SparkPeople Divorced in my 20's or 30's Team Messageboard This group is open for all the ladies out there who are dealing with divorced and are looking for support on their weightloss journey. SparkPeople Divorced in my 20's or 30's Team Messageboard Hello Everyone!!!! Hello everyone my name is Nicole and even though I've been a member of SparkPeople since 2009 I've never taken the time to introduce myself. I'm a 27 year old single mom of two wonderful boys and I'm finally deciding to get my butt in gear and take getting in shape seriously. Growing up I was always active and after my first son I continued this. But after my second son and a divorce I let myself go. I'm looking for the motivation and support I need to help keep me on track so I can get back ... Wed, 15 Aug 2012 21:44:38 EST Hello Hi everyone, I'm Abigail and I'm 27 years old I've been married for 2 years now and my husband just up and left because he could not handle the the financial death we were in... Long story short he took the easy way out. I've gain a huge amount of weight from all the stress and now I'm taking control of my health and my self esteem back. Sun, 27 Nov 2011 19:51:18 EST Hello Hi. My name is Liz. I am a currently separated, waiting for my divorce to be finalized 33 year old. I have a beautiful 11 month old son. I gained tons of weight during my pregnancy and lost all of it. I want to lose 10 more pounds to be at my pre wedding weight. I love my life now. I have a house, a great job, fantastic family and friends and the best child anyone could ask for. My son is my world. Everyone says I should be dating because my ex has a GF already, but I have no interest at the ... Fri, 24 Jun 2011 08:00:44 EST When I look in the mirror, I see..... a person that is putting the past behind her and moving forward with a smile:) Sat, 11 Jun 2011 15:43:39 EST Hello All My name is Adam, I'm 31 and have been divorced for 3 years. I've been doing Sparkpeople now since August. I'm really enjoying it but I think I need to take the next step and join some groups.I've lost 28 pounds so far but I have a lot more to go. Happy New Year to all and I hope to hear from you soon!! Tue, 28 Dec 2010 19:44:13 EST Nat'l TV show seeking newly divorced/ready to date This is Bruce Corwin, head of public relations at SparkPeople. "The Doctors," a popular nationally syndicated talk show, is urgently seeking guests for their show. They're looking for "fun & energetic people who are recently divorced and ready to date again and would participate in a weight loss competition." The deadline for this is this Friday, Nov. 5. So if you're interested in being on the show, spreading the spark and getting your 15 minutes of fame :-) please email a recent photo of you... Wed, 3 Nov 2010 14:14:51 EST hi My name is Elizabeth and I am 27. My soon to be ex and I started dating when we were 18. We stayed together in a long distance relationship while I was at college on the west side of the state and he was on the east side of the state. I moved back after graduation and got a job here on the east side and he proposed after 6 years of dating. We got married the same year and have now been married not even 3 years. our 3 year anniversary would be in late August this year. So a grand total of 9 ye... Mon, 26 Jul 2010 08:58:38 EST Not much activity, lets get something going..... Today is a holiday. For me, it doesn't matter what kind of holiday it is, since the dissolution of my marriage all holidays make me feel sad. <BR> <BR> How about you? Say how long you and your ex have been split and if/how the holidays affect you. <BR> <BR> I've been separated 10 months now (divorce not yet finalized) and though I'm much better off, I'm still grieving and holidays highlight my grief and loneliness :( Sun, 4 Jul 2010 22:52:03 EST Introduction Hi, I'm Paula. I separated from my deadbeat, abusive husband last September and filed for divorce in February though the proceedings are currently stalled (he has been evading process service). I had been doing really well for the first few months, not surprising given the liberation from a hopeless and oppressive situation and reclaiming my independence! But the reality is though I'm better off, my life has been turned upside down and shaken up. The last couple months have been extremely dif... Mon, 28 Jun 2010 16:46:40 EST A Happy Moment! I had a very happy moment this morning, it made me feel SO great! So you know when you wash jeans and they get all stiff and kind of seem like they shrink a little? Then when you go to put them on you kind of have to stretch and wiggle to get into them? And don't you hate that? Well this morning I went to put on these freshly washed jeans and to my surprise and utter joy, they went on just fine and there was no stretching or wiggling done!!! I was so happy with myself! So this single moment g... Tue, 8 Jun 2010 22:35:03 EST My divorce was finalized !!! Maybe I am weird but I actually gave my lawyer a high five when the judge said it was over and done. Finally the two years of begging and the $15,000 that I spent on my lawyer is over. I can finally enjoy the new life that my kids and I have. But of course the week after I divorce my ex gets into a motorcycle accident and he was not at fault. So he is suing.. Great I could have used some of that money.. (bad joke I know) Well at least he is still alive! Tue, 25 May 2010 16:02:03 EST 37 and soon to be divorced hello all this is the first time i have attempted to introduce myself to one of my chosen spark teams. It is difficult to not be tearful after 13 years together but i know that i am going to be healthier and happier now than before. Sun, 23 May 2010 15:19:45 EST hello i just split from my husband of 10 yrs we have one son who will be 2 in May and I need a new great start with our lives I WANT TO BE HAPPY!! I know i am worth it so I have been told I am just scared I married him when I was 19 he is 9 yrs older than me he has cheated on me only once that i know of but b/c he got a letter to take a dna test and then to my face still said he did nothing to her that was a few yrs ago and I tried to make things work since then but now it is the little things i ju... Wed, 3 Mar 2010 13:50:28 EST Missing my kids I dropped my 2 little ones last night to spend the week with their dad. As much as I enjoy having some down time to just be a couple with Jesse , I miss them soo much. Its my birthday today and I really wish I had them with me. Tue, 9 Feb 2010 09:02:40 EST what to do! started the divorce process last hit me from out of nowhere...she is allready got some body just trying to find a way to deal...and wondering does it get any easier! Mon, 10 Aug 2009 00:57:19 EST Just filed last week... Hi all! No point in dragging my feet. I was actually just married in April to my 'best friend.' We had been together for 5 years, and I was so happy - not in denial, either. He decided 2 months later that 'he made a mistake,' wasn't ready to be an adult, essentially. He said he had been living his life to be and do what he felt everyone expected, but had never really put any effort into being or doing what he wanted. So, just about 3 months after the wedding, I've filed for divorce - yu... Sun, 26 Jul 2009 16:37:46 EST New here and having a rough time Hi everyone, I am new to this spark team. I am 28 yrs old and going through my second divorce. The first marriage I had I was 20 and it became abusive and ended after 2 years. I married my 2nd husband at 26 and now we are going through a divorce. Everything seemed fine until our first anniv and thats when things changed...I ended up getting injured in a car accident and it finally broke our marriage. While I was in the hospital I found out he had been talking to lots of girls (one was 18... Wed, 15 Jul 2009 21:08:40 EST 30, almost divorced, and living in abroad Hello everyone, <BR> <BR> My name is Mae. I am an American living in Belgium, for almost 8 years now. My divorce, after nearly 8 years of marriage, is winding down, just down to waiting on paperwork from the courthouse, but no more action needed from my side, nor from his side. <BR> <BR> I moved to Belgium to be with my Belgian husband. My friends and family are for the most part still in the States. I will be moving back to the States in November. <BR> <BR> Currently, my ex-husband an... Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:17:42 EST Any experince with Divorce Kits? Has anyone been using a Divorice kit? <BR> <BR> Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:47:12 EST 26 and lost <em>213</em> Hi my name is Cecile. I was knew my husband for 8 years (2 of which we were married for). After our trip back home from Disney World to celebrate our 2 year Annerv. he turned to me and told me he no longer wants to be married anymore. In the course of 2 days I had lost my home of 2 years, a family, my best friend and just about all my self esteem. <BR> <BR> So during a course of 3 months all I did was eat junk.I gained 30lbs that I lost in 2007 :( In Feb. when I put my pants o... Wed, 4 Mar 2009 16:35:55 EST Ash Wednesday Anyone else partake in this and if so what did you give up for it? Wed, 25 Feb 2009 17:23:41 EST Fun Game Time! So I saw this on another board and thought this would be something fun for us to do. I hope everyone plays and enjoys it! The idea is you list two items such as apples or oranges? Then the next person replies with their answer and then the next two choices. Okay let's play! <BR> <BR> <BR> Shoes or purses? Thu, 12 Feb 2009 10:35:13 EST Weekly Weigh In! Let's be accountable for our actions and weigh in! You can weigh in every day or once a week! Whatever works best for you but be sure to share the losses and gains and get motivated to lose! <BR> <BR> <BR> Start Weight: 309 <BR> Current Weight: 299 <BR> <BR> Total Loss: 10lbs! Wed, 28 Jan 2009 13:09:26 EST 34 and Divorced for only 2 weeks I am a single mother of 3 boys. My 2 youngest live in Chicago with their father for the time being so that way Mommy can get well with herself. My oldest lives with me he is not my Ex's son. Mon, 5 Jan 2009 00:24:22 EST Newbie Here Hello You all! I'm Jewels, I'm 23, I have 2 little girls. I got married in 2004 to an abusive man, had my kids, and left him July 2008. I am finally in my own place, and I am ready to get serious about losing weight again. I am rebuilding my self esteem. He broke me down pretty bad. I can't wait to share my wisdom and learn from you all. This is the hardest thing I have been through in a long time. Wed, 24 Dec 2008 00:07:10 EST KEEP HOPE FOR THE HOLIDAYS lET'S ALL REMEMBER TO KEEP HOPE FOR THE HOLIDAYS AND REMEMBER THAT WE ALL ARE A TEAM AND HERE FOR EACH OTHER. LET'S GO TEAM AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL OF YOU. Mon, 15 Dec 2008 07:56:31 EST daily check in chat I am just trying to see how many of you log in to the site each day. We really don't have any new topics on our team boards. Just trying to find someway to get us all motivated and active together as a group. If you have any ideas, post them here and let the team know. Wed, 12 Nov 2008 21:00:43 EST 22 and divorced for a year..need a new start! Hey everyone. I was married at 20 and divorced at 21. Now I'm 22..almost 23...and needing to start my life for real this time!!! I want to get it off on the right foot and get my weight under control!! I'm hoping this will work for me this time..I've tried SP before... <BR> Thu, 30 Oct 2008 00:19:58 EST Sorry I've been MIA... I started back to work earlier this month (I'm a teacher) and have had a million more things than usual dumped on me. Then Hurricane Ike (or what was left) roared through Ohio and I'm one of the many still without power. I'm at the library right now. TG there was one nearby that had power and internet up. We may have power this weekend but I seriously doubt it. The cable company told us it could be a month or more before we get internet back! I may go insane! Hope everyone else is doing well! Fri, 19 Sep 2008 13:58:15 EST Hi, I'm Shell Hi All, <BR> Just found you today. My husband walked out on me and my girls, 13 years and 7-months, on August 20th and I am learning how to move forward and handle the pieces he left behind. In 10 years, it is the first thing he has done without me telling him to do it, so I can't say it is unwelcomed but it was very unexpected due to the baby. I look forward to talking with you all and working towards not ballooning to a higher weight. So far so good...I think I have a total of 10 pounds of ... Sun, 14 Sep 2008 22:58:26 EST Hi, I'm Catherine My name is Catherine and I am 22 years old. I am not yet divorced, because in North Carolina you have to be seperated a year ( which is bull). But in May I will be divorced from my husband. I have gained a lot of weight since I was in highschool, and I am just trying to be a healthier person. Sat, 6 Sep 2008 19:40:06 EST Hi... and Introduction Hello… I am relatively new to SparkPeople (SP), but really like the mission. I have worn many hats in my life, and continue to do so. I have been married, divorced, and am now remarried and have never been happier in my life. For those that are here because you are unhappy with a relationship, going through a divorce, or recovering from a divorce, I am here to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel, and marriage can be a beautiful experience. <BR> <BR> Besides being a husba... Mon, 11 Aug 2008 11:35:36 EST Jab at my ex... I'm doing a study with the Bodybugg and somehow the girl who measures me for the study is now living with my ex-BIL. So... when I was putting together an envelope of all of the pics I had of my ex and his family, I included a little note how I was sorry to hear the "golden couple" didn't make it and how cute their sons were and how much they'd grown. LMAO. He will wonder what the hell is going on and how I know about that when he opens that package. I left out the part that I was at ex-BIL's ... Tue, 22 Jul 2008 21:07:50 EST hi Just wanted to introduce myself. I am Theresa, a 33y/o divorced mom of a 9 y/o daughter. I have been divorced 6 years. I also just got out of a 5 year relationship, that was worse than my marraige....go figure. I am starting on this weight lose journey to stop hiding behind the weight and start living. I had already lost 30 pounds on the medically supervised diet I am on before finding sparkpeople. Sun, 20 Jul 2008 00:26:33 EST I'm trying a Herbalife Weight Loss thing I'm not doing the greatest on it, but am trying! I still go up and down in weight, but have lost in inches, at least 1-2 everywhere so far. Wish me luck! The place I'm starting to move into next week also has a 24 hr. fitness center, so that's cool. Well, just wanted to post that I did actually start something towards my goal! I also hardly ever drink pop anymore and drink more water, not as much as I should, but at least some. Fri, 18 Jul 2008 23:23:10 EST 23 and getting divorced i am a 23year old female and me and my current husband have been seperated since we been together we got married for all the wrong reasons and after many tries just cant make it work. its for the best i know but my life isnt suppose to be like this it was suppose to work and we were suppose to be a happy family. i have 2 kids but they are very young and lived most there lives with out him so they dont really know the difference and i am very upset they will grew up without a dad cause he does... Fri, 18 Jul 2008 23:07:18 EST Daily Check-in for July Post and let us know you're still here! <em>213</em> Mon, 7 Jul 2008 08:34:00 EST I've edited the team... to include 20-somethings as well as 30-somethings in an effort to get this team moving. Sun, 29 Jun 2008 08:01:48 EST Hi all! I'm your new leader! <em>213</em> Since there hasn't really been a leader on the board since its beginning, I spoke with Coach Jen and asked if I could be the leader to try to get this board going. I think we all could use some support and a dead forum doesn't exactly help with that. <BR> <BR> If anyone is interested in being a co-leader to help get things rolling, please let me know. <BR> <BR> Also, if you have any ideas for challenges, please post suggestions here! <em>211</em> Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:18:39 EST 32 and divorcing currently I just recently joined this site and am looking forward to all it has to offer! Wed, 25 Jun 2008 00:14:27 EST 31, making a new start Hey all, my name is Michelle. <BR> <BR> My husband and I have been together for almost 9 years, married 3 as of last week. I signed the papers two days ago, and am driving cross-country with my things in two days. <BR> <BR> I feel like I'm in the middle of a bad dream I can't wake from. I know the whole divorce is for the best, but I have to reflect what a few of you have said about leaving behind your home, your pets (thank God no kids), and the life that you thought you had to start over.... Sun, 1 Jun 2008 21:40:37 EST 38 Newbe making a new start for me and my kids Hi, I am 38 seperated getting a divorce with two kids 11 and 8. I need to loss 100 lbs. Tring to make feel better for me and my kids Tue, 27 May 2008 13:03:55 EST 32, divorced for a year and a half and loving it. Hello all, <BR> My name is Krysten and I am in what I call a transitioning period in my life. I am 32 year's old, divorced for 1 1/2 years and trying to get healthier. The stress from my marriage and divorce did have a factor on me doing a yo-yo effect with my weight. I am hoping by joining this site I will meet people who feel at least remotely like I do and can gain some helpful hints and tips on getting better. Tue, 6 May 2008 12:30:42 EST Hello :-) I'm Angeli, friends call me Jolie or AJ. I am 31 and I am a single mother of 3 in Alexandria, VA. <BR> <BR> I was married for 12 years and am going through my divorce as we speak. I have been trying to get this divorce for the past 4 years, but complications with the laws in support of the military did not permit it. Now he's out and it's well on it's way. <BR> <BR> I have started over and am doing quiet well for my family (children and I), but I am now working on me, for Me! <BR> ... Tue, 29 Apr 2008 13:34:28 EST 30, divorced for year and a half... Hi all! My name is Beth. I just turned 30 last month and got divorced in Aug 06. My life is much better now that I'm divorced! I have a wonderful bf of nearly a year and a half whom I have known since I was 12. I have 2 black Shar Pei's who keep me on my toes, and a black & white cat. I'm a high school English teacher. <BR> <BR> I gained about 60-70 pounds from engagement to divorce, lost about 15 immediately after the "I want a divorce" came from my ex, then put it back on and then some :(... Sun, 27 Apr 2008 08:39:27 EST I'm new. Well I literally just got back from the courthouse filing the beginning of my divorce. I gained a lot of weight since I met my husband and my goal is to be back down to my healthy weight by the end of the year. I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you and commisserating in this "wonderful" experience. LOL Wed, 16 Apr 2008 15:22:11 EST Hi! My name is Tammy. I am soon to be 39. I have been divorced for a 1 1/2. I was separated from my ex three years prior to it. I have two wonderful one will be 13 tomorrow and another who will be 18 the end of this month. <BR> <BR> I have lost 70lbs this past year. Some of it is do from loosing my appetites for sweets. For some reason after my last go around with thyroid cancer I lost that appetite. The doctor has given me some medicine to help get the rest of the weight off. I have since the m... Sun, 13 Apr 2008 18:21:20 EST Hi I'm new to the group. I'm divorced again and I am in no hurry to settle down with anyone for quite a while. I'm trying to start fresh and gain a new sense of independence. I've put too much of my life aside for the sake of my significant other. I've just started a new career that is very stressful and I've been, as my teenage daughter says, "eating my emotions". Needless to say, I gained back all the weight that I had lost last year and I've gone back to my old unhealthy habits. Tue, 8 Apr 2008 19:43:41 EST Hi I'm recently divorced and looking to lose the weight I gained while stress eating. Hoping to find motivation and support on Spark. Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:39:57 EST 5 Years divorced with a 6 year old, and moving on. My goal is reachable, but the discipline to get there is very hard. After being given a second chance at life last year,(Transplant) I am determined to be healthier and happier for myself and my daughter! What are the best ways to keep the goals in mind and RUN from all the snacks during STRESS? I can't get rid of the food, my kido has to eat also! <em>249</em> Fri, 28 Mar 2008 23:18:42 EST newbe here Hi everyone. My name is Melissa and I am back in the saddle again. I joined sparkepeople last year but during the divorce I fell out of touch. Well I am happy to be hear and hope to lose lots of weight with all your help and support. thanks a bunch Mon, 24 Mar 2008 21:29:46 EST Moving On..... Hey Everyone... <BR> <BR> I'm Valerie ~ I need to lose about 100 pounds... I have gained ALOT of weight, over the past 10 years and I am ready for a change... I have been married for the past 10 years, but with my soon to be ex-husband for 14 years... I have 3 BEAUTIFUL children (17 months, 8 and 11)... I have taken care of everyone else besides myself, well that is now changing, because I have realized if I don't take care of myself - I might not be here to take care of my children...... Fri, 14 Mar 2008 16:58:08 EST Anyone need a challenge????? Any one want the challenge to lose 10lbs by April 1st? I'll try it if you all will. Mon, 3 Mar 2008 18:52:37 EST Recently seperated My name is Jennifer. I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 12 years. No kids. The reason for the divorce is due to my husband's sexual addiction, which he was diagnosed with about 10 years ago. <BR> <BR> What I am finding so hard to deal with is the idea that I know that divorce is the right way to go, but I am still emotionally attached to him, to our pets and to our home. <BR> <BR> I am hoping to find some support and new ideas on how to treat myself better emotionally and physic... Mon, 3 Mar 2008 15:01:37 EST How about a Daily chat and weigh in. Hi, Im Marlena. 31 years old, divorced for 2nd time and have 2 little girls and going to become a medical Assistant. I just wanted to suggest maybe a daily chat with at weigh in. ( Just an Idea ) <BR> Hope everyone has a great Monday. Mon, 3 Mar 2008 13:05:13 EST 31 and divorced for the 2nd time! Hi everyone. Im Marlena. Ive been divorced since October, but he has been gone 1 year now. I have found that now it is time to make time for me, instead of trying to play mommy to a man. I already have 2 kids and they are the ones that need me. So now that is what I concentrate on now is my kids and making me healtier and finding myself, which I lost while I was married. Hope everyone has a great Sunday. Sun, 2 Mar 2008 10:58:53 EST Going on 30 and Divorced I will be thirty this June so I hope its okay I joined this group a bit early. <BR> <BR> I have two awesome kids ages 3 and 6 and they are my main reason I am finally ready yo lose the weight and keep it off for good. Fri, 1 Feb 2008 10:37:24 EST Divorced 8 yrs, no kids I've already made my new start (by getting out of that marriage), but I saw this and thought I would see if there is anything going on. I just joined yesterday on this site. Hello! Mon, 28 Jan 2008 21:33:25 EST New from Niagara Hi I'm 34 and have been separated from my husband for 7 years. This year I'm pushing forward and filing the divorce papers because it looks like he isn't going to do it. I need to do this for me. Time to formally close that door and move forward. <BR> <BR> I struggled with weight during our marriage and had little to no support from my ex except complaints about how fat I had become. I've continued to yo-yo and years ago I set a goal to get the weight down before I'm 35. Well I have unt... Wed, 9 Jan 2008 23:11:09 EST hello I was so happy to see this forum in here! Being divorced can be difficult (especially when ignorant people add their opinions), but this should be a good group to have some motivation from and some good discussions. <BR> <BR> I have been divorced twice and with each divorce..I ate to make myself feel better. Now, I am trying to exercise, eat right, and lose weight so I will feel awesome. <BR> <BR> I look forward to reading from you all! Tue, 13 Nov 2007 13:40:59 EST hi i havent been on spark for four months. ive gained my weight back that i had lost last spring. ive been divorced for a week. im trying to find my way. Wed, 3 Oct 2007 16:16:07 EST Hi! Hi there, team. My name is Tara. I recently got divorced. I say I already lost 230 pounds -- my ex. ha! Now I need to get in shape and stay that way! Looking for encouragement and support! Thu, 6 Sep 2007 19:30:08 EST Just introducing myself to the Forum. Hi, I am 34, divorced, and share 2 teenage children with my exhusband. We remain friends(we even work in the same place- Ha! Ha!). I have decided to try to make a fresh start of my life. I have already changed professions -for the better, and now I am trying to lose weight and get healthy. Good luck and welcome to anybody who wants to join or have anything to get off thier chest. <em>235</em> Thu, 16 Aug 2007 07:32:14 EST