time? Fri, 15 Oct 2010 15:17:51 EST how does bingeing affect your quality of life? <BR> Ugh, I've always hated the shame and remorse after that last bite. <BR> Toward the end, when I realized how serious my eating disorder was, I was bingeing three times a day with little or no psychic relief. The amount of food <BR> had to keep increasing for me to numb out the way I used to. <BR> <BR> I am feeling so much better about myself since I haven't binged in a few weeks... <BR> but it's definitely a process that you have to be ready for. Tue, 12 Oct 2010 21:23:50 EST when did you become a binge eater, and why? <BR> I became one as a direct reaction to my father being concerned and critical about my weight as I entered puberty when I was 13. From that day on I would sneak candy and eat it as soon as he went to sleep, "to spite him". It's a habit that I maintained for 35 years and even transferred over to my husband until it became so clear that the only person I was spiting was myself that I couldn't even justify or try to rationalize it anymore. <BR> <BR> How about you, what is your story? Tue, 12 Oct 2010 21:15:12 EST How many points did you on the wheel today? How many points did you get on the wheel today? Wed, 6 Oct 2010 08:44:21 EST wanted to say Hello! Hi everyone! hope you're all doing well. I'm Lindsay, new to SP, and I have this group to thank for it. I'm only half way through the book, but I'm already suprised by how much it fits me. (Dr. Gould, are you spying on me? haha) I know it's going to be a hard journey, and I'm really glad this group is here! Thu, 23 Sep 2010 21:46:50 EST Hi from new member Good Morning! My name is Deanna, and I got this book right after it came out. I never got past chapter 3 the three different times I tried to read it. <BR> <BR> I liked it - I just lost my motivation. So I am so glad to find a support group focused on this book! It will be awesome to have a book study with others :) Sun, 8 Aug 2010 12:41:39 EST Hello Shrinkers Hello All. The Shrink Yourself team has been rather quiet lately. I am writing to see what you are all up to and what you would like to see on the team. I know we've had a few members and I would be happy to hear from you on what you are looking for from the team. Stay cool everyone! Sun, 18 Jul 2010 19:25:56 EST Did they shut off the forums to non-members? I tried to sign in at the forums a little while ago, and I couldn't get in. It appears that you now must be a paying member to get in. <BR> <BR> Does anyone know? <BR> <BR> Thank you. Tue, 13 Jul 2010 18:48:19 EST Facebook Fan page for Dr. Gould's Shrink Yourself! Recently found a fan page on Facebook for those who follow Dr. Gould's work via his book (Shrink Yourself) or website ( <BR> <BR> It's a page for those who are on the journey to recovery from EE or BED or for those who have already been HEALED by his work to gather and share their interest and insights with others who may not already know about it. <BR> <BR> Share the Healing!! <BR> <BR> <link><BR>d-Creator-of-Shrink-Yourself/1139944... Mon, 7 Jun 2010 15:49:55 EST Started Online Program Hi everyone. I'm in week 5 of the online program. So far, I haven't consistently applied the principles but I'm getting a lot of insight from it. I've identified some "Sore Spots" and lots of "Catastrophic Thinking." I'm trying to figure out why I feel like I "need" to overeat (or why I feel powerless over food). There's this very strong feeling I have that I don't want to give up my sweet and fattening foods. Maybe it's deprivation? I'm not sure. Any insight? What does Dr. Gould say... Sun, 25 Apr 2010 16:33:02 EST ... Taking a break... Sun, 25 Apr 2010 16:09:13 EST Need a new intuitive eating support group I lost my weigh down/intuitive eating/shrink yourself diet buddy a few years ago and I haven't lost an ounce since. I've had no place to share the daily successes and trials..until I heard about this board. <BR> <BR> I hope this works. Please understand, I'm in school, I'm a nurse, and I own a business, so if I don't respond, it's not personal. Sun, 28 Mar 2010 22:00:11 EST Back Again to do some more Hi everyone! I just wanted to say hello and say I'm looking for some encouragement! I was here last year, lost some weight, and now I want to do some more. I've noticed myself slipping back into the "use food for comfort" mode and want to stop the slide down as quickly as possible! Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:57:11 EST Just joined Hello Everyone, <BR> <BR> I just joined the team and wanted to say "hi". I ordered my Shrink Yourself book yesterday and may enroll in the online course as well. I started a lifestyle change after I hit 305 pounds and have been doing really well until I hit about 227 pounds. Now I'm struggling and I'm wondering why this happens whenever I lose enough weight for people to notice. In other words, as soon as I start receiving compliments I start reaching for food. I need to figure out why ... Fri, 5 Feb 2010 10:57:12 EST Day one, again!!! hello all, <BR> i was eating just like the shrink yourself advises, i call it intuitive eating. I started back in september and lasted 42 days, felt great and was down 5 pounds. <BR> <BR> Then I got mad that it wasn't happening fast enough, and got depressed around Christmas and the anniversary of my Dad's death, then I started pigging out, and the clothes are super tight, i don't really weigh myself, too much of a trigger for me. But, i'm guessing i am up 7lbs. <BR> <BR> So..., the less... Tue, 19 Jan 2010 15:26:14 EST Shrink yourself newbie Hello, <BR> <BR> I'm new to the team but not new to Sparkpeople. I've been member since Jan. 2008. I love the concept behind this book. I've been reading it and know that this book is for me. <BR> <BR> Happy New Year to everyone. <em>408</em> <em>213</em> <em>408</em> Sat, 2 Jan 2010 18:21:21 EST instead of eating I've tried before to get a thread going on what people do instead of eating when they have the urge to eat but they know it is just an emotional urge or craving, and what thoughts get them to get involved in another activity besides eating. Whether people are using the diet or non-diet approach, success can't depend on never having the urge to eat. And, no matter what approach, people who have successfully kept weight off had to have thoughts and behaviors that kept them sticking to their pla... Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:56:54 EST New ~ Questions about online program Hi, I'm new to this Spark Team, although I've spent the last few months reading and taking notes on Dr. Gould's book. I've just finished Section 1 and have learned so much about myself. I've found things in each of the different layers that apply to me. Now I'm ready to start Section 2, which is where the actual work begins. <BR> <BR> I've always wanted to take advantage of the online course, but the cost was prohibitive to me. Recently, however, I received an email offering $30 off, whi... Mon, 14 Dec 2009 10:21:46 EST Ready to Shrink Myself = Joining the team Hi to all, <BR> <BR> I signed on to the online program for Shrink Yourself and went to bookstore and bought a copy for back up and reading when needed, <BR> <BR> I found out who Harriett is and am ready to take her on. <BR> <BR> I am 62 years old and really need to get things straight. I did Weigh Down workshop 11 years ago and have keep off 25 lbs. I filled a basket with 25# of rocks and as soon as I get near the 25 lbs I go pick it up. Weigh Down is spiritual but was a great program t... Sun, 29 Nov 2009 15:55:49 EST Holiday challenges As the holidays approach I was interested in folks' challenges that drive them to eat during these stressful times. Perhaps from our own personal experiences or lessons learned we could help each other have a calm and enjoyable holiday. <BR> <BR> I'm not looking for recipes or really anything food related but more what 'eats at you' that makes you turn to food for comfort. We want to be able to resolve our challenges food free and essentially 'shrink ourselves'. <BR> <BR> For me there is ... Mon, 16 Nov 2009 14:41:09 EST Shrinker's opinions wanted What does change look like? <BR> We all know about and fear regaining weight whether we are at our goal or not and we know that happens when we merely lose weight without changing our lifestyle right? <BR> What does true change look like? <BR> Does it happen after many missed attempts at a great day? One day all of a sudden? <BR> Is change overeating all day but refusing to add dessert like before? <BR> Is five binges instead of seven change? <BR> Is change being okay with a day, week or wee... Sun, 1 Nov 2009 01:13:49 EST Rewards - Your Opinion Hi Fellow Shrinkers! I would love your thoughts on this. <BR> <BR> You know how Dr. Gould's methods teach us to be aware of our hunger, to know real hunger from emotional hunger, and how to recognize and avoid using food to fall into a 'trance' when we are avoiding something unpleasant... I feel like I've done relatively well in recognizing and dealing, and I have collected some new tools to use when I'm stressed, or feeling powerless. <BR> <BR> BUT ... here's my question. Lately I have b... Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:56:28 EST Other Book Recommen dations! Here's a place to share other books on similar topics! <BR> <BR> My suggestions (for now): <BR> <BR> * The Rules of Normal Eating <BR> * Healthy at Every Size <BR> <BR> Both books are fabulous and help with the concept of Intuitive Eating and dealing with both physical and emotional hunger. These are also great to get one out of the Dieter's Mentality. You can find these and many reviews about them at Fri, 16 Oct 2009 20:43:39 EST Anyone getting the Spark book? I am seeing all sorts of ads for the new Spark! book offered by Spark People. Don't get me wrong- I love Spark People it has done wonders for me. But do I need this book? I have the program down pretty well and I know I am an emotional eater (does this book cover that topic like Shrink Yourself does? I doubt it) However I want to support SP and you get all sorts of free bits if you order it including 1000 Spark Points. So am I thinking of buying it for all the wrong reasons? Tue, 29 Sep 2009 10:09:02 EST Our Journey - I found this poem today, and it seems to me to perfectly describe the journey we are all on -- I think she has met Harriett! Perhaps you will like it too. <BR> ~~~~~~~ <BR> <BR> The Journey <BR> <BR> One day you finally knew <BR> what you had to do, and began, <BR> though the voices around you <BR> kept shouting <BR> their bad advice-- <BR> though the whole house <BR> began to tremble <BR> and you felt the old tug <BR> at your ankles. <BR> "Mend my life!" <BR> each voice cried. <BR> But ... Sat, 19 Sep 2009 21:30:01 EST Yoga & Mindfulness- Why Eat Only When Hungry I just got this today as part of a bulletin from Dr. Weill's website--and because eating only when hungry is the #1 habit of Dr. Gould's program, I think you might find this research interesting. Though it seems to be about yoga, it really has to do with paying attention to our hunger (and being present, in general). <BR> <BR> "It's not the poses or the stretching that works - instead, the mindfulness associated with yoga seems to promote weight loss and prevent gains. Four years ago, resear... Thu, 10 Sep 2009 02:11:33 EST I Found It! Now I Need Some Suggestions Please:) So, Thanks to LadyIris, I began the online program and for those of you still thinking about it, it is lot's of work but worth it. I am only wrapping up week one and trying to "pause" before a binge or emotional eating episode. Here's where I need some help. I have found that among a few things, I my hunger switch gets turned on the minute feel like I will be left alone. It's severe ladies. I won't go into childhood stuff because it doesn't matter anymore. I recognize it and I want to deal wi... Mon, 7 Sep 2009 01:53:51 EST NEW TO SPARK AND SHRINK YOURSELF Hello everyone! <BR> <BR> I am new to Sparkpeople and have heard many good things about the level of support here. I was surprised to find a Shrink Yourself group here too. <BR> <BR> I am in the first intro week of SY online but will definitely sign up for the full program and I also ordered the book as a companion to the online version. <BR> <BR> At this point I am NOT getting on a scale nor am I concerned about ANY numbers related to my actual weight. I am solely focussing on the emoti... Thu, 3 Sep 2009 10:43:08 EST Hi I'm Amanda - Starting Again I purchased the online version, got to week 9 and fell away - extended for 2 more weeks tonight and went through weeks 10-12 in one hour. I sort of resented the hurried - 1 per week approach since I feel I am truly dealing with deep seated issues. I am happy to see that the FREE Spark People site has room for all of us! I don't own the book, but I do have a copy of everything from the web version. I am going to start again with week 1 and give it more time - maybe the 21 days it takes to ... Thu, 6 Aug 2009 23:19:14 EST WII Fitness Does anyone on here use the WII Fitness for exercise? I am recuperating from 2 broken pelvic bones and cannot at this point do any exercise. This has been going on since the first of February. Without any further problems I should be able to at least walk in another couple of weeks. <BR> <BR> These breaks occurred due to a severe Vitamin D deficiency, so everyone be sure that you get plenty of Vitamin D. <BR> <BR> Ginny Mon, 3 Aug 2009 18:01:38 EST New to Shrink Yourself Hi Everyone, <BR> I am currently reading the book and just reached the part where the "work" will begin. I am excited! I have so many issues with food and addiction in general. I self medicate with food, but also alcohol at times. In the very beginning of the book it talks about a child who comes home to an empty house in the afternoon because the parents are at work and how she used eating to push down the loneliness. That was me exactly. When I was 6, I became a latch key kid and I r... Sat, 1 Aug 2009 19:09:42 EST Hi! I'm Mary I just started the introductory offer for the on-line program. You get 3 sessions for free and 14 days to decide if you want to continue and pay $39.95/month for the 12 week program. <BR> <BR> So far, I like it because it's interactive and has really nailed it in terms of identifying some of my issues. <BR> <BR> At first, I thought that my biggest problem was food addiction. At times, I can't identify any certain emotion...I just crave sugar and high-fat foods all the time. But the secon... Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:25:41 EST New to this team I am new to this team. I haven't gotten the book yet as I have some questions. I have tried so many things to lose weight and I don't want this to be just another failure. <BR> <BR> Does anyone know if Shrink Yourself is anything like Beck Diet Solutions. I have tried that in the past. <BR> <BR> I just recently had a huge health scare, my doctor thought I might have bone cancer but I did not. This has made me see that while I might not have cancer I do have some other serious health iss... Tue, 28 Jul 2009 10:34:48 EST I'm new to SY Hi Everyone, <BR> I'm new to SY, but certainly not new to dieting. I'm 60+ and think I've been dieting since I was 13. With age it is more difficult to lose wt. Lately, I've been thinking it has to be just more than dieting. I started to investigate emotional issues and for the 1st time ever I think this is my problem. Duh! Why did it take so long for the light bulb to come on? I stumbled across the SY site by accident and yesterday I bought the SY book. I think I will quickly read tho... Mon, 20 Jul 2009 10:51:19 EST 21-day streak! start anytime I think it would be good for us to have a streak thread. I leave it up to you to decide what your streak will be. I'm going for eating no more than a reasonable plate of the food of my choice when I am legitimately hungry. I'm not pushing at this point for never overeating. So far, I've found that too hard to monitor. But, I do have faith in my ability to tell when I am physically hungry. I'll concentrate on meal size later. <BR> <BR> Sunday, July 19: day 1. Sun, 19 Jul 2009 16:33:41 EST Cool Daily Blog that relates to all If you haven't seen this Daily Blog on Spark People I think it is relevant to how we should be more concerned with who we are today and love ourselves vs. what we could look like <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ration_beautiful_random_acts_of_inner_<BR>beauty </link> Tue, 7 Jul 2009 16:11:38 EST daily support/check in A new member suggested we have a thread for this. I'm all for it, if it helps. <BR> <BR> <em>188</em> Fri, 3 Jul 2009 12:14:52 EST So glad I found this group! Hi everybody! My name is Becky, and I just joined yesterday. I've been changing my perspective on food and exercise ever since I read the 4 Day Mini-course, Emotional Eating 101, on SHrink Yourself. I am incredibly grateful to have come across this information. It has been a bit of an emotional roller coaster. It was so hard even to admit to myself that I am an emotional eater. I truly believe this is the answer to getting myself fit and healthy for good. <BR> <BR> I haven't done the course ... Thu, 2 Jul 2009 12:30:30 EST A blog I thought relevant to this team I posted this blog today and I thought it might relate well to the challenge of my fellow shrink yourselves folks. <BR> <BR> After 46 tumultuous years I have decided that the scale and I have a dysfunctional relationship and it is time for the scale to go. Specifically, over the last 14 months I have been using the scale to measure my progress as I eat healthy, exercise regularly, drink 8 or more glasses of water a day and try to maintain my stress levels. If you ask me (and or take a look... Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:48:13 EST binge eating I'm not a grazer, and don't care to eat several times a day - I like 3 - 4 meals max and can easily hold the 300- 400 calories/meal. I occasionally eat too much, but not very often. <BR> <BR> My weight gain has been the result of constant binge eating over the years. I can't recall every dieting for more than a few days. Just long enough to drop a few pounds. <BR> <BR> But I went to work at a job where I could not be mobile, quit smoking and had a hysterectomy. My skinny days were doome... Wed, 17 Jun 2009 12:20:53 EST Hi, my name is Sydney I read a bit at the Shrink Yourself website and bought a used copy of the book which should arrive in a few days. Just doing one exercise has helped me to get re-focused, so I'm exited about the potential. Tue, 16 Jun 2009 23:54:43 EST I need some support to face the scale... Hi, <BR> I haven't been posting alot - avoiding posting, actually. I have been avoiding alot over the last months - avoiding exercising, avoiding eating healthy, avoiding making healthy choices for myself. About the only thing I haven't been avoiding is overeating and binging. I had lost 103 lbs, and now I've regained it - maybe all of it, by now... maybe more? <BR> I haven't weighed myself for months. I thought I could track my weight with the clothes I fit, but I think that is not precise... Sun, 17 May 2009 11:01:18 EST So happy to be here! Wow! This is amazing! After another binge, I was just thinking I need to get back to the Shrink Yourself program! I just went on Sparkpeople looking for a bulimia team and, lo and behold... what did I find! Thank goodness this team is here! I worked the program recently. I have the book and know the answer is there. I felt the book was speaking directly to me! I just have to work it. Wed, 6 May 2009 22:55:46 EST Anyone done the online program? I'm reading the book and getting a lot from it, but wondering if I might get more out of the online program. If anyone has done/is doing the online program I'd love to hear about your experience. Thanks! Tue, 5 May 2009 23:07:27 EST How are we good to ourselves? On this team we've talked about Harriet and how she sabotages us. Too often I (and probably others) spend time being mean to ourselves to help convince us to 'get thin'. What are we doing to nurture ourselves? As parents, friends, girlfriends and wives we all know you don't get a positive reaction by being mean, yet that's what we do to ourselves. What are we doing to be nice? <BR> <BR> For me, I no longer try to squash into clothes that don't fit. I used to say, '18 is as high as I wil... Wed, 22 Apr 2009 08:27:29 EST stop looking at them This week on my commitment list of things I am committed to do I put, 'I will not compare my body to others' I often find myself looking at women at the gym, on tv, on my exercise videos, in the store and comparing their bodies to mine. This is a nasty 'Harriet message' habit. I beat myself up for not looking as thin/young/good hair day as the other women or worse, I mentally criticize the larger women. In an effort to rid myself of this habit I said I would think, 'delete, delete, delete... Fri, 17 Apr 2009 22:55:12 EST I'm Back! After a couple months hiatus I am back on spark people and back to my healthy lifestyle! My life has been turned upside down. I have found out my husband has been unfaithful and we are in the process of getting a divorce. While in the process of moving out of the home we rented, I dropped one of my 5 pound dumbbells on my big toe and fractured it. The last couple of months have been the lowest of my life. I haven’t been exercising or eating particularly well, but I have managed to lose a f... Mon, 13 Apr 2009 23:08:37 EST new to SY online i just signed up for a 14 day trial of Sy as recommended by a fellow SP. i've been through 2 sessions and so far so good. actually, today was the first day in a week i have stayed within my calorie range...could it be??? i am enjoying your posts but realize that i must buy the book! will i learn about harriet online??? anyhoo, i will continue reading and posting as i go...hoping for much success.... for all of us! Tue, 7 Apr 2009 22:37:31 EST New to SY Hi, I'm FB and have grown more concerned about my binge eating. I have a past with bulimia, so I'm taking action to prevent a relapse. <BR> <BR> I like Geneen Roth, and the "Overcoming Binge Eating" by Fairburn. I think the latter is a good overview of the different disorders out there. <BR> <BR> I just got SY and am intrigued by the chapter titles. I think it'll add to the skills I have now, and maybe some "A-ha" moments, too. Sun, 5 Apr 2009 04:03:18 EST Mean mean Harriet Hi guys! I have been sick and then my family was sick it has been a looooong couple of weeks and I have missed you all. So, I actually met a version of Harriet in the flesh! Are you ready for this? I had to teach a class last night and after a week of no workouts decided to walk to class. My son went ahead of me in his car so he could drive me home when it was dark. I was feeling too fat to walk in public and forced myself to shut Harriet up. I was almost to my class and I had to cross a park... Wed, 1 Apr 2009 17:36:11 EST Losing Weight So im on chapter 11 session 2 now and i really dont understand why he says that losing weight only brings you to a healthier life. I mean understand why he says we shouldnt expect all these great things to come when we lose weight because losing weight only really makes you healthier but i mean lets say i want to lose weight to look better in a swim suit. When i lose weight I WILL physically look better in a swim suit but maybe he is saying that doesnt mean I will mentally actually think I ... Sat, 28 Mar 2009 07:18:47 EST just started the book! hello everyone! i just started this book yesterday and I'm already on chapter 3! i love it so far and it has opened my eyes to a lot of bad habits i have and a lot of emotional eating i do. I am I binge eater and I'm TIRED of it. I'm putting all my hope into this book because nothing else has worked for me and I cant live my life like this anymore. If you have any tips that has helped you please share! Thu, 26 Mar 2009 13:22:01 EST When does Harriet most often visit After thinking about Judy's challenge and trying to stay conscious of my battles with Harriet, I am trying to understand what events trigger a 'visit' from Harriet. For me I know that when I am overwhelmed and have thoughts of 'this isn't going as I had planned' or 'I will never get all of this done' those are Harriet's self doubts creeping in to attack. I also sometimes hear that when I am nearing success. I am going to weigh in on Thursday and I am hoping to reach my 30 lbs. goal. At th... Tue, 3 Mar 2009 23:30:43 EST Defeating Harriet Challenge! Harriet is at work in our minds multiple times every day. Sometimes she wins and sometimes she loses. Let's come here and report how we defeated her. If she won, let's talk about what we might be able to do next time to defeat her. <BR> <BR> I'll start: <BR> <BR> Today Harriet was relentless. <BR> <BR> 1) She told me it was okay to not exercise today - because what was the point, I'd blow my goal anyway since I didn't meet my fitness goal last week. I decided that I will exercise and sta... Sun, 1 Mar 2009 17:32:31 EST Mind Games As I attempt to incorporate better nutrition and fitness behaviors I have noticed that my mind continually tries to fight me and talk me out of it. Even the smallest thing like whether to do that extra 5 minutes of cardio, or finish that last set of a strength training exercise, or whether to spend the extra time to cut up some veggies for my snack versus doing something quicker and less healthy. No matter what it is, big or small, my brain kicks in to tell me not to do it - or to do it....... Sun, 1 Mar 2009 12:16:31 EST Seeking some honesty... .... You guys are my favorite team. I have been away for a little bit. Still here just not actively posting anyway, I'm really struggling guys about the food log. I don't count calories or log food, points, carbs or anything because it makes me CRAZY but now (that I continue to GAIN weight) I need to reconsider if I'm just making excuses. It seems it's the common theme among those who are losing weight. Does anyone else here struggle with that? Should I do it anyway??? There are so many facet... Thu, 19 Feb 2009 22:04:57 EST Giving Yourself Permission To Make Time For Change <BR> <BR> Well, I'm lightening my load. I am going to drop one of my classes because I feel like it will take too much time, and I really MUST do well on my others. I may switch to a 'lighter' class - just a conversational Italian class. Truthfully, the Italian was supposed to be a joy .. and the first class was. This second class is with a different instructor and she just sucks all the happiness and love right out of it. I don't want to be an Italian scholar, I just want to do it for the ... Thu, 22 Jan 2009 17:45:35 EST Thoughts on not using the nutritional tracker For the past 9 months I have been using the nutritional tracker to log my daily intake. I know that philosophy goes against the Shrink Yourself 'eat when your hungry stop when your full' but I feel the guidelines keep my nutrition on track. I'm wondering as I wind down to 9 lbs. left to lose- do I need to keep up the tracker once I am at my planned goal weight? I don't want to get into any weird mind games of not 'trusting myself' with food but is there more to the tracker than just trust?... Thu, 22 Jan 2009 17:24:46 EST celebrating without eating--how to do it? A member brought up that she has known for a long time that she (and just about everyone in our culture) uses food to celebrate. For some of us, this isn't working in the long run. Please post here if you have a suggestion for celebrating without using food as the main focus or an experience you can share. <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Wed, 14 Jan 2009 07:45:17 EST not feeling heard, and subsequent bingeing <BR> I have been noticing that when I am feeling unheard, it really ramps up my desire to binge. I am a woman who is articulate, so I feel that I am saying what I need to get across, that doesn't seem to be the problem. Maybe I am just a brat who wants to think of herself as being unheard when the world doesn't acknowledge every time I breathe, LOL. <BR> Do any of you here struggle with this, too? I'm curious to know how you stay away from the food in these moments. Sun, 11 Jan 2009 11:20:09 EST This is the best time of your life I don't know about all of you, but sometimes I look for the serendipity in life to nudge me, or confirm for me that I am heading in the right direction. I had just re-read some of Dr. Gould's articles, waiting for my book to arrive today (it didn't, yet). I moved on to clean the house, and slipped in a CD by the Chenille Sisters that I had gotten for Christmas, and had not yet opened. The first song slayed me, and made me cry. Maybe it will inspire you too. <BR> <BR> (listen to a clip of ... Wed, 7 Jan 2009 04:07:45 EST Returning to Spark, New to Shrink Hi everyone. I'm returning to Spark after being away for several months. I was having great success here, but I got a bit obsessed - I think I traded food for obsessing about exercise and counting calories (I got a wee bit crazy). Then two things happened, 1) My achilles tendon pain kept getting worse and I was sent to a physical therapist who prescribed painful stretches but ordered me off any weight bearing exercise, and 2) I lost heart when I worked SO hard an no one noticed my weight los... Sun, 4 Jan 2009 03:08:21 EST Help with sticking to your New Years Resolutions Hi Gang, <BR> I found this workbook on the internet while browsing for motivation to help me stick to my resolutions. <BR> Hope it helps someone. <BR> <BR> <link> </link> Sat, 3 Jan 2009 11:47:57 EST Just want to take about my feelings on the book So I haven't completed the book yet. I have checked out from the library about 4 times over the span of about 15 months or so, I would read about half and have to return it. Today I finally purchased the book so I can finish it. YAY! But every time I would read it, I felt like the book was written for me. I have always been able to identify with things from all the chapters I have read. Never really being able to pinpoint one HUGE factor in my weight gain, until yesterday. <BR> <BR> My husb... Wed, 31 Dec 2008 02:06:08 EST maybe it's boredom? So I was doing the exercises in the sessions portion of the book and was thinking about what drives me to eat. I got the guilt down, I got family and anxiety as well. But one thing that didn't get explored was just plain old boredom. Sometimes, at night, I get bored. So to pass the time, I eat. Most of the time I can control it - 1 bowl of cereal vs. 3 boxes. But there are times when the carbohydrate train doesn't want to stop, thus the 3 boxes of cereal. That, I believe is out of anxiety, de... Tue, 30 Dec 2008 14:09:27 EST Happy Christmas I hope everyone is having a great holiday today. I have shoveled enough snow to eat some pie <em>263</em> <BR> Remember we should have a good time today, enjoy family and friends. No one can bug you unless you let them. Relax and enjoy <em>233</em> <BR> <BR> PS- I got the SparkPeople exercise kit for Xmas- I'm psyched! Thu, 25 Dec 2008 17:48:50 EST Help! Can't Find This In The Book........ Does anyone else here emotionally eat because they are happy or celebrating? I have done some of the excercises in the book and I have yet to come across this. I know we usually eat to avoid negative feelings or because of catastrophe prediction but I have a hard time with eating AFTER an argument with my husband or when I get good news. I overeat when we're all together and I'm happy. I want to binge on dessert while we laugh together or after a fabulous day together. The only thing I can th... Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:28:34 EST weight gain Hey all - just wanted to see if anyone has gained weight since starting the strategies in the Shrink Yourself book. I definitely have (check out my blog) but see that it's definitely a step in the right direction. Before,if I overate, I'd work my butt off and that would be it. Not another thought. But now, since I am aware at why I am eating instead of counting mad calories, I see the weight creeping back on. It's ok though - it'll be gone as soon as I get Harriet under control. Thu, 18 Dec 2008 14:22:34 EST Hello Everyone Someone mentioned this book on another forum. I was very interested and started reading the "SY" website. Not being in a financial position to spend $120 for the online course, I decided to buy the book. I have read the first 50 pages or so, and like most of you, it definitely is all "me". I am hoping that part 2 of the book where real tools are given to actually work on the problem (versus just being aware of what I am doing) will help me turn this "thing" around once and for all! <BR> <B... Tue, 16 Dec 2008 17:03:14 EST newbie here! I have just started reading this book and have never been so into something like this before. I read it when I'm at the gym, when i'm on the train, and right before bed - there hasn't been one time where I didn't want to scream out "yes - that is SOOO me!" I am finally getting to the root of my 15 year binge cycle and FINALLY figuring out why I do it. I never thought I was emotionally unstable - I always thought I was in control - not really though as I tend to feed every emotion with food. I... Thu, 11 Dec 2008 22:20:33 EST So, how many times have you read it?... Just wondering, how many times you've read the book. There is so much that hits home I know I won't remember it all I enjoy all the self discovery and can't wait to reread with highlighter in hand. How often or how many times have you read this amazing book? Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:32:12 EST I'm Finally Home! I did it ya'll! I found the Spark Team that fits just right. With so many (and I belong to a few) great teams I really wanted a good connection and a fit with people who really understand that this is not about pulling on the sneakers one more time or water for the day. Don't get me wrong those are totally important and I get encouragement for those things too but here is where it "clicks" and I love it. <BR> I finished chapter two and guess what? I did my very first binge interception! I kno... Sat, 6 Dec 2008 23:38:52 EST exercise? What is a normal, good amount of exercise per week? Thu, 4 Dec 2008 23:58:30 EST Howdy So glad to meet you all! I bought this book a year ago and it had been collecting dust on my bookshelf. I was happy to see this group and after feeling sooooo out of control lately, I am dusting it off and getting busy. I am at my all time heaviest and sick of it glad to have found you. Tue, 2 Dec 2008 21:32:10 EST SO thankful to Dr. Gould !!!! <BR> I have been a binge eater for 35 years and NEVER thought I could be an overcomer before this book. I was the self-help QUEEN and have read hundreds of books over the years.I had imagined breaking free to be as long a process as it was to form the bingeing habit to begin with. It's not true! Making all of the little choices each day that ask myself if I am eating out of emotional, heart hunger or actual bodily hunger has been giving me such a feeling of personal power. I am amazed. I ... Fri, 28 Nov 2008 12:21:53 EST slow and steady...and changing lifelong behavior <BR> Just wanted too say good morning, girls... <BR> I'm considering, today, that I should not become agitated or disappointed as the weight slowly leaves. <BR> What I'm changing is a habit that has defined who I am for over 30 years. To overcome binging has to be the most sensational feeling! The weight loss will come along, and I shouldn't lose my focus. <BR> Do you often focus on the scale rather than how far you're coming in removing emotional eating from your lives?? <BR> <BR> ... Mon, 24 Nov 2008 07:01:03 EST what do you tell yourself that helps avoid a binge <BR> Hi, everyone, <BR> <BR> I am finding that when I have the urge to binge I say to myself rather passionately, "eating won't help!" I say it out loud as well. In that emotional moment I need to speak the truth to myself, and speaking this out loud has been working for me. <BR> What do you say to yourself when you are trying to resist a binge? <BR> <BR> Sue Sat, 22 Nov 2008 19:04:19 EST Habit #7 Control Your Portions Post here about your struggles and victories controlling your portions. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Fri, 14 Nov 2008 08:40:05 EST aha! So YOU'VE found the secret, too !! <BR> Wow, I am so happy to see a team devoted to this book. I bought it about a month ago and it has been nothing but LIFE CHANGING. I have been a binge eater for 35 years now (since I was 13) and this is the first book to actually explain WHY I do it. This cognitive approach to releasing oneself from binge eating is absolutely amazing. A real Godsend. <BR> Looking forward to meeting all of you, on the journey. <BR> blessings, Sue Tue, 11 Nov 2008 20:09:23 EST blogs Read my blog! Thu, 6 Nov 2008 09:34:14 EST New here Hi all. <BR> <BR> Someone from another team I'm on posted a link to the Shrink Yourself website and I decided to order the book and here I am. It showed up today and I'll start reading tonight. I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you better. <BR> Tue, 4 Nov 2008 17:09:57 EST Habit #8 Prevent binges Post here regarding your struggles and victories recognizing when you were about to binge and was able to stop yourself. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Sun, 19 Oct 2008 10:18:35 EST Habit #9 Savor your food Post here about your struggles and victories eating slowly, paying attention to your eating experience, and savoring your food. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Sun, 19 Oct 2008 10:16:21 EST Habit #10 Choose a healthy diet Post here about your struggles and victories choosing to eat so that you feel good physically and mentally. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Sun, 19 Oct 2008 10:14:28 EST Habit #6 Exercise enough Post here about your struggles and victories exercising enough to stay healthy. <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Sun, 19 Oct 2008 10:11:10 EST Habit #5 Avoid junk food Post here about your struggles and victories avoiding junk food. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>90</em> Sun, 19 Oct 2008 10:09:19 EST Hello fellow shrinkers! I've been on Sparkpeople for about 6 months. Before that I spent 6 months working on my emotional eating and just looking at the reasons (not worrying about my nutrition). Then I started Sparkpeople. One of the tools I used while looking at my emotional eating was 'Shrink Yourself' so I was really excited to find this board. I look forward to working with you and keeping my emotions out of my diet. <BR> <BR> I've done well for the last 4-5 months but the last week or 2 I find myself stru... Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:00:37 EST Habit #4 keep wt. in mind when choosing foods Discuss here your victories or struggles with habit #4: Keep Your Weight in Mind <BR> <BR> <em>188</em> Sun, 5 Oct 2008 12:09:45 EST Habit #3 don't binge b/cuz of 1 mistake Discuss here your victories or struggles with habit #3:Bounce Back. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>188</em> Sun, 5 Oct 2008 12:07:59 EST Habit # 2 eat regularly so I don't lose control Discuss here your victories or struggles with habit #2 Manage Your Hunger. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>188</em> Sun, 5 Oct 2008 12:06:06 EST Habit # 1 eat only when hungry and stop when full Discuss here your victories with or obstacles to Habit #1: Listen to Your Body. <em>188</em> Sun, 5 Oct 2008 12:02:05 EST How Is Everyone Doing???? Hi, <BR> <BR> How is everyone's week going???? If you read my blog you'll know what I've been up to....This board has been so quiet, and I'm SO excited about reading the book and attempting to live it......... <BR> <BR> I am finding this site addictive; I get to looking around and then find an hour has gone by. <BR> <BR> What has been your biggest challenge this week??? <BR> <BR> Mine has been not binge-ing after several celebrations at which I ate some "illegal" food at...I know I should... Fri, 3 Oct 2008 11:15:19 EST What thoughts helped you eat "right" today? I thought it would be good to have a place where team members could tell about how they used their thoughts to change their behavior at a particular moment. See my next post for an example. <em>188</em> Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:26:49 EST Just gotta tell somebody! Here is a place to write about any "news"-good or bad-that doesn't seem to fit into other categories. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> In the online course, I got to ask a question in a section called Expert Advice and received a lengthy personal email from the clinical director there. (You are entitled to have one question answered by a staff expert as part of the online program. After that, it is $50 for each question/answer). One sentence really jumped out at me. I think I have heard it or "knew" it... Wed, 24 Sep 2008 19:17:48 EST Just Found This Site Hi Everyone, <BR> <BR> I just found this site.....I have been thinking about losing the rest of my excess weight for a while now...This week I seem to have reached a place where I am feeling motivated. I'm waiting for the book from the library. Can't wait to read it! <BR> <BR> I am an emotional eater; 5 years ago I dropped a bit of weight after realizing this; then my Mom passed away and I became divorced and so things have been on the back burner. Now I feel it is time to try and finish he... Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:59:48 EST Unbelievable website find & intro <link><BR>d/Roger_Gould_-_Shrink_Yourself-_Break<BR><BR>ml;jsessionid=9F7A438E6CF3C5D81F284642<BR>9F876EFB.dc61 </link> <BR> <BR> I don't know if this is construed as advertising, it is not intended to - I have no affiliation with the site. I was doing a google as I was looking for the best price on this book and found this site where you can download a pdf of the book. I have a copy from the library and as far as... Sun, 7 Sep 2008 20:38:01 EST Newbie here Hi everyone! I'm new to this team, but not new to SparkPeople. I have been looking at the online version of Shrink Yourself...but am a little skeptical. I have emotional eating issues, LOTS of them. I eat when I'm happy or sad or depressed or bored or even before I realize I'm doing it. I don't know why this is, but it doesn't happen everyday. There are days where I do great, but others where I hate myself for eating constantly. I am trying to make September a perfect month, so I thought that... Mon, 1 Sep 2008 21:15:54 EST New member from Ireland Hi all! <BR> <BR> I've only recently realised I'm an emotional eater - I thought it was just lack of willpower and laziness. I've ordered Dr Gould's book from Amazon. I haven't read it yet, but I'm really looking forward to getting a handle on my issues. <BR> <BR> I've reached goal twice before and immediately started piling the weight back on. I joined Sparks last November and gave up cigs in February. I've been "treating" myself with snacks as a reward for quitting, which obviously is t... Wed, 20 Aug 2008 06:10:13 EST Just joined you today! Hello All! <BR> <BR> My name is Melissa, I am currently reading SY the book and am also a member of the online program. I just completed week 2. Looking forward to getting to know you all! Sun, 10 Aug 2008 00:28:13 EST behind in reading..... It has been weeks since I've had time to get back to the book, or at least it seems like weeks. Once I got to the 2nd part (the exercises) I realized I needed some chunks of time to really absorb and practice what was to be shared and I just didn't have it so my response was more or less, just to put the book away for a bit, plus I seemed to be having such an easier time with food it was easy to feel like things were under control again. This past week has just been rough. I have realized ... Fri, 8 Aug 2008 15:49:00 EST new here, and taking the online program of SY Hey all, <BR> <BR> I'm new, my name is Crissa and I am doing the online 12 week counseling program for shrink yourself. <BR> <BR> It's really sad and hilarious, because as I'm going through the sessions, and having to answer the questions and deal with where the binging comes from is when the urge to binge gets REALLY strong. I'm answering FOOD questions and chocking back tears...Really strange as I never ever related my food problems to emotional feelings... <BR> <BR> I've had a really ha... Fri, 8 Aug 2008 04:46:03 EST Teleclass on Emotional Eating Last night I dialed into a free teleclass offered by <BR> Dr. Gould. I received an invitation for it shortly after I completed the free 4 day class I posted about several weeks ago. <BR> <BR> It was neat to hear Dr. Gould talk 'live'. His voice is kind of monotone so I had to really focus! Most of the material he presented is duplicated in the book though he did make a few comments that struck me and I jotted those down. Tue, 15 Jul 2008 16:25:40 EST let's get some control hello all, glad to see this group here. i just started reading shrink yourself, i'm only a few chapters in. i actually already feel like it's helping. i've been taking a second to think before i eat anything to see if i'm really hungry and if what i'm eating is really useful to my body. sometimes it works....sometimes it doesn't. it'll take time to form the thought process as a habit. <BR> <BR> other than that, i'm currently in a stressful situation with a family member. her sickness h... Sat, 12 Jul 2008 01:01:25 EST Hi, I'm new here! Hi! <BR> I bought SY recently, and it's really changed my relationship with food, and how I perceive food. And I've only read part 1 so far! I'm excited to be part of this team, and discuss the chapters. Tue, 1 Jul 2008 03:27:03 EST HI! I'm new/anxiou us/hopeful about SY HI all, <BR> <BR> Almost through the book (thought I'd read it through once first). I'm really frustrated with eating in general, and hope SY will guide through. I'm SO glad there is a Spark people team about this! I've been on Spark for a long time, but I never stick with anything bc of EE. <BR> <BR> Have a good Monday all! Mon, 30 Jun 2008 10:39:58 EST New to the book and to the forums Hi all, <BR> <BR> I have recently started reading the 'Shrink Yourself' book. It was recommended to me by my doctor so I am really hoping it will help me. <BR> <BR> I couldn't believe it when I saw there was a forum on this topic so I definitely joined. I'd love the support that other individuals going through the same book can provide. <BR> <BR> This is my first time posting on these forums. I'd like to hear how everyone is finding the book so far. <BR> <BR> :-) Mon, 30 Jun 2008 02:24:53 EST Week 12 Hi everyone, <BR> I am on my final week of the shrink yourself course. I have had the book for about 9 months. After years of up and down and everything in between I have found this to the most helpful program of all I have tried or been committed to(OA,WW,Several diet plans,therapy etc.) <BR> So far I have lost 14 pounds. The best thing I have noticed is even when I have an EEE(emotional Eating Episode)bouncing back quickly has been so much easier,faster and less painful. I am not sure if I ... Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:54:13 EST Hi everyone Hi! I'm new and wanted to introduce myself. <BR> <BR> I've been trying to lose 25-30 lbs since summer of 07 with no success. Originally, I lost 85 after the birth of my son but gained 25 back. I've been a member of Weight Watchers for quite awhile (counted points to lose the 85 and also ran a lot). <BR> <BR> I don't have as much time to plan meals and exercise now that I'm working full-time. But I'm determined to nip emotional eating in the bud! Mon, 23 Jun 2008 02:59:17 EST hi I'm new over here! Just heard about shrinking and I am here to check you guys out! Wed, 18 Jun 2008 18:45:14 EST What DID you do instead of eating? Today I forced myself to go out onto my deck at a time of day I might have started to pick at food. I got a pair of shears and started trimming potted plants. I had the time to do a good job, and it was so satisfying. After a few minutes of that, I forgot about eating (doesn't always happen, but we take our gifts when they come).Now as I go in and out onto the deck, I feel so pleased with the look of things, and my body feels good because I haven't kept it full all day. wow, some people live ... Fri, 13 Jun 2008 21:36:42 EST Chapter 1, Emotional Eating 101 Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 1 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:06:37 EST Chapter 2, Food, the Over-the -Counter Tranquilize Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 2 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:06:09 EST Chapter 3, The Costs of Powerlessness Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 3 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:05:03 EST Chapter 4, Your Self-Doubt Layer Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 4 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:04:32 EST Chapter 5, Your Frustrati on/Reward Layer Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 5 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:03:57 EST Chapter 6, Your Safety Layer Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 6 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:03:25 EST Chapter 7, Your Rebellion Layer Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 7 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:02:49 EST Chapter 8, Your Emptiness Layer Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 8 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:02:14 EST Chapter 9, Recovering Your Power Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 9 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:01:41 EST Chapter 10, Getting Started Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 10 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:01:02 EST Chapter 11, Conquering the Feeling Phobia Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 11 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 21:00:25 EST Chapter 12, Waking Up From the Food Trance Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 12 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:59:48 EST Chapter 13, Challenging Your Self-Doubts Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 13 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:59:06 EST Chapter 14, Defeat your Defeatism Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 14 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:58:26 EST Chapter 15, Creating Real Safety Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 15 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:57:44 EST Chapter 16, Maturely Dealing with Anger Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 16 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:57:01 EST Chapter 17, Fill Yourself Up Please use this thread to discuss Chapter 17 of Shrink Yourself Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:56:12 EST Free Emotional Eating 101 Session In case you are not aware, on the online site you can actually register to complete a free 4 day session. Basically they will send you in email a link to 4 articles (one per day for 4 days) on emotional eating. <BR> <BR> I am on the 4th article now and really have learned a great deal from the material. When I compared the articles to the section on Emotional Hunger/Emotional Eating in my copy of the book the articles from online seemed to contain a lot more material. So, I think even i... Wed, 11 Jun 2008 14:30:05 EST Shrink Yourself Course Week 2 Hi all, <BR> Last night I completed session two of the SY course. It is very interesting. Just to give others an idea who might be considering the course, here is the summary of Session two and preview of week 3. <BR> <BR> ----------------------------------------<BR>-- <BR> Session 2: Building Your Emotional Eating Profile -- <BR> In this Guided Session you'll start understanding how emotional eating works in your life. <BR> <BR> Food can act like a mind-altering drug; it can produce feel... Wed, 11 Jun 2008 13:58:44 EST Question to the team My book will be here in a few days. I am wondering if anyone reading the book is interested in us taking it chapter by chapter (or maybe less than that depending on how big the chapters are) and discussing them here? Thu, 5 Jun 2008 20:26:42 EST online vs onsite I just found dr gould's website and was wondering if you ladies use the book or online site and or which you prefer? <BR> <BR> Has the book/program really helped you? I am debating on which to do/buy. <BR> <BR> I am so out of control it is pathetic. <BR> <BR> Wed, 4 Jun 2008 12:47:10 EST And now me! Hi all, <BR> <BR> I joined so I can hear what you all have to say about the book and/or online program. I just heard about this from Wendie on Living Binge Free this week. I went online and did a free session and learned something even just from that quick exercise so I am strongly considering the online program but wanted to get some feedback from others before I decide to go forward with it because of the cost. <BR> <BR> I have been having issues with binge eating for about 10 yrs now. ... Tue, 3 Jun 2008 16:59:35 EST And then there were three.... :0) Hi, <BR> I'm Leslie from Saskatchewan. I'm on the Living Binge Free team, where I heard about this little team. I don't have the Dr.'s book, but I did just sign up for his 12 week online course, so I thought I might fit here. <BR> I'm looking forward to starting the introductory session of the course tomorrow. <BR> Leslie <em>276</em> Sun, 1 Jun 2008 19:05:28 EST pondering the book insights <BR> The last section I read in SY had a statement in it that kind of shook me up. It said that I may think I don't or can't give up my relationship with food, but that it is just like someone who is fearful to leave an abusive relationship. She thinks she can't do without it but she is almost always glad she's not in it anymore. <BR> <BR> I've never had an abusive relationship, but I have been with men who weren't right for me, yet I was afraid nothing better would come along, so I stayed... Mon, 19 May 2008 21:45:54 EST Accountability - how did you do today? I think it might be a good idea to keep track of our failures and successes, as well as considering the reasons why we don't do well on some days and how we can do better in the future. <BR> <BR> I'll start. Today I began a binge again, but luckily nipped it in the bud. It started with a candy bar, which turned into two. That became a bag of babybels and ended in a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. As I was eating the sandwich, I stopped and asked myself what I was doing. Essentially, I was ... Wed, 14 May 2008 09:34:46 EST What would you do if you didn't eat? One of my weak times is after work, late afternoon. I went to a short doctor's appt, and then was free earlier than usual to roam. I didn't get junkfood as I often do. I went shopping for a yoga mat (didn't find one), but got several items that I have needed. I got hungry on the way home and had a few silver-dollar-sized cookies. It felt very natural. I crunched on them, enjoyed them, but didn't stress over them. When I got home, I had a normal meal. I felt like a normal person. Oh, this is h... Wed, 7 May 2008 01:33:56 EST don't know why my post showed up 3x; skip 2 skip two of my posts. they just say the same thing! Sun, 27 Apr 2008 22:48:28 EST it's you and me, baby! I thought of starting a team for this book, but you actually did it. Good for you! I'm working with Gould's ideas and with the Beck program (do you know of any teams using her work? Or how I could find one like that? I could have sworn I saw a team with her name in it on someone's sparkpage, but I didn't follow up and now I can't find it again...) I like his way of explaining the emotional issues best of all the books I've read on the topic. Anyway, I live in San Diego, have struggled with m... Sun, 27 Apr 2008 22:45:37 EST it's you and me, baby! I thought of starting a team for this book, but you actually did it. Good for you! I'm working with Gould's ideas and with the Beck program (do you know of any teams using her work? Or how I could find one like that? I could have sworn I saw a team with her name in it on someone's sparkpage, but I didn't follow up and now I can't find it again...) I like his way of explaining the emotional issues best of all the books I've read on the topic. Anyway, I live in San Diego, have struggled with m... Sun, 27 Apr 2008 22:45:30 EST it's you and me, baby! next Sun, 27 Apr 2008 22:45:19 EST