SparkPeople Getting Fit to Get Over Him Team Messageboard For people who have suffered a recent breakup and are doing their best to focus on themselves (and no one else) day by day. SparkPeople Getting Fit to Get Over Him Team Messageboard Let's get this team back! This is my favorite team and I want to bring it back. Is there anyone out there who is still active on this team? Fri, 2 Dec 2016 09:03:14 EST Breakups and Revenge Revenge Your Ex <BR> <BR> Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a <BR> variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on. <BR> Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to <BR> vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex" <BR> for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge. <BR> <BR> So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting <BR> nude photos of ... Thu, 10 Sep 2015 19:25:45 EST Today I WILL .... For anyone still active in this group... <BR> <BR> I thought it might be fun/helpful to create a challenge of sorts! "Today I WILL..." is something easy! Post at least three obtainable goals for each day. They may be "small" but will help you get closer and closer to the big goals! Wed, 14 Jan 2015 15:30:32 EST fresh out of a breakup Hi everyone!! <BR> I just broke up with my bf not to long ago. I'm miserable, angry, moody and bitter. <BR> <BR> i started to exercise to feel better, because when i work out i can channel all those emotions into a good outlet and i always feel better afterwards. <BR> <BR> Anyway i feel like this time i want to forget about him because he was such a mean hurtful jerk to me and i know i deserve better than that. <BR> So im determined to lose weight and keep it off and be a healthier, fit pe... Thu, 23 Oct 2014 09:56:32 EST New here! Hi! My name is Ashley. Its actually been over a year since my ex broke up with me but i still think about him. I think part of the reason is that we have a baby together. The other part is that it hurt so bad when he ended it and I still dont understand why. Anyhow, I want to lose wait for me. Its something I've been wanting to do for several years now. I would like to use the pain that I'm still feeling over him to give me that extra boost. And who knows, maybe by the time I reach my goal I ... Sun, 23 Jun 2013 18:49:53 EST i'd like to come along for the ride hi, even though i am now married, i am still haunted by my ex. we were together for 7 years and in that time i went from 160 to 200. he spent 7 years belittling me, making me feel like crap and there are still things that pop up in my day that give me a chill. <BR> i have never told anyone this. no one knows he still haunts me. it doesn't help that i have to drive by his work every single day. twice a day i might see him or he see me. i do see him on the steps about three times a week but i ... Sat, 29 Dec 2012 23:06:08 EST I need the motivation It has been such a challenge for me to get over everyday in this SO-ROUND-SHAPE. <em>15</em> <BR> <BR> Feel like almost everyone in this world is poking fun at my body : " Hey, the Moving Apple, you're in my way , <em>334</em> "... The other better ones feel sorry for me, as if any one who's big need to die. <BR> <BR> I cannot forget the day he( used to be my special one) said that he was ashamed to walk by my side. He was perfect, and gorgeous, and that was the reason why an Ugly Fa... Mon, 3 Dec 2012 06:59:41 EST HELP!!! So I have lost 10lbs since starting on August 31st (YAY ME!!!!). I use to struggle with staying within my calorie limit without going over, now i have the opposite problem. I have noticed that my appetite has decreased significantly in the last few weeks. Which now causes me to be under my calorie limit. Sometimes i am under by almost 50%. I am eating smaller portions and typically eating 2-3 meals a day depending on my schedule, but i don't want to start adding empty calories to my diet just... Thu, 20 Sep 2012 00:06:13 EST Need Cheerleaders I don't have a workout partner and i have had trouble in the past staying motivated. I need someone or multiple people that i can "report to" and help hold me accountable. I need Cheerleaders Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:05:51 EST New Start!! Hi all, <BR> <BR> I would like to introduce myself, I am a 30 something newly single woman and hating it. Hopefully in the next few weeks I will feel different. I want to focus all this anger, rejection and extra time I have into something positive. So what better way than to better this wonderful body of mine. With better eating, exercise and losing 15lbs I will be on the road to the new me. His loss :) Wed, 15 Aug 2012 12:01:01 EST hello(: hello!!! i really dont know how to introduce myself, but im just going to list 5 things about me <BR> 1- i looooove to dance <BR> 2-i take a tumbling class level three <BR> 3-sometimes i use food as comfort): <BR> 4-im a yoga fan <BR> 5-all i want is a normal healthy life Sun, 15 Jul 2012 22:50:09 EST My Story Hello. My name’s Amy and I’m 23. I haven’t really had a break up, because I wasn’t in a relationship with the guy. I know being with him was wrong. He had a gf (who he told me he wasn’t currently with) and a child (5 year old little girl who I knew NOTHING about) so I’m not doing this just for myself because I’m down. I’m also doing this to show him what he is missing. It’s a two for one deal and I’m going to ENJOY every second of it :) <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Sat, 2 Jun 2012 15:31:16 EST my plan - weigh 130 lbs and after that try to aim for 120-125 lbs. <BR> - have a flat stomach and abs <BR> Sat, 26 May 2012 23:47:39 EST Just when you start to feel ok... Its been 2 months since ive talked to him and of course he pops up randomly on my mind or in conversation but no contact whatsoever for 2 months... i went as far as deactivating facebook everything i dont want to see how happy he is with the new g/f... for the two months its gotten easier and just when i thought i was ok... he calls out of nowhere i battle with myself to ignore or answer the call and of course my curious nosey self answers... the minute i hear his voice my stomache is in knot... Fri, 25 May 2012 11:34:34 EST (More than I can say for him!) I am a loving, passionate person! I am interested in the world around me, and actively engaged with the people in my life. I care deeply for my friends and family, and I like being active! He never brought out these traits in me, and I found myself accepting and matching his apathy. NO MORE! <BR> <BR> What are some things that you other users have discovered about yourselves (or re-discovered) since the break-up? Tue, 22 May 2012 00:32:24 EST Still wallowing 6 months later... So my boyfriend of a year (the longest relationship that I've ever had) dumped me at the end of last year, and I'm still struggling to get over it. He hurt me worse than anyone ever has. He cheated on me with a girl that he's still dating, who so happens to be thinner and blonder and generally more attractive than me. It's been a really rough winter/spring, and with the combined stress of moving to a new town and feeling really depressed, the emotional eating has been out of control. I've gai... Fri, 18 May 2012 00:43:12 EST I would like to detox from my relationship breakup Hello everyone. My name is Mystik and I hope to meet many people through this Spark Team site. All suggestions are welcome! Thu, 26 Apr 2012 11:44:45 EST DAY DREAM - What's Yours? I'm Day Dreaming to be 111lbs and Get a boyfriend. Realistic? I made this youtube video to hopefully help out the process. they are both quit large goals! Heres the link: <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Leave me comments, likes, let me know what you think. feed back is always fun! Wed, 11 Apr 2012 04:22:06 EST In need of this group... In fact, I wrote a little blog about it yesterday. <BR> <BR> I dumped my boyfriend on Feb 12. <BR> It took me awhile to finally see that it was a toxic relationship. But I fell in love with the man I thought he was....that man does not exist. That is the hardest part. When I think of "us", that's who I remember. But then I force myself to remember how miserable I became. <BR> <BR> He's still trying to "hold on" while he enjoys his online dating. But I just want to cut ties with him. He has ... Sun, 18 Mar 2012 14:50:20 EST Single after 7 years Hello all :) My name is Leanne and I'm 31 and have been single for a year now. My ex and I broke up last January after being together for 7 years. We never had a perfect relationship but it was comfortable and relatively calm. Then he decided to be with his best girl friend he had cheated on me with when we first started dating. It was one hell of a shock. <BR> <BR> My biggest problem is that I can't seem to let it go. I guess after one year apart thats a lil expected? I have dreams about h... Mon, 12 Mar 2012 22:02:45 EST new to group I joined SP about 2 weeks ago and I've enjoyed everything it has to offer. I saw this group and was excited to know i wasn't the only one! I look forward to sharing with you all through out our journeys to a healthier lifestyle. <BR> I'm work full time and go to school part time..I'm busy busy and I'm going to need someone to keep me on my toes! <BR> Tue, 7 Feb 2012 09:54:38 EST Third time's the charm Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> My name is Becca Smith, and I am a 20 year old college student. This is the third time I have tried spark people, but the first two times I didn't take time to get to know anyone or make any spark friends. I am determined to be more successful this time. My short term goal is to lose 25lbs, but in the long term my goal is to lose 50lbs. If you would like to talk, I'd love to get to know you! <BR> <BR> Becca Tue, 20 Sep 2011 19:01:17 EST Workout Group Does anyone on this team work out together? Would anyone be interested in doing so? I live in Houston, TX and I'd be open to having support for heartache and fitness! Wed, 17 Aug 2011 18:10:39 EST he Facebook Deactivation Challenge So what is the The Facebook Deactivation Challenge you ask? <BR> <BR> I found that most people are on Facebook on average (minimally) 2 hours a day. <BR> I also found that I always say I can't exercise due to no time during my busy day. <BR> <BR> Well I added the two facts together. If I deactivated Facebook I would save two hours each day. Thus I would have time to exercise. Then when I get to my goal size. I will reactivate my Facebook. It's very hard for me I was on Facebook religiously.... Thu, 30 Jun 2011 18:26:14 EST summer's coming - summer's coming - summer's here? Hello! <BR> <BR> I’m Lorey, I’m 22, I live in NYC & I’m returning to spark after a 4 year hiatus. I find sparkpeople to be the greatest weight loss tool especially because of the supportive, motivational community. I’ve had great success in the past to bring myself into a healthy range & now, I’m looking to be super fit. At 5’7, I’m currently 154 and looking to be 130 by mid-September. I am so ready & so motivated to lose weight!! I am absolutely looking for buddies & I truly can’t wait to ... Mon, 23 May 2011 11:30:30 EST I need some help and motivation :( Hello! I'm Danielle. I actually joined this team about 2 years ago while I was going through a different breakup. I lost 50 pounds in about three months then. Well, I put about 60 pounds back on while I was with the most recent ex I'm trying to get over. So it's time to start over. I've lost 11 pounds so far and I feel great about that. What I need help with is the actual breakup!! I spent a year and a half with this man, and from the moment I met him, I was positive he was the one. He has do... Fri, 29 Apr 2011 17:50:09 EST Lost My Workout Partner My ex was my sounding board/cheerleader/coach and now that we're not together I've lost that. I don't have any friends or family members that are supportive or into fitness/eating healthy and I'm not an outgoing person so meeting other people in person really isn't an answer. I feel really lost right now. How do I find the strength to not give up? Sun, 27 Mar 2011 16:30:25 EST 15 yrs...over. Hey everyone. My name is Kelly and I'm a 35 yr old mother of one. My husband of 15 yrs. recently decided he loved my best friend.'s a soap opera and I can't believe it's my life. :( BUT....I have decided that it's my time and I'm looking hopefully to a new and improved future. It's time to finally take care of me and get in the best shape of my life. I'm ready to go out and live my life to it's fullest! It would also be great to attract a fabulous guy to spend the next chapter of m... Sun, 20 Mar 2011 19:54:05 EST Hello! I'm Rachel, and I'm really excited to be joining SparkPeople. <BR> <BR> I just recently went through TWO really horrible breakups...and have spent the past fews months in total disarray. Well, I've decided that it's time to let go of the boys and focus on me again. What better way than to become the person that I want to be? I want to be healthy, happy, and confident. <BR> <BR> My current goals are to lose 12 lbs. before April 17th (I lost three last week, so I guess it's 9 lbs. now!) and t... Tue, 8 Mar 2011 19:47:46 EST The Empowerment Thread I don know about some of you, but I'm tired about thinking about "him" all the time. I'm tired of the fact that the moment that I become unbusy, or the day becomes stagnant that he creeps into my thoughts. So I wanted to make a thread that was no longer about them, but about US! Instead of feeling sorry for myself, or hurt, or put myself down because I don't know why he didn't choose me, or because he dumped me because of my weight, I want to like myself again! <BR> <BR> So here are the rul... Sat, 26 Feb 2011 13:27:57 EST perfect fit! Just out of a long relationship. It drained me completely and when it ended I turned to food 4 comfort over the dec holidays. Now it is time to turn my focus back to being the fun loving health person I am. And start my healing by getting my body and mind right again. Sun, 16 Jan 2011 09:07:29 EST Weight Watchers or T.O.P,S I am just curious to see how many people have tried either program and what they think of them either pros or cons... i am trying to find a program to join with my mom to help push her towards her goals and also achieving my own Tue, 14 Dec 2010 15:22:06 EST Just breath... Hello my name is Townsi. I'm in a ridiculous situation with the heart.... it's a classic story I've now discovered - he's a "rock star" living 300 miles away because he has 3 kids and no job except his music which pays crap if he can't tour...doah! I on the other hand have a corporate badass job and my kids are finally out on their own - so I've been living alone except for the dog for a year now. The saga is unbelieveable and I honeslty can't put into words what I'm doing except deciding t... Fri, 3 Dec 2010 23:21:59 EST The short story (or "Cruising for a Heartbreak") Hello everyone. I was with my BF for a little over two years. A year and a half into our relationship, I went to work on a cruise ship teaching computer classes. Things were going really well, but a month before I came home, he broke things off with me and started with someone new. It totally came out of the blue, too, because I thought things were going great and we were working towards the next step. It was tough because we lived together, too. <BR> <BR> Dealing with breakup is nothing new... Wed, 17 Nov 2010 15:38:49 EST My name is Jo Ann Hi! My name is Jo Ann. I am a mom of three teen/adult boys. I have been divorced for a year this Oct. My husband was cheating on me and one day he came home with divorce papers and said he was moving out. I had no clue. I fell into a deep depression, lost my job from it. I have been trying to climb out of the hole I'm in for a year now. I have gained 25lbs in the last year. I found out that my Ex and his new wife will be coming back into town for our sons high school graduation in May. I real... Fri, 29 Oct 2010 16:08:03 EST Deep Breath... OK, here it goes. <BR> <BR> I have been in love for about 2 years with a man that I can never be with, for various reasons. <BR> <BR> My whole existence revolved around him for a long time. I would wait for his calls or texts and would get HORRIBLY cranky and depressed when they didn't come. <BR> <BR> He, on the other hand, gave me lip service only. He loved me, but didn't call for weeks, he missed me but never tried to see know the type. <BR> <BR> Anyway, I somehow go... Thu, 9 Sep 2010 22:52:14 EST glad to have found this group hi everyone! my name is shelly, i'm 31, from oklahoma and the single mom of 3. i'm here because of a lot of "hims" but only to get over one "him". he is the father of my 2 year old daughter. <BR> <BR> our relationship went something like this. <BR> <BR> him: "you're so beautiful. i've thought so since high school. i'd do anything to be with you" <BR> <BR> me: (being lonely and desperate i guess) swoon! <BR> <BR> him: "i'm going to get you pregnant to keep you." <BR> <BR> me: pt... Wed, 4 Aug 2010 11:34:38 EST Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred Has anyone done this workout? I have been debating on giving it a try. I have been pretty dedicated to walking 3 - 3.5 miles 3-4 days a week, but I have been feeling like I need to step it up a notch. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:24:25 EST sigh I need to vent... <BR> <BR> I've been dating this wonderful guy since August. i finally broke up with him on Friday for prioritizing his friends over me but we talked on Wednesday and we agreed we are both still very in love with one another but he won't get back together with me because he couldn't handle another breakup. We did the whole breakup sex thing which I know was a bad idea but I couldn't stand not having one last moment with him. The worst part is that we stayed up all night cudd... Fri, 23 Jul 2010 10:25:30 EST My story & my plan for revenge While I'm losing weight, getting in shape, and getting healthy for me it is a little bit for revenge on every guy who has ever screwed me over/rejected/hurt me, especially this last one. We have been really good friends since our Freshman year in high school (2004-2005) and I've always had a crush on him but I resigned myself to believing that nothing would ever happen. <BR> <BR> About a month and a half ago we were hanging out alone, like we usually did, in his garage watching "South Park"... Wed, 14 Jul 2010 13:10:04 EST "Screw you-break up" songs Everyone has heard those songs that say "screw you", "I don't need you", "I'm better off without you", "you're an a-hole". Let's compil a HUGE list for all of us "Getting Over Him" girls!!!! Wed, 14 Jul 2010 01:44:37 EST Do You Facebook Stalk Him? I DO!!! I am a 46 year old woman who should know better. But occasionally, I find myself stalking his Facebook page. He is rarely on it, so it's really useless. <BR> <BR> Emily in Memphis Mon, 5 Jul 2010 20:01:05 EST On the next 4th of July, I will....... ........... be wearing a bikini in public (lake or pool) while sitting next to my new HOT boyfriend!!!! Sun, 4 Jul 2010 19:54:00 EST Dear Mr. Ex/ Mr. Stress "I just want you to know that you are no longer in control of my emotional state. When I am angry at you for the things you say to our children I workout. I have learned that kick boxing, yoga and getting on my exercise bike are great ways to deal with Daddy drama. The more you stress me out, the more calories I burn. I really do feel better after I workout. Maybe I should thank you. The best part of all of this is that as I get smaller you seem to be getting bigger." <BR> <BR> I was just w... Sat, 26 Jun 2010 09:49:42 EST Gaining Confidence? I do wish I had more confidence in talking to guys. I sometimes feel a little awkward whenever I talk and I know my body language doesn't say confidence. I am comfortable with who I am, but does anyone out there have any tricks of the trade or suggestions/exercises to build up the C word again? Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:07:25 EST ... ... Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:01:46 EST Needing real help Hi. Recently my boyfriend (we lived together for 6 years) and I broke up. We were fighting all the time and it seemed mutual. We didn't really talk. He left the house and we argued over the phone and we both started telling people we broke up. He had been doing insensitive things since we broke up and seemed angry every time he talked to me. I just got a phone call from him and he was more upset than I have ever seen/heard him. He basically was saying he can't and doesn't want to live anymore... Sun, 20 Jun 2010 18:21:23 EST 6 years down the drain. I'm 22 years old and just got out of a 6 year relationship with an emotional abuser. My self esteem is pretty much nonexistent (was constantly told I have no friends, noone likes me, I am crazy, I'll never get along on my own etc.). We share all of the same friends (although I'm not sure at this point that any of them are my friends)and live in a very small town. I've tried going out a few times to cheer myself up but every time something happens to make me upset and I have a mental breakdown... Fri, 18 Jun 2010 10:39:25 EST I finally did it, I told him a thing or two So my ex and I have decided to stay friends, and I have recently moved away from where he lives. he still tells me that he loves me more than I will ever know and what not but whatever on that one. So I called him the other day to see if he was going to be able to make it to my place this weekend and he started to get all defensive about the fact that he was not going to make it again (this is the 5th weekend in a row). <BR> <BR> So anyway, he started talking garbage about how I always get ... Mon, 7 Jun 2010 01:49:48 EST What do you want from weight loss? What do you want from weight loss? <BR> <BR> I want to finally be able to fit into clothes at the mall. Like Forever21 and American Eagle. Wed, 2 Jun 2010 08:55:35 EST ADDICTED TO DOGS??? I have been thinking about this one. I have been a single mom for the last ten years. There have been four relationships in there, but my intention was to stay single until my girls were grown. <BR> <BR> I do date, but even my "relationships" were not men of marriage material. I have to admit that I have settled for the most harmless of the available men. The last one was a man that I wasn't even attracted to. I dated him because I felt frumpy. <BR> <BR> So while I am on this journey towa... Thu, 27 May 2010 13:34:06 EST There is nothing better Than walking past an ex who is still smoking, has gained weight and is dating a sleezy woman. Ha Ha Ha! Thanks for checking me out because you cannot touch this anymore. I couldn't have planned it better. <BR> <BR> Just wanted to share because it made my weekend. Mon, 24 May 2010 10:44:37 EST Break-up binge eating...aahh! After much thought and consideration, my boyfriend of 3 years and I have made the mutual decision to separate. This happened a few weeks ago, and for the most part, we are both doing alright, as we both think this is for the best. We live together and although he will be moving out of our apartment (or I guess I should say MY apartment now), he won't be able to do so for about another month. So we are stuck seeing each other everyday, and trying to just make the most of it. <BR> <BR> I feel... Sun, 9 May 2010 13:46:26 EST Successes WITHOUT him!!! Hey everyone! <BR> <BR> Since breaking up with my boyfriend I've lost almost 2lbs! I was at my goal weight when we met, but a combination of his eating habits influencing me and my unsatisfaction in the relationship driving me to eat more added 7 pounds to my body! <BR> <BR> I'm eating so much better now that I'm a happy single college girl again ;) <BR> <BR> What are/have been YOUR successes since becoming liberated single women (weight-related or not)?? Thu, 25 Mar 2010 11:29:16 EST Any Ideas to Outsmart Him???? Even if I'm almost over him, I was thinking I'd love to outsmart him - to show him I don't care anymore....maybe you have an idea???? <BR> What would you do????? <BR> It has to be feasible though - maybe writing something in an email... <BR> You're such an imaginative Team... <BR> What have you done/would you do to outsmart him???? <em>306</em> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 11:58:19 EST IT IS STARTING TO SHOW!!! So I still talk to my EX. Well the other day we were talking and he said that he actually misses me. That made me happy because now things are on my terms. He still has some of my stuff at his house and I told him tonight (well I messaged him)I would like to have the rest of my stuff so that don't have to talk to him anymore. I am awaiting his response so I can get my things. I am not sure that I am going to be able to just stop talking to him though. Mon, 22 Mar 2010 02:56:55 EST The boy won't stay outta my dreams! Ugh it's been 2 months since this guy broke my heart and he is still in my dreams. Granted, I am getting amazing revenge, but he is not even worth being in there <BR> <BR> grrr <BR> <BR> can't wait to parade around my yard in a bikini this summer so he can see me (lives on my street) and kick himself in the butt for screwin with me <em>211</em> Wed, 3 Mar 2010 22:14:40 EST Hi everyone I had been apart of this site before, but my goals were set to "maintain" and so I never got many results because my diet was still much higher in calories. At the time, of course, I wasn't too interested in losing weight. Now I have a new account for "losing" even though I don't wish to lose much. I mainly want to lose some body fat, tone up and strengthen my muscles, and just have better cardiovascular health. For exercise, I enjoy Zumba (my favorite), yoga, running, swimming, elliptical, f... Mon, 8 Feb 2010 09:59:53 EST Breaking up stinks! I don't want to write a big saga, i just think it stinks and I hate going through it. Blah! Sun, 7 Feb 2010 22:57:53 EST Hello! :) Hello everyone! :) my name is Daniece. I'm 25 yrs old and I just got out of a 3yr relationship with my boyfriend back in August and I am SOOOOO ready to get in shape and get over him and move on with my life. If anyone ever needs that support and motivation I'm here for you! We can do this!! Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:04:58 EST Hey Everyone! I have been hookin up with a guy friend of mine for a year and a half and the whole time he is sayin how he can't do a relationship in college, its too much and we go to different schools. K. fine. whatever <BR> <BR> Well right before new years, he takes me out on a date tells me how much he likes me and will stop seeing with girls, but he still can't be super official. Didn't hear from him after that night and i find out on his facebook that he has a girlfriend. UGH I was mature and delet... Wed, 20 Jan 2010 18:01:10 EST Hi All! Hi Everyone, I'm Harriet, 35 and single. My last break up was the Saturday of Thanksgiving Week. (Worst Week Ever!) My last relationship was four years ago and that was where I put on most of my extra weight. It's just a struggle for me to believe and trust guys like me with all this extra weight, I'm not comfortable with myself so it's hard for me to believe anyone else is too. The last two guys I dated where okay. Typical "nice guys", educated, employed, and clean cut, but I really wonder... Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:17:18 EST Getting stronger by moving on... Hey ladies! Just joined SparkPeople yesterday, and already I love it. I thought I would join this group because I feel it reaches out to me most. Just recently I separated from my husband of only a year and a half. We had been dating for NINE years on and off and he was my highschool sweetheart. Its the hardest month so far of moving out and moving on, but I realized one morning I deserve to be happy, I deserve to be treated like a princess, and being married to him, I was getting neither. He... Mon, 28 Dec 2009 17:52:07 EST Does Anyone Else get Aggravated by This...? Last night I was talking to someone and she was asking me about how I am and how everything has been going. She also asked me for an update on the guy situation and I said that I don't care about that right now. She proceeds to tell me that I shouldn't worry about it. <BR> <BR> I wouldn't get irritated about this, but she has never been single in her life (she started dating a guy a month after she broke off her engagement) and she's only 23. I told her that it's easy for her to say tha... Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:44:36 EST Two Exes..!!! So earlier this year my boyfriend and I broke up. He moved out. The short story is I found some things that lead me to believe he had another woman in my home.. I couldn't forgive him and our relationship went down hill after that. <BR> So I moved out in May and have been living alone ever since. <BR> We kept in touch, and were trying to work things out but it still pained me. I knew he wasn't good for me deep inside.. but I still stayed with him, and continued to see him in hopes that we c... Mon, 7 Dec 2009 10:50:58 EST Surviving the Holidays The holiday season is upon us and it's easy to get down about being single during this time. So I say let's treat ourselves special and do things we haven't yet experienced. This means that I'm going out, being social, and still keeping up with my fitness and health. I'm planning on hanging with friends and maybe have a small get together myself. Maybe try baking cookies with substitutes and contacting old friends. Maybe try to improve my skills in photography and guitar. <BR> <BR> So w... Tue, 1 Dec 2009 15:22:34 EST What do YOU WANT?? So on Thursday, my psychology professor had all of us write down 15 traits that are absolutely necessary for a mate to have, 15 desirable traits, and 15 completely unacceptable traits. <BR> So I thought this was a cute idea and I'm curious to learn what traits you need/want/don't want in a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. <BR> Have a beautiful day!! Sat, 14 Nov 2009 17:46:01 EST Im having a bad day Hi all <BR> <BR> Im having a bad day... Im two weeks in and he ended it because we were doing long distance for three years and he was trying to get a job where I am and couldnt and gave up. He said he knows I want more and he cant give it to me and I should find someone who can. <BR> <BR> I dont really believe that reason but its what I got <BR> <BR> Today im feel sick to my stomach about it all... when I think of him with someone else... I can not believe he wishes that for me it seems ... Wed, 11 Nov 2009 11:12:37 EST Got Creative Writing? Anyone got any creative writing or poems that may (in the spirit of this group) or may not be about your ex? I'll start with two of my own: <BR> <BR> No. 1: <BR> These church bells have grown weary of their own song. This fairytale is frayed at the edges, eaten alive by the flame of your indifference. The pictures are faded. This hunger has enveloped itself, feeding on it's own desire. Empty, like the bells that praised your song long ago. <BR> <BR> No. 2: <BR> A thousand wishes met o... Tue, 3 Nov 2009 23:06:01 EST Divorced, but much happier now!!!!!! :) I got married in 2008 to a man that was not meant for me. I ended up gaining about 55 pounds whilst being married to him. We divorced in February of 2009, and I moved back to my home state (Iowa) and I ended up losing 30 pounds from just the divorce stress. <BR> <BR> My goal weight is 150 pounds by March of 2010 -- as a little reminder of how things were a year before. It is that much more motivation! I also would love to fit into a size 10 -- or even size 8! That would be amazing. <... Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:23:14 EST Does this ever get easier? I've dealt with my share of breakups but this has been the hardest, by far. My self-esteem is at an all time low and all I do is wonder about the "what-ifs." I have very few good moments during the day. Sometimes I get in a laugh but mostly everything is blah. Now that he is gone I feel like my life is meaningless. :( I've never experienced the type of connection we had and I'm in misery without him. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:49:31 EST Recently Dumped I'm new to this group, but I am so glad I found it. About a month ago my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and left me for the other woman. We had dated since I was a Freshmen in college. The day it all happened was the day I took a look at myself and said, "this is not who I am." <BR> <BR> I got back on SparkPeople, made goals, and popped in the 30day shred DVD. <BR> <BR> A month later I'm almost down 10lbs, and I'm doing really well with seeing my ex on campus. It's not easy, but I fee... Wed, 30 Sep 2009 13:35:49 EST Hi I'm a newbi New to the SP site and trying to get through a divorce. I want to change my life to be about me for once. Mon, 28 Sep 2009 18:12:51 EST hi, read my story... Hi, I have been at the high end and low end of my weight since high school. When I was 14, my father passed away from cancer. I began to develop anorexia and was sick until I was about 18 and started to get it under control. Then I dated a guy for about 3 years and when I was 21 he killed himself. That's when I got to my highest weight ever. Then I dated my ex-fiance for 4 years. I joined weight watchers during that time and reached a pretty healthy weight. Then I moved in with my fiance and ... Sun, 27 Sep 2009 01:38:12 EST Inspirational Quote for the Day — Self Esteem Nobody will think you're somebody if you don't think so yourself. <BR> <BR> — Unknown wise person Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:26:09 EST HI Hello all, <BR> I am still new to the team so I wanted to introduce myself again. I am Tanya and I truly am "getting fit to get over him" more like "him's". I seem to be picking the same guy over and over and over again and can't seem to stop. Last night I was in an Alanon meeting (ex-husband alcoholic/drug addict) and someone said something truly profound, which I am sure I have heard a million times but it must not have been the right time to receive it. The most important relationship to ... Wed, 3 Jun 2009 09:01:38 EST a bad few days So I just needed somewhere to vent and discuss how I'm feeling. My live-in boyfriend of almost 5yrs is now moving out. We've been planning this for a month now, (planning the break-up), but for some reason since Friday is the actual move date I'm like freaking out. I'm actually going to be moving out too and neither of us will be staying here, but I just look around and see everything we shared for almost 5yrs and its killing me. I'm so scared and feel like my life is in shambles all wrapped... Tue, 28 Apr 2009 08:42:59 EST April Weigh-Ins Lets Make this month count! <BR> <BR> I am nearly 190 on 4/7 :( Tue, 7 Apr 2009 20:11:23 EST Heartbroken still... Hello All. <BR> I've actually been a part of SP and trying to lose weight since January 2009. So far I've lost 15lbs. But, recently my boyfriend who I've lived with for 4.5yrs and I have broken up. He is moving out the end of this month. I won't get into details, but I just don't trust him to be faithful anymore. <BR> I've actually found a new apt, but because of all the struggle right now haven't really been participating in my regular SP Class of January 4th Team Discussions, and not fo... Tue, 7 Apr 2009 09:03:01 EST Daily Chit Chat! <BR> How are you ladies doing? <BR> Thu, 12 Mar 2009 12:21:13 EST March Weekly Weigh-ins! <BR> <BR> Hello! I am sorry this is a little late, but that is better than never! <BR> Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:14:36 EST Hearing from exes? Does anyone else still have to deal with an ex? If so, how do you do it??? Mon, 9 Mar 2009 14:28:33 EST Feel good movies Sitting in my living room watching tv, I was inspired to think of a few feel good movies. My favourites at the moment are <BR> Legally Blonde, <BR> Miss Congeniality one and two, <BR> Just Like Heaven, <BR> 10 Things I Hate About You <BR> and Mean Girls. <BR> <BR> Basically a whole load of chick flicks! What about you guys? Which Movies make you feel more uplifted and upbeat? Wed, 4 Mar 2009 17:11:26 EST How do you know if you're ready to date again? So I have another date with someone tomorrow and for some reason I don't want to go. I really like the guy and I feel comfortable around him. I'm just not sure that I'm ready to start dating anyone again right now and I'm not sure why. It's been since November that I've been dumped (lol) and I'm not waiting on him nor do I think that my ex and I will get back together. Finally, I can say that and believe it after a few months. <BR> Perhaps this is just my way of keeping myself from gett... Fri, 27 Feb 2009 14:29:10 EST Feeling Blue Today is another tough day. It seems the weekends are incredibly difficult for me because it's when I miss my ex the most. Actually, I don't know if I miss him or the Idea of him. I just feel like I have no self-esteem left and that no man is ever going to love me and it's a horrible feeling. I'm trying to get back the person I was before I met him where I would go out and do things by myself and not think twice. Unfortunately, it bothers me now and makes me feel even more alone. I gues... Sat, 21 Feb 2009 19:51:25 EST Progress anyone? I am not at all over my ex, but I figured that maybe I should try to focus on the ways in which I have improved. It is Saturday night, and I'm staying home alone, and I'm not filled with anxiety about being alone with my thoughts. This is amazing to me, because for the first two months after the break-up, I hated being alone, especially on weekend nights (and I'm not a clingy person--normally I love time by myself). So, I can't say that I'm happy, and I can't say that I don't spend a good ... Sat, 21 Feb 2009 19:25:02 EST How was your V-day? I just wanted to check in with everyone to see how your Valentines Days went. If you had fun, great! If you had a hard time, you weren't alone in that feeling. <BR> <BR> Mine actually was no worse than all my other days are right now, and possibly a little better! I spent the day with a lot of family, and then I went to a fun costume party at night. I'm glad the day is over, though, because I think the anticipation was the worst part! And now maybe the stores will take down all those ... Sun, 15 Feb 2009 10:05:39 EST A poem for valentines day... Mrs Icarus <BR> <BR> I’m not the first or the last <BR> to stand on a hillock, <BR> watching the man she married <BR> prove to the world <BR> he’s a total, utter, absolute Grade A pillock. Sat, 14 Feb 2009 07:06:31 EST Rewards? Just wondering if anyone has any mini rewards or ultimate goal weight rewards going? Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:16:57 EST Valentine’s Day Chat! Valentine’s day is approaching & I thought that we needed a place to chat about it or so we can get together and have an all day chat so none of us hot sexy single ladies don’t have to feel lonely & end up in front of the TV watching sad movies eating ice cream. Maybe that seems stereotypical but Valentine’s Day is full of chocolates and candy hearts let’s not allow those things to ruin our diets this month! <BR> Mon, 2 Feb 2009 20:51:37 EST February’s Fabulous Weekly Weigh-ins! <BR> I think that we need to start to do weekly weight-Ins, Let’s try to weight in every Tuesday! I would say Monday, but just in case we over eat on the weekend let’s take a day to get are buts back in gear! <BR> <BR> <BR> Sun, 1 Feb 2009 21:07:43 EST *waves* Hi! I joined this group because it makes me smile. <BR> I'll never forget Steve, the man who dumped me because I was too fat for him. <BR> Now I'm 54 pounds lighter with 40 to go. <BR> Eat your heart out! Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:56:49 EST I just ended my relationship with my fiance I was in this relationship for two years. After all the disappointments and agonizing about should I stay or should I go, I went. I feel better, but still upset over the two years wasted and the weight gain because of it. So I am looking for support too. <BR> Thanks for listening. <BR> <BR> Nancy Wed, 21 Jan 2009 19:44:25 EST Favourite work out song... My workout playlist needs some new songs badly!!! I don't think I can sit through another cardio session with it. What songs do you like to listen to when you work out? Tue, 20 Jan 2009 20:29:03 EST Dating Agencies I've now been single for 6 months and although I'm still not over my ex, I think it's time to move on. <BR> I've come to a point where I don't have the willpower to go out every weekend in the hope of meeting someone special. I'm so choosey and particular and feel that most men in bars are just there to try and get in your pants! <BR> Therefore I was thinking about maybe joining an Internet dating site but I'm not quite sure whether to take the plunge or not. I'm anxious about people giving f... Tue, 20 Jan 2009 10:27:05 EST Good breakup articles I keep these saved in my favourites to remind myself to move on healthy this time (that means no sex with the ex, no incessant whining to my friends, no arguments with him over us not getting back together) and to remind myself of the person I want to be when this is all over. Hopefully these will help you out too :) <BR> <BR><BR>49-0.html <BR> <BR><BR>tml?name=News&file=article&sid=576 <BR> <BR> http://www.... Sat, 17 Jan 2009 17:13:49 EST No Backsliding! <BR> We are out of our old relationship for a reason; I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I know that one or two of us have gone back to one of our ex’s before, me included. I have only had one boyfriend and we have dated multiple times! In fact he is my daughters “father” and not only is he not there for me, he isn’t there for my precious daughter as well. We can do this together! We can get over our ex’s once and for all! Together anything can happen!! So let’s not let ou... Thu, 8 Jan 2009 15:40:42 EST Single Moms Wanting to Get Git & Get Over Him! I thought I would start a thread for single moms who want to get fit and get over him! I am single mom, and I would love to get fit and get over my ex! <BR> <BR> EDIT- SORRY I MESSED UP! IT SHOULD BE GET FIT!! SORRY. If you know how to fix it let me know! Mon, 5 Jan 2009 16:00:12 EST List Your Accomplishments Here! What are your accomplishments? Small or large let’s share them! <BR> Mon, 5 Jan 2009 15:54:16 EST New Year & A New You! Hello Ladies! This is a New Year & the chance to become a New You! We have the chance to become anything that we want, show those men that we are better, stronger, and more beautiful without them! What are your goals for this New Year? Sun, 4 Jan 2009 22:06:18 EST Holiday Cheer! Personally, I find the holidays are lonely for me. They are truly romantic (aside from Valentine's Day, which is just a Hallmark Holiday). So to help with the single times, I think it would be great if we could think of 3 reasons why we are better off without our ex or why they suck! And whenever we get down, turn to these reasons and feel better! <BR> <BR> I'll go first: <BR> 1. My ex NEVER made me happy. When we were on-again, I was sooo anxious. When we were off-again, I was sooo dep... Sun, 7 Dec 2008 22:55:37 EST New and ready to move on! Hi guys! <BR> <BR> Not too long ago, my on-again/off-again non-partner and I decided to be off-again. This time it turned out to be for good. <BR> <BR> The reason why it was off again was mainly me - whenever we'd get too close, I'd freak out. Yet I wanted to work through that and eventually be with him. <BR> <BR> Shortly after things ended, he got a new girlfriend. Since I'm not ready to really deal with that, but I also don't want to be the bitchy ex, I told him that for both of our... Sun, 7 Dec 2008 21:52:41 EST New girl! Hello all - my name is Lizzi, just introducing myself <BR> <BR> Good luck to all Thu, 4 Dec 2008 12:37:21 EST hi im new hello everyone i been broke up since aug 13 and ive been in therelationship for 4 years its been a diffcult time for me but i have my friends support Sat, 11 Oct 2008 20:35:45 EST Inspirational quote or poem? I've read this on someone else's SparkPage and, for the life of me, I can't remember who it was. <BR> <BR> But the quote I've been holding on to since is: <BR> <BR> "THE MOMENT YOU SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE, YOU WILL GET EVEN LESS THAN YOU SETTLE FOR" <BR> <BR> No matter how difficult times are or how lonely the nights get or how big and empty and cold my bed seems...every time I read this quote, I remind myself of why it's over and why I should not make contact. <BR> <BR> Do you ... Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:05:01 EST Is it just me... that feels like I'm the one who get screwed over all the time?? Fri, 29 Aug 2008 14:29:00 EST Favorite Break-up Song... So I am not sure, whether "break-up song" is officially a song category:-) but sure there are some that make me feel better, tell myself what a jerk it was, help me to see the bright future etc. <BR> For the purpose of this team, I though it would be great to put couple of these together and put on a playlist I use for jogging to get myself in shape. <BR> My personal favorites would be: <BR> Destiny's Child - Survivor <BR> Daughtry - Got Over You <BR> Jordin Spark - No Air (okay, I am still ... Tue, 19 Aug 2008 17:23:06 EST My personal victory!!!! So the other day my ex shows up at my work to invite me over for dinner (he has 2 kids from a previous marriage and I haven't seen much of them lately) He did however have the condition that we not fight, which seems to happen every time we see each other, too many hard feelings I guess. <BR> <BR> Well once I was there he starts flirting with me! Trying everything to get my attention. I simply but nicely shot him down. Pretended not to notice the attention I was getting. While he was driving... Fri, 15 Aug 2008 16:07:02 EST I just keep going back... To begin, I broke up with my ex back in March. We hadn't been together that long but it was long enough for me to start dreaming about the future we could have together. Boy was that a mistake! <BR> <BR> Since the breakup, I continue to see him, continue to let myself get put down by him and then feel even worse about myself so I binge until I feel better. <BR> <BR> I know that I need to break the cycle and I'm hoping that this forum will help me along the way! Sun, 6 Jul 2008 10:30:45 EST Monday Weigh-Ins Weigh In on Mondays and post your results here! Simply update your post instead of adding a new one, to keep things shorter and simpler! Let's do it ladies! Wed, 14 May 2008 12:43:30 EST Summertime Stretch! Ok ladies! Summer is coming up quickly... for a lot of people that can mean getting in shape for bikini season, planning a vacation, or simply looking forward to enjoying some warm afternoons of relaxation. <BR> <BR> Let's pool together and share our goals, and push each other towards reaching them. Update us on your progress, what you still feel you need to work on, and how you plan to make the best of the most Fun season of them all! Wed, 14 May 2008 12:40:44 EST How was your day? Hello ladies, <BR> since we decided to get fit and healthy to get over Him...we have to be able to let go of the past. <BR> But grieving is so difficult so, I'm asking and would like to know ...How did your day go? <BR> Did you resist calling him? Did you resist seeing him? What are you proud of today? <BR> <BR> Danielle Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:39:22 EST Hello all! I'm NEW.... I'm Erin, and it's so funny what hand your delt. I joined this site a couple days ago and joined a team for women getting in shape to have another baby. Funny... that night, he dumped me. I have to laugh I guess bc its just so ironic and funny. I love him, but Im ready to take care of me.... <BR> <BR> Thu, 17 Apr 2008 14:07:48 EST Representing Englewood Ohio So I'm starting the weight battle once again. I just joined the website. I was engaged to a man that I was with for a while. He just left me one day with no warning and now is wanting me back again. I need to get back feeling confident so I don't get back with him. This group sounds PERFECT! Fri, 11 Apr 2008 12:24:24 EST What Makes You Feel Beautiful? Call out ladies! What makes you feel beautiful, feel sexy? Is it a pair of black high heels you paid too much for, a gorgeous smile, extra energy? Let's all share the things that make us feel beautiful! Whether they be materialistic or not, feel free to share!!! Tue, 1 Apr 2008 20:44:15 EST April Challenge!! April is approaching fast! Spring is here too, so what better time to challenge ourselves than at the beginning of a new season and new month! <BR> <BR> For April I challenge everyone to try something NEW! Whether it be a spinning class, kickboxing, or just taking long walks in new areas, let's all add some variety! Keep everyone posted on the things you do, and let us know what you thought! <BR> <BR> Ladies, I also want to hear how everyone is doing on the 'getting over it' hurdle. I know ... Mon, 31 Mar 2008 00:59:29 EST Eat your heart out... I want to see him out one night and for him to see how fabulous I look now and WISH he was with me. I know I know it is not "healthy" to think like that, but I can't help it! I got healthy and fit for me, but I want to make him jealous too. <BR> <BR> I saw him out a few weeks ago and i didn't know that I was gonna see him so I wasn't dressed to show off my weight loss. Well he did say that I looked great and texted me to come over that night (even though he changed his mind and didn't c... Fri, 28 Mar 2008 23:51:19 EST Stages of Recovery I've noticed over the different breakups in my life that there are stages I go through to get over it. <BR> <BR> First, I cry and cry and can't understand what went wrong. In this stage I typically want him back. <BR> Second, I try to just not think about it, and focus on keeping myself very busy with random things that don't always help. <BR> Third, I get angry with him, and try to re-empower myself in silly ways such as saying "I broke up with him" instead of admitting I was dumped. <BR> ... Fri, 14 Mar 2008 22:18:21 EST OMG...This will help! After reading the General Team Discussion "It's Called A Breakup because It's Broken," I went searching for it online. I found this web site by the authors, and I must say it had me LOL and nodding. I promise you'll feel better after visiting this site: <BR> <em>247</em> <BR> ~Roxanne Fri, 7 Mar 2008 18:15:18 EST What do you do when.... So my body has given in to the season, and I am sick. This means extra time at home, feeling somewhat out of it, and watching my mind wander to sad thoughts about my ex-boyfriend. At times like this I usually call a friend, but I don't want to get anyone sick and talking on the phone hurts :( <BR> <BR> So what do you guys do when you need to get your mind onto better things? When you are trying to keep yourself busy and such? Sat, 1 Mar 2008 00:11:58 EST Its Called a Breakup Because Its Broken Has anyone read it? My friend sent it to me in the mail and I am gonna start reading it this week. Its supposed to be really funny and helpful. Sun, 24 Feb 2008 10:48:19 EST